August 2010

Enlisting • Engaging • Empowering

The Magazine

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Contents

From the Editor ......................................................................... 7Contributors ............................................................................... 8Sister Sentiments ..................................................................... 12

August 2010 Women of SSSBeverly Robertson ................................................................... 14By Jae Henderson

Angela Woods .......................................................................... 16By Laqueta Perry

Sandy Patterson ....................................................................... 18By Julie Wintker

Tuning UpThe ER is Not a ReplacementFor Your Family Doctor........................................................... 22By Reneé S. Frazier

Move it with “Zumba” ............................................................ 24By Faith Robinson

Healthy Eating Tips ................................................................ 25By Joyce McKay

Successfully Integrating NutritionBy Julie Wintker ....................................................................... 26

Aptitude and Attitude.............................................................. 27by Cristi Okello

Emotional Intelligence ............................................................ 30By Judy Bell

Program HighlightsThe F.F.E.W. ............................................................................ 34Rounds About Women ............................................................ 38Who we are - What we do ........................................................ 42

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whole hours of it. My stay was shortened by a suddensituation I had to get back to Memphis for. However,when I pulled down into the campsite and these giant beesand horse flies started to land all over my car,I was suddenly grateful for the situation thatwould prevent me from staying the night. Ishamefully admit that my friends wholaughed at me and told me I couldn’t do it -were right.

I had been invited to be a mentor/presenter at the Girl Scouts Heart of SouthCamp CEO. Once Venus Chaney, theirProgram Director, calmed my nerves bytelling me the bees were just “curious” andwould land on me but not sting, Iapprehensively stepped inside of the lodgeand had a most wonderful time with a bunchof girls and women who were braving theheat to have fun and bond with and learnfrom each other.

The women present were heavy hitters interms of their positions and the organizationsthey represented. However, women cansuddenly land on the same playing field when fanningthemselves for relief or standing in front of the giant fansthat were making it bearable. We’d glance around at eachother and seemingly recognize when one of us would seemto be suffering from her own menopausal back draft.We’d just give that knowing “I’m suffering-with-you-sister”smile and keep on fanning. One woman explained it simplyby saying that her commitment to the girls overcame herdiscomfort with being there. I admired that.

These women all shared a passion for helping girls gainthe knowledge they’ve acquired so that their paths tosuccess would be easier. To the girls, hearing the womentalk about who they are, how they got there, and, moreimportantly, knowing that they were once, awkward, unsuregirls themselves once - make success plausible. Hats off toAngela Woods, the new CEO of Girl Scouts Heart of theSouth (and one of our Women of Style, Spirit and Successthis month) for bringing this activity to the girls in thisregion and to the wonderfully spirited Venus Chaney forher dedication to the program and the enormous amountof hard work it took to make it happen.

In addition to Angela Woods, we profile two women

this month whose service to this community is driven by thepassion they have for their organizations. Jae Hendersonbrings you a story on Beverly Robertson, President of theNational Civil Rights Museum and Sandy Patterson,

Founder and Executive Director of theWings Cancer Foundation is profiled byour own Julie Wintker whose personalstory of triumph was greatly impactedby Sandy. In addition to our Women of Style,Spirit and Success this month, Judy Belltalks about Emotional Intelligence in anarticle that will give several tools to helpyou “get out of your own way” andachieve the success you desire. CristiOkello gives us a new spin on having“attitude,” nutrition educator JoyceMcKay tells us how to plan to eathealthier, and Faith Robinson talksabout turning her passion for Zumbainto her new business. We talk about our programs,including The F.F.E.W (The Future’sFashion Entrepreneurial Women).,

which is our way of helping young girls become successful.We use fun activities related to the fashion industry to keepthem engaged in technology. Lastly, we give you insight into Rounds About Women, aprogram of SCORE that we helped launch. As theprogram’s organizers are in the process of registeringparticipants for the next series, we wanted to briefly talkabout the success of the initial one. If you are a woman inbusiness, I urge you to register for the program and get inon the discussions at those tables.

I want to thank the contributing writers andphotographers who make this publication possible. We arealways looking for people to bring their talents, stories andefforts to this initiative. Give us a buzz if you want to jumpin! As always, I hope something in these pages gives youinspiration, encouragement or provides a resource.

Love, Peace and Blessings,

ContributorsReneé S. Frazier, FACHE, MHSA Reneé S. Frazier is an experienced leader in the health care management arena withexpertise in hospital operations, managed care, volunteer and community service, healthpromotion, strategic planning, and organizational excellence. Prior to joining HMCT in January 2009, Frazier served as the regional senior vicepresident and executive officer of VHA Pennsylvania, the Pittsburgh division of VHA Inc.,a national hospital alliance of more than 2,200 health care organizations across the U.S. Shehas also served as a vice president of BlueCross BlueShield of Maryland, chief operatingofficer for Liberty Medical Center and Lutheran Health Care Corporation in Baltimore,Md., and a strategic consultant for Community Health Centers in Maryland. Frazier has written a number of health care-related articles and conducted workshopson a variety of health, leadership and lifestyle topics. She holds a Bachelor of Arts degree inbusiness and sociology from the University of Maryland and a master’s degree in healthservices administration from George Washington University.

Judy BellJudy Bell, PHR is Senior Business Advisor with InnerActive Consulting Group and has

twenty -six years of Human Resource Management experience and thirty-two yearsexperience in banking where she was a Senior Vice President responsible for HR, RiskManagement, and Regulatory Compliance. She specializes in Recruitment, EmploymentPractices, Employment Law, Employee Relations and Development, and Training.Additionally, she speaks and writes on Leadership Development, Emotional Intelligence(EQ), Ethics, Leadership Integrity, as well as Career Counseling.

Judy’s passion is developing people! She has over thirty years of managementexperience and has never had a need to terminate someone who worked directly for her.Now, that’s a huge accomplishment! She credits the use of TopGrading to hermanagement success (even before the business term was coined.) She simply knew that inorder for people to be effective in their jobs and lives, they needed to be placed in a jobthat matched their skills and natural talents and abilities. So what happens when a joboutgrows a person? Judy can show you how to either coach that person up into the new job or over into a job that fitsthem better. She is also a certified facilitator of the Psychology of Achievement by Brian Tracy.

Laqueta PerryLaqueta Perry, a native Memphian, is currently a freelance journalist. She enjoys

spending time with her daughter, attending concerts, reading, shopping, andtraveling. She is a proud alumni of The University of Memphis and always rootsfor the Tigers. Visit her blog at www.bealestreetchic.onsugar.com.

ContributorsJoyce A. McKay Joyce has spent a large portion of her career in academia, teaching nutrition and dieteticsto undergraduate and graduate students. She has served on the faculty at Tuskegee University,Purdue University, and Georgia State University where she held the rank of AssistantProfessor. She has also spent several years in program development with agencies such as: theUnited States Department of Health and Human Services, Westinghouse Health SystemsGrady Memorial Hospital, and the West End Medical Center in Atlanta, where she provided anumber of services. These included: nutrition consultation to universities in developingtraining programs for nutrition project directors on aging, organizing projects on motivatingprofessionals in the field of nutrition and consumer services, producing and exhibitingnational displays for public view. She has also developed and implemented nutrition educationprograms for medically underserved populations and other targeted areas and specialpopulation groups, i.e. patients with chronic disease, high risk pregnant women, obese adult

and pediatric patients and geriatric patients, provided technical support to members of medical health care teams andadvocated for patient rights.

She currently provides nutrition consultation to individuals, agencies and organizations, and serves as an individual supportsystem for clients under medical supervision. You can visit her website at www.joyceamckay.com.

Jae HendersonJae Henderson is a freelance writer living in Memphis, TN and has written

for several publications in the city and surrounding areas. She is also the Founderand President of Put It In Writing Professional Writing Service. The companyspecializes in “a la carte” marketing materials for businesses and individuals. Formore information on Jae’s business, visit www.putitinwriting2.com. She is alsothe publisher for a new inspirational site for women www.imagoodwoman.com.

In addition to her writing endeavors, Jae is founder and Executive Directorof College Bound, a non-profit organization that helps low-income youth andtheir parents navigate through the processes involved with college entry, includingACT/SAT testing, applications, financial aid and scholarships. Visit their websiteat www.collegeboundofmemphis.org. Ms. Henderson has a B.A. inCommunications and a Masters in English with emphasis on professional andtechnical writing from The University of Memphis.

Contributors

Julie WintkerJulie Wintker, Volunteer Resources Developer for Women of Style, Spirit and

Success, earned her degree in biochemistry from The University of Memphis many yearsago and then worked in the chemical manufacturing business for nearly thirty years. Hermother introduced her to cooking as a preschooler and in college she developed afascination with nutrition. Serving as the editor of the Successfully Integrating Nutritionfeature is a natural fit for Julie who reads cookbooks as if they were on the TimesBestseller List of Fiction. In this issue, she also writes the story of one of our Womenof Style, Spirit and Success - Sandy Patterson.

Cristi OkelloCristi Okello is a consummate professional, with numerous certifications in InformationTechnology in both Novell and Microsoft platforms, Cristi becomes invaluable to theorganizations she has worked for – including recently, the Pink Palace Museum and nowCagenix, Inc. Her dedication to her community is evident in the work she does withgroups that empower women and girls. Cristi served for two years as SteeringCommittee President for Dress for Success Memphis and is currently a mentor/volunteerwith Girls, Inc. In 2009, she was honored with the Girls, Inc. Regional Volunteer Award.

Cristi, who grew up in Omaha, Nebraska is the youngest of three children. She, herhusband Daniel and their two sons moved to Memphis in 2005. In addition to caringfor her family and her community, Cristi spends time engaged with her other passion –baking. She recently started a venture of her own called LuElla’s Basic Baking offeringspecialty cakes and cupcakes and breakfast catering.

Karen MooreKaren Moore has over 50 theatrical productions to her producer/director/actor’s credit.

A graduate of Hendrix College with a BA in Theatre Arts and a minor in Music, Karen’s firstprofessional directorial debut was Livin’ Fat at Beale Street Repertory Company, while sheworked by day as a broadcast journalist for WREG-TV. After leaving Memphis, she directedand stage-managed theatre in Hollywood and Chicago before accompanying her husband toItaly where she continued to direct original musical productions. She also performed as anactress in nine foreign films and as an actress and recording artist on European television. Uponher return to the United States as a widow, Moore skirted the theatrical/musical community butfocused on raising her two teenage daughters.

In 2008, she produced an innovative new television show called This House is Cooking!under her company, Karen Moore Inc. Hosted by her daughter, Aryen, it is a cooking showtaped in the kitchen of a beautiful home for sale. Karen, who is also a professional real estateagent, takes the viewing audience on a tour of the house during one segment of the show. Youcan visit the show’s website at www.thishouseiscooking.com or visit www.karenmooreinc.com for more information aboutKaren and her company.

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trength to SurrenderS

Sister Sentiments

Have you ever secretly resented being labeled a strong woman? As a young woman in my 20s, Iadmired all of the women who represented strength -those sheros from history like Sojourner Truth and RosaParks that I read about. Then of course, there were my primary role models -my parents who raised me and my siblings to be self-reliant. “The world owes you nothing” was my father’smantra. Needless to say, my upbringing laid the groundwork forme to be strong. However, I also think it may have sent afalse message that I could always control my circumstancesand be the “captain of my soul - the master of my fate” -words from the poem “Invictus.” My relationship withGod, was that He would be there if I couldn’t take care ofit myself. My belief was that if He had blessed me withknowledge and wherewithal, I was expected to handlemost things on my own and leave Him to handle theproblems of those who needed him more. “God takescare of babies and fools” - ever heard that one? So what happens when you run into a situation that youfeel you should be able to handle and you just can’t? Whatdo you do when you’ve given all you’ve got, tried everytrick in the book, sought out and used every resource atyour disposal and cried every tear in your reserve? Do yougive up? No, you surrender, and surrendering is not giving

up - it’s simply sending up. It’s outstretching your arms andconnecting to a source outside of yourself. For women whohave found their comfort zone in feeling a sense of control,it means stepping outside of that zone and becomingvulnerable. I frequently hear men talk negatively about women beingso strong and independent, seemingly not needing men.They seemed surprised when I tell them that most womenare strong, not because we want to be, but because we haveto be. Somewhere in our history, socialization, perhaps ourDNA, we have really embraced the superwoman concept asthe ideal. But I believe if we were honest with ourselves andthe world, we would admit to longing for someone to justwrap their arms around us and protect us from the world.Just for once, we’d like to feel comfort in knowing wedidn’t have to figure it all out, handle it, take care ofbusiness, we could get down off of the tightrope and letour feet feel the cool grass and the warm sun. When we reach a point in our life when our strength anddetermination fails to produce the results we desire, weshould muster up the strength to surrender. There is sweetsolace in knowing that we are beyond superwomen, that weare children of God and that we need only reach up to tapinto the greatest source in the universe. The arms tosurround us have always been there. We just need to let goand walk into them.

Beverly RobertsonAngela Woods

Sandy Patterson

August2010

By Jae Henderson

Being the president of a museum that has the responsibilityof educating people from all over the world about one ofthe most emotionally charged pivotal moments in Americanhistory is not a job Beverly Robertsontakes lightly. The National Civil RightsMuseum is a historic jewel nestled inMemphis, TN—the home of the blues,the birthplace of rock n roll, producerof award-winning barbecue and theplace where civil rights icon Dr. MartinLuther King was slain. Beverly hasserved as the head of the museumsince 1997 and through her time, talent,and ingenuity has propelled it tointernational status. Last year 230,000people came to visit the museum and85% of those were from outside thestate of Tennessee. It is currentlyranked as the number two touristdestination in the city, following onlyElvis’ home Graceland. If Beverly hasher way they’re gonna give ole bluesuede shoes a run for his money in thenot to far distant future.

This former vice president for Holiday Inn Worldwide andcurrent co-owner of TRUST Marketing andCommunications, Inc.’s personal philosophy for success isembodied in the three Ps: purpose, passion and persistence.

“You need to operate out of a sense of purpose. Makesure you understand that there is a reason for you being in aparticular job and know what that is. You have to care verydeeply about what you’re doing because that drivesperfection. If good enough is good enough for you or youdon’t take pride in the work you do, other people will sensethat. You must be persistent because there will be a numberof obstacles you are going to confront during the course ofyour career and your persistence will determine your abilityto be able to overcome them,” she says.

Beverly is fully aware of her purpose. She believes she wasled to the National Civil Rights Museum for a very specificreason.

“My purpose for being here is toelevate the presence of this institutionto not only national status but toglobal status. I’m also here to grow itbecause of the stories that we tell here.People need to be able to hear thosestories.”

These stories tell of a brutal timeplagued with discrimination, pain andinjustice. They tell of the men andwomen who risked their lives toobtain rights they should have alreadyhad by the mere fact they were bornan American citizen but because ofthe color of their skin were deniedvoting rights, adequate pay andhousing, a proper education, respectand other rights. They also tell of hardwon battles in the courtrooms and in

the hearts of men who came to realize that discriminationand inequality is wrong. They tell of joy, triumph and hopefor the future.

Since joining the museum, Beverly has worked hard tomake it internationally renowned so those stories can reachanybody from anywhere. Each year their major fundraiser,the Freedom Awards Gala, brings in large sponsorshipdollars from companies such as Ford, FedEx, InternationalPaper, Comcast and many others. The awards shine thespotlight on some of the most influential men and womenin the world who have made significant contributions in civilrights and laid the foundation for present and future leadersin the battle for human rights. The recipients have included:Nelson Mandela, the Dalai Lama, Oprah Winfrey, Bono,Magic Johnson, Bill Clinton, Al Gore and many more.

Beverly RobertsonBe Bold, Innovative, and Fearless

Beverly also raised the money to build the $11 millionmuseum 2002 expansion exhibit, Exploring the Legacy,which is located across the street in the location whereJames Earl Ray is believed to have delivered the fatal shot toDr. King as King stood on the balcony of the LorraineMotel. She has also helped to implement an archiving andcollections program and several special features andtemporary exhibits designed to educate the old and theyoung alike.

In her quest to continue to fulfill her purpose, Beverly iscurrently engaged in a major multimillion dollar capitalcampaign. The museum is almost 19 years old and it has nothad a major renovation since opening in 1991. According toBeverly, the life of a major exhibit is ten years, which makesthe National Civil Rights Museum a bit behind the times.Plans are in the works to change the outside as well as theinside of the facility, to update and broaden the exhibit andintegrate interactive technology. The changes seem quiteexciting.

“People who created tremendous atrocities back in the 60’shave been brought to justice and that content has not beenintegrated into the exhibit. It will be. Technology haschanged, and we need to change with it. Everything now ittextable, iPoded and T-Vo’ed and back when the museumwas opened in the early 90’s none of that existed andpeople who attended museums expected to read books ona wall. Now, if it’s not virtual and interactive a lot of youngpeople do not pay attention to it. With new technology wecan create an institution whose message radiates with thevisitor whether they are 8 or 80. Also, we need to makesome major changes in how we attract visitors. We needmore space, we need to open up our lobby area, we needlistening posts outside that will tease people who have comeafter hours to come visit the next day. We want to increasethe visibility of the signage so you can’t miss us.”

However, Beverly isn’t just about growing the museum, shealso strives to grow the people who make the museumsuccessful. She currently oversees a staff of 40 people. Hermanagement style is rooted in collaboration and respect forthe ideas others bring to the table. She believes in order tohelp your employees grow, you have to take the time to getto know them, determining their strengths and theirweaknesses.

“The key to success in leadership is understanding whereyour people are, meeting them there, giving them what theyneed and then, allowing them to use what you’ve giventhem to get to the next level. Those are the people whomay have to one day step into your shoes, and it is myresponsibility to grow people so they can maximize theirabilities in order to adequately do so when that timecomes,” she says.

That time doesn’t seem to be coming anytime soon though.Beverly has no doubt she can raise the money she needs tocomplete the renovation plans. Thinking big and lack offear may be two of her greatest assets. Her 19-yearcorporate background has prepared her well for the rigorsof running the museum and dealing with a board ofdirectors she might not always see eye to eye with.

“When I was in corporate I was always placed in a positionwhere I was the only female. I was always being challengedby men and they were men who sat in the positions ofpresident or senior vice president. I had to present beforethem, take the tough questions from them and be preparedto respond. I cut my teeth in a very difficult corporateenvironment that prepared me to deal withwhomever…whether it’s a grassroots citizen or a presidentof an organization.”

It’s probably safe to say, it’s that bold fearlessness that hasallowed her to excel and take risks others might shy from.Even in an economy where job loss is a major fear formany, Beverly doesn’t even seem to be worried about whatshe’s going to do if she should find herself one day in theunemployment line.

“I realize there may come a time when my skill set is notaligned with their (the board of directors) expectations. Ifyou work for someone else, that is not your job and you’resitting there because it’s a privilege. But one thing that Irealize is that I’m talented. I am not intimidated by anyonebecause I put my pants on the same way they do. I am anindividual deserving of respect much like they are. And so Idon’t back away and I have no fear,” says Beverly. “If theyshould decide to let me go, that’s their prerogative. I havethe skills and the ability to parlay my talent into other arenasso I never worry about if I’m going to have a jobtomorrow. Even if I don’t have one, I’m going to create theopportunity for a job that will allow me to sustain myself.”

If we were all so confident we might enjoy more success.

National Civil Rights Museum450 Mulberry StreetMemphis, TN 38103

www.civilrightsmuseum.org

Angela WoodsBuilding Courage, Confidence and Character

by Laqueta Perry

The Girl Scouts’ mission is that“girl scouting builds girls ofcourage, confidence, andcharacter, who make the world abetter place.”As the newly-installed ChiefExecutive Officer of Girls ScoutsHeart of the South, Angela Woods’goal is to bring that missionstatement to even more girls in thetri-state area.

“I want to bring the Girl Scoutleadership experience to all girlsin partnership with otherorganizations,” Woods said. “Youcan join Girl Scouts in a variety of ways-through atroupe, a series, workshops or coming to an event-and continue from there.”

Formerly CEO of The United Way inWashington, D.C., Woods’ territory encompasses59 counties in Western Tennessee, EasternArkansas, and Northern Mississippi. Presentlythere are more than 11,000 scouts and 4,000volunteers. The scouts range in age fromkindergartners to high-schoolers.

“The Girl Scouts experience is portable,steeped in the tradition of badges and cookiesales,” Woods said. “Thinking about your career,living a healthy life, college tours, alternative

careers in math and science andexperiencing art. It’s all of those.”

Even something seeminglystraightforward like camping has avariety of options including“primitive camping”, “mom andme” camping, “dad and me”camping and “spa-tacular” camping.Woods said she also wants toreconnect to area Girl Scoutsalumni. The organization will becelebrating its 100-yearanniversary in two years.

“It’s a lot of fun,” Woods saidof her position. “I tend to think I

have the coolest job, because at the end of the daywe exist to support girls and their families.”

For more information on Girl Scouts Heart ofThe South visit www.girlscoutshs.org or call (901)767-1440 or (800) 727-8104.

www.girlscoutshs.org

Camp CEOGirls Scouts in the Heart of the South region

attended their first annual Girl ScoutsCamp CEO on the weekend of Friday,

July 30 - Sunday August 1, 2010. Girlsparticipating in the camp learned a variety

of things to aid in their personaldevelopment by successful women who

work in leadership roles in the government,private, as well as non-profit sectors. The girls

learned the art of public speaking fromSusan Stralka, how to create dynamic

PowerPoint presentations, fromMarva Ballard; networking andfinancial management along withseveral other topics werecovered by several members ofC.R.E.W. (Commercial Real

Estate Women).However the girls andtheir mentors also had alot of fun doingtraditional campingactivities like swimmingand canoeing, tie-dyingand karaoke. However,their activity on Fridaynight may have reallydemonstrated their

creativity as the girls used holidayand special occasion wrappingpaper to design garments on theirmentors who later modeled themin a makeshift fashion show.

Venus ChaneyProgram ManagerGirl Scouts Heart of the South

Getting To Know Sandy PattersonFemme Extraordinaire Of Wings Cancer Foundation

by Julie Wintker

Statistics available from the American Cancer Societyindicate that the lifetime probability (or risk) of developingsome form of cancer is 1 in 2 formales and 1 in 3 for females.Those grim figures really grab yourattention. It’s no longer a matterof if you or a loved one willdevelop cancer but when will youor a loved one be diagnosed withcancer.

Sandy Patterson graduatedfrom the University of Missouri,Columbia, with a degree in fashionmerchandising. She married andgave birth to a healthy and beautifuldaughter. She was full of life withher growing family and retailfashion career and seemed to beliving a gal’s all-American dream.

Then life “happened” as shebecame a divorced, single mom ofa two-year old daughter workingfull-time in retail. Next in 1994, atthe unsuspecting age of 32, shereceived the devastating diagnosis of breast cancer. Sheimmediately started her journey into the unfamiliar world ofcancer treatments and options by functioning strictly onauto-pilot. She was referred to a surgeon who she found sokind and gentle in this very frightening time of her life. Hercancer was very aggressive and invasive thus she underwentchemotherapy at West Clinic prior to her mastectomy.Reconstructive plastic surgery followed the mastectomy.

Sandy was blessed with a “dream team” of physiciansand received the “gold standard” of cancer treatments yetcontinued to live on auto-pilot, one step at a time, focusedonly on living for her daughter. She truly believed she’dstruck out in life – divorced, single mother of a youngdaughter and battling cancer.

During a routine round of check-ups with each of herphysicians, Sandy learned that her surgeon was a motorcycleenthusiast. She shared that enthusiasm having grown up bike

riding in the country. That mutual interest led to casualdating and ultimately led to her marriage to Dr. Russell

Patterson.As an oncology patient, Sandy had

sought complementary therapies ofimagery, meditation, yoga, art andjournaling. The organization CarpeDiem (translated means ‘seize the day’)offered quarterly retreats in which shenot only participated but had becomea volunteer planning those retreats. Shewas asked to serve on the boardalongside Brenda Wiseman, anoncology nurse for Dr. Kurt Tauer ofWest Clinic. One day following aboard meeting, Brenda approachedSandy and asked if she were interestedin bringing these complementarytherapies and new ideas to West Clinic.Sandy and Brenda collaborated andpresented their proposal to Dr. KurtTauer and Dr. Lee Schwartzberg.Wings became a new department ofWest Clinic in August of 1996 – “a

place to provide hope, education, research and support, freeof charge to anyone touched by cancer.”

The first Wings initiative was the formation of awomen’s support group. This was followed by thedevelopment of a lending library. Soon imagery and musicCDs were utilized by patients in the treatment rooms. Sandygave hand massages to patients as she circulated through thetreatment rooms always asking patients what each needed.Six months into the Wings program, a patient in treatmentapproached Sandy and Brenda about starting a volunteerprogram in Wings.

There were eight (8) initial volunteers in Wings whichwithin a year grew to 20 volunteers. In the summer of1998, Wings transitioned from being a department of WestClinic to becoming a 501 © 3 non-profit organization.

I asked Sandy what hurdles Wings faced as it left thesecurity of being a department within West Clinic to being

Wings Cancer Foundation, a fully non-profit agencypartnered with West Clinic. Without hesitation, Sandy saidthe initial challenge was the unknown, doing something sototally unique and innovative within oncology treatment. Thesecond challenge for Wings was fundraising. Sandy muchpreferred circulating in the treatment rooms, one-on-onewith patients but she channeled her efforts into fundraisingfor Wings. Wings continued to grow to sixty (60) volunteersduring the second year. There are now 250 volunteers plusstaff serving in three West Clinic locations – the maincampus on Humphries Blvd., Southaven, and Midtown.

Wings Cancer Foundation has become a national modelfor complementary therapy to oncology patients. Whilecomplementary therapies are used to reduce pain, stress andanxiety, they do not cure disease. When these therapiesreduce a patient’s stress level, then there is an improvedopportunity for the medicines to work better to curedisease.

When asked what is today’s biggest challenge for WingsCancer Foundation, Sandy again replied fundraising.Pharmaceutical companies have been tremendouslygenerous to Wings but over time new FDA regulations haveeliminated much of their donations. Fundraising is evenmore difficult in today’s poor economy. That doesn’t slowSandy down however. Come to her with an idea andfinancial need for Wings, Sandy turns her full attention andeffervescence to fulfilling that need.

What does the Wings Cancer Foundation of tomorrowlook like? Sandy envisions the addition of a wellness centerthat will provide individualized, proactive therapy to reducethe likelihood of cancer returning in the patient. Phase oneof the wellness center will address the diet and exerciseneeds of cancer patients. More complementary therapiessuch as acupuncture will be added. As technologicaladvancements, medical therapies and new drugs continue toimprove the longevity of cancer patients, there will be anincreasing need to address the emotional and psychologicalwell-being of survivors and their families.

I asked Sandy for her advice to today’s woman. Nevergive up your dream! Be realistic because your dream won’thappen overnight. When a great idea becomes too hard toimplement, then step back – wait for another time – shake-itup – make it different – even reinvent yourself.

Today Sandy Patterson is a dynamic 16-year cancersurvivor, who relishes each and every birthday – not even asingle whine on her big 40! She cherishes each of herdaughter’s milestones and looks forward to her high schoolgraduation this year and then onto college and beyond.Sandy Patterson is an inspiration to all cancer patients,survivors and women, overcoming her obstacles andproving that “three strikes do not put you out of the gameof life.”

Post Script: Sandy Patterson is this contributor’s rolemodel. You see, I’ve traveled a similar journey with thesame “dream team” of physicians. I am a Wings volunteerand a grateful 6-year survivor of breast cancer.

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On Saturday, October 16, 2010, Macy’s willhost the 5th annual Shop for a Cause benefitingcharities nationwide. Since 2006, Shop for aCause has raised more than $34 million forregional and local charities across the country.This is your opportunity to be part of theexcitement while supporting our organizationand our efforts to help women and children.

Here’s how our organization benefits:We have been given special shopping passes tosell for $5 each. When you purchase a shoppingpass, our organization gets to keep 100% of theproceeds.

Here’s how you benefit:When you use your shopping pass to Shop for aCause on Saturday, October 16, 2010, you’llreceive 20% (or 10%) savings* on almost all ofyour purchases, including regular, sale andclearance merchandise*, and 25%* off a singlepurchase. You will also be eligible to win a $500gift card with no purchase necessary.

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Tuning Up

In the 70’s, I worked as a hospital social worker, andcovered the emergency room. My job was to help familieswith loved ones who needed nursing home care. However,I saw a lot more than just families bringing those loved onesin for emergency care. I saw so many young families withchildren who sat in the ER for hours to receive basicmedical care—care that they should have been able toreceive in a doctor’s office or community health center. Ioften wondered why anyonewould want to sit in the ER forhours to receive the care theycould and should be gettingsomewhere else. I now have theanswer. These families neededmore help in understanding howto better use the health care systemand how to ask the right questionsso they would not get stuck in theER for hours and hours.

I now understand we must make sure we help families usethe right care, in the right place, and provide as muchinformation, as we can, that they can really use! A goodexample is a check list.

When my son was born the doctor gave me a book, it wasa check list of everything he needed to have done until hewas five years old. I still have that book, and I am proud tosay the checklist was completed. Today, not only do weneed a check list to help us follow up with our children’scare, but we need a check list for our own adult care; acheck list that will help us talk with our physician, nursepractitioners, or others who help us take care of our health.This is the person who should be helping to make sure youdo not go to the ER for the basic care you need, but forcare that is really, really, serious.

What is serious? Well, it is sometimes hard to tell, but it isvery important to understand that if you use a check list tomake sure you are getting the care you need most, it is likelyyou can stay pretty healthy, and should not have serioushealth care problems that make it necessary for you to go toan ER.

There are many statistics that tell us about 30% of the ERvisits for adults are not real emergencies and this number isfar higher for children’s visits. I’m sure some of you aresaying, “So what?” Aside from the hours spent waiting inthe ER, the cost for treatment is much more than a familydoctor visit or a community health center. Average costs fora doctor’s visit is generally around $100 per patient per visit.But, if you go to the ER, that cost is at least five times

higher, averaging $580 and oftenmuch higher. In some cases, billsfrom the ER can take years to payoff.

We all care about the cost of ourhealth care and the quality of carefor all who need care. The first stepto getting good quality healthy careis making sure you have theinformation you need to make the

right decisions about using your family doctor, communityhealth center or the ER. This means working with a healthcare provider to get information and answers to yourquestions, using items like checklists to monitor importanthealth care needs and making regular visits to a health careprovider to reduce your chances of going to the ER. It is soimportant that each of us take the time to make sure we aremaking the right decisions to get the best quality care forourselves and those we love.

Healthy Memphis Common Table is dedicated to making Memphis oneof America’s healthiest cities. To learn more about how you can takecharge for better health, visit www.healthymemphis.org.

The Care You Need More MostThese wallet-sized Take Charge Cards provide criticalinformation about the care you need most and help remindyou to take charge for better health. To get your free TakeCharge Card in English and in Spanish, visitwww.healthymemphis.org, and click on “Get Involved.”

The ER is Not a Replacement

For Your Family DoctorBy Reneé S. Frazier, FACHE, MHSA

Executive Director of Healthy Memphis Common Table

http://www.healthymemphis.org

Zumba® is fun and very much like the motto saysa party. It’s a total body, feel-it-to-the-core, calorieburning workout that fuses Latin and Internationalgrooves with easy to learn dance moves for anexperience like no other. The energy I felt after my firstZumba class was amazing, I couldn’t stop dancing wayafter the class was over. I was dancing in the car on theway home and even around the house.

At the time, I had a gym membership butabsolutely dreaded going and wouldn’t really enjoy mytime spent there. I knew that it was imperative that Idid all that I could to combat a lot of the ailments thatnot only plagued me, but the majority of my family(obesity, heart disease, cancer, etc.). I’ve always beena dancer and danced all through school (jazz, tap,ballet, pom pom, cheerleading) so when they added ahip hop class at the gym, I was stoked. I went for aweek or two and the instructor said, “If you like thisclass, you will love Zumba.”

After the first class, I was hooked and attended aZumba-thon that Saturday and immediately signed upfor more classes. After a month, the fitness director forthe gym I was attending noticed my enthusiasm andlove for Zumba and suggested I get certified to teach.

I thought about it, but brushed it off due to lackof time for teaching because of my work schedule. Acouple weeks later, I was laid off and thought maybe Ishould try doing what I love for a career. I was certifiedon June 28, 2009 and began teaching in Mid-July withone morning class on Tuesday at 10 a.m. That classhad two regulars and five on a good day, but I kept atand kept tweaking my craft. I worked with severalveteran instructors and attended the ZumbaConvention in Orlando. I came back withdetermination and it has definitely paid off. I nowteach five nights a week with classes of 30+ attendees.

Zumbaby Faith Robinson

You can join Faith at the French Riviera Spa (Hickory Hilland Cordova) and at FedEx Corporate Wellness Center.

Her schedule is as follows:Mon.- Hickory Hill French Riviera Spa 7:00 p.m.Tues.-FedEx Wellness Center (Airways location) 5:30 p.m.Wed.- Hickory Hill French Riviera Spa 6 p.m.Thurs.- Cordova French Riviera Spa 7 p.m.Fri.- FedEx Wellness Center (Airways location) 5:30 p.m.

Move it with

Healthy Eating TipsPlan, Plan, Plan, Plan........and Plan

The first plan is to make a commitment to your self.Put your mind in front of your body, the only body you will everhave.

The second plan is to make long range goals.Set in place short term goals to get you to the long range goals.

Plan to exercise, walk, workout; whatever you call it.Be sure that you have a plan to move your body beforeyou plan anything else.

Plan all meals and snacks so that they are healthy.The plan helps you avoid the slip-ups and mistakes.Remember life is what happens while we are planning. Nothaving a plan can become a crisis. Avoid the stroke, elevatedblood pressure and the need for correction by planning.

Plan to eat breakfast.Countless research shows that the most successful dieters andhealthy eaters always eat breakfast.

Eating out is American’s favorite sport. Ask for sauces andsalad dressings on the side.

When the entrée exceeds the five to six ounce portion take theremainder for the next day’s snack.

If having dessert, share. It is called a PLAN.

Recently, I was asked to describe healthy eating in a few words. Although more than just a few words, my answer wasas follows:1. Eat as many whole or real foods as you can afford and bring balance to your intake by increasing variety.2, Eat five to six times a day avoiding large meals and large portions.3. Eat breakfast.4. Drink eight cups of water or unsweetened tea throughout the day: stay hydrated.5. Choose fats from nuts, (walnuts/almonds) olive oil, fatty fish and canola oil and Remember, a small amount goes a long way. Five to ten nuts is a serving.

Joyce A. McKay, RD2010

This month’s SuccessfullyIntegrating Nutrition returns tothe 50’s/60’s with a wonderfulgelatin salad that your wholefamily will approve.

Julie Wintker’s

Buttermilk Salad1 20-oz. can crushed pineapple, in juice1 6-oz. package sugar-free orange gelatin3 – 4 Tbsp. artificial sweetener, if desired2 cups non-fat buttermilk1 8-oz. container of non-fat whipped topping, thawed1 cup finely chopped nuts, optional2 – 3 drops red and 4 – 5 drops yellow foodcoloring, optional

Place the whole can of crushed pineapple in a mediumsized saucepan and heat to boiling. Add the orangegelatin and stir until completely dissolved. Remove from heat and cool to room temperature. Stir in the buttermilk.Completely fold in the thawed, whipped topping. Stir in the optional nuts and drops of food coloring. Pour into adecorative mold or simple square container that has been lightly sprayed with non-stick coating. Chill overnight or until firm.Serve on lettuce leaves and garnish with your favorite fresh fruit – strawberries, pineapple, or grapes. For a really retropresentation, dollop salad dressing on the top of each serving and complete with a maraschino cherry!

Got a S.I.N.fully delicious recipe to share? Call Julie Wintker at 901.452.8882or e-mail her at julie@womenofsss.org.

Aptitude and AttitudeCristi Okello

Many teens are told to get rid of their attitudesby both parents and teachers. However, as being amentor for the past three years for teenage girlsand a mother of two teenage boys, I beg to differ.Instead my message is to have attitude. It’s healthyand advantageous when used in the right way.

It’s not just about having attitude but instead it’sabout how you use the attitude. During mymentoring sessions, I teach the girls to use theirattitude to their advantage. As a young lady in thecorporate world, it was my attitude that made mewho I am today. It was my attitude that propelledme into the next phase of my career.

The attitude I speak of is not the kind thatincorporates the finger pointing and neck rollingbut instead it’s the kind that provokes learning,charisma, leadership and skill building. It’s amindset that takes a challenge, and turns it into alearning opportunity. It’s the attitude of greatness.

When others see this within a young female,they become intrigued and want to assist in any waypossible in the success of that individual. It’sinfectious to your surroundings. It commandsrespects and admiration all in one instant withoututtering a single word.

Aptitude and attitude go hand in hand. Aptitude,in its simplest form, means readiness. Attitude, inits simplest form, means state of mind. So put thetwo together and you have a readiness state ofmind. A readiness state of mind to achieve, tolearn, to grow, to lead and to be whatever you wantto be.

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What is Emotional Intelligence? EQ (or socialintelligence) is a strong indicator of the level of successone can attain in life, both in the personal and businessrealms. IQ, or Intelligence Quotient, for many years wasthe standard indicator of intelligence, and perhaps eventhought to be an indicator of success in life. However, theintelligence quotient did not accurately predict success,leading researchers to conclude that a better predictor ofsuccess is EQ. Traditional IQ tests measure rawintelligence, particularly logic, reasoning, language, andmathematics. If IQ measures how smart you are, EQdetermines how you use these gifts. Simply stated, lifesuccess can be most accurately and measurably predictedby examining both IQ and EQ.

Let’s define EQ. Emotional intelligence is the ability tounderstand emotions, particularly one’s own emotions.“Know thyself”, proclaims the ancient Greek aphorism.Self-awareness and self-regulation are the first two tenetsof EQ. To further expand on self-awareness, thiscompetency includes a strong self- confidence as well asthe ability to assess one’s value system, belief system,one’s strengths as well as weaknesses. Self-regulation (orself-management) includes self- control, trustworthiness,achievement orientation, and initiative. As you can see thefirst two competencies are internally driven factors.

Social Awareness is the next competency on the EQladder. This includes the ability to identify another person’svalues and emotions in order to have positive inter-personal relationships and outcomes. Social awarenessskills include leadership, influence, communication, conflictmanagement, relationship bonds, teamwork, andcollaboration. It is often said that social and personalinfluence and inspiration are the most basic foundationsfor all of life’s success. Also included within socialawareness are competencies of empathy, organizationalawareness, and service orientation. The secondrelationship residing within social awareness is relationshipmanagement. This competency allows for one’s interactionwith others to be managed in both constructive andpositive ways. Am I assisting in the development ofothers? How many positive relationships and friendships

do I have? And more importantly, what is the quality ofgive and take in these relationships? These competenciesare externally driven factors.

As summary for this first section on EmotionalIntelligence, EQ is driven from:

1. Internal factors

Self-Awareness

Self-Regulation

2. External factors

Social Awareness

Relationship awareness/management

The following are the skills and competencies that areNOT part of EQ:Emotional intelligence:

Is Not getting in touch with your feelings or “lettingit all hang out”

Is Not touchy-feely stuff or positive thinking

Is Not simply being nice. Sometimes beingemotionally intelligent means being able to confrontsomeone with an uncomfortable truth by:

Setting boundaries

Setting limits

Establishing guidelines

Is Not suppressing or controlling your emotions. Itdoes mean utilizing the appropriate emotion at theappropriate time to the appropriate degree

Is Not just about personal self-improvement. EQ ismore business-minded

Is Not a quick-fix program. EQ does evolve overtime and does not noticeably improve overnight

Remember… a fact that will be repeated in this article...EQ can be nurtured and strengthened over time and can

Emotional Intelligence - EQBy Judy Bell

be improved by as much as 40%. And a strongEmotional Intelligence brings immediate benefits to ourhealth, our relationships, and the quality of our lives.

Subtle Changes for Improvement…

There are additional sub-qualities of EQ. These are:

• Self- Confidence

• Self-Control (a smaller component of self-regulation)

• Commitment

• Integrity

• Assertiveness

• Empathy (if not used as a main component)

• Problem-Solving

• Optimism

Emotional intelligence often increases with age. Fromchildhood through young adulthood, our EQ matures; formost people anyway! As we move into middle agesometimes our EQ stops developing or even slidesbackward as we fall into patterns of thinking and behavior,also known as RUTS!

There are simple ways to push past these ruts to make youmore comfortable with change. This opens the emotionalside of the brain and allows it to be wound “not sotightly”.

Ways to push out of the comfort zone:

• Think creatively. Take creative risks. Color “offthe page”.

• Allow yourself (and others) to make mistakes.• Explore new territories. Drive a new way to

work. Take an “off-beat” vacation.• Fall, dust yourself off, and get up!• Find humor, smile often, and laugh out loud!• Connect emotionally with others.• Practice empathy if it does not come naturally

for you.• Champion moments of silence.• Live authentically!

Emotional Intelligence- How to Improve your EQ

Experts say that a heightened EQ increases happinessbecause it allows you to focus on feelings as well as facts.IQ focuses on logic. Strong emotional intelligence allowsyou to capitalize on your IQ because studies show that ittakes both a strong IQ as well as EQ to build and maintain

a successful career, strong and healthy relationships, andan overall fulfilling life.

So, can Emotional Intelligence be improved? Yes… by asmuch as 40%! The development of EQ is not fixed atbirth. Studies do show, however, that childhood is a criticaltime for the development of EQ. During childhood iswhen we learn much about relating to the world. Livingwithin our family unit is our first venture into relationships,friendships, and teams. Both nature and nurture do comeinto play with Emotional Intelligence. But remember…EQ can be improved by as much as 40%. This is animportant fact worth repeating. A strong EmotionalIntelligence brings immediate benefits to our health, ourrelationships, our work and the quality of our lives.

Steps for Improving your EQ:

• Recognize your emotions• Understand the causes of your feelings• Recognize the difference between having a

feeling and acting on that feeling• Monitor your actions!• Know your frustration tolerance• Express anger appropriately• Eliminate self-destructive behavior• Nurture positive feelings about yourself. Work

with your strengths.• Put your focus and attention on improving your

EQ• Remember, what gets measured gets improved

Now… set three things you will do tomorrow to makeEQ a reality for you!

Judy Bell

Coffee, Cookies and Couture Coffee, Cookies and Couture is an innovative fund-raising activity to support Women of Style, Spirit andSuccess. These three-hour, fun-filled workshops will engagewomen who sew in specific projects inspired by the famousdesigners who shaped the world of fashion internationally,seasonal fashion trends, and ideas from the participants aboutwhat they want to learn to do better. Participants will learnnew applications and techniques to strengthen their overallsewing and/or designing skills. These workshops are beneficial for individuals who sewfor themselves, as well as dressmakers and custom designers.At each workshop, we will supply the coffee (or tea) and

cookies (including sugar free), the sewing and pressing equipment and the assistance. Participants must supply theirown fabric, patterns (if applicable) and notions, and bring along their own creativity, fun and laughter. It’s a wonderfulway to spend an afternoon with your girlfriends and/or creative guy friends or meet new ones who share a commoninterest. Each workshop is $30 plus your needed supplies and must have a registered attendance of a minimum of sixpeople and a maximum of eight. For more information, the upcoming schedule and to register, visit the website atwww.coffeecookiesandcouture.com

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Girls participating in The F.F.E.W. after-schooland summer camp programs gained skills inusing PhotoShop, computer-assisted pattern-making software, and PowerPoint. In addition,they gained skills in sewing, jewelry-making,blogging, and weaving. This summer, they took a field trip toChampion Sportswear and saw how fashion meetstechnology in the production of licensedsportswear. Many thanks to the wonderful volunteerswho gave of their time and talent to makethese experiences possible for the girls:Jingjing Lee, a former professor of fashiondesign at the Bejing Institute of Fashion whoworked with them on patterns and sewing;LaToya Robinson, who trained in fashion inCalifornia and who taught them how to sewand introduced them to new technology toolssuch as the Cricket Cutter; Julia Wintker, whotold them about the wonderful engineeringbehind the sewing machine and taughtthem how to operate one, Judge ErnestineHunt-Dorse, who linked geography tofashion in teaching them to design jewelryusing semi-precious stones; Dr. Karen Feltonwho brought them information about textilesscience and taught them the art of weaving, andAshley Campbell who helped them strengthentheir writing skills through fashion blogging. We’d also like to give thanks in advance toAriel Sereika, global makeup artist for Yves St.Laurent. She will be doing the girls’ makeup fortheir culminating fashion show - Divas, Darlingsand Desserts. Lastly, we want to thank KeishaMoore-Alston who has volunteered as acoordinator this summer and who will join us laterthis month as an AmeriCorps Vista Volunteercharged with developing the capacity for us tooffer the program to at least 50 girls next year.

When Janet Cherry, a counselor with SCORE (ServiceCorps of Retired Executives) first approached theexecutive board of the organization with the idea to start aforum for women business owners, they didn’t seem veryreceptive. It wasn’t that they didn’t care; they just didn’t seehow addressing issues in business could be that differentbetween women and men. However, Janet, having had a

successful career as a trainer withFedEx, while being an

entrepreneur, wife andmother, knew that

even thoughthe

issues were the same, the approach to addressing themcould bring very different challenges for women than formen. Then, Janet saw the window of opportunity open abit wider when Cathy Walton, SCORE Memphis’ secondfemale Executive Director, stepped into office. She felt thatCathy would “get it.” She was right. SCORE (Service Corps of Retired Executives) hasbeen around since 1964 and has counseled thousands of

entrepreneurs through one of its 389 officesacross the U.S. People familiar with

the organizationtypically

see it as one comprised of mostly older, white males,retired from operating successful businesses or holding highranking positions in corporate America. There was a timewhen that perception would have been totally correct, butnot any more. Today the organization boasts of havingmany females among their impressive ranks. Their presenceis helping the organization retain its ability to connect withtheir clients during a time when the new face of start-upbusinesses is younger, female and racially diverse. So Cathy, along with Jim Frommel, a veteran SCOREmember and a member of their national board, made thecommitment to help Janet bring her idea to fruition. Thetiming was also right. The national organization wasencouraging local chapters to start hosting round tableevents to better connect with and service their communities.Cathy and Jim felt Janet’s idea would be great in a round-table format. They invited two non-SCORE members tothe table to help with the planning – Beverly Cottingham,President of Virtual Business Solutions and Marva Ballard,CEO of Women of Style, Spirit and Success. During aseries of meetings over the course of four months, thegroup laid the plans for what is now known as RoundsAbout Women (RAW). After the very first session, Janet’s hunch was validated,Cathy was elated and Jim was convinced that the MemphisChapter had started something phenomenal. As the onlymale member of the planning team, Jim also felt he had“got it.” Rounds About Women is a series of eight sessions.Participants convene every other week for 16 weeks. Eachsession starts with a 30 minute presentation by a female withexpertise on the topic, followed by facilitated discussions atthe round tables. The eight sessions that make up the series

cover topics related to communications, marketing andmanagement, but provide opportunities for women to

discuss those topics in the context of their specific issues.Each one culminates with the facilitator from each tablereporting back to the group. The series kicked off with a presentation by ShelleyBaur, author of Integrity-Based Communications, and asought after speaker on the topic. She spoke on identifyingand telling your own truth as a key to success. During herpresentation, she mentioned the fact that women often havetrouble saying exactly what they want in a businessrelationship for fear of being too aggressive. The ensuingdiscussion was energetic as the women spoke passionatelyabout having to overcome those types of fears. Those withexperience freely shared their tactics. Those without, eagerlylistened for ideas they could use. As the facilitators reported back on that first day, issuesand ideas differed from table to table, but all were inagreement about one thing – the discussions would havebeen totally different if it were a room full of businessmenrather than business women. There was a comfort level inthe room that truly allowed the women to really open upand become “RAW.” At this writing, the first series has concluded and theenergy and enthusiasm felt in the room that first daycontinued to last session – a mini expo where participantsset up displays and made presentations to the group abouttheir businesses. Aside from the presentations anddiscussions, the participants have also benefited from theopportunity to network with each other. New allianceshave formed among the women who have not onlyconnected with each other, but have shared ways to connectwith the greater community. It has been a win-win, for theparticipants, for SCORE, and for Janet, whose perseverancekept the idea on the horizon until the time was right. The next series of RAW will begin on August 18.Enrollment is open to only 24 women per series. The fee is$99.00 and applicants must be actively operating their own

businesses. To get details on the exact date, times andplace and to apply for a seat at the next series,

please visit the SCORE Memphis website atwww.scorememphis.com.

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Our major initiative is our Successful SeedsProgram. Through this program, women operatingsmall businesses are given assistance with marketingtheir products and services. We make it possible forthem to have attractive marketing collateral, effectivewebsites and teach them how to use technology toexpand markets and increase profit margins. We givetheir small businesses the ability to look and actbig so that they can eventually become bigger!

Who We AreWomen of Style, Spirit & Success, Inc. is a non-profit,501(c)3 organization dedicated to improving economicconditions for women and children through initiativesthat assist them with career and entrepreneurialpursuits.

Our MissionOur mission is to help women and girls embrace anduse technology as a means to lead more productivelives, operate more successful businesses, and preparefor the careers of the future.

About Us

Girls Getting Wired, in partnership with Best Buy,provides technology training to women and girls. Theprogram is offered on location at participating BestBuy stores on Saturday at 2:00 P.M. It helps bridge thedigital divide between genders by helping women andgirls gain more knowledge of and experience with thetechnical tools and devices that shape how we live,work and play. For more information, you can visitour website or the program website atwww.girlsgettingwired.org.

Our ProgramsThe F.F.E.W. (Future’s Fashion EntrepreneurialWomen) uses a girl’s interest in the glitz and glamourof the fashion industry to strengthen her academicskills and increase her awareness of and use oftechnology. Girls enrolled in the program do a varietyof fashion-related projects and go on field trips to gainan overall sense of the industry’s connectivity to otherindustries and academic disciplines. For moreinformation, visit the website at www.theffew.com.

Board of DirectorsDorothy Gourdine – Chair

Life With ClarityHampton, VA

Nyanza Y. Duplessis - Secretary/TreasurerDepartment of Community Affairs

Atlanta, GA

Julio CepedaLebonheur Children’s Hospital

Memphis, TN

Sophorn McRaeFormus Inc. Architects and Partners

Memphis, TN

Penelope WolfePenny Wolfe Creative Services

Millington, TN

StaffMarva G. Ballard - President / CEO

Marceline K. Vaughn - Program Resources Developer(AmeriCorps VISTA Volunteer)

Julie Wintker - Volunteer Resources Developer(AmeriCorps VISTA Volunteer)

Kapriskie Mack - Girls Getting Wired Program Resources Developer(AmeriCorps VISTA Volunteer)

Keisha Moore-Alston - The F.F.E.W. Program Resources Developer(AmeriCorps VISTA Volunteer)

Karen D. Moore - Public Relations Director

Michael Tanner - Web Developer(AmeriCorps VISTA Volunteer)

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