week 6 values and beliefs
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Values and BeliefsSelf, Future and World
Core BeliefsUsually come in beliefs about not being worthless, unlovable or helpless
Core Beliefs
Not Good Enough
I am no good
I’m not good enough
I can’t do anything right
I’m unsuccessful
I’m not valuable
I’m inferior
I’m nothing
I’m worthless
I’m invisible
I’m insignificant
Core BeliefsNot Lovable
I’m not lovable
I’m unacceptable
I’m plain and dull
I’m not special
I’m ugly
I don’t matter
I am unworthy
I am not interesting enough
I will always be rejected
Core BeliefsHelpless
I’m inadequate
I’m incompetent
I can’t cope
I’m out of control
I can’t change
I’m week
I’m a failure
I’m will never measure up to others
I am powerless
Core Beliefs
Domain
About Self
About Others
About the World
About the Future
Beliefs
I’m unlovable as a person
“People are hurtful”
“The world is a dangerous place”
“There is no hope, things will never get better”
Rules
“In order to be loved, I must do whatever the other person wants”
“if I want to protect myself, I must not trust others”
“I must always be on my guard to avoid trouble”
“If I don’t try, then I won’t be disappointed”
Core BeliefsUsing Hot Thoughts to identify Core Beliefs
“Downward Arrow Technique”
1. Identify the hot thought
2. Ask IF that were true what would that say about:
a) You?
b) Others?
c) Your future?
Core BeliefsUsing Hot Thoughts to identify Core
Beliefs
“Downward Arrow Technique”
1. Identify the hot thought: I have nothing interesting to say
1. Ask if that were true what would that say about:
a) You? I’m boring
b) Others? People are not interested in me
c) Your future? I’ll die alone..I will always be unwanted
Core Beliefs
What did breaking down this thought just tell us
about this ?
Core BeliefsTHEY FEEL UNLOVABLE!!!
Note I did not say they ARE unlovable but FEEL unlovable
Can you relate to this feeling of unlovable?
In what ways?
Can you challenge the evidence of those situations to help to come to
realize this belief is based on irrational feelings ?
Together you must create a new balanced belief to help them
perceive things more realistic and positive and make healthier choices
for ourselves!
Hot Thought: I have nothing interesting to say
Conditional Assumption: If I avoid people, I will not get rejected
Core Belief: I’m unlikable
NEW BALANCED THOUGHTS:
NEW BALANCED THOUGHTS:
Hot Thought: I have interesting things to say about lots of things but not everything.
Conditional Assumption: If I meet people with similar interests, I will have more stimulating conversations
Core Belief: I’m likable and have things to offer