Your AttitudeYour Attitude

ObjectivesObjectives::•Understand that you are responsible for your Understand that you are responsible for your own attitudes.own attitudes.•Understand how “thought replacement” can Understand how “thought replacement” can change attitude.change attitude.•Define and explain “Rational-Emotive” Theory.Define and explain “Rational-Emotive” Theory.

Personal Responsibility for One’s Personal Responsibility for One’s AttitudeAttitude

Why is it so important for leaders to be in Why is it so important for leaders to be in control of their attitudes?control of their attitudes?

For 1 minute, discuss this at your table For 1 minute, discuss this at your table and come up with one idea to share with and come up with one idea to share with the class. (Write this idea in your manual the class. (Write this idea in your manual on page 62.)on page 62.)

Leaders are responsible for…Leaders are responsible for…

The first thing leaders are responsible for The first thing leaders are responsible for is their is their thoughtsthoughts..

The second thing leaders are responsible The second thing leaders are responsible for is their for is their ATTITUDEATTITUDE..

Relating to attitude, we said that…Relating to attitude, we said that…

……it’s not your IQ, it’s your __ ____!it’s not your IQ, it’s your __ ____!……leaders do it the W.I.T. Way! which leaders do it the W.I.T. Way! which

means _________ it _____!means _________ it _____!……leaders know that the difference leaders know that the difference

between doing very well and truly excelling between doing very well and truly excelling is just __ extra _____!is just __ extra _____!

Can you “Can you “seesee” a bad attitude in ” a bad attitude in someone?someone?

HOW?HOW?

Remember…the way you sit, the clothes you Remember…the way you sit, the clothes you wear, your facial expressions, your tone of voice, wear, your facial expressions, your tone of voice, the way you walk (or “strut”), the words you the way you walk (or “strut”), the words you use… all of these things convey to others use… all of these things convey to others something about your attitude!something about your attitude!

It’s been my experience that most people “with It’s been my experience that most people “with an attitude” are hiding things about themselves an attitude” are hiding things about themselves for which they feel insecure. for which they feel insecure.

““Attitude is everything!”. Attitude is everything!”.

You may have heard this saying. It is You may have heard this saying. It is essential that anyone calling him/herself a essential that anyone calling him/herself a leader have and convey a good attitude.leader have and convey a good attitude.

Now, who’s in charge of your attitude? Now, who’s in charge of your attitude? Yeah… you are!Yeah… you are!

Let me tell you a story…Let me tell you a story…

What kind of attitude am I going to What kind of attitude am I going to have toward someone who did/ have toward someone who did/ said something like that to mesaid something like that to me??

Whichever attitude I choose!Whichever attitude I choose!

Did you get that? Whichever one Did you get that? Whichever one II choosechoose!!

Whose attitude is itWhose attitude is it? ? And whose responsible for changing itAnd whose responsible for changing it??

Get up…Get up…How do you feel about being responsible How do you feel about being responsible

for your attitude?for your attitude?How would you go about changing a bad How would you go about changing a bad

attitude?attitude?

Walk around the room and talk to as many Walk around the room and talk to as many people as you can during the time given.people as you can during the time given.Tell them your answer and listen to their Tell them your answer and listen to their

answer.answer.Share with the class an answer you heard.Share with the class an answer you heard.

Changing a bad attitude:Changing a bad attitude:

I believe there are two steps involved in I believe there are two steps involved in changing a bad attitude:changing a bad attitude:

1)The first thing you have to do it 1)The first thing you have to do it identify itidentify it! ! You’ve got to realize that your attitude You’ve got to realize that your attitude really does stink! That’s something which really does stink! That’s something which is hard for all of us at first, but it can is hard for all of us at first, but it can become easier with practice. Once I become easier with practice. Once I realize I’ve got a poor attitude, I can begin realize I’ve got a poor attitude, I can begin working on changing it.working on changing it.

2) Since attitudes come from thoughts, the 2) Since attitudes come from thoughts, the second thing we’ve got to do is: second thing we’ve got to do is: change change our thoughts!our thoughts!

• We can do this through a process known We can do this through a process known as: as: thought replacementthought replacement. If I realize I’m . If I realize I’m thinking negative thoughts toward a thinking negative thoughts toward a person, I can replace those thoughts with person, I can replace those thoughts with some that are more positive.some that are more positive.

• Let me share an example.Let me share an example.

Rational-Emotive TheoryRational-Emotive Theory There’s a counseling theorist named Albert Ellis There’s a counseling theorist named Albert Ellis

who developed a therapeutic model called: R. who developed a therapeutic model called: R. E. T. or “Rational-Emotive Theory”.E. T. or “Rational-Emotive Theory”.

Basically, Ellis said that events cause thoughts, Basically, Ellis said that events cause thoughts, and thoughts cause feelings!...thoughts cause and thoughts cause feelings!...thoughts cause feelings!feelings!

Are you feeling ugly?... you’re thinking, “I’m Are you feeling ugly?... you’re thinking, “I’m ugly!”ugly!”

Are you feeling stupid?...you’re thinking, “Man, Are you feeling stupid?...you’re thinking, “Man, I’m an idiot!”I’m an idiot!”

Are you feeling intelligent?... you’re thinking, Are you feeling intelligent?... you’re thinking, “Hey, I’m a pretty bright person!”“Hey, I’m a pretty bright person!”

Example…Example… Let’s say you have a date with someone, and Let’s say you have a date with someone, and

you’ve been thinking… “I’m not very attractive”. you’ve been thinking… “I’m not very attractive”. It’s the night of the dance, but all day long It’s the night of the dance, but all day long everything seems to be falling apart! You can’t get everything seems to be falling apart! You can’t get your hair right… your shoes don’t look good with your hair right… your shoes don’t look good with your outfit…you can’t seem to find those earrings your outfit…you can’t seem to find those earrings anywhere! You’ve been thinking all day long that anywhere! You’ve been thinking all day long that you look terrible! Finally, it’s time to go and your you look terrible! Finally, it’s time to go and your date arrives at the door. He says, “Wow, you look date arrives at the door. He says, “Wow, you look great!”great!”

When he tells her how awesome she looks, what When he tells her how awesome she looks, what is she thinking?is she thinking?

““Yeah…right!”Yeah…right!”

That’s what she’s saying to herself That’s what she’s saying to herself because all day long she’s been thinking because all day long she’s been thinking all of this nasty stuff about herself!all of this nasty stuff about herself!

He may have to compliment her twenty He may have to compliment her twenty times that night before she’ll start to times that night before she’ll start to believe it!believe it!

But whose in charge of your But whose in charge of your attitude? Who’s in charge of what attitude? Who’s in charge of what

you do?you do? YouYou are! are! Whose hand is this?Whose hand is this? You know how many individual hands there are You know how many individual hands there are

on the earth today?on the earth today? Approximately 10 billion! 23 to 25 billion in the Approximately 10 billion! 23 to 25 billion in the

whole history of the world! Of all those hands, whole history of the world! Of all those hands, do you know how many are exactly like this do you know how many are exactly like this one? one?

NONE! There is not now…never was…and NONE! There is not now…never was…and there never will be…another hand just like this there never will be…another hand just like this one!one!

It’s a special hand…I ought to take It’s a special hand…I ought to take care of it!care of it!

Can someone make this hand to Can someone make this hand to something it doesn’t want to do?something it doesn’t want to do?

Absolutely not! I have choices! I know Absolutely not! I have choices! I know who I am! I know what my life stands for! who I am! I know what my life stands for! My hand does what my heart tells it to do!My hand does what my heart tells it to do!

What about yours?What about yours?

So, whose hand is this?So, whose hand is this?

Whose in charge of what it does?Whose in charge of what it does?Whose attitude is it?Whose attitude is it?And who’s in charge of that attitude?And who’s in charge of that attitude?

That’s right…I am!That’s right…I am!

Can anyone else control my attitude?Can anyone else control my attitude?

It’s my attitude, and I’m in charge of It’s my attitude, and I’m in charge of determining what kind I want to have!determining what kind I want to have!

And just as we discussed earlier, the And just as we discussed earlier, the question is… who’s in charge of yours?question is… who’s in charge of yours?

Remember, if you’re not in charge of your Remember, if you’re not in charge of your attitude, someone else will be!attitude, someone else will be!

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