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<ul><li>1.Vince Walsh April 13, 1935 August 28, 2012 </li></ul><p>2. Vincent Patrick Walsh (1935-2012) Obituary, SF Gate August 28, 2012 Peacefully at home on August 28, 2012. Dearly beloved husband of Dorothy Conley for 46 years; beloved father of Brendan (Lisa), Patrick (Jeannine), Maura (Mariano), Brigid (Justin), Kathleen (Ian), Olivia, Dorothea (Matthew), Fiona, and Vincent; Adoring grandfather to Sophia Louise, Jack Louis, Fiona Grace, Aidan Vincent, Declan Vincent, Colleen Walsh, Brendan Mariano, Sean Oliver, Griffin Mateo, Liam Patrick; Dear Brother of Marion Carozzi, Geraldine Doherty, Carmel Tickler and preceded in death by Matt, Louis, Sr. Angela, Imelda Gallagher, Fr. Oliver, and Desmond; devoted uncle to 19, mentor to scores and friend to multitudes. Vincent left his native village of Cloonagh, County Sligo, Ireland, in 1952 at age 17 to work in England and, like many of the young people at that time, sent his wages home. He then went to Chicago where he studied engineering, sold vacuums, and taught ballroom dancing for Arthur Murray. He finally settled into the construction business only to be drafted into the Army where he served overseas as a medic and morale liaison. He then joined his brother, Louis, in Colorado where he helped start The Irish Fellowship Club and co-founded the St. Patrick's Day Parade of Denver. It was here where he met Dorothy Conley on a blind date when she stopped on her cross country trip to San Francisco. Three years later Vince also arrived in San Francisco, where he and Dorothy married in 1966. Vince had a gift for building things, be it organizations, houses or relationships. In a life as varied and rich as is possible, he built homes across the city, graduated from Lincoln University Law School, owned and operated the Rio Nido Lodge resort for 18 years, was the first president of the Residential Builders Association, helped build the United Irish Cultural Center, sang in the Irish Choral Society, founded the California Bar Preparation Course, published Law Review textbooks, worked for Powerscreen, sold insurance for Walsh Carter, and was a consultant for Apple Tree Communications. During all of these endeavors, he continued to work as a general contractor and still never missed his breakfast discussions at seven every morning at M's or Howard's. Vince was a man of great faith and a devout member of St. Anne's parish. Whether teaching typing when he couldn't type or climbing mountains in Peru in his loafers; he was afraid of nothing. He did all this while raising nine spirited, some say unruly, children. Life with Vince was never dull, never boring, always filled with love, jokes, stories and songs. His children all agree that they are the luckiest children on earth. He was the best. Friends may call after 5 p.m. Tuesday at St. Anne of the Sunset, 850 Judah Street, Rosary at 7 p.m. and are invited to attend the Funeral mass at 11 a.m. Wednesday also at St. Anne's, followed by Committal at Holy Cross Cemetery. The Walsh Family wishes to acknowledge the wonderful people who have supported us in so many ways over the last three years, including the many caring nurses and doctors who made Vince's last years not only possible but worth living. For the past few years, Vince and his family and friends proudly participated in the Light the Night Walk as the "Vince Walsh Chemo Sabes" to raise money for blood cancer research. With this in mind, in lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Greater SF/Bay Area Chapter of the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society in Vince's name or donations of blood may be made to the UCSF Blood Bank in his memory. 3. Vince and Dorothy Walsh Brendan and Lisa Walsh Sophia Walsh Aidan Walsh Patrick and Jeannine Walsh Jack Walsh Maura and Mariano Ochoa Declan Ochoa Brendan Ochoa Griffin Ochoa Brigid and Justin Lyons Kathleen and Ian Macdonald Fiona Macdonald Colleen Macdonald Sean Macdonald Olivia Walsh Dorothea and Matt Kennedy Liam Kennedy Fiona Walsh Vinny Walsh Margaret and Thomas Walsh Matt Walsh Marion Carozzi Louis Walsh Sister Angela Walsh Imelda Gallagher Father Oliver Walsh Vince Walsh Geraldine Doherty Desmond Walsh Carmel Tickler 4. Wake for Vince Walsh September 4, 2012 From 5pm at St. Annes Church 850 Judah Street Rosary at 7pm Leading the rosary will be Father Reyes and Monsignor Arcamo. 5. Receiving Line: Dorothy Walsh - Wife Brendan Walsh - Son Patrick Walsh - Son Maura Ochoa - Daughter Brigid Lyons - Daughter Kathleen Macdonald - Daughter Olivia Walsh - Daughter Dorothea Kennedy - Daughter Fiona Walsh - Daughter Vinny Walsh - Son Carmel Tickler - Sister Geraldine Doherty - Sister 6. Memories of Vince: Angela Tickler In the pictures here tonight, you can see the many faces of Vince. He was many things to many people, but to me and many nephews and nieces he was our beloved, funny Uncle Vince and in recent years he titled himself SUV to me. It was fun because you could sub in pretty much any S word that made sense at the time: sassy, smart, silly, and he enjoyed evolving it or leaving messages: "Angie Pangie! SUV! Call me!". So, I'd call and he'd present his latest fashion-world- changing idea. My brother Barry and I did concoct one of his ideas for him for his birthday. Vince's idea was jeans with interchangeable message pockets, and his first iteration was feel on one pocket, and free on the other - to be arranged according to one's situation, as he laughingly phrased. I like this story because, to me, Uncle Vince always felt free and encouraged others to feel free as well: to be themselves, change themselves or their situation, to overcome a fear, or try something they always wanted to do. Occasionally, it wasn't something you wanted to do at all, and for me that was singing at our family Thanksgiving because that's a big crowd, and there are a lot of terrific singers in it. Years ago, Auntie Ann and I countered Vince's urging us to sing and participate by singing the ABCs, and Vince was mildly annoyed and yet had great admiration for the fact that we skirted by him on a technicality. Then I sang a four line song I wrote for him two years ago to try to get myself off the hook, only this time I found myself in a gentle but inescapable Vince headlock and had to stand up there singing with him for another full song or two...I found out it wasn't that bad, which I know is exactly what he wanted me to figure out. Uncle Vince cared far more that you tried in your own way and participated, than that you succeeded in the conventional sense. Trying was success for him, as he showed us all with his valiant battle against leukemia. When we formed the Vince Walsh Chemo Sabes team to walk the LLS Light the Night Walk fundraiser, Vince came up with the team slogan, and sure enough, it was one of his favorite puns: One Tough Ane-Mick. And he proved it to all of us and himself, astonishing family, friends, and doctors with his quiet strength and resilience for almost three years. He fought very hard, and he had a lot of support from many, many of you. 7. When we were kids, Vince used to drive us up to the Russian River in the El Camino, girls in the cab and boys toughing it out in the truck bed. He would sing to us almost all the way up there but the song I remember best and will always associate with him is Red River Valley by Marty Robbins: From this valley they say you are leaving We shall miss your bright eyes and sweet smile For you take with you all of the sunshine That has brightened our pathway awhile So, come sit by my side if you love me Do not hasten to bid me adieu Just remember the Red River Valley and the cowboy that loved you so true. I think those lyrics are a wonderful description of his incredible fight to not bid us adieu, our sadness at his leaving our valley for another, and how so many, many of you came to sit by his side throughout his battle and passing because you loved him. We love you Uncle Vince, and we will miss your wise counsel, encouragement to feel free, soft heart, strong beliefs, beautiful dancing, your singing and the laughter you gave us. 8. Memories of Vince: Carmel Walsh Tickler In Ireland, in the 1950s, when Vince was 14, very few boys got to go to high school. My parents were determined that their children would be educated, to have a better life. When it was Vinces turn, there were 3 other siblings in boarding school and they told him that he would go the next year when one had graduated. He stayed at home and helped my father with the land. At age 18 years, after 9 months in construction in England, he joined his 2 older brothers in Chicago in 1953. He enrolled in Chicago Vocation College for drafting, blue print reading, carpentry and general construction skills. By 1956, he had his own construction company, and when it was running successfully, he enrolled in the Chicago Technical College. At that time, one year short of graduating, he was drafted into the U.S. Army and served proudly in Germany as a medic. He signed over his army pay- not half of it, but all of it to our mother and as a result, had to earn some money to live on. He had 3 jobs at times, as well as his military duties. That was when he taught typing at night on the base. He said, I just had to keep one lesson ahead of the class. Vince believed in being active himself and in getting family members involved as well. He and my brother Louis and some friends purchased 100 acres of land and a lake and co-founded the Emerald Athletic Club which is in suburban Chicago. When our father died in Ireland in 1957, it was the Irish custom to be in mourning for a whole year. Immediate family members did not attend movies or dances during that year. Vince and his 3 siblings living in Chicago, and other friends founded their Tara Dramatic Group. They built and painted the set, moved their apartment furniture in and out every weekend, produced, directed and acted in a well-known Irish play. By the end of that year, any proceeds from the sold out theatres was donated to charity in our fathers name. Vince was an excellent actor. He told me that project was one of his most enjoyable experiences. 9. Vince loved good discussions and on arriving in Chicago in 1958, I discovered that the Encyclopedia Britannica stacked 6 or 8 books high was a regular scene at our dinner table to solve the many questions raised. That later became the basis for the round table breakfast club at Howards or Ms for the last 30 years. Vince was very close to his nine brothers and sisters and in our lifetime, there was never a time when one of us was not speaking to the other. Unconditional love and respect did not mean it was uncritical. Vince cared too much not to tell you what he thought. He never used unacceptable language if he got agitated or frustrated in any situation. In family discussions, if he was really trying to make his point, he would raise his arms half-way and say for the love of God. That was your cue to re-examine your opinion on the subject!! What kind of comeback comment could you have to THAT?? Like everyone, Vince wanted to do well - but it was more important to him to do good. Long before networking became popular, Vince was putting people and jobs or housing or clothing together. Strangers he spoke to on the street would receive the same level of effort from him as if it was his good friend. Helping people was as much a part of him as breathing. He helped many craftsmen start their own businesses. He put them to work for him at Walsh Construction which operated in San Francisco for 40 years. It they were hard working and diligent, he encouraged them to start their own businesses and he would sub-contract to them and spread the word to his contracting friends to work with them until they got on their feet. Then he would do the same for the next one who he thought deserved it. 10. One of the things that he was most proud of was his being a Co-Founder in United for Life. In the very early seventies, he met Professor Frank Filice (now Fr. Frank Filice) who was struggling to get the movement started. Vince brought in many workers and worked tirelessly himself to gain new members. He involved the Irish Community and had his contractor friends buy tables at the fundraising dinners. He has continually promoted and supported United for Life goals from its inception to his death. Vince was larger than life. He was a devoted son and a wonderful brother. He cherished his wife Dorothy and his children and extended family. I want to thank Dorothy on behalf of my siblings, living and deceased, for her unconditional support of Vince, not only in these last 3 difficult years, but down through the 46 years of their marriage. He presented many projects and challenges to her and even when she disagreed with a project, if it went forward, she backed him up totally, which meant a whole lot of work for her. In the last 3 years, she cooked tirelessly all the organic foods, including green vegetables every day, even though he hated them, in hopes that it would prolong his life or even cure him. She developed nursing skills and great patience and gave the struggle everything she had. All the family rose to the challenge in extraordinary ways, but it seems fitting to mention especially young Vincent who lived in the house and shared the care of Vince on a daily basis. Nothing was too much for him to do for his Dad. Vince was a lucky man, he had a wonderful life and a wonderful death. He taught us how to live life fully and how to face death with faith, courage, grace and dignity. He will be greatly missed. 11. Memories of Vince: Olivia Walsh I could speak a hundred languages and still not be able to express what I would like to say about my father How do you write about how much you will miss your dad, friend, hero and the greatest man youll ever know? There are no words that will do justice to him or his huge heart and great mind. We were blessed with the gift of amazing parents strong, giving and very loving We have been saying all week how Dad was the most loved man on the planet, and he was because he was the most LOVING man on the planet. He took an interest in everyone and everything. He genuinely cared for each person he met. When that man asked, How are you doing?, he really wanted to know and he would remember what you told him,. And if he could help in any way; with some sound advice, a crazy idea, a joke, a smile a story or a song, he would. He helped a kid from the corner store learn to read, he showed quite a few others how to stay out of trouble. Still others, he helped decide to go back to school, or he got them their first job He helped as many people as he possibly could, and he loved many more. His being SO loving is why the meter maid sent him breakfast, why his nurses would sing to him, why the plumber was moved to tears its why he had not only 9 children, but 900, a million friends and was Uncle Vince to the whole world. And he loved life! His heaven really was his life; his f...</p>