why a good marriage works:
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Why a good marriage works:. Why a good marriage works:. Difficult for me - personal Students remember this more than any other presentation “Thank you – I have never seen what a good marriage is like”. Symbols of love & the marriage are important. The rose Rings. The story of the rose. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
Why a good marriage works:
Why a good marriage works:
• Difficult for me - personal• Students remember this more than any other
presentation• “Thank you – I have never seen what a good
marriage is like”
Symbols of love & the marriage are important
• The rose• Rings
The story of the rose
Rose story
• In our house today..• We met in church…• Parents’ rose bush• 1st. Date – Suit of armor – Head on shoulder• Every week … every month … once a month• Daddy, can I get Mommy’s rose?• Sent rose FTD• One son tried it…
Rings
• 10 year ring• 25 year ring• 40 year ring – Custom made– At the Acropolis in Athens Greece– Rose gold– 40 pink diamonds– Ruby for each childAbout 50 stones – too heavy
History
• Together every day since we were teenagers• Her memories are my memories– Travel - Taj Mahal, Pyramids, Golden Pagota,
Acropolis, Tower of London, Red square, Myan Pramids of Chetznetsia, Eifel tower, Great wall…
• Movies
Marry someone like yourself
• Homogamy = Like marries like– Age, Race, Religion, Education social class = similar
attitudes etc.– Personalities
• Both quiet• We never asks for anything – No “To do” lists• I always spend money on her – never myself
– Clothes - vase
• Heterogamy = Opposites attract– Wants to be taken care of & want to care for– Both needy & both dominate doesn’t work
Make the other person feel important
• Good night – love you – I know… love you to• Good morning – how are you feeling?• Waving good-by• How can I help you?• Fight the world, but never each other
Experiences create intimacy and bonding• Births – 1st. Child – 2nd child – 3rs. child• Deaths – Parents - sister• Surgeries – She had– Breast Cancer – right side – left side– Tubal legation– Gaul bladder– Hysterectomy– Breast reduction– Carpel tunnel surgery– Knee surgery
• My detached retina surgery
Other important items:
• Body & stable personality– Overweight– Diabetes– Sleep aptnea (trouble breathing)– Depression (chemical)– Knees hurt– Back hurts– Shoulder hurts
• Honesty - Never lied• Trust– Red ball• Communication – Santa Ana park• Criticism – Any fool
Other important items:
• Find out what the other person wants and help them get it.– Preschool– Time by themselves or others
• “Go with the flow”– Willow tree bends and does not break
Dealing with differences
• Accept the other person as they are– Don’t try to change them– Exception = Drugs, alcohol, emotional or physical
abuse, anything that reduces your respect for yourself – just leave
• Messy vs. neat• T.V. & reading