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Turning Round the Center. The Dance of Ego and Essence. “We would rather be ruined than changed; We would rather die in our dread Than climb the cross of the moment And let our illusions die.” - W. H. Auden. The Enneagram. What Is the Enneagram?. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation

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Turning Round the Center

The Dance of Ego and Essence

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“We would rather be ruined than changed;We would rather die in our dread

Than climb the cross of the momentAnd let our illusions die.”

- W. H. Auden

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The Enneagram

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What Is the Enneagram?

- “Ennea” + “gram” = 9 pointed schematic

- The Enneagram is a psycho-spiritual tool that helps us negotiate the struggle between the “false self” and the “true self.” It is the dynamic interplay of the two-self system: the dance of ego/type structure/false self and essence/true self, in interpersonal relationships and in one’s spiritual life.

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Why Study the Enneagram?

- Know Who You Are- Improve Interpersonal Relationships- You Are the Source of Your Own Suffering

- You can only change yourself. You cannot change the other. In Enneagram studies the claim “You are the cause of my suffering” is invalid.

- End Your Suffering- Suffering is mental/emotional reactivity. Pain is physical.

Suffering can be eliminated. Pain can be managed.- The wisdom of the Enneagram gives us the ability to reduce

our reactivity and thereby reduce our suffering.

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Who Are You a la the Enneagram?Mental Center: thinking, memory, planning, and imaginationFixation: habit of mindHoly Idea: transcendent quality of the fixation

Emotional Center: feelingsPassion: habit of feeling [lynchpin of the type structure]Virtue: transcendent quality of the passion

Body Center: physicalitySubtypes: type’s passion is expressed through subtypes:

One to One, Social, and Self-preservation

Inner Observer: attentional aspect of Higher Self.

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The Passion and Its Agenda

“When a pickpocket meets the pope,he sees only the pope’s pockets.”

- The “hidden feature” is a negative tendency that rests at the base of the Type structure.

- The passion is discovered only through self-observation a la the Inner Observer.

- The center point organizes all of your feelings, thoughts, memories, plans, and imaginings. It is the “axis” around which the recurrence of your habitual thoughts and feelings occurs.

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The Types’ Passions

- Type 9 – Sloth - Type 3 – Deceit - Type 6 – Fear- Type 8 – Lust - Type 2 – Pride - Type 5 – Avarice- Type 1 – Anger - Type 4 – Envy - Type 7 – Gluttony

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The Inner Observer

- It is the Inner Observer that observes the categories of Type. It is that aspect of the self that is free from identification with the categories of Type, i.e., false consciousness.

- As that aspect of the self that is not identified with the categories of Type, the Inner Observer is able to assist us on the journey from false consciousness to true consciousness.

- As the capacity of the Inner Observer increases and identification with Type structure/recedes, we discover greater freedom and come to realize that we have choices over our reactions to the environment, rather than merely operating on habit of feeling and thought.

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The Vicious Circle of Passion,Perception, and Type Structure

Recurrence of habitual thoughts and feelings determines the Type structure’s perception, which in turn feeds the Type structure’s passion, which in turn justifies the Type structure’s recurrence of habitual thoughts and feelings, which determines the Type structure’s perception...

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World As 3-D Rorschach Test

Habit of thought and feelingdetermines perception

Type structure scans the environment (sorts through information) for confirming data, then uses this data to justify itself.

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Implications Of the Vicious Circle

- Data that disconfirms Type is missed, that is, only data that confirms Type is recognized.

- Habits of thought and feeling are strengthened as Type is confirmed.

- Understanding the Vicious Circle is vital to reducing your suffering! Recognizing how the Type’s passion drives the Type’s habit of thought and feeling, and thus perception of the world, allows us, counter intuitively, to relax into the energy of the passion, thus diminishing the strength of the habits of feeling and thought. When this occurs, our perception is closer to reality as it actually is.

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People As 3-D Rorschach Tests

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Typing Yourself: Things to Consider

- Probability Theory

- Passion verses Behavior

- Wing(s)

- Direction Of Movement

- Levels Of Health

- Do Not Rush Yourself

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Triangle, Triads, and VariationsPhysical Triad / Anger Based

[self-forgetters] 9 Sloth / Right Action

8 Lust / Innocence 1 Anger / Serenity

7 Gluttony / Sobriety 2 Pride / Humility

6 Fear / Courage 3 Deceit / Honesty

5 Avarice / Nonattachment 4 Envy / Equanimity

Mental Triad / Fear Based Emotional Triad / Image Based[defenses organized around the mind] [self-image depends on approval of others]

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Passion: Sloth Virtue: Right ActionTriad Issue: Anger Triad Trait: Self-forgetting

Basic Proposition: The original state of unconditional love and union wherein everyone belongs equally goes

into the background in a world that you perceive makes you unimportant or insists you blend in to be deemed acceptable.Consequently, you come to believe that as a substitute for your own worth you can gain belonging and comfort by attending to, and merging with others, and by dispersing energy into substitute objects.Concurrently, you developed inertia (self-forgetting) about your own priorities and limits.

Nine

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Defense Mechanism: Narcotization glues the structure together by helping you "numb out" and

keep life comfortable.

Ultimate Concern: Being dismissed and/or feeling alienated.

Reactive Catalysts: Being forced to: take a position, face conflict, or being pushed into action; having

to say "no" to a claim made upon you. These reactions prevents your experiencing unconditional love and ultimately being able to take essential action that genuinely supports life.

Nine

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Where Attention Goes: To others’ agendas and environmental claims made upon you; anything that

beckons: requests, demands, unessential things; keeping life predictable, comfortable… familiar.

Blind Spot: One’s own position.

Type Avoids: Conflict; feeling uncomfortable; anger.

Behavioral Tendencies: - Mergers - Peacemakers/Mediator -Connections with Other Is Paramount - Boundary Issues-Indecisive - Trouble prioritizing

Nine

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Eight

Passion: Lust Virtue: InnocenceTriad Issue: Anger Triad Trait: Self-forgetting

Basic Proposition: The original innocent state ofsensing the essential truth in everything (people

included) goes into the background in a world that you perceive to be hard and unjust, and in which the powerful take advantage of others.Consequently, you come to believe that you can assure protection and gain respect (worthiness) by becoming strong and powerful, by imposing your own personal truth, and by hiding vulnerability.Concurrently, you develop a big, lustful energy.

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Defense Mechanism: Denial glues the structure together by helping you to "blank out” or not see

dangers, nor experience your vulnerability.

Ultimate Concern: Being vulnerable and/or powerless.

Reactive Catalysts: Perceived injustices you can't correct; deceitful/manipulative people; people who

won't stand up for themselves; your own vulnerability; inaction; boundaries that are constraining; attempts to control you. These reactions prevent your being vulnerable, impacted, trustingly connected to others, and ultimately sensing reality as it is.

Eight

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Where Attention Goes: To what needs control or assertiveness. Power and control, justice and injustice,

and all or nothing polarities. Whatever demands my immediate attention.

Blind Spot: Impact on others.

Type Avoids: Being: weak, uncertain, or dependent.

Behavioral Tendencies: - Justice/Protector - Power Dynamics- Intense Passion for Life - Excess as an Antidote for Boredom- Bull In China Shop

Eight

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One

Passion: Anger Virtue: SerenityTriad Issue: Anger Triad Trait: Self-forgetting

Basic Proposition: The original undivided state ofperfection in all things, in each moment, goes into the

background in a world that you perceive judges and punishes bad behavior and impulse.Consequently, you come to believe that you can gain worthiness (love) by being good, correcting error, and meeting the requirements of the (your) critical mind.Concurrently, you develop resentment and suppressed anger/guilt over impulse, bad behavior, and what is judged wrong.

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Defense Mechanism: Reaction formation glues the structure together by helping you oppose "bad"

behavior, especially impulse and desire.

Ultimate Concern: Being so bad or wrong that you would be deemed unworthy.

Reactive Catalysts: Feeling that you are not measuring up to standards (yours and others’); being

wrong; being unjustly criticized; things being done the wrong way; unfairness and irresponsibility; rules and standards being ignored/violated. These reactions prevents your feeling accepted as you are, including your vital instincts and ultimately the experience of serenity that comes from accepting life as it is.

One

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Where Attention Goes: To error and mistakes; what is right and wrong (especially what is wrong

and should be corrected by you or others).

Blind Spot: Accepting the gray.

Type Avoids: Making mistakes; losing self-control; violating social norms.

Behavioral Tendencies: - Highly Moral - Reliable- Perfectionist - Inner Critic/“Comparing Mind” - Irritable- Black and White Thinker

One

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Triangle, Triads, and VariationsPhysical Triad / Anger Based

[self-forgetters] 9 Sloth / Right Action

8 Lust / Innocence 1 Anger / Serenity

7 Gluttony / Sobriety 2 Pride / Humility

6 Fear / Courage 3 Deceit / Honesty

5 Avarice / Nonattachment 4 Envy / Equanimity

Mental Triad / Fear Based Emotional Triad / Image Based[defenses organized around the mind] [self-image depends on approval of others]

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Passion: Deceit Virtue: HonestyTriad Issue: Feelings Triad Trait: Others’ Perceptions

Basic Proposition: The original state of hope wherein thingswork according to universal law (i.e., are

not dependent on the effort of the doer) goes into the background in a world that you perceive rewards doing, but not being.Consequently, you come to believe that you can gain love, recognition, and acceptance by performing, doing, and succeeding.Concurrently, you develop a go-ahead energy of self-deception in order to match the image of success and approval.

Three

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Defense Mechanism: Identification glues the structure together by helping you take on the

attributes of a desired image as your own.

Ultimate Concern: Being incapacitated.

Reactive Catalysts: Anything or anyone that thwarts the successful achievement of your goals;

obstacles to your goals; incompetence; indecision; failure. These reactions prevent your being appreciated and loved apart from doing and accomplishment, and ultimately knowing and honestly expressing your feelings.

Three

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Where Attention Goes: To tasks and goals; things that need to be done; future achievements; how to

fit the expected role.

Blind Spot: Failure.

Type Avoids: Failure; losing face; doubts; feelings that arise when adopting a slower pace.

Behavioral Tendencies: - High Achiever - Leader - Competitive - Dead Bodies In the Road - Chameleon- Overly Pragmatic

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Passion: Pride Virtue: HumilityTriad Issue: Feelings Triad Trait: Others’ Perceptions

Basic Proposition: The original state of freedom wherein needs are met according to a universal will goes

into the background in a world that you perceive is based on the premise, “In order to get you must give.”Consequently, you come to believe that you can gain love and approval, and have personal needs fulfilled by giving to others what they want/need and hoping these others give in return.Concurrently, you develop a prideful energy of knowing best what others need.

Two

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Defense Mechanism: Repression glues the structure together by helping you “blank out” to your own

needs and desires.

Ultimate Concern: Being useless to others, thus dispensable.

Reactive Catalysts: Being unable to give and hence subject to rejection; being needy yourself; feeling

unappreciated/uncared for; people not caring/supporting others. These reactions prevent your giving and receiving freely with grace and love, and ultimately your experience of humility that comes with this freedom.

Two

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Where Attention Goes: To others' needs and desires,especially those that you care

about and would like to have care about you.

Blind Spot: One’s own needs.

Type Avoids: Disappointing others; feeling rejected or unappreciated; being dependent on others.

Behavioral Tendencies: - Helpful - Attentive - Intuitive- Invasive - Overly Concerned - Inauthentic

Two

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Passion: Envy Virtue: EquanimityTriad Issue: Feelings Triad Trait: Others’ Perceptions

Basic Proposition: The original state of deep and complete connection to all things goes into the

background in a world that you perceive abandons you, leaving something important missing.Consequently, you come to believe that you can regained the lost original state by searching for that situation or loving relationship that is unique, special, missing, and believed to be ultimately fulfilling. Concurrently, you develop envy and longing over what is idealized and unavailable.

Four

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Defense Mechanism: Introjection glues the structure together by taking into yourself the perceived

idealized qualities of other perceived to missing within yourself.

Ultimate Concern: Being perceived to be insignificant or found deficient, thus potentially abandoned.

Reactive Catalysts: People letting you down, disappointing you, or vice versa; being left due to your

deficiency; not being recognized/understood as special and unique; repeatedly feeling unfulfilled. These reactions prevent your feeling loved, regardless of deficiencies, and ultimately your experience of gratitude and equanimity for what is present.

Four

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Where Attention Goes: To what is missing; what is deeply touching or meaningful; what is

aesthetically pleasing.

Blind Spot: Taking satisfaction in what is present/common.

Type Avoids: Being: abandoned unrecognized, or feeling insignificant; mundane/people lacking depth.

Behavioral Tendencies: - Empathic - Unique - Creative- Dramatic - Push-Pull Relationships - Moody

Four

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Triangle, Triads, and VariationsPhysical Triad / Anger Based

[self-forgetters] 9 Sloth / Right Action

8 Lust / Innocence 1 Anger / Serenity

7 Gluttony / Sobriety 2 Pride / Humility

6 Fear / Courage 3 Deceit / Honesty

5 Avarice / Nonattachment 4 Envy / Equanimity

Mental Triad / Fear Based Emotional Triad / Image Based[defenses organized around the mind] [self-image depends on approval of others]

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Passion: Fear Virtue: CourageTriad Issue: Fear Triad Trait: Mind Defense

Basic Proposition: The original state of faith in self, others, and the universe goes into the background in a

world that you perceive to be threatening, unpredictable, and untrustworthy.Consequently, you come to believe that you can attain security and certainty by gaining the approval of, or defying authority, and avoid harm through vigilance, an active imagination, and battling or escaping perceived hazards. Concurrently, you develop fear and doubt concerning what/who might threaten safety and security.

Six

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Defense Mechanism: Projection glues the structure together by attributing concerns and fears to other

people or situations, which are then challenged or avoided.

Ultimate Concern: Ending up helpless/defenseless and hence unable to rely on yourself to cope with life.

Reactive Catalysts: Untrustworthiness and betrayal; feeling cornered or pressured; endlessly trying to

make existence certain and secure; trying to prove yourself; unreliable/questionable authority figures. These reactions prevent your being trusting, assured, and confident that love will both endure and flourish, as well as undermines your faith in yourself, others, and the universe.

Six

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Where Attention Goes: To potential hazards and worse case scenarios; difficulties; incongruities;

implications; inferences; hidden meanings.

Blind Spot: Overestimating authority’s power.

Type Avoids: Being helpless or not in control; alienating peopleupon whom one depends by opposing them.

Behavioral Tendencies: - Loyal - Consistent - Workhorse- Paranoid - Self-Doubting - Devil’s Advocate

Six

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Passion: Avarice Virtue:NonattachmentTriad Issue: Fear Shared Trait: Mind Defense

Basic Proposition: The original state of directly knowing that the flow of universal energy meets real needs goes

into the background in a world that you perceive demands too much/gives too little.Consequently, you come to believe that you must gain protection from intrusion and insufficient resources, and hence come to assure life through privacy, self-sufficiency, limiting desires and wants, and acquiring knowledge.Concurrently, you develop avarice for time, energy, and knowledge.

Five

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Defense Mechanism: Isolation of affect glues the structure together by helping one detach from

feelings.

Ultimate Concern: Ending up completely depleted or drained; lacking sufficient resources to cope with life.

Reactive Catalysts: Demands upon your time and energy; unwanted intrusions; overload of

emotional input; insufficient private time to restore; dependency. These reactions prevent your staying engaged and connected in the security that love provides, and ultimately your experience of life energy flowing freely.

Five

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Where Attention Goes: Toward learning all there is to know; thinking and analyzing in advance.

Blind Spot: Unaware of existing abundance.

What This Type Avoids: Strong feelings; intrusion; demanding people or circumstances.

Behavioral Tendencies: - Analytic - Stoic - Independent- Private - Emotionally Detached - Thinking Confused with Feeling

Five

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Passion: Gluttony Virtue: SobrietyTriad Issue: Fear Triad Trait: Mind Defense

Basic Proposition: The original state of focused concentration, called constancy, with an ability to travel

the spectrum of life fully and freely goes into the background in a world that you perceive frustrates you, limits you, and causes you pain.Consequently, you come to believe that you can escape frustration and pain, and assure a good life by going into positive options, opportunities, and adventures.Concurrently, you develop a gluttony of the mind for positive possibilities, pleasures, and future plans.

Seven

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Defense Mechanism: Rationalization glues the structure together by helping you reframe painful

or "negative" experiences in a positive way.

Ultimate Concern: Being trapped in suffering/unable to deal with pain.

Reactive Catalysts: Constraints or limits placed upon you; losing freedom to do what you want;

getting stuck in negativity; people who are stuck in unhappiness or depression. These reactions prevent your being present in a steady or constant way with an open-heart, and ultimately your accepting both joy and suffering as part of life.

Seven

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Where Attention Goes: To positive options, ideas, plans, and projects that keep life interesting and

pleasurable.

Blind Spot: Actual limitations.

Type Avoids: Frustrations, constraints, painful situations, and feelings of boredom.

Behavioral Tendencies: - Energetic - Imaginative - Optimistic - Escape Artists - Rule Insensitive - Insensitive toward Others

Seven

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“We would rather be ruined than changed;We would rather die in our dread

Than climb the cross of the momentAnd let our illusions die.”

- W. H. Auden