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Danny: New Hope FAQ

Written by Danny Blackwelland published by New Hope Outreach. Quotedverbatim. See Inormation on !e"publishin#.

Frequently asked questions

Those with transgendered attractions

1) What is a transvestite?

It is the act o dressin# in the clothes o the opposite se$ to achieve se$ualarousal and clima$. %ypically the transvestite is male& usually heterose$ualand they may have an aversion to homose$uality.

2) What is a transsexual?

' transse$ual is person holdin# stron# conviction that one is a member othe opposite se$ and oten includes the desire to have the body chan#ed or(corrected( to suit this conviction.2A) MTFis a male to emale transse$ual.2B) FTM is a emale to male transse$ual.

)* What does %rans#endered mean+

It is a broad term encompassin# those not conormin# to the #ender

e$pressions o bein# male or emale and thus may be a transse$ual or atransvestite or somewhere in between.

) What does intersexed !ean?

One who was born with anatomical eatures o both male and emale.

") What is gender identity?

,ender is a person-s sense o himsel or hersel as bein# male or emaleand it can dier rom their biolo#ical se$. eople whose se$ and #enderdier are known trans#endered.

#) What does having a gender identity disorder !ean?

It is a person that believes they are physically trapped in a body o theopposite se$ and may take steps to chan#e this. It is also called ,enderdysphoria which is the overall psycholo#ical term used to describe theeelin#s o pain& an#uish& and an$iety that arise rom the mismatchbetween a person-s physical se$ and #ender identity.

$) What is sex reassign!ent surgery %&'&) ?

' number o sur#ical operations desi#ned to conorm the body to that o

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aect us+ We may e$perience trauma or some other event that #ets thecycle #oin# sometime in our lives. 'lso& our minds be#in to play ne#ativemessa#es over and over& i.e.. 7ou are no #ood& I-m stupid... So we be#in toill ourselves with shame and low sel"esteem& because we start believin#our ne#ative messa#es and this causes urther emotional pain.

We carry all this pain and develop ways to attempt to handle it throu#h. @ade a list o all persons we had harmed and became willin# to makeamends to them all.

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?. @ade direct amends to such people wherever possible e$cept when to doso would in:ure them or others.

8. 4ontinued to take personal inventory and when we were wron#promptly admitted it.

88. Sou#ht throu#h prayer and meditation to improve our consciouscontactwith ,od& prayin# only or knowled#e o His will or us and thepower to carry that out.

89. Havin# had a spiritual awakenin# as the result o these steps& we triedto carry this messa#e to others and to practice these principles in all ouraairs.

Why are we here+

He1She could not #et out and now he was desperate. It looked so #ood andelt #reat at irst and he cannot remember the real reason why he was inthis place anyway. 6ook a way out& but no it was blocked. I eel araid& Ican only trust meE7et I don-t want to be hereE He is comin#& try to escapebut I am trapped. He says trust me and I will #et you out. I-m tired and He#ets me in His hands and takes me out and then He opens His hands and Iam ree and soar hi#h. I never thou#ht I could trust Him& bein# a sparrow.But now I am ree.

What are your e$pectations as you #o throu#h this material+

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Step #1

We admitted we were powerless over our same se$ or trans#enderattractions and that our lives had become unmana#eable.

7ou are downtown and in tryin# to ind an address& you are lost. What doyou do0 you can continue to try to ind the address and not admit that youare lost. 7ou can #ive up and #o home or ask directions. Have you everbeen in a situation where you needed to ask directions& how did you eel+

Step G 8 is admittin# we are lost and need help rom someone else. 'lso it

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is about realiin# our brokenness.It is ok to admit our eelin#s o ailure.It is ok to admit our addictions.It is ok to admit our ears and escapes.owerless to chan#e ourselves is somethin# we must ace. We tend to hide

proo o weakness in us.

What do you eel you can chan#e about yoursel and what do you eel youcannot chan#e+We must ace the truth o our same se$ attractions.What means so much to you that you must have or do it no matter what+

What do your addictions #ive you in return or doin# it+

'nother aspect o personal powerlessness is the eelin# we must be in

control and is able to control our lives.

In the book o ;ud#es chapters 8) " 8& we have the story o Samson. Hewas #ited be the 6ord with #reat stren#th& and was a leader o Israeldurin# a diicult time. But he aced and ell to his #reatest temptations0pride and women. While with Delilah /ch.8*& we read in 809

'nd she said& (%he hilistines are upon you& Samson.( So he awoke romHis sleep& and said (I will #o out as beore at other times& and shake myselreeJ ( But he did not know that the 6ord had departed rom him.

He never saw his need to admit he needed help until he lost his reedomand si#ht. He hit Bottom.

4an you relate to Samson in your stru##les+

How would you chan#e this story o Samson i you could+

%here are two key parts that hide how our lives are lived0

8. Sel" will K (I can solve my own problems(.9. Denial with its many tricks K (I-ve #ot no problems.(

What area o your lie is causin# you the most pain+

What behaviors do you have that is diicult to admit as bein# a problem+!omans C08>"9salm )80?&8

What do these verses say to you about attitudes we must have in order to

admit personal powerlessness over habits in our lives+We must not only deal with powerlessness& but we must admit our lives areunmana#eable.

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In 6uke 8A0 8C we read0When he came to his senses& he said& (How many o my ather-s hired menhave ood to spare& and here I am starvin# to death.(%he prodi#al son admitted his lie was a mess& he counted the cost& he

could #o no lower& he aced reality& he hit bottom.What are the costs or conse2uences o your liestyle+

How do you see yoursel as o today+

4an you list events that occurred this week that show you the messed upnature o your lie at this time+4heck and see i you have these eelin#s06oneliness!elationship problems

eelin#s that I must be ri#htLncontrollable compulsive habitsear o authority i#uresear that we don-t belon# anywhereI must always be perect

Who or what do you trust in& to chan#e you+

salm 8>0 In my distress I called upon the 6ord& and cried out to my ,od %he 6ord is near to those who have a broken heart& and savessuch as have a humbled spirit.

What is your prayer re2uest or yoursel+

!omans C09="9Aaor I know that in me /that is& in my lesh* nothin# #ood dwells0 or to willis present with me& but how to perorm what is #ood I do not ind... Owretched man that I amJ Who will deliver me rom this body o death+ I

thank ,od& throu#h ;esus 4hrist...aul in this te$t admitted he needed help and could not ind it within& helooked to ,od. 4an I admit I need help and that my lie is ull obrokenness+

I admit my lie is out o control and that I need and will ask or your helpdaily.

Si#ned Dated

Step #2

4ame to believe that ,od& the source o all power can and will restore us to

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sanity.

In 4harles Dickens- classic& (' 4hristmas 4arol(& Scroo#e is in the presenceo the spirit o 4hristmas past and as the spirit opens his window& Scroo#eis araid he mi#ht all and the spirit says& (.... bear but a touch o my hand

and you will be upheld(. /p#.9=* So Scroo#e takes the spirit-s hand andto#ether they ly out o the window. In step G 9& we are be#innin# to takethe 6ord-s hand and allow Him to lead us out o our addictions and insaneliestyle. 't irst& we like Scroo#e are araid& araid to trust someone else&araid we mi#ht ail but as we willin#ly take these irst steps& we can havehope. What ears do you have that are like Scroo#e-s+

Scroo#e-s lie had become one bi# mi$ed up mess and in step G 9& wemust ace our insane liestyle and come to believe that ,od can restore us.We must come to see the insanity we live with. Insanity in that we do

thin#s over and over that are not healthy and althou#h we e$perience #uiltand shame and pleasure& we continue to do them hopin# or some otherresults. We look or ulillment in habits& addictive a#ents and other thin#s.What habits do you do over and over that as you think about them& youcan admit are not helpin# you+ ;er. 908) says0 @y people have committedtwo sins0 they have orsaken me& the sprin# o livin# water& and have du#their own cisterns& broken cisterns that cannot hold water. We all havethirsts i.e. thirsts or love& companionship& peace& inancial needs but we alltry to ulill our thirsts in broken ways...broken cisterns. We developne#ative liestyles because o ne#ative messa#es that we have always

received i.e. (7ou are not #ood enou#h(.

What ne#ative messa#es do you remember receivin# while #rowin# up+

In our mi$ed up insanity& we develop thinkin# that ocuses on I-ll only be...8. I-ll only be happy..........i I-m rich"? went rom an#er toward people whom hedidn-t like to love or them and all this happened as he yielded control ohimsel to ;esus and the 6ord chan#ed him. We also will e$perience positivechan#e in our lives as we yield to ,od and #row in Him. Do you see ore$pect positive chan#e in yoursel+

inally step GC is about askin# ,od to remove our shortcomin#s and weare declarin# our trust in Him& we are surrenderin# our lives to Himknowin# He can be trusted to lead us into His will.lease write out your own prayer to complete this step.

Date Si#n

Step #8

@ade a list o all persons we had harmed and became willin# to amends to

them all.

@y name is aul now and a lot has chan#ed since I was called Saul. I lookat this step G> and how I had to do it nearly 9 years a#o& see my storyin 'cts ch. > ?. or me it be#an with the disciple named Stephen whowas stoned in ;erusalem and I was a #overnment witness who became theleader attackin# the early church and I caused a lot o pain to a lot opeople. 'll my an#er and blindness towards 4hristianity ended on a lonelyroad about noon on the way to Damascus.... I met ;esus and it allchan#ed.... now I preach what I once tried to destroy. So with all this

chan#e in me& my aith was now in 4hrist and past sins or#iven< but I stillelt shame and #uilt and sick eelin# about those 4hristians I hurt. %hus Imade a list& prayed and went to these people& at irst they didn-t trust mewith reason& I had wanted them in prison beore. However when I sharedmy wron#s and how I hurt them as well as helpin# them in practical waysor the hurt I caused& I e$perienced healin# and :oy like never beore.,od Blessaul

4an you relate to this story and i so how+

urpose o Step G >

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We have looked at our wron#s& admitted them to ,od and to anotherhuman bein# now it is time to be willin# to make amends or our wron#s.Not how they hurt us but our wron#s. %hus we take responsibility or ouractions. the buck stops with us& we take responsibility or our liestyle.@akin# amends is not the same as apolo#iin# (I-m sorry( but include

makin# better or repairin# the idea o what acchaeus did in 6uke8?0>...(I I have cheated anybody out o anythin# I-ll pay back...(What do you eel about makin# amends+

6ike the above story about the 'postle aul& we carry #uilt and shameabout past relationships and at times we may say (ya but they hurt me andmade me mad.( Step G> G? are about cleanin# out the dark eelin#s oan#er& #uilt& shame and thus startin# over aresh. We only concentrate onwhat we did and take responsibility or it.In @att. C0 )"A we read0

'nd why do you look at the speck in your brother-s eye& but do notconsider theplank in your own eye+ Or how can you say to your brother& let me removethespeck out o your eye& and look& a plank is in your own eye+HypocriteJ irst remove the plank rom your own eye& and then you will seeclearly to remove the speck out o your brother-s eye.

%hus in step G > we become willin# to make amends and in step G? we willmake amends. It re2uires humility on our part to say to people& I was

wron#....What is your deinition o humility+

'lso& we must release our need to #et even or make others suer whichmeans lettin# #o o shame& an#er& and reven#e.Is it hard or you to or#ive people+ 3$plain.

!ead @att. 8>0 98")A 1 6uke 8?0 8"8 and write out what or#ivenessmeans to you.or#iveness is...

What step G> involves0

a* @ake a list o all people we have harmed "On the ne$t pa#e.How we hurt people0 physical ...se$ual...emotional& controlpeople.... dominate...intimidateE#ossip& i#nore people i.e. shut them out&unloadeverythin# on them.b* We may have e$perienced0 #rie& ear& an#er& denial& eelin#s that thepast is the past&

thus or#et it.

!emember we are asked only to be willin# to make amends. & use the

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charts in step G= as a #uide. Be honest and accurate about your actions.Write on the back o this pa#e i needed.Who I Hurt0

!elationship to me0

What I did0How it hurt the person0

How it hurt me0

's you look over your list& whom have you hurt the most and how+

What painul memories do you wish you could :ust i#nore i you could+

's you become willin# to make amends and search you-re pastrelationships& remember ,od loves you and He will never leave you nororsake you. see salm 898.%o complete this step si#n this statement0I ... willin# to make amends to all people Ihave harmed by my liestyle.

Si#n Date

Step #9

@ade direct amends to such people wherever possible e$cept when to doso would in:ure them or others.

It had been 9 years since he saw his brother and now he was #oin# tomeet him a#ain and he was araid. ;acob had cheated 3sau and he hadsaid he would kill ;acob and now ;acob aced his brother and = men withhim. In ear and dread he prayed and #ave a #it o #reat value to 3sau& oryou see ;acob had chan#ed. In order to live in peace ;acob had to makepeace with his brother.

4an you identiy with this story+

Havin# made a list o people we had harmed& we have been willin# to makeamends thus takin# responsibility or our actions.... In stepG? we makedirect amends e$cept when to do so would in:ure them or others. StepG?re2uires that we be willin# to chan#e how we live. !emember makin#amends is not the same as apolo#iin#& it is more than sayin#& (I-m sorry(&it means to reorm& make better or repair the dama#e o the past.!ead 6uke 8?0>. How did acchaeus make amends to people+

%ypes o amends to dierent #roups0a* %hose we need to make amends as soon as possible i.e. amily closeriends.

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b* %hose we can only share a little o what we did lest it hurt them.c* %hose we can not make amends now and must wait till later i.e. hurt istoo resh wait till the ri#ht time.d* %hose who we can never make amends i.e. person is dead or wherese$ual acts have been involved and could be#in a#ain.

e* 'mends to you& we hurt ourselves.

What will happen as a result o doin# steps G8 " G? " 8C

What does this say to you about makin# direct amends+

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'@3NDS NOW O! 6'%3!

%o whom will I make amends and why0

What I ear about makin# amends0

How I will make amends0

When I made the amend0

How it helped me0

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%o whom I will make amends0

How I want to make amend0

What I ear0

Why I may not be able make amends0

When I made it or what I did instead0

4omments0

Date Si#n

Step #10

4ontinue to take personal inventory and& when we are wron#& promptlyadmit it.

It was the best o its day and would carry many passen#ers in lu$uryunsurpassed. It let port with pride and in an attempt to set a new record itwent ast. It-s owners said (,od Himsel couldn-t sink it(& and with thisattitude they sped across the 'tlantic not heedin# the warnin#s o iceber#s.%oday the %itanic rests miles down on the loor o the 'tlantic Ocean. Why+%hey never planned or the situation outside o their control " not evenenou#h lieboats on board. %hey never heeded the warnin#s and sloweddown or maintained a proper watch in the ni#ht. 'bove all& the #reatestlaw was the attitude o (...we are unstoppable " pride(.We have come a lon# way in these steps and we may eel that every areais addressed& but we are not perect and step G8 is where we maintainour watch or the waters that are uncharted and iceber#s o habits& ears&an#er or shame may appear in our path.

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Have you seen #rowth in your walk with ,od as a result o steps G 8 " ?+3$plain.

Step G8 can be compared to spottin# rust on a car and beore it does#reat dama#e it is taken care o. 'lso step G8 is where we use the steps

on a daily basis to maintain peace. I character deects are like rust& whatkind o (rust( bothers you the most+

%he Bible has a lot to say about not takin# or #ranted the peace we havenow and bein# prepared or times o stress. In @ark 8=0)> we read (Watchand pray& lest you enter into temptation. %he spirit is ready& but the lesh isweak.( What does watch and pray mean to you+

In salm >A0 >"? we read0 (I will hear what ,od the 6ord will speak& or Hewill speak peace to His people and to His saints< but let them not turn back

to olly. Surely His salvation is near to those who ear Him& that #lory maydwell in our land.(%he victory and peace we have today is not because o our stron#determined will but because we have made the decision to turn our will andlives over to Him and live or Him.6ookin# at salm >A0>"?& what promises and warnin#s are listed+ In stepG9 we looked at some o our personal insanity-s like0 i only thinkin#,od loves you and avoid isolation.

4ontinue to take personal inventory0%ypes08* Spot check0 anytime " it isneeded9* Daily& end o day& " helps us to ocus on ,od)* eriodic0 relects on our pro#ress

!ead I %hess. A08C"99 1 II %im. 909"9What do these te$ts say a daily inventory should contain /eel ree to addmore points than in te$t*

In order to maintain the peace we have #ained throu#h workin# the stepswe need to be humble< transparent< dependin# on ,od< #rowin# in ourrelationship with ,od by surrenderin# ourselves to ,od and yieldin# our

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will to His will.!ead hil. 90 A"88 ;esus is our e$ample.inally use the inventory list or a daily (rust check(.Write out your own prayer o dependence on ,od or daily help andor#iveness.

Step #11

Sou#ht throu#h prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contactwith ,od& prayin# only or knowled#e o His will or us and the power tocarry that out.

He was ollowin# a new direction and he was no lon#er wanderin#& butollowin# ,od. He remembers the day he let the amiliar ways andliestyle& it was a memory now...now his lie had purpose and althou#h he

didn-t understand it all& he trusted ,od. He was told by ,od to do newthin#s he never would have tried had his lie not #one a new direction buthe trusted ,od. Sure he made mistakes but he prayed and thou#ht o ,odand now ,od had #reat plans. 'braham-s #oal in lie now was to know,od-s will and he did ollow that will.How has your lie chan#ed since you be#an the 89 steps+

7es& lie has chan#ed or us in step G) we made a decision to turn our livesand will over to ,od and steps G="8 helped us to clean house< stop sel"destructive behaviors< make peace with out past and release our shame

and #uilt.Step G 88 is where we ocus our will and our lives on ,od and #et to knowHim better on a daily basis and He will lead us daily.In ;ohn =08)"8= we read0(Whoever drinks o this water will thirst a#ain& but whoever drinkso the water that I shall #ive him will never thirst. But the water that Ishall #ive him will become in him a ountain o water sprin#in# up intointo everlastin# lie(.

We have talked about our thirsts in an earlier step and we all have thirsts08We pray and worship ,od hil.=0We humble ourselves hil.90 A"88We love people I ;ohn =09"98

We know the peace that only ;esus #ives Is. 90)

Write your relections on step G88

Step #12

Havin# had a spiritual awakenin# as the result o these steps& we tried to carrythis messa#e to others and to practice these principles in all our aairs.('main# #race& how sweet the sound%hat saved a wretch like me.I once was lost but now am ound&

Was blind& but now I see.(

;ohn Newton& the writer o this son# e$perienced a chan#e o direction& aspiritual awakenin#. He went rom a slave trader to lovin# and respectin# allpeople when he ound ;esus 4hrist as 6ord and Savior. ;ohn Newton-s spiritualawakenin# aected his lie-s direction and he was never the same. We durin#these 89 steps have had a spiritual awakenin# also. We have #one rom0loneliness& shame& addictions and our instincts #one wild to balancin# ouremotional& physical and spiritual needs. 'lso& as we surrendered ourselves to,od we ound peace. %he key to remember about step G89 is this idea o a

spiritual awakenin#.How have you chan#ed since be#innin# the 89 steps+

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Someone wrote in a son#& ( I was lost in a antasy& that blinded me& until yourlove broke throu#h(< or us this is what a spiritual awakenin# is all about. Hislove breakin# throu#h our denial. We were lost& blinded by many thin#s untilwe acknowled#ed our needs and throu#h steps 8"89 yielded ourselves to ,od.Describe your spiritual awakenin#+

'ndre 4rouch wrote in one o his son#s& (I I never had a problem I-d neverknow that ,od could solve them& I-d never know what aith in ,od could do...(.What can you thank ,od or about your past+

7es& the 89 steps have been the means to the end o indin# peace throu#h arelationship with ,od. Sure we were lost and as we yielded ourselves to ;esuswe ound peace.In I 4or. 8A08 we read< ( But by the #race o ,od I am what I am& and His#race toward me was not in vain....(II 4or. A08C we read0( %hereore i anyone is in 4hrist& he is a new

creation< old thin#s have passed away< behold& allthin#s have become new.(

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rom lie and hide in dru#s.... se$.... other thin#s.However& i I put ,od irst and have a stron# relationship with Him throu#h;esus and i I treat others& as I would want to be treated& then I will knowpeace. 'lso& I must make it my #oal to #row spiritually then I will e$periencemore emotional stability.What i I all back into the old ways+

8* Never #ive up @icah C0>9* 4oness to ,od all sin I ;ohn 80?)* ,o throu#h 89 steps=* ray and don-t stay alone

How will you handle ailure+

I eter 90? (But you are a chosen #eneration& a royal priesthood& a holy nation&His own special people& that you may proclaim the praises o him whowho called you out o darkness into His marvelous li#ht.(

In the li#ht o this verse how do you now eel about you+

In Summary0In step G8 we admitted our powerlessness to handle our dependencies.In step G9 we came to believe ,od could restore us to sanity& as we have doneinsane thin#s.In step G) we yielded our will and our lives to ,od seekin# His will rather thanour own.In step G= we did a earless inventory.

In step GA we took that inventory and let ,od& others and ourselves wee uswarts and all.In steps G"C we in humility irst became willin# and then asked ,od toremove our sins and deects o character.In steps G >"? we took responsibility or our actions and admitted to people wehadHarmed& our wron#s a#ainst them< it was our #oal to make amends.However i makin# amends would hurt them we would not do it directly.In step G8 we kept a watch on our lives and throu#h a daily personalinventory made %hin#s ri#ht as needed.

In step G 88 our primary ocus& no lon#er bein# (me(& we made it our daily#oal to know ,od-s will throu#h prayer& astin#& Bible readin# and ellowship.In step G 89 we& havin# had a spiritual awakenin# as a result o these 89 stepsdesired to Share this with others and to practice these 89 steps on a dailybasis. or to know a new way o livin#& one where the rince o eace is 6ordand we are at peace with ,od and man that is livin#.

lease record your eelin#s about this or any other step.

,od Bless 7ou

By !ev. Danny Blackwell

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New Hope: Transformation 6


TransformationsVolume 6

Let Us Sit At Their Well

By !ev. Danny Blackwell

In ;ohn chapter = we have the story o ;esus meetin# the woman at the well.'s the woman came& ;esus& who had entered her world shocked her& P#ive mea drink& He said.

%he ollowin# interaction proved He knew her and respected her. %his unnamedSamaritan woman ater an encounter with ;esus was chan#ed.

We today are called to enter and interact with people who need ;esus. We have

a messa#e they need to hear. ,od loves them R died or them R rose or themand can transorm them& :ust as He is transormin# us. It is interestin#& ;esuschose this unnamed Samaritan woman& a despised people R no one is despisedin the 6ords eyes.

%he #ay community and those in it are the very ones who eel re:ected& :ud#edand despised by 4hristians. %hus walls e$ist that separate us rom ourbrothers& sisters and riends.

What can we do+ We must be#in by listenin# to their pain& listenin# to their

an#er and as we earn the ri#ht we can be#in. It was summer 9& as westood in the #ay community and asked 8 people to respond to a survey. Our#oal was& :ust to be#in& by listenin# to them.

%he results were surprisin#. Si$ 2uestions were asked that dealt with topics0what do you like and what is the #reatest need o the community+ 'lso& wherewould you #o or help i needed+ O most interest to us were the last three2uestions0 What could a church provide or you+ What advise would you #ive aminister who wants to serve people in the community and i you could ask ,odone 2uestion& what would it be+ %he common thread in the answers about the

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Bein# a close knit community& that has a sense o reedom to pursue theliestyles they choose& whether that be #ay or trans#endered& there is anacceptance and unity in the ace o stru##les& which may arise when they needhelp and their primary direction or it comes rom within. %hus& we as4hristians& in order to impact the people in this community with the ,ospel&

must show respect. In a practical way we can do what ;esus did with thewoman at the well. ,o to them& sit in their community and #et a burden orpeople.

%he ne$t three 2uestions deal with 2uestions related to the church. %he irst2uestion bein#& what could a church provide or you brou#ht answers likenothin#& consumer issues like weddin#s and unerals& and urther relectionsreveal that the church is not number one on their list. %he impact o the ne$t2uestion was overwhelmin#< the 2uestion bein# what advice would you #ive aminister who wants to serve people in this community+ Some o the answers

were& be open"minded& dont be :ud#emental& stop preachin# hatred& dont behomophobic& treat people e2ually& dont presume you can measure thiscommunity by others where you have been beore& be ready to listen& becomeinvolved& be tolerant& be #ay positive& patience. By lookin# at these answers ina dierent li#ht& it is possible to see how they view us 4hristians& thus theymust see us as bein# :ud#emental and close"minded& as well as homophobic.%he author had an opportunity to sit in a restaurant with a #roup otransse$uals and when asked who I was by one member and I told them aminister& he was shocked. %he point bein# i all you have is ne#ative inputwithout meetin# a real person there is a tendency to write the whole

community o whether that be 4hristian or #ay. 'll the answers to the2uestions were really #ood and i we put them into practice& we can make adierence in any community. %he very last 2uestion in the survey was& i youcould ask ,od one 2uestion& what would it be+ %his is a very open"ended2uestion and I dont think there is a lot o uni2ueness about the answers.Some o them were as simple or comple$ as Pwhy to Pwhy am I #ay and whydid He make me #ay+

ractical steps to reach someone who is se$ually broken

8. It is #oin# to take ,od movin# on their lives as a result o our prayers.

9. We are aced with people who have a stron# sense o community and i wedont stand alon# side o them& we will loose them.

). We have to ace our own brokenness R the very act that advice was #ivenor us to be open& tolerant Emeans that we are not that real about our ownbrokenness.

=. We must step out o our comort one R they are not #oin# to come to us ithey dont sense trust e.#. it is ok to say that ,od loves a homose$ual inchurch R they are sinners like us.

A. 'lthou#h the #ay community appears a ti#ht community it is not really&

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broken relations& distant amilies loom either in the past or on the horion. Weneed to be a voice o hope or people.

. It is not enou#h to :ust say ,od loves the homose$ual in the church but thechurch must become a place o healin# and redemption.

We have to #o to them and show and live that we care or them. I we dont #oto them they arent comin# to us

amilies @atter

amilies who pray to#etherEamilies who play to#etherE but how does a amilyhandle one o their members who is #ay+ ray yes& what does it eel like+ Wepray that it doesnt happen in our amily& a amily who has #rown up in thechurch& but it does.

7ou are a member o a amily and look up to your brother& he played in everysport activity and e$celled. 7ou were close and you thou#ht you knew himcompletely but then one day he says he is #ay. @y response& PHave you told@om Dad+ Have you told the pastor+ With that he lau#hs and says& P %helast time that I was in our church& someone called me a a##ot. Do youremember the pastor sayin# 'dam and 3ve& not 'dam and Steve. %heconversation ends& he walks out the door and the brother with whom I had eltat one time so close suddenly we had erected a wall. I put a si#n on that wall&PDo not touch.

't dinner the amily who usually talked about every issue& didnt about thisone. 's my brother let& and my mother cried& Dad went silent& our parentswondered what to do and where could they turn. %his is somethin# thatamilies dont want to talk about to church riends. We keep our perect4hristian masks on however ater the initial shock& ater the Pwhere did we #owron#s& and ater the time o amily prayer in desperation& you share. Whenthe cat is out o the ba# and you wonder how sister so and so and brother soand so know and then the inevitable advice be#ins.

Lncle ;ohn is like that and he is happyEmy aunt :ust came outEI hope hedoesnt #et 'IDS.I always wondered i he wasE. its an abomination youknowEunless he repents& dont let him back into the houseEso many mi$edmessa#es. %he amily hears but when I put my head on the pillow at ni#htalone in the dark& the 2uestion plays in my mind& PHes my brother why didnthe trust me with this one+ 's I drit o I realie that this one is not #oin# to#o away on its own and I dont know how it is #oin# to end. %ime #oes by. Itsbeen ten years since that ni#ht when he shared those ateul words andthankully to ,od all the advice that #ood meanin# people #ave were ilterednot by ear& not by shame& but by ,ods love and the act that he is still ourbrother. or me& I aced that wall that I had constructed between mysel and

my brother and ,od spoke to me that the bricks that made the wall need tobecome bricks o pavement& cobblestones to brin# a prodi#al home and one

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day that will happen by an everlastin# ather who loves every prodi#al.

%he above story is true in so many ways by so many dierent brothers andsisters and it is encoura#in# to know that ,od still calls us to reach out to ourprodi#al brothers and sisters to be there or them& not :ud#in# but lovin# and

speakin# the truth in love. %here is a ine line to walk& to keep the door openand yet not approve o the liestyle. 'bove all keep the door o communicationopen.

We never #ive up hope because the 6ord is able& in His timetable. I want toencoura#e you that when the advice comes in dont let it discoura#e your aithin ,od and dont stop prayin#.

6uke 8A09 "Bt !hile he !as still a l$ !a% &&' his &ather sa! hi(a) !as &ille) !ith *(passi &r hi(+ he ra t his s' thre! his

ar(s ar) hi( a) kisse) hi(,-

%ips or Sharin# the ,ospelby !obbi Menney /used by permission*

See a person& not a homose$ual. We-re not a clean"up campai#n< we-reambassadors o love. How would you approach any person you elt needed4hrist+

aul 6ittle-s book& How to ,ive 'way 7our aith& mi#ht be a #ood one to read

or ideas. %here-s nothin# special about homose$uality as a sin in ,od-s eyes.Don-t let it cloud yours. Homose$uals are lookin# or love& :ust like anyoneelse. ;esus 4hrist is the answer or that need.

!emember that the #ospel means (#ood news.( Be sure to present a Savior&not a code o ethics. ;esus is a real person& not a lie philosophy. Don-t be soconcerned about a particular sin. ,od wants to redeem the whole person& not:ust his or her se$uality.

Mnow what you are oerin#. 7ou are oerin# ;esus 4hrist as 6ord and Savior.7ou are not oerin# heterose$uality. %here is a dierent between bein#homose$ual and actin# out homose$ual behaviour. When a person makes acommitment to 4hrist& he or she must come into a#reement with ,od thathomose$ual behaviour is sin. 7ou are initially oerin# the power to come intoabstinence rom homose$ual behaviours""but the eelin#s are not #oin# tochan#e overni#ht. %hat will come with time& the care and concern o riends&and the 2uality o his or her own continued surrender to 4hrist.

'ctively love that person. Words can be so empty. Demonstrate your love bylistenin#& by callin#& by conrontin# when necessary& by sittin# to#ether inchurch. 6ove is a verb.

Don-t be araid to hear some (#ory( details. Some olks don-t know how toe$press themselves in any way but street lan#ua#e. 6isten with love and

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respond as you seek the counsel o ;esus. 6ove them where they-re at.

Don-t be araid to say& (I love you.( Don-t be araid to hu#& touch& hold hands inprayer. We all need that physical airmation o love rom one another. %ouchin#is not se$ual& it-s lovin#. Homose$uals need to learn the place o aection

outside the conte$t o se$ual involvement. %hey won-t rape you. I yourintentions are misunderstood& e$plain yoursel& but don-t back away.

Share your lie. @any people comin# rom a homose$ual back#round aresurprised to realie that (re#ular olks( also wrestle with se$ual temptation&loneliness& re:ection& hurt& etc. %hat helps them put their lives into perspective.

resent the whole #ospel. ;esus wants to set them ree rom lyin#& bitterness&pride& rebellion& you name it. Homose$ual behaviour and antasy are only apart.

Don-t make homose$uality the ocal point o your relationship. While youshould not be araid to talk about this issue& remember that there are manyother areas o your riend-s lie you can discuss. 'nd let them see ;esus& theanswer to all their sins.

%ell them about 3$odus. Share Scriptures like 8 4orinthians 088 /"... a)s*h !ere s(e & % ..."/as well as testimonies o others who have comeout o homose$uality. "Faith *(eth % heari$ ..."

%ransse$ualism in the 4hurch0 ' pastor responds

Is there anythin# I have learned which could be transerable to other pastors insimilar circumstances+ I am hesitant to #eneralise rom our own e$perience as;ames story is such a uni2ue work o ,od. Nevertheless& I hope that theollowin# are helpul0

Do not allow yoursel to be pressurised by anyone to push a person into aparticular course o action or which they may not be ready. %hou#hts o Pwhatwill others think i they ind out+ must be resisted.

%ake time to seek ,od. Note careully the witness o your spirit.

Do some thorou#h Bible study. ocus particularly on issues such as creationidentity& the all& the new birth and our identity in 4hrist. Scriptural teachin# oneunuchs is helpul /Deut 9)08< Is A0)"A*. !emember ,ods order is alwaysacceptance beore transormation.

!emember& however& that ,ods #oal is transormation& but it is transormationinto the new creation& not into the old creation. ,od& in heaven& transcends thematter o #ender identity. We are entitled to e$pect a #rowth to 4hrist likeness

in lie& however a person dresses.

't every step& wherever possible& seek the ac2uiescence o the person. or

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e$ample0 PI need to talk this over with a minister riend o mine. Is this OM byyou+. 'void puttin# stumblin# blocks in the road by ill":ud#ed indiscretions.

'lways use the terms The1 Thim& Tshe1 Ther appropriately so as to #ive no hinto the true identity o the person unless you know the other person already

knows. ,ossip& even in hints is lethal and #reat care must be taken to avoid it.

When sharin# inormation with other members o the church about thetransse$uals true identity& #ive clear biblical teachin# and counsel on how tounderstand and respond.

,ive time to members o the church who may be troubled and need to talk itthrou#h.

Do not rush the transse$ual into counsellin#. Inner healin# and possibly

deliverance may be appropriate at the ri#ht time. It was our e$perience thatthe Word o ,od and the Holy Spirit& in the conte$t o an acceptin# community&did His soverei#n work.

So inally what about Deuteronomy 990A+

...r (st a (a !ear !(es *lthi$' &r the L %r ))etests a%e !h )es this.-

're we not entitled to e$pect a transse$ual& even a post"operative one& to stop

cross"dressin#+ Here are some thou#hts...

%he sins o the heart /pride& #reed& :ealousy& unbelie& ear etc* are e2uallydetestable to ,od. We all know that the process o sanctiication in these areasis oten #radual. or the transse$ual we must allow or a process o chan#ethat is rooted in heart transormation& rather than e$ternal pressure.

4easin# to cross"dress must be a #oal to move towards. I was privile#ed to bepart o a process where at each sta#e a door o chan#e opened without mehavin# to push it. O course& that may not always be the case.

@arks o true repentance to look or in this process are0

" ' ready acknowled#ement that P,od is ri#ht and I am wron# on the mattero #ender. Deuteronomy 990A should trouble the transse$ualJ 'ttempts toe$plain it away /e.#. POh& thats :ust Old %estament stu* should bechallen#ed.

" Openness to discuss the past un#uardedly.

" ' willin#ness at least to discuss the possibility o chan#e.

" 'ctual steps towards chan#e should be looked or. or e$ample a willin#nessto become increasin#ly open with others and a #reater modesty in dress and

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demeanour.

" !esistance to steps o chan#e which you suspect is resistance to the HolySpirit should be #ently& but irmly challen#ed.

While naturally I was deli#hted at ;ames decision to revert to a masculineliestyle& especially& in retrospect& at the relatively short time it took& I wasactually reconciled or it never to happen. %his is o course provided that@andy was not resistin# the conviction o the Holy Spirit to chan#e and thatthere was #ood evidence o #rowin# holiness in other areas.

%his is the story o the e$perience o a pastor in the south"east o 3n#land. %henames P@andy and P;ames are pseudonyms to protect the persons trueidentity.

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I was askin# the 6ord or more o His Holy Spirit or mysel and or Danny tocome to a sharper ocus or the uture on 4hurch Street. %hrou#hout theweekend I elt a continual need to keep prayin# this prayer and to wait uponthe 6ord 2uietly and consistently. I eel that sometime in the uture& somehowthere needs to be somethin# permanent on 4hurch Street& a place to belon#or us and or the people to whom we are called to minister

3arly in the mornin# on @onday I awoke rom a dream where the 6ord washandin# me a brown piece o paper& which opened like an accordion. I elt thatit was sayin# to me there is a need sometime in the uture or a place on4hurch Street. 's I was ponderin# this& the 6ord spoke to me P I am #oin# topour out my Spirit on all lesh R as this was bein# said& I elt in my spirit that&yes& this will cause there to be a need or a place or these people to come to

besides :ust meetin# in a coee shop. With this I awoke and stood to my eetpreparin# to #o to the livin# room or prayer. @y cat luy #ot up o the bed atthe same instant and I said to the 6ord& P I 7ou are indeed speakin# to me& itwould be nice i my little cat would :ump on my back when I #et down to praylike she used to do a lon# time a#o. /She had stopped with the chan#es inloosin# Bootie*. I know this sounds simplistic but I no sooner said it and ithappenedJ I elt in my spirit that the 6ord was indeed speakin# to me and Icould hardly contain my e$citementJ

I work with several people rom the @iddle 3ast and I have been sensin# their

spirits to be unsteady with all the news etc. I want to be able to witness tothem in some way and I instantly elt peace when the 6ord spoke to me PI am#oin# to pour out my Spirit on all lesh. %his will take care o the unsteadiness

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or everyone will see and eel the power o the 6ord.

We travelled to the itinerant conerence and there we were handed a bookP6ord 4apture @y Heart '#ain %here in the irst chapter the writer& 6aurieSmith was 2uotin# rom the Scripture R PI will pour out my Spirit on all lesh.

In the December issue o the entecostal %estimony R there is an article aboutP %he 6ie in the 4ity R @ontreal 3van#el R >A years a#o& how it started with asolid oundation o prayer& evan#elism and missions. %he cry o my heart is PDoit a#ain 6ord in downtown %oronto& in the 4hurch Street area where 7our loveis so needed.

' Quote rom another article by ;ohn 'rcher a would be missionary to the 3ast&

P...whatever door He opens no man can shut. or now& we are on this rat

called aith& and the stron# current o His love is carryin# us beyond thehorion. In the 3ast the dawn is breakin#. Beyond the horion are a new hopeand a new callin# and a new vision. or now& aith& hope and love remain.

ifte! from a "hristmas pu#lication from Bethany Bi#le "olle$e%&hen the wise men saw the star in the east that first "hristmaslon$ a$o' it capture! their attention an! they followe!( )t le!them to "hrist( That*s what li$ht !oes( )t lea!s people to +o!( Asthe worl! $rows !arker our lon$in$ for li$ht $rows stron$er%(

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o three members o %rans#ender International ellowshipbut was not an3$odusmember.

Lnlike ;erry 6each !eality !esources& New Hope Outreach was more amissionary a#ency than a counselin# one. Here are (Outreach( and (4ore5alues o New Hope.

We want to reach out to the alternate liestyle communities o downtown

%oronto. We hope to mobilie believers to share the hope o ;esus

With compassion and #race to all we meet.

With ,od-s help we will show His love to many hurtin# people.

%rans people& and #ays to a less de#ree& were simply New Hope-s tar#et.

In ;une 9?& New Hope appeared to shut down. irst& replaced Danny as their

leader with someone named Daniel Burton. Danny-s blo# was immediatelyremoved. ' week later& New Hope-s website was removed and blocked romsearch en#ines. rominent articles rom the site are available at the New HopeOutreach archive.

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,n!erstan!in$ an! .inisterin$ to a Trans$en!ere! /erson

It was a #it rom my wie& this second blue :ean :acket& and the irst onewas a #it rom my older brother when I was seven. ' lot o thin#shappened between these two #its< thin#s #ood and bad& thin#s that addedto me and thin#s that took away rom me. I dont remember what became

o the irst :acket all I remember is the pleasure o havin# and wearin# it.Stru##lin# with #ender identity tends to ill us with mi$ed messa#es andconusin# memories also. %he second :acket didnt i#nite the same type o:oy but it stirred up the coals o smolderin# masculinity and anned thelames o what ,od wants to restore. Between these two #its I have triedto it into clothes and roles not o my #ender desi#n.

So Im let with a dilemma& do I continue in utile attempts to block painand escape bein# male or do I embrace the @aster %ailors call to put onrestored masculinity. %he 6ord used that :acket to help me to see that

bein# male is not u#ly& dirty& or somethin# I can put on and o but ,ods#it and it is or me. unny& the :acket elt bi# and sti with many emptypockets but the 6ord& as the @aster %ailor says #ently& PI am with you and

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you are not alone.

Healin# unortunately is not as easy as puttin# on a :acket but one o ,ods#reatest #its is our #ender identity and rather than continuin# to discardit& we must embrace what ,od is able to restore. Sure I lost the irst :acket

but it was restored to me in love rom my wie. So also ,od calls us towillin#ly ace our losses and allow Him to clothe us a#ain with His #reat#it& restored #ender identity. ortunately we are not called to accomplishthis task on our own or He uses His Word& people& and counsellin#. %he6ord as the @aster %ailor #uarantees His work and He never ails. 's it tooktime to make and like the :acket< so chan#e in us will take time but by#ettin# closer to the 6ord& we are restored and healed.

P7ou are not trans#endered& why are you here+ %he person beore me whomade that statement assumed that because I wasnt dressed as a woman

and was part o a restaurant #atherin# or trans#endered people& I was amystery to that person. @y answer to Susan /not real name* was I am apastor and I care. Susan almost ell o the chair and said P4hristians donthan# around usE

I could have easily answered Susans 2uestion with& PI use to betrans#enderedE %rans#endered can be deined as someone whosethou#hts& liestyle& or behavior crosses over #ender boundaries thus a manmi#ht eel that he should have been a woman and visa versa. It is acontinuum on one end where those who only wear clothes o the opposite

#ender to those on the other e$treme who eel that they should be theother #ender.

Bei$ tras$e)ere) is like ei$ i a r)erla)' a areas(e!here et!ee a**epti$ es (ale r &e(ale i)etit%' thatis ) $ie. The Lr)' !h !alks i that r)erla)' *alls s t(iister :is heart a) &ree)( t peple there' as :e is ale t setpeple &ree.

or those in this borderland there has been rom an early a#e a sense that

they were dierent& or some& it e$pressed itsel in wantin# to do opposite#ender activities or play. or others there was a cross #ender identiicationthat was rooted in abuse& ne#lect or a sense that the other se$ was treatedbetter #rowin# up. ' lot o issues come to#ether and in ocus that puts oneon the path to a trans#endered liestyle. %here is a point that a decisionmay occur in a persons lie to #o beyond cross #ender e$perimentation toull #ender transition and thus become the opposite se$ at least inappearance or VV cannot become V7. %his transition happens throu#hmultiaceted medical and psychiatric disciplines comin# to#ether& over time&to achieve the persons #oal. %he cost o achievin# this #oal #oes way

beyond inancial e$penditures to impactin# e$tended amily relationshipsas well as possible irreversible medical procedures.

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Does +o! care for people in this trans$en!ere! #or!erlan!0 1es'for we are all people who have $one our own ways an! trie! tomeet our own nee!s without Him until His love reaches out to uswith arms that say ) love you' ) !ie! for you an! ) can chan$eyou%(

What is the best way or us to minister to trans#endered people in theirparticular borderland+%he best e$ample o this is seen in ;ohn =& where the 6ord rather thanbypassin# Samaria ministered there. irst& we must #o to them :ust like;esus did. %hen we must ollow the three T6s look& listen and love. ;esussat down at a well and reached out and transormed a woman who was adespised person in her culture. He reached beyond the ;ewish culturalnorm o the day& steppin# out o a comort one.

!eachin# a trans#endered person is really no dierent than reachin#anyone else or we are all the same. 's we #o to them and earn the ri#htto be heard by listenin#& the 6ord will work throu#h our lives. We have tolove them actively and use words i necessary as doors open. It isimportant to walk throu#h those doors and serve. One e$ample o thatmi#ht be to look at their practical needs. Some seasonal holidays can bereally lonely i one does not have inancial resources or amily support. Ourministry must be balanced and oer hope in ;esus Name. inally& the#reatest hindrance to reachin# these people or any other is our attitude.

He cares thereore we must care no matter& thus we are called to care0

%here is HO3 salm 8C

'cts o kindness build brid#es i.e. cold pop& buyin# someone a hot do# andlistenin# to them.

4hurch community dinners open doors R we must make riends to share;esus

Dont be araid to be yoursel and be a servant o ;esus.

!ealie that it is their tur& and respect it.

Be prepared or opposition rom 4hristians.

%hus be ready to listen and talk to them.

Be there or the lon# haul. ,o the distance with them.

Dont re:ect people i they all& ail or let you down.

Walk with them as they take steps toward redemption.

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!ememberin# re:ection is somethin# that can open the wounds rom thepast.

It is #oin# to take ,od movin# on their lives as a result o our prayers.

We are aced with people who have a stron# sense o community and i wedont stand alon# side o them& we will loose them.

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T+)F: /ractical 2teps to Breakin$ Down &alls

Written by (@( /possibly @ark Shick* and published by %rans#enderInternational ellowship. Quoted verbatim. See Inormation on !e"publishin#.

How do you eel +

One o the diicult thin#s that I ind in the 4hristian church is the wall thate$ists between the people in the pew " and the people that are se$uallybroken.

%here doesn-t seem to be a wall or the people that #ossip+ %here is no wall orpeople that e$periment with pre"marital se$+ %here is little or no walls orthose that have committed adultery+ %here is no wall or people that becomean#ry or abusive with their words+

But there certainly is a wall or people that are se$ually broken " you know theones that are homose$uals and the trans#endered people.

It doesn-t take lon# to i#ure out the #reat walls that some people help buildbetween the se$ually broken and the 4hristian church. ' ,oo#le search doneo (Hate or Homose$uals( produced 8& C& results proves the point. @anyo the results point to (christians( that are 2uoted or their stance on se$uallybroken people.

Have you ever foun! that0

Some how there needs to be a brid#e that is built rom the nice 4hristian worldto the broken world out there. %here needs to be some how to break down thewalls that separate two worlds that need each other.

) offer the followin$ 6 steps to start the possi#ility of #uil!in$ a #ri!$eto someone !ifferent from you(

8. irst remember " It is #oin# to take ,od movin# on their lives as a result oour prayers.

9. We are aced with people who have a stron# sense o community and i wedont stand alon# side o them& we will loose them.

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). We have to ace our own brokenness R the very act that advice was #ivenor us to be open& tolerant Emeans that we are not that real about our ownbrokenness.

=. We must step out o our comort one R they are not #oin# to come to us i

they dont sense trust e.#. it is ok to say that ,od loves a homose$ual inchurch R they are sinners like us.

A. 'lthou#h the 6,B% community appears a ti#ht community it is not really&broken relations& distant amilies loom either in the past or on the horion. Weneed to be a voice o hope or people.

. It is not enou#h to :ust say ,od loves the homose$ual in the church but thechurch must become a place o healin# and redemption.

We have to #o to them and show and live that we care or them. I we dont #oto them they arent comin# to us.

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T+)F: /uttin$ 2ome of the /ieces To$ether

Written by Danny Blackwelland published by %rans#ender Internationalellowship. Quoted verbatim. See Inormation on !e"publishin#.

By D

lease note that this inormation is not a complete cause or development oa trans#ender person but hopeully serves as an outline. lease keep in

mind that these are some o the issues we all e$perience and they are onlysu##estions. 'lso& where @% or %@ do not appear they apply to both

's we look at developmental issues o a trans#endered person some termsneed to be deined. 'lso we have mi$ed both %@ and @% characteristicsto#ether.

8. %@0 emale to male transse$ual ie a woman who eels she is aman trapped in a womans body

9. @%0 @ale to emale transse$ual ie a man who eels he is awoman trapped in a mans body.

). S!S0 Se$ual reassi#nment sur#ery. S!S can be considered aterpsycholo#ical assessment& medical as well as other assessments andre2uires livin# in the chosen se$ role ull time or up to two years&

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dierent countries have various other 2ualiications.

O to years old

' distant or absent ather i#ure while #rowin# up.

%@ ,enerally comes rom e$tremely dysunctional amilies. Oten ahistory o male abuse /not necessarily se$ual*.

%@0 %here is a stron# identiication with the male usually represented bythe ather. Other si#niicant males such as siblin#s can be a stron#inluence.

' very involved mother.

%@0 %he @other& representin# emales& is oten seen as indecisive&compliant and submissive oten in the presence o e$treme physicalviolence directed at her or other emale amily members.%@0 @ales are seen as decisive& direct and in control. 'lthou#h in theabusive circumstances the @other may have acted to -keep the peace- suchrepeated actions sometimes creates resentment and re:ection o theemale role by the child.

erectionistic tendencies that obstruct inner peace.

't a#es " there is cross dressin# or other se$"atypical behavior or some.When the parents see this& they do not try to correct this as inappropriate&but ind it cute and amusin#& and actually sli#htly encoura#e it.

elt separated rom one or both parents.

eelin#s o #ender1se$ual in conlict prior to the a#e o A years. Howevermemories beore ive years o a#e are unreliable.

@ay have e$perienced physical and emotional abuse.

In some there may be a sense o envy about the opposite se$ siblin# orriend #ettin# more attention rom a parent.

C"8) years old

erceived verbally abusive ather"i#ure.

%@0 re2uently the emale has masculine eatures such as a s2uare acialappearance and a masculine build. In reality such eatures only

demonstrate the variance that naturally occurs amon#st emale eatures.

@%0 In a similar way some males are born with naturally occurrin# emale

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eatures.

%@1@%0 Some possible cross #ender toys and play desired

amily ailed to reco#nie obvious developin# si#ns o trans#ender activity

Sensed that he was not really wanted& or e$tremely ill"timed when born

%@1@%0 In both situations type castin# and viliication by peers cancontribute.

antasies about bein# a #irl1boy& that dont #o away.

4onsidered a loner shy.

%een years

!e#ularly e$perienced humiliation in playin# sports.

'n inner sense that his masculinity does not match that ound in others.

%@1@%0 %he best term to use in describin#1listin# the actors that maycontribute to #ender ambi#uity is0 -multi"actorial-.

4onsidered a loner.

Questions re#ardin# their real se$ual orientation.

Deep sense o shame.

Steady discomort or #ender e$pectations imposed by others

,enerally very poor sel"ima#e

Notices a chan#e in sel"view and a reedom in relatin# more openly insocial interactions when cross"dressed.

Harbors a sense o sel"hatred as a male1emale.

%hey may think ne#atively about his1her #ender at least once a day.

%hey are an#ry at ,od or allowin# trans#endered eelin#s to be a part olie.

Seriously considered or acted out suicidal attempts.

Is not convinced that ,od truly loves him1her.

@ay have antasied about havin# se$ with a man while in the emale role

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or visa1versa.

@acho type hobbies and behaviors have been used to hide eminine desires

%hou#hts that relect a stron# #ender hatred.

'voids conlict at all costs.

%hey have an abidin# sense o #uilt and ear in bein# e$posed and publiclyhumiliated.

Both %@1@%0 Desires to receive the non"se$ual love& acceptance& esteemo another same se$ person.

,eneralied distrust in men1women.

Diicult to stand up or himsel or his convictions& even when he is ri#ht

Has #reat diiculty in indin# and keepin# a close male riendship

Suers rom additional problems related to addictions

@%0 @asturbation was an associated problem with cross"dressin# in teen"a#e years.

@%0 3$perienced as a youth euphoric and se$ual stimulation when cross"dressed.

9"A

Se$ual e$citement when cross"dressed continues.

rivate& sel"conscious and sel"isolated

Have attempted to hide trans#ender eelin#s by hyper masculine activity

eel inerior to other men as a male

Sel perceived enli#htened understandin# o women than avera#e ornormal men

assive

%@1@%0 't whatever a#e ... would preer to be a opposite se$.

Sel perceived social advanta#es o belon#in# to the opposite biolo#ical

se$. %he social advanta#es do not necessarily correlate with the reality asperceived by the opposite se$.

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Diiculty in e$perienced lastin# reedom rom trans#ender issues i thesecret desire is kept to sel.

Diiculty talkin# to ,od when alone

Has ound 4hristianity ineective in chan#in# trans#ender eelin#s

Some with -6ate onset transse$uality came (out o the closet( and be#anhormones and preparation or S!S later in lie

@any have an absolute conviction that there is underlyin# biolo#ical cause.

'ttempted some orm o spiritual e$orcism to #et rid o Tperverse demons.

Have nearly despaired o ,od really havin# the ability to chan#e this

condition

!arely is there appropriate counsel as to the diiculties in achievin#acceptance in an ac2uired #ender role.

Has e$perienced a sense o ailure at his proessional career.

Have ound that reli#ious ervor1evan#elicalism to not si#niicantly chan#eeelin#s.

Stru##les with bouts o depression and an$iety.

Seeks leadership positions to #ain people-s respect.

%@1@%0 Lncomortable with and amon# same se$ people.

@ay be on presently on a psychiatric medication or a nervous disorder.

ossible other emotional issues that add to trans#ender issues.

elt that @arria#e would eliminate or take si#niicant care o the

trans#ender eelin#s

@%0 @arried a 4hristian woman.

Have reasoned that havin# children would help eliminate eminine desires.

%he road to a trans#ender liestyle

3arly crossdressin# e$perimatation that is se$ualied at puberty

Secret liestyle becomes more open and seekin# o support or innereelin#s

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Be#ins attendin# pro transition support #roups in transse$ual sub"cultureor support

%akes on eminine1masculine name and persona as well as dressin# asdesired se$ or #roups.

4omes out o the closet and dispute amily re:ection& seeks out apsychiatrist and a doctor or irst phase to S!S.

Be#ins livin# as a woman1man ull time and takin# hormones.

'ter two years and ulillin# all the re2uirements has S!S.

@oves and lives as a woman1man ater S!S or cannot aord the sur#eryand lives as a shemale.

%he road rom a trans#ender liestyle

3arly crossdressin# e$perimatation that is se$ualied at puberty

Secret liestyle becomes more open and seekin# o support or innereelin#s

Be#ins attendin# pro transition support #roups in transse$ual sub"cultureor support

%akes on eminine1masculine name and persona as well as dressin# asdesired se$ or #roups.

Due to amily re:ection and stress seeks out counselin# and amily newriends stand with them.

'lthou#h its a lon# road involvin# support #roups& counselin# and aith in,od he1she be#ins to see the li#ht o day and is acceptin# themselves as aman1woman.

Dispute the S!S > years a#o (;ane(1;ake is disillusioned and ater indin#aith in ,od reverts back to a male1emale role.

%@1@%0 %here is a primary need to ocus on the resolution o theambivalent perceptions o the social advanta#es associated with theopposite se$. Such resolution is a lon# slow and painul process.

inally& eel ree to contact the authors and check out their websites.

,od Bless you

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Danny Blackwell

!ev. Danny Blackwell has written some articles about trans#enderism includin#his :ourney i#htin# its eelin#s. Danny used to run New Hope Outreachand thepseudo or#aniation%rans#ender International ellowship. Danny was bi#ender

and its the classic e$"trans pattern. His repression o trans#ender eelin#s wascounseled by ;erry 6each& endin# in about 8??8. Danny is married to 'lice/Hebert* Blackwell and they attend the pentecostal @alvern 4hristian 'ssemblyoutside %oronto.

When I checked in ;une& 9?& %,I and his blo# went oline and New Hopewas transerred to another person. New Hope-s website disappeared soon ater.Neither Danny nor New Hope has not returned my call or emails. He can1couldbe reached at nhoF8Uyahoo.ca& nhotorUyahoo.com& andtrans#enderintlellowshipU#mail.com.

7ou can read Danny-s old writin#s at the New Hope Outreach archiveand %,Iarchive.

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In ;une& 9?& New Hope Outreachand %rans#ender International ellowshipremoved their websites without e$planation. %hey also disabled search en#inesrom inde$in# the sites. or posterity sake& here is a partial& manual archive o

New Hope-s contents. I Danny Blackwell/or whomever owns the copyri#ht*wishes these archives to be removed& I will do so. See Inormation on !e"publishin#.

%,I-s email was t#ihopeUyahoo.com.

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New Hope: Believe

At New Hope -utreach &e Believe%(

3( )n accor!ance with 3 "orinthians 6:33 which refers to the

power of the $ospel to !eliver' free!om is possi#le an! chan$ecan occur throu$h faith in 4esus "hrist' the power of the Holy2pirit' the stu!y of the Bi#le an! counselin$( 3 "or 6:3333 An! that is what some of you were( But you were washe!'you were sanctifie!' you were 5ustifie! in the name of the or!4esus "hrist an! #y the 2pirit of our +o!( N)V7

8( 2alvation is availa#le to all( +o! loves us an! has a plan for allour lives(

9( )n the authority of scripture' the historical !ocuments of the"hristian faith as seen in the Apostles "ree!(

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identity tends to ill us with mi$ed messa#es and conusin# memories also.

%he second :acket didnt i#nite the same type o :oy but it stirred up the coalso smolderin# masculinity and anned the lames o what ,od wants to restore.Between these two #its I have tried to it into clothes and roles not o my#ender desi#n. So Im let with a dilemma& do I continue in utile attempts to

block pain and escape bein# male or do I embrace the @aster %ailors call toput on restored masculinity. %he 6ord used that :acket to help me to see thatbein# male is not u#ly& dirty& or somethin# I can put on and o but ,ods #itand it is or me. unny& the :acket elt bi# and sti with many empty pocketsbut the 6ord& as the @aster %ailor says #ently& PI am with you and you are notalone.

Healin# unortunately is not as easy as puttin# on a :acket but one o ,ods#reatest #its is our #ender identity and rather than continuin# to discard it& wemust embrace what ,od is able to restore.

Sure I lost the irst :acket but it was restored to me in love rom my wie. Soalso ,od calls us to willin#ly ace our losses and allow him to clothe us a#ainwith his #reat #it& restored #ender identity.

ortunately we are not called to accomplish this task on our own or he usesHis word& people& and counselin#.

%he 6ord as the @aster %ailor #uarantees His work and He never ails. 's ittook time to make and like the :acket< so chan#e in us will take time but by

#ettin# closer to the 6ord& we are restored and healed.

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