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VOLUME 6 • NO. 3 • 2005
Good Grief
Sisters of St. Joseph of the Third Order of St. Francis
MISSION STATEMENT
OF THE SISTERS OF ST. JOSEPH
OF THE THIRD ORDER
OF ST. FRANCIS
Dedication to Jesus Christ involves us
intimately in the liberating and reconciling
mission—to make God more deeply known
and loved, and in so doing, draw all persons
to fuller and freer life.
Together with all our sisters and brothers
who strive for a more just world, we under-
take those activities which will promote the
material and spiritual development of the
human family.
Gathering Place
is published to keep
the public informed
of the mission and
ministry of the Sisters
of St. Joseph of the
Third Order of
St. Francis.
EDITORReneta E.Webb, Ph.D., CAE
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9/11, the tsunami in Indonesia, hunger in Sudan, bombing in Bali,
the earthquake in Peru, the war in Iraq, Hurricanes Katrina and
Rita in the U.S., bombings in Madrid and London, Hurricanes Stan
and Wilma in Mexico, the earthquake in Pakistan—the whole earth
is in grief and loss. Add to that the individual scenarios of
heartbreak and loss experienced each day. How can one bear
such grief?
Jesus came to show us the great mystery proclaimed by God from the very beginning. The
voice of God boomed over the chaos,“Let there be light!” Jesus, too, showed us that there
is resurrection after death. There is new life after loss.
The loss does not disappear. We go through grief. At times, we are fortunate enough
to have companions in our grief who help us honor that which was lost and embrace a
new portion of that which remains. Companions open our vision and guide us to new
possibilities.
This issue, celebrating Good Grief, recognizes the reality of grief, loss and pain, but brings
the assurance of God’s command,“Let there be light!”
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Grief can be redeemed and redeeming. Loss and grief are a part of life—loss of a
loved one, loss of property, friends, independence.This issue will focus on dealing with
loss in light of the Resurrection. Grief is a necessary part of moving to new life.
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Moses needed help in keeping his arms up in prayer. Attentive to his
need, friends came and, without saying very much, held his arms. Mary stood
silently under the cross, sharing the grief of a dying Jesus.That is the way
companions in grief provide a helpful presence in the journey through loss.
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Sister Betty Gulick
Sister Helen Huellmantel
Sister Margaret Trzebiatowski
Sister Rose Grabowski
Table ofContents
In response to readers’ requests,
we are including the names of the
sisters as they were known before
the return to baptismal names.Good
Grie
fLetter from
the President 1
Vocation/Formation 21
Rebecca Powell — Pre-Candidate
In the News 22
Groundbreaking in Bartlett
Development 23
Perpetual Light 23
Sister Albinette Block
Sister Mary Daniel Sutula
Sister Mary Alphonsine Niczkowski
DEPARTMENTS
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Dear Friends,
It’s autumn and we are deep into fall in northwest Wisconsin.Things may look different, depending on where you are living, but here, fall is nature’s time of loss—the trees shed their leaves, the sun’s warmth declines daily, skies darken, and birdsleave for milder climates. But there are few, if any, signs of grief.
Grief is intimately connected with remembering. Our consciousness of the good,the beautiful, and the true in our life, and the remembrance of all that has beentreasured and loved in the past, are the requisites for grieving.
In grieving, we know the loss. But is there anything for us beyond the knowing?Three authors— the first one, novelist Geraldine Brooks; the second, over manyyears a favorite of mine, essayist and poet Rainer Marie Rilke; and the last, arecently encountered poet, Richard Fife—all grapple with this “more” in disparategenres, but arrive at the same mystery. I share them with you, because it is fromthem that I draw both faith and insight into the meaning of this fall, this November,this time of loss and grieving.
A Year of Wonders, a novel by Geraldine Brooks, records the events of 1666 in asmall English village. Led by their minister in a gallant act of self-sacrifice, the villagechose to quarantine itself and all its residents during an outbreak of bubonicplague in order to prevent the spread of the fatal disease.Throughout the story,the heroine Anna Frith faces grief and loss of almost unimaginable proportions.Each loss, however, brings with it the opportunity to choose despair or reneweddedication.Anna’s strength of character sustains her through her grief, and thememories of her losses take her to new heights of personal maturity and spiritualdevelopment.
Alternately, in a short essay taken from The Notebooks of Malte Laurids Brigg, RainerMarie Rilke describes what it takes to create a single verse, using the same themesfound in Brooks’ novel: living life intensely, that is, truly encountering love, birth,and death. He closes with the lines:
...And still it is not yet enough to have memories. One must be able to forgetthem when they are many and one must have the great patience to wait untilthey come again. For it is not yet the memories themselves. Not till they haveturned to blood within us, to glance and gesture, nameless and no longer to bedistinguished from ourselves—not till then can it happen that in a most rarehour the first word of a verse arises in their midst and goes forth from them.
And Richard Fife, in “Memories Can Tell Us Only What We Were,” ends his poem withthe same hopeful message that whatever seems to be lost, in reality lives on in us:
Memories can tell us only what we wereIn company with those we loved;It cannot help us find out what each of us,Alone, must now become.Yet, no person is really alone;Those who live no more still echoWithin our thoughts and words,And what they did has becomeWoven into what we are.
Your sister,
Jeanne Conzemius, SSJ-TOSFPresident
~ S o u r c e s o f G r i e f ~
The news is filled with images of people sobbing in grief, bent in anguish, falling into the
arms of anyone who would console them. There are graphic examples of natural disas-
ters, battlefield statistics, broken hearts, financial calamities, victims of crime and innocent
lives threatened and lost. Grief tears at the heart of our very being. We lose sight of any
options. We feel helpless and alone.
Psychologists tell us that there are more than forty events that can create grief. Topping
the list are the death of a loved one, divorce, estrangements, loss of personal freedom,
financial loss, loss of health, and personal injury. To some degree, in every day of our lives,
we all have experienced loss and grief.
~ T h e S t a t e o f G r i e f ~
Grief is an inner experience that takes us to the very heart of life itself. It starts out with
a sense of numbness, the sense that none of this is real. There is a temporary lack of
understanding of the full impact of what is happening. When the waves of reality break
on our consciousness, panic mixes with a sense of anger and vexation. Our vision is dulled
by a sense of helplessness, emptiness, loneliness, self-accusation or despair. Sometimes
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guilt takes hold — If only we could have done
more, been nicer, not left home, etc. The state of
grief leaves our hearts broken and our hands
empty. It is a state that prepares us to be filled.
Grief is an altered state of consciousness. We are
torn away from old ways of thinking and familiar
patterns of living. We are drawn into what
Mircea Eliade refers to as “the Great Time”
where clock time is suspended and even bodily
needs are neglected.
~ G o o d G r i e f ~
Grief is good. It figures into a larger plan in our lives. We don’t always know why, or how
the grieving events will change us or others. “And your own soul a sword shall pierce so
that the secret thoughts of many will be revealed.” (Luke 2:35) Mary “kept all these
things, pondering them in her heart,” Scripture tells us. We, too, must hold and embrace
the moment of grief as a gift. We are invited, like Mary, to enter into all the feelings and
reactions associated with grief—the feelings of sadness and helplessness, the tears shed,
the confusion. These are normal, human reactions to loss. When we understand that
other grieving people have similar thoughts, feelings and physical sensations, we can be
assured that what we are going through is completely normal.
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“And your o wn soul a sword shall pierce so that
the secret thoughts of many will be revealed.”
(Luke 2:35)
Grief breaks us open for new life.When the structures of our lives are settled into stag-
nation, the grief that comes from loss opens possibilities and options. Grief propels us
into an altered state of consciousness — a way of looking at life — in ways that we would
not have been capable of shaping. Grief becomes the gateway to a new consciousness.
It is only when we can turn toward new life that grief is truly redeemed. This “turning
around” — in Greek, metanoia — is a necessary movement toward joy. If we are trapped
in the direction of the grieving event, we will forever be caught in despair. If, in the
strength and love of the people who journey with us, and in trust of a loving God, we turn
around, we will throw our arms open to the new life that awaits us. Anger will turn to
determination, despair to hope, and sadness to joyful commitment.
~ H e a l i n g G r i e f ~
Grief can be redeemed. This is why Jesus came to this earth, to give witness to the
transforming power of divine life. “I came that they may have life, and have it more
abundantly,” Jesus said. (John 10:10) Jesus desires our good. He invites us to channel the
energy of grief into positive action. Healing grief is a journey, not a destination. In this life,
we will not rid ourselves of grief, but surrounded by the compassionate presence of those
who love us, we can move to healing and wholeness. When we are all unraveled in grief,
our journey toward healing asks us to weave our losses into the fabric of our lives.
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“I came that they may have life, and
have it more abundantl y,” Jesus said.
(John 10:10)
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Good Grief~ L e t T h e r e B e L i g h t ~
God’s spirit hovered over the chaos right from the very beginning, hovering, not in some dis-
interested way, but in preparation for calling out,“Let there be light!” That divine spirit was
clearly visible in Jesus whose whole life was given to assuring people that their faith would
make them whole. “I, the Light, have come into this world,” Jesus said (John 12:46). And He
proved it with his resurrection. There is new life after grief. The stone is rolled away, and
those who mourn are comforted.
“I, the Light, have come into this worl d,”
Jesus said. (John 12:46)
“Near the cross of Jesus stood his mother, and his
mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and
Mary of Magdala.” (John 19:25)
During that whole ordeal, Scripture never records anything that Mary said. She was Jesus’
companion in grief, bearing the pain, being sensitive to all that He was suffering. She would
love to have taken away his agony, but knowing that there was a greater plan in action, she
stood with Jesus in loving compassion. Her strength blended with His in showing us Jesus’
staunch commitment to the Good News of the kingdom and its values.
Companions in grief are sensitive listeners. They come to the situation of loss and grief
with open hearts and minds. There is no “agenda.” They are present to provide calm
strength in an extremely stressful event. Each type of loss creates a different environment.
A child experiencing the breakup of a family will need something different than a person
who has just been diagnosed with a terminal illness. Yet, each is in a state of grief.
A stressful situation sometimes causes people to want to explain it away, to talk it into normalcy. The
companion knows how to listen without judgment and without comment, knowing that the healing
response to grief lies within the person grieving.
Companions in grief are aware and thoughtful. People were standing about crying in grief when Jesus
had raised the daughter of Jairus. Jesus knew they weren’t focused on the little girl’s need for food,
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Sister BarbaraFeleo comforts a
grieving widow.
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so He told them to bring her something
to eat. Like Jesus, the companion in grief is
sensitive and alert to the needs of the
grieving. What would make this situation less
stressful? What thoughtful thing would
contribute to the health and healing of the
persons grieving?
The best companions in grief are the “wound-
ed healers.” The one who best knows the grief
of war is the one who has experienced it, and
knows what the war victims are suffering.
A companion in grief is a catalyst in addressing some fundamental questions: What might
be preventing your “letting go?” How would you like to spend your remaining time on earth?
What is standing in the way of your forgiving? What
beautiful example does your situation offer to all of us? Ira
Byock, M.D. wrote a book entitled “The Four Things
That Matter Most: A Book about Living.” In it he
suggests four simple phrases that lead to emotional
wellness and emotional healing:
Please forgive me,
I forgive you.
Thank you.
I love you.
Persons in grief need to be guided to express these
simple phrases on their journey to new life.
Companions in grief are also companions in joy. Mary of Magdala was a close companion
of Jesus, following Him all the way to Calvary, preparing his body for burial, and keeping
watch at the site of the tomb. She was also a witness to the resurrection, seeing Jesus
alive. As the grieving person moves through the grief to embrace new life, the compan-
ion is there to sing the “alleluias” at the life that has found a new home.
P lease forgive me.
I forgive you .
T hank you .
I love you .
Dayt h e t h i r d
My heart crushed and bruised,I crept out of my bed before dawn to beginthe foot-dragging journey to the tomb.
With balm and sacred nard, I slip pastthe gate guard, for no one willdeter me from my purpose.
A soft breeze stirs the dawn dust‘round my feet, as I set out across the desertto annoint my Lord for the last time.
My soul has sorrow dark as I rememberthe Roman Friday feast ofHis Body bled dry, scarred and torn.
The tomb, turned red by the rising sun,shows that even this Deathhas not stopped time.
I prepare to meet my dead Lord,as I bend down to see the Essenceof myself within this hewn rock.
I wail in wild lament as the yawning emptiness alonegreets my solicitations.
Throwing myself across this empty tomb,I keen for my dead Lord,celebrating the devastation of the moment.
“Mary,” breezes across my lamentation,as I turn to find my Lord, radiantin the glory of the Resurrection.
Instantly I, who annointed His sacred feet only,am wholly immersed in Profound Love.
I emerge “as the woman whostood at the foot of the cross,” Magdalene.
Gerry Smith is author of “The Third Day.” She is a friend
of Sr. Margaret Trzebiatowski.
Gerry writes of herself:
“I am a single laywoman (and proud of it) and a retired high school
teacher whose fields were history and English. I worked the last 17
years as a foreign language supervisor and audio visual director
for a school system of 900, in K-12. After teaching a total of 75 semesters, MS caught up
with me. I was diagnosed in 1992, and retired in 1996.
“My published book of poetry is titled Fahrnwald Poetry because all the entries were
inspired by my annual trek to the Jesuit Retreat House located on Fahrnwald Road in
Oshkosh,Wisconsin. I have a second volume in the works called Musings.
“In 1979, I became the first lay Eucharistic Minister in the local hospital. I became a
trained hospice volunteer in 1981 and conduct a Healing Grief Circle with the residents.
I lead “Working Your Way Through Grief ” workshops for small groups of people who are
non-hospice involved. It lasts six weeks and I wrote the material myself. I became
certified in Grief Counseling and Bereavement by the Association for Death Education
and Counseling in 2002.”
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“Sister Betty is the most practical, down-to-earth pastoral minister I have ever known,”
said one of the nurse managers at Marymount Hospital in Garfield Heights, Ohio, where
Sister Betty Gulick (Sr. John Ann) is Chaplain. Perhaps it is the “down-to-earth”
example given by Jesus that sets the tone for Sr. Betty’s life and ministry. As St. Paul puts
it, “Make your own the mind of Christ Jesus who, being in the form of God, did
not count equality with God something to be grasped. But He emptied himself,
taking the form of a slave, becoming as human beings are.” (Phillipians 2:5-7)
Sr. Betty fills each day with a ministry stretching from prayer at the bedside of
a dying patient to the scheduling of Eucharistic Ministers. Her office is strategi-
cally located close to the main entrance of the hospital, making her services
always available—very much “on earth.”
The hospital environment is very familiar to Sr. Betty. She was born in Garfield
Heights, Ohio, and lived on Granger Road, right in the neighborhood of
Marymount Convent and Marymount Hospital. She attended St.Therese Grade
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“Make your o wn the mind of Christ Jesus who, being in the form of God, didnot count e quality with God something to be grasped. But He emptied him-sel f, taking the form of a slave, becoming as hu man beings are.” (Phillipians 2:5-7)
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School and then Marymount High School (now Trinity High School) which was
staffed by the Sisters of St. Joseph of the Third Order of St. Francis. When she
completed her Junior year at Marymount, she entered the congregation. She was
invested in 1960 and received the name of Sister Mary John Ann. She spent five
years attending college, preparing for a career as a Medical Technologist. Her first
assignment was at St. Joseph Hospital in Meridian, Mississippi. In 1967, she came
to Marymount Hospital where she served as medical technologist until 1974.
1975 was a significant turning point in Sr. Betty’s ministry. God’s life, through
Sr. Betty’s life, took a different shape. She completed a master’s degree in
Pastoral Psychology and Counseling and was invited to join the pastoral team at
St. Monica Parish. For the next twenty-five years, Sr. Betty served in pastoral
ministry at various churches in Ohio. In 2001, she assumed the responsibilities
of Chaplain at Marymount Hospital in Garfield Heights.
Sr. Betty brings God to earth in many ways. Her day begins with praying a morning prayer
over the public address system that is heard by patients, family members, staff and visitors.
Then she reviews the number of new admissions that have come in since the previous day
to determine which patients need to be seen that day. She prepares the sheets that the
Eucharistic Ministers will use to take Eucharist to the patients after the Mass that is
televised to patients’ rooms. She works with the Patient Advocate who handles any
problems that may arise during a hospital stay. She visits patients and provides counseling
and guidance as needed. There are times when she meets with the patient and their
family members to assist them in articulating their spiritual values and belief system and
uses their insights to inform their decision-making abilities. She educates patients and
families about advance directives and end-of-life issues and assists in the clarification
process in family conferences and
facilitates greater discussion be-
tween patients, families, and their
physician/nursing staff. The Pastoral
Care staff works with the diocesan
seminarians to develop their skills in
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THERE ARE TIMES
WHEN SHE MEETS WITH
THE PATIENT AND
THEIR FAMILY MEMBERS
TO ASSIST THEM IN
ARTICULATING THEIR
SPIRITUAL VALUES AND
BELIEF SYSTEM AND
USES THEIR INSIGHTS
TO INFORM THEIR
DECISION-MAKING
ABILITIES.
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hospital ministry. And she does all
the extra thoughtful things, like
preparing a Book of Remembrance,
when a staff member dies. In the
Book of Remembrance, the staff can
write messages of sympathy to the
family of the deceased staff member
and share memories of the person
with whom they worked at Mary-
mount Hospital. This book is then
presented to the deceased staff
member’s family. Twice a year a six week bereavement series, open to the neighboring
community, is offered to families who have lost a loved one. Every three months Sr. Betty
plans a Memorial Mass, offered for all patients who have died at Marymount Hospital.Their
family members are invited to attend. It is one more way she helps families deal with the
loss of a loved one.
Where does Sr. Betty receive her inspiration and motivation? Prayer is the center of her
life. “I have a special cross which I hold in my hand every night and lift up to God the
people who, during that day, have been in my care.They may have asked for prayer. I just
place them in God’s hand each night. I know they are in His hands.”
Yes, Sr. Betty is down to earth, and she and God are really present in her ministry.
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“I HAVE A SPECIAL
CROSS WHICH I HOLD
IN MY HAND EVERY
NIGHT AND LIFT UP TO
GOD THE PEOPLE WHO,
DURING THAT DAY,
THAT I MINISTERED TO.
THEY MAY HAVE ASKED
FOR PRAYER. I JUST
PLACE THEM IN GOD’S
HAND EACH NIGHT.
I KNOW THEY ARE IN
HIS HANDS.”
Sister Helen Huellmantel (Sr. Louis) works for two different hospice services in the
Detroit, Michigan, area. One is Heartland Hospice Services and the other is
Hospice Advantage with a special service to African Americans. In both cases, she is part
of a healthcare team—doctor, nurse, home care aide, therapy—visiting patients in
hospitals and home settings, reaching people who otherwise would not have spiritual care
during their illness. “Spiritual care” is exactly what Sr. Helen offers. She brings spiritual
meaning to the suffering and loss that each person endures in a unique way. The objec-
tive in her hospice work is to engage the spiritual life of the patient in the process of pain
management.
Sr. Helen brings the joy of music to her patient visits. She delights her patients with a
repertoire which includes both hymns and contemporary songs so she can respond to the
mood of the patient. Even as a child, she was a gifted musician, playing the piano and
singing. When she entered the convent, she began serving as a church organist even
through her high school years. Her gift has always been at the service of God and the
People of God. She continued directing choirs, playing the organ for liturgies, and provid-
ing entertainment for various occasions. She is a true minister of music.
Sr. Helen was born in Warren, Michigan, where she was raised with her five brothers and
sisters. She is the fifth of six siblings. She attended Ascension School in Base Line,
Michigan, where the Sisters of St. Joseph of the Third Order of St. Francis were teachers.
Their kindness and holiness inspired Helen to enter the congregation when she graduat-
ed from eighth grade. She was invested in 1953 and received the name Sister Mary Louis.
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I Will Make Music for Yahweh!Psalm 27:6
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Sr. Helen’s whole life and ministry has always been rooted in care for the minores, the
“little ones.” She began her ministry as a teacher is 1956 and taught in several Ohio
schools until 1968. It was then that she
was assigned to St. Francis Mission in
Greenwood, Mississippi. It was only a
year, but it changed her life and ministry.
She returned to the Detroit area and
joined the staff of Our Lady of Fatima
Parish in Oak Park, Michigan, as Director
of Adult Education and Special Parish
Affairs. In 1971, she continued her
parish ministry at St. Columban Parish in
Detroit. While there, Sr. Helen became
more deeply aware of children in the
inner city of Detroit. She began to study
the neighborhood and discern how to
help the youth in that part of the city.
She knew that the children needed a
stable and positive influence. Sr. Helen opened a Youth Center, Focus, Inc., and in 1978,
she established Sunshine Montessori School where younger children were provided with
a solid learning foundation. The school is still in operation today. In 1988, she transi-
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I Will Make Music for Yahweh!Psalm 27:6
SR. HELEN’S WHOLE LIFE AND MINISTRY HAS ALWAYS BEEN
ROOTED IN CARE FOR THE MINORES, THE “LITTLE ONES.”
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tioned from her work at Focus, Inc., to working in commu-
nity development for Goodwill Industries. In this capacity,
Sr. Helen organized meals for seniors, well-being visits, and
other services for those who were in need. It was a natural
progression in her ministry to become Coordinator of
Pastoral Care and Chaplain at Detroit Riverview Hospital
where she completed her Certification with the Association
of Professional Chaplains. In 2000, she assumed the role of
Chaplain at William Beaumont Hospital where she served
for four years. Her inspiration for choosing hospice work
was to minister to AIDS patients, which, on occasion, she
does in her current position.
Spending even a short time with Sr. Helen, one is convinced of her absolute commitment
to her ministry. She lives what she says. She can speak words of release to the dying
because she herself knows how to “let go.” She lives in a small apartment in Detroit that
does the Franciscan spirit proud. Word has it that she gets a good portion of her
wardrobe from Goodwill Industries, and still manages to be professionally “together.” Joy
follows her like swirls follow a moving hand in water. In truth, she proclaims with her life,
“I will sing, I will make music for Yahweh!”
I Will Make Music for Yahweh!Psalm 27:6
JOY FOLLOWS HER LIKE SWIRLS
FOLLOW A MOVING HAND IN WATER.
SHE CAN SPEAK WORDS
OF RELEASE TO THE
DYING BECAUSE SHE
HERSELF KNOWS HOW
TO “LET GO.”
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GriefMINISTRY INA Healing Presence“The presence of their absence is everywhere,” explained Sister MargaretTrzebiatowski (Sr. Jeanne d’Arc), Chaplain at Luther Midelfort Hospital in Eau Claire,
Wisconsin. She was using these words of Edna St.Vincent Millay to describe an episode
at the hospital, but could have been describing any situation of loss. The loss always
remains, but the survivors integrate that loss into a new way of being.
Sr. Margaret has been a chaplain at Luther Midelfort since 1986. The staff
has come to know and depend on the calm and stabilizing presence of Sr.
Margaret, particularly in trauma situations. “She is always there with a
kind word, a smile, a gracious ‘What can I do?’” stated one family mem-
ber dealing with a parent’s terminal illness. As chaplain,Sr.Margaret devel-
ops a relationship with the patients and their families throughout the hos-
pitalization. She visits them,shares Eucharist and offers spiritual and emo-
tional support. She is an active member of the healthcare team, partici-
pating in activities from medical rounds to charting spiritual care inter-
ventions on medical charts. She provides education and peer counseling
for colleagues, and witnesses to her Catholic faith in the way St. Francis
counseled his followers: “Preach the Gospel at all times. Use words if
necessary.” She is a living reminder of the power of religious faith in the
context of total health care.
Healing touch is part of Sr. Margaret’s ministry. Healing touch is a holis-
tic energy therapy that uses gentle, non-invasive touch to influence and
support the body’s balance and harmony. The goal is to support the per-
son’s self-healing process toward wholeness in body, mind, spirit and
emotion. She uses healing touch in collaboration with conventional
health care.
“P reach the Gospel at all times. Use words if necessary.” St. Francis
Sr. Margaret brings credentials and experience to her
ministry at Luther Midelfort. She is a member of the
Association of Professional Chaplains, fulfilling the require-
ments of a master’s degree and the completion of the
required CPE units. In 1990, she was the first woman
in the state of Wisconsin to become a fellow in the College
of Chaplains. Before she came to the hospital, she was
Director of Religious Education at St. Olaf’s Parish in
Eau Claire.
Her experience of deep faith and loving care began even
earlier than her credentials. She was born in Galloway, a
little town in central Wisconsin, one of seven children.
She came to know the Sisters
of St. Joseph of the Third
Order of St. Francis when she
attended St. Adalbert School
in Rosholt, Wisconsin, and
entered the congregation
after graduating from eighth
grade. The community spirit
of Franciscan love and Gospel
living resonated deeply with
Sr. Margaret, so that in later
years she brought her
commitment of care
to her every ministry.
She was invested in
1960 and received the name Sister Mary Jeanne
d’Arc. The first years of her ministry were in
teaching, but soon she realized that God had other
plans for her talents. She turned her energy toward
pastoral ministry, working in Holy Rosary Parish
in Owen, Wisconsin. After serving as the congrega-
tion’s Vocation/Formation Director, she moved to
St. Olaf’s Parish.
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It was then that Sr. Margaret
began her work at Luther
Midelfort. She began in the crit-
ical care area of the hospital.
Daily, Sr. Margaret draws her
strength from centering prayer,
the recitation of the Divine
Office and from yoga. Since the hospital is a brisk
walk from her house, she uses the opportunity
for a “walking meditation” usually on the
Scripture readings for the day’s liturgy.
Sr. Margaret is part of the Franciscan Chords, a
music group of the Sisters of St. Joseph of the
Third Order of St. Francis. She plays the bass.
In addition to her musical talent, she does quilt-
ing, a talent she contributes to the production of
the annual Hospice Remembrance Quilts that bear the names of
all the patients cared for in the Hospice Program of Northwest
Wisconsin Homecare.
Sr. Margaret continues her
ministry as part of the
health care team at Luther
Middelfort Hospital. On a
day to day basis, she is a
companion in grief, but
knows the joy of a grief
redeemed.
GriefMINISTRY INA Healing Presence(continued from page 16)
GriefMINISTRY IN
The Space thatSurrounds a Bird…A sixty-seven year old woman died a sudden and untimely death, and the family gathered
at the Franciscan Skemp Hospital where Sister Rose Grabowski (Sr. Carolyn) is
chaplain. She responded to the family with compassion, sensitive to opportunities to com-
panion them in their grief. Grief takes time. Sr. Rose knew that this was only the
beginning of the family’s journey through grief. The first few steps would be the family’s
telling stories of their wife, mother and grandmother. Being a good listener is one of the
traits of a good companion in grief. Sr. Rose spent the entire afternoon with the family,
helping out with phone calls, making sure that family members were comforted and
comfortable, making initial arrangements for the wake and funeral, and praying with them.
God was present “like the space that surrounds a bird.”
Sr. Rose has the required certification for chaplaincy, but her compassion comes from a
listening heart, her natural state of being. She was also blessed with a wonderful sense of
humor with which she brightens the days of the patients in her care. “Sister Rose is always
good for ‘the joke of the day,’” said one of the volunteers. Her ministry at Franciscan
Skemp Healthcare is truly a calling. Franciscan Skemp Healthcare is a both a hospital and
a nursing home. She provides pastoral care in emergency situations such as those which
would most often arise in the hospital. She is also the daily source of Eucharist, prayer and
spiritual care for the longer term residents of the nursing home. The latter includes the
elderly, persons suffering stroke, and those with debilitating conditions such as Parkinson’s
disease or multiple sclerosis. When they are gathered for prayer, Sr. Rose calls them “my
Church.” Each person is unique, and Sr. Rose meets each situation with a “fitting response.”
For example, once at Christmas time, a patient was very near death. Following her
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bedside prayer, she was moved to sing a Christmas carol.
She softly sang “Silent Night” and when she came to “sleep
in heavenly peace” the patient quietly went home to God.
Sr. Rose’s sensitivity to God was apparent in her early years
in Thorp, Wisconsin. She was born the seventh of ten
children to Joseph and Stella Grabowski. She became
acquainted with the Sisters of St. Joseph of the Third Order
of St. Francis during grade school where the congregation
taught at St. Hedwig Parish. Rose responded to God’s call
and entered the congregation in 1956 when she completed
the eighth grade. In 1962, she began her teaching career
which would last for fourteen years in Wisconsin schools. She went to St. George Parish
in Kenosha,Wisconsin, in 1976 as Religious Education Director where she served for six
years before taking on the responsibility of Vocation team member for the Stevens Point
Province. Her work at St. Catherine Residence for Women was a turning point in her
ministry. She sensed that God was moving her in the direction of pastoral care and
chaplaincy, so she took time to complete the requirements for certification with
the Association of Professional Chaplains. Sr. Rose became Staff Chaplain at St. Agnes
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The Space that Surrounds a Bird…
GriefMINISTRY IN
Hospital in Fond du Lac, Wisconsin,
where she ministered for seven years. In
2001, she began her ministry at St. Joseph
Hospital and Nursing Home in Arcadia,
Wisconsin, and remained there when it
was reorganized to Franciscan Skemp
Healthcare in 2002. She continues as part
of the healthcare team for the patients
and residents.
Sr. Rose knows the nursing home resi-
dents by name, and gives them plenty of
hugs as well as spiritual care. Her per-
sonal “hugs” come from her community,
her family and friends, and her God. She
relaxes with cross stitch, and from long
walks in Memorial Park,
located just across the street from her house. There is a peaceful spirit
about her, and one gets the feeling that she is in touch with Someone very
near ... deep within. On her wall hangs an art piece with the saying:
“It is courage that makes saints,
and courage is nothing more or less
than trusting in the grace that comes from above
and that is always present,
for in our trials and sufferings
God is always present.
God is like the space that surrounds a bird.”
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V O C A T I O N / F O R M A T I O N
Rebecca Powell
Pre-Candidate
On August 7, 2005, Rebecca Powell was received
as a Pre-candidate of the Sisters of St. Joseph of
the Third Order of St. Francis. The ceremony
took place at St. Joseph Congregational Home with a
prayer service marking her intent to live according to the
Gospels and begin her journey toward full membership in
the congregation. Rebecca received a Bible, symbolic of
her “dedication to Jesus Christ (SSJ-TOSF Mission
Statement)”; the history of the congregation, A Fitting
Response, to become more familiar with the spirit of the
founders; a copy of “A Franciscan Journey” to guide her in
the time of Pre-candidacy; and a Tau cross to wear as a
symbol of her intent to live a Franciscan life. .
Rebecca is from Raleigh, North Carolina. She is a graduate
of North Carolina University with a bachelor’s degree with
a Genetics major, and is currently pursuing her master’s
degree in Genetics. She became a confirmed Catholic this
past Easter at St. Francis Parish in Raleigh. She is compan-
ioned in her pre-candidacy by Sister Deb Weina, SSJ-TOSF
Vocation Director, and Sister Sharon Dillon.
Rebecca studied the web site of the SSJ-TOSFs for several
months before contacting the SSJ-TOSF Vocation Minister.
You can find more information on Pre-candidacy at
www.ssj-tosf.org. Click on “Join Us” and “Vowed Life.”
Groundbreaking in BartlettFrom Tiny Acorns, Mighty Oaks Do Grow
On Sunday, October 9, 2005,
ground was broken for the
construction of Clare Oaks, “a
community for mind, body and
spirit,” in Bartlett, Illinois.
Francis Cardinal George, O.M.I.,
Archbishop of Chicago, and
the Honorable Catherine J.
Melchert, Bartlett Village
President, joined Sisters Jeanne
Conzemius, Colette Wilczynski
and Ruth Baggech in welcoming
the future residents of Clare
Oaks, as well as friends and project supporters. They
gathered in the chapel of Immaculata Congregational
Home to celebrate a liturgy of thanks and hope. Changes
were already taking place on
the campus. The ground was
being prepared for the upcoming
demolition of the west wing of
the current building and the
construction of Phase One of
the continuing care retirement
community. The guests could see
the changes, even as they arrived
at the Congregational Home.
Following the Mass, the group
walked to the large reception
tent where the groundbreaking was to happen, and where
the reception was held. Sr. Ruth introduced Mr. Martin
Satava of CRSA who explained the construction events
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Campus plan for Clare Oaks.for more information, go to www.clareoaks.com
Groundbreaking in Bartlett
that led up to the day’s celebration. Mayor Melchert
expressed the enthusiasm of the Village of Bartlett for the
needed retirement facility as a vital part of the growth of
the area. Sr. Jeanne shared the dreams of the congregation
for the ministry that would be part of the life of Clare
Oaks. To express their unity on the Clare Oaks project,
the group adjourned to the shovel site. Cardinal George
blessed the ground, and five shovels dug into the ground to
mark the beginning of a new era. The first depositors, the
architects, the construction engineers, all had the privilege
of planting acorns right along the groundbreaking line. The
cardinal watered them, a sign of hope for the future.
The guests were then treated to dinner and enjoyed the
music of the St. Peter Damian Choir and a music ensem-
ble. To mark the occasion, depositors were given a bowl
decorated with handpainted acorns and the date of the
groundbreaking. They spent some time strolling the
grounds and noting the changes already underway.
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Clare Oaks is a sponsored institution of the Sisters of
St. Joseph of the Third Order of St. Francis. It will be an
inspirational, hospitable community, providing gracious
independent living as well as assisted living and long term
health care. It is designed for social, intellectual, physical
and spiritual growth during retirement years.
From tiny acorns, mighty oaks do grow.
Sister Mary Daniel SutulaBorn to this life: March 3, 1916Born to eternal life: September 18, 2005Homemaker and pastoral minister in Ohio andConnecticut, Sr. Daniel embodied the spirit ofgracious hospitality that is a hallmark of thecongregation.
Sister Albinette BlochBorn to this life: February 14, 1914Born to eternal life: September 8, 2005A dedicated teacher in Wisconsin schools,Sr. Albinette spent a lifetime in loving ministryto “the little ones.”
Sister Mary Alphonsine NiczkowskiBorn to this life: July 28, 1912Born to eternal life: October 14, 2005The educational ministry of Sr. Alphonsine inOhio spanned over 70 years as teacher,author, principal, supervisor, reading specialistand tutor.
Dear Friends,
Tragedy, natural disasters, pain, suffering, loss, and the list goes on—all causing grief in ourpersonal life, in our nation and across the world. How do we deal with this grief that has
of late become very much a part of our lives? How can we be instrumental in helping alleviateall the grief? Should we and can we be concerned? The Apostolic Mission of the Sisters of St. Joseph of the Third Order of St. Francis directs our path:
“... aware of the enormous moral and physical complexities of our world today, we seek not flight frombut positive insertion into the redemptive mystery unfolding in the world. Together with all our sisters andbrothers who strive for a more just world, we undertake those activities which will promote the materialand spiritual development of the human family.”
Our first response to the grief in today’s world is prayer power. Prayer is the driving force thatprovides support and encouragement to all of us as daily we face whatever challenge our ministries may offer. Through interaction with others in our ministries we strive to ease existinggrief that is present in the lives of God’s people whom we serve.
All of you, as partners with us in our ministries and prayer life, create a powerful source for helping reduce some of the grief existing in our world today. Is it a cure? No, but it is a positivestep forward. We pray for continuance in our seemingly never ending struggle to make God’slove overtake the grief that is so strong in our world today.We pray that God’sencompassing love will shine.
Sincerely,
Sister Denise Seymour, SSJ-TOSFDirector of Development
Sisters of St. Joseph
of the Third Order of St. Francis
Development Office
P.O. Box 388129
Chicago, IL 60638-8129
Phone: (773) 581-7505
Fax: (773) 581-7545
e-mail: [email protected]
Sister Denise Seymour
Sisters of St. Joseph,TOSFPublic Relations OfficeP.O. Box 388129Chicago, Illinois 60638-8129www.ssj-tosf.org
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