What I Picked up on My WayHere

By Ed Ebreo

Introduction

Take advantage of the ambiguity in the world. Look at something and think what else it mightbe.

- Roger von Oech

This quote is one of the major inspirations of this work. The bigger inspiration is my children. Ihope to share with them the things that I’ve learned in my journey through life. I don’t know if

this will help them as they complete each page in their own lives, but I hope it inspires them to dothree things:

• Be happy• Take risk• Use their strengths to achieve whatever they want in life.

This work is open source. Share and use it as you please. I hope that it inspires you as the ideasin this work perpetually inspire me to do my best in everything I do.

Edwin C. Ebreoedebreo@exeqserve.com893-3199

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Traffic LightStop, ready, go! In that order. I believe that pursuit of

success requires that we keep a mental traffic light.

Stop to think about what we want to achieve for our

selves. Stop to plan.

Get Ready by acquiring the resources that we need in

terms of knowledge, skills and attitude. It would also

be good to have a healthy dose of support from the

people who are close to us.

Go and pursue your dreams relentlessly. traverse this

life using the knowledge and experience that you get

along the way.

Enjoy the trip!

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I don’t take just any bus that come my way. I look for the

ones that lead to the place I want to be.

I don’t just take any bus that lead to the place I want to

be, I choose the ones that are likely to take me there in

the most efficient way.

I don’t just take any bus that leads to the place I want to

be in the most efficient way, I take the ones that will

likely make me enjoy the trip.

For all these to happen, I have to patiently wait. More

often than not the wait is well worth it.

As we traverse this life’s highways, we need to be

clear

about the directions we wish to take, the means to

get

there and when we wish to be there. Pretty much

like

taking a bus ride.

Bus Rides

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My Old Shoes

How long has it been? three, four years? I’ve lost count. It’s not the amount of time that we’ve been together

that matters but the places we’ve gone to together. You accompanied me through successes and failures, you

endured my care-free nature that took its toll on your health. What started as an awkward, uncomfortable

relationship bloomed to a partnership that is hard to break. But breaking up the relationship is what we must

do. Your time to retire from loyal service has come. We need to move on, I need to move on. I am set to reach

new frontiers in my life, set my feet on new adventures. I’m very sorry to leave you behind but I realize that

being together can get us nowhere. I already accepted the fact that my new set of shoes will not be able to

provide me the same kind of comfort that we worked so hard to develop between us but I am also confident

that in time and with some effort we can be more comfortable with each other, the way we were.

This is true with you and I my old pair of shoes as it is with the changes that happen in my life. They

are all

painful at first, scary even but I know that the only way to

try new things.

Thank you for your service, I’m moving on now.

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HalfDo you see this glass as half filled or half empty?

Conventional wisdom say that we should look at it as

half full to manifest a positive view of life and what

it offers. I won’t disagree. Such mindset helps us

appreciate the things that are available to us, to be

thankful for what life gives. I won’t disagree.

But to ignore the fact that there is an empty space in

the glass, is to ignore the fact that things can be

better. That with some effort, the glass can be more

than just half-full.

We often criticize people who see what’s lacking, we

are not comfortable with people who point out the

other truth. Think about it though, life cannot be

better, if everyone is too satisfied.

Empty?

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Elevator Buttons

Sometimes we approach life thesame way. We want to accomplishso many things so fast that we failto recognize that we put undueburden to ourselves and others,

I was standing there waitingfor the elevator to reach

ground floor. Another guycame and hit the already

lighted elevator button, a ladycame and did the same thing.

Another guy approached anddid the exact same thing! Hedidn’t stop there. As we stoodthere, he kept on pressing thebutton as if the elevator will

come down faster if he hitsthe button several times!

expecting things to happen fasterthan they should. We sometimesfail to realize that some things inlife are like the elevator, when

you push the button, all you cando is wait.

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Find another way… that’s the answer. Block the ant’s

path, and it goes left, right, above, even dig it’s way out

of the problem. You won’t see ants banging on the

blockage thinking it can break it, no! they find other

ways. The least that ants do when they face a challenge

is stop. I mean have you seen an ant staring at a wall for

long hours? It’ll be dead if it does that.

Now, what would you do?

It’s amazing how often we feel stuck whenever we

encounter a stumbling block or when we see things do

not go our way or our schemes fail to work. I’ve seen

many people including myself staring on a blank wall

and say, no choice, there’s nothing I can do when this is

far from being true… And we have bigger brains!

The next time you see yourself saying, there’s nothing I

can do or I have no choice… think of the ant.

What Wouldan Ant Do?

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Your Gift

Imagine this, you gave a friend a

nice shirt as a gift. You of course

wrapped it up in a dainty little

package, wrote some dedications and

gave it as a birthday present. After a

week, you ask your friend, “did you

like it?” Your friend said, I don’t

know I have no intention of opening

it… I can guess how you would feel.Everyone is gifted. We are all given a gift or

gifts. While some people have uncovered theirsand use them to the hilt, some haven’t orhesitate to do so. If you are one of those whohaven’t made a move to discover what is in thepackage, don’t you realize how disappointing itis to give someone a gift and he won’t open it?Using your gift is a sign of appreciation of theone who gave it to you.

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The fruits used to be just laying low, you can reach

them with your short ladder. For sometime you have

enjoyed the fruits of your effort. As time passes by

however, the tree grows taller and the fruits become

too high for you and your ladder. You should have

seen it coming, you should have prepared a longer

ladder for the taller tree and higher lying fruits.

It’s pretty much like life. We all know that what

used

to work so well can become useless all of a sudden

because the environment has changed. Well, all of

a

Sudden may not be the right way to state it,

because

there are almost always tell tale signs that change

is

about to occur, hence we should be prepared.

Prepared to change our ladder… or move to a new

tree.

Change YourLadder

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The Leader is aFarmer When a farmer looks at raw land, that’s not what he

sees. He sees it’s potential. He will consider it’s

location, the characteristics of its soil, the climate and

all the potentials of the soil to produce the needs of

the people.

The farmer envisions, plans and then implements. He

cultivates, plants, nurtures, protects and works hard

in covering all the necessities of a good harvest.

The leader must learn from the farmer, nothing can

be had without toiling. A great leader envisions, plans

and then implements. He cultivates by preparing

people for the challenge ahead, plant seeds of

knowledge, nurtures to develop the knowledge into

skill, protects people from being waylaid from their

destiny and works hard in covering all the necessities

of a good harvest.

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The Leader is a PotterIt starts with a shapeless chunk of earth. Dry and rough, devoid of beauty nor refinement

but not without potential. The potter prepares the materials with a detailed picture of the

end product in mind. He adds just enough water and other materials. He lets his hands

dirty as he tries to get the right consistency. When the batter is ready, he waits some more

for the water to rise and the clay is ready for the next step.

The potter puts the clay on the pottery wheel and starts working on the shape. The shaping

of the clay depends on the skill and creativity of the potter. The success and failure to

acquire the right shape is on his hands. After the shape is acquired, the material is

solidified by putting it through intense heat. The pot is beautified further by painting it and

putting more design. The final product once complete is vastly different from when the

process started.

Such is the work of a potter and such is the work of a leader.

She starts with a little more than potential. She prepares the team for the shaping process

by giving them a sense of purpose and other basic information they need that will motivate

them to accept the bigger information they will get as they go through the process of

building their skills - the shaping process. The newly acquired skills is put through the

intense heat of testing to solidify it. The leader adds on to what has already been acquired

by letting them use their own creativity to adjust to the daily challenge of their work. The

finished product is vastly improve from when the shaping process started.

Vision, creativity patience, discipline and willingness to get one’s hands dirty are necessary

to succeed in both

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The Leader is a Cook

What makes a great cook?

The ability to turn an ordinary recipe into a culinary

masterpiece

The ability to identify a good ingredient

A sense of timing

An exacting intuition

The ability to blend different ingredients

together

What makes a great leader?The ability to lead ordinary people towards achieving

extra ordinary results

The ability to identify a good team member

a sense of timing

an exacting intuition

The ability to blend different people together

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Flow

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I am a drop of water, that goes with the other drops of water, that flows through a river, that empties to the sea, that evaporates to the clouds, that pours down the mountains, that flows back to the river, that shapes the land around it, that sustains the life of the living, that gives and that takes

I am part of a great flow called life, not my life, but a bigger life The persons I meet are the people I should meet The problems are the ones I must have The happiness I feel are the rewards of the moment The emotions are fleeting phases I am a drop of water that fills a glass that quenches a thirst, that cleanses the ills I am a drop of water that serves my purpose as other drops serve theirs I am part of the great flow called life everything will be alright

Roll with the PunchesThe secrets to boxing success can very much be the same secrets to winning in life. Here are a few lessons youmight want to consider as you step up the big ring called life:

Keep your guard upLife will throw everything at you and at the most unexpected moments. Keeping your guard up means beingready to parry the shots. Diligence, patience and anticipating change are critical to keeping your guard up.

Roll with the punches

A great boxer may be able to knock the opponent out before the latter throws anything. In life it’s different, noone can possibly parry all the blows. One must learn to take life’s punches by rolling with it. Roll with thepunches or you’ll end up as road kill. As they say, if life gives you lemons, make lemonade.

Jab,jab,jab

You can’t possibly take everyone down with a single punch, the same goes in life. You cannot possibly achieveeverything in a single try. You need to work your way up or through by making small steps that will eventuallylead you to the gold. Small hits that lead to big success.

Cut off the ring

opponents are moving targets. If you don’t know how to cut off the ring, you will end up chasing an unreachabletarget. Learning to cut off the ring in life means having a strategy for catching the target as you chase it. Whilehard work is good, smart work is better.

Build your staminaWhile a boxer could boast that he could take an opponent down in the early round, the prophecy does not alwaysbecome a reality. A good boxer builds enough stamina to survive when the fight goes the distance. Same is truein life. Things don’t always happen as we want and guess they should be. We should build enough stamina toavoid frustration and burn out.

Listen to your coachThis is the best advice. The best boxers listen to their coach. They train and they train hard, as the fight happens

they listen to their corner’s advice. In life you’ll find people in your corner. People who has your good in theirmind. Listen to them.

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A Bag of SeedWe all have our own bags of seeds. We decide when to unpackthem, plant them, grow them till they bear fruits.

Sometimes the idea alone of the effort necessary in making thathappen is so petrifying that we hesitate to let the seeds out of

their bags.

Sometimes we think that laying the seed to the ground isenough that we fail to nurture it. When it fails to deliver on ourexpectations, we say bad seed.

But those who know the nature of seeds, those who aredetermined to do what it takes to get the seed to bear fruit,

know that waiting is not enough.

We all have our own bags of seeds and they are calledTALENTS.

They are worthless inside the bag. They won’t achieve their fullpotential, just laying on the ground. They have to be cultivated,nourished, fertilized and nurtured.

Ask these: How much of your seeds are out of the bag?

What have you done to make them bear fruits?

If you are not doing what it takes, it’s just right to lower yourexpectations.

Is reading this makes you want to work on your bag of seeds?

Are your going to take concrete steps towards achieving your fullpotentials?

Put some deadlines to it will you?

And be accountable for it.

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Coals and DiamondsCoals are coals and diamonds are diamonds. They may have thesame basic ingredient but they are far from being the same. Youcannot expect coals to become diamonds nor diamonds to becomecoals.

Don’t get me wrong, there is no need for coals to be diamonds,they are good as they are. With their abundance, they get themachinery going and they fuel the industries.

I am reminded lately that what is true for coals and diamondsmaybe true with people. Sometimes people have the romanticnotion that coals should eventually graduate to becomingdiamonds. I used to share that notion… Until lately.

Lately I realized that some of the coals I met are not diamondsin the rough. No amount of cutting and piling will make themlook any close to being diamonds, and to push them to becomeone just adds to their stress because while they may be inspiredby the thought of becoming diamonds, they just don’t have whatit takes to become one. Some of them are just plain uninterested.

As a matter of lesson I realized I need to distinguish between acoal and a diamond in the rough… And let coals be coals.

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Your Kung FuI’m not really sure which movie I heard that statement from

that says “My kung fu is better than yours,” or “your kung fu isweak old man!” But it drew a lot of my attention on my ownkung fu. In fact it made me realize that in some sense we allhave our own kung fu… or at least we should.

I’m talking beyond martial arts of course. I’m talking about theskills that we develop in order to face life’s challenges. I foundmy kung fu when I was 24. That’s when I discovered that mypassion in life is sharing what I know with other people throughtraining. My kung fu started out weak, what with so little that Iknow about it. I can only laugh now at how I pretend beforethat it was strong. Over time and with a lot of effort, my kung fubecame stronger. Just like in the kung fu movie, it took a lot ofstudying and practice, and yes a desire that someday my kungfu shall be stronger.

I wish I can finally say to everyone that my kung fu is betterthan yours but that would be like setting my self up for

failure. Besides, the bad guys in the movies always say that theyhave the best kung fu and yet they fail in the end. So let me justsay this for now… My kung fu today is better than yesterday…figuratively speaking.

So, what is your kung fu? Discover it, work on it and get betterat it.

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That Displacement Experiment

I’m reminded of a science experiment inspired by Archimedes’ eureka moment that we did during elementaryschool. It’s where we learned a couple of things. One; the amount of water displaced when an object of aparticular size is submerged to it determines the volume of the object; two; two objects of similar volumecannot occupy the same space at the same time and third, no matter the weight difference; objects of similarsize will occupy the same amount of space.

Let’s talk about life. The things you do no matter how important or unimportant occupy a finite amount ofspace and that no two things of similar size no matter the weight difference can occupy the same space. So I’dsay be careful what you put in your life.

I often hear people wanting to be more successful, wealthier or happier or simply wanting to be better butunable to do something about it. Their life is full of stuff that do not contribute to the achievement of theirgoals. There are just no space available for them to place the things that will weigh more heavily in their

personal pursuits. So we hear people say, I want to earn more, but won’t sacrifice being out of their comfortzone to try out new ways to earn. Some people ask me to help them become trainers like me. I would give themthe tools but they can’t find the time to use them. They are unwilling to remove some stuff in their lives thatoccupy the space where these tools could have been used. They can’t take the movie marathons out, they can’treplace their love story novels with books that are relevant to building their training skills.

I say look at the principle behind displacement. No two objects of similar size no matter what the weight canoccupy the same space at the same time. One will have to be displaced. The question is, which one are youdisplacing?

Eureka?

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Don’t be that BugAccording to Einstein, insanity is defined as doing thesame things over and over again expecting differentresults.

This reminds me of a bug I found dead near a glasswindow pane. It is easy to know the cause of that bug’sdeath. It banged against the glass pane many timestrying to break through until it died. Have you seenthem bugs do that? It’s crazy they can’t recognize thatthere’s no way they can breakthrough that way. Theydon’t know that the only way to be able to go elsewhereis to change direction.

Well, it’s not really crazy. They are bugs and one wouldexpect them to behave that way.

What’s crazy is to see people behave in the samefashion. With human being’s amazing ability to learn,

why can’t we learn from Twain… Or the dead bug by thewindow?

Whenever you feel stuck and your way towards yourgoal is blocked. Remember this lesson. ask how you cando things differently or do different things.

Don’t be that dead bug

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Flying KitesI loved kite flying when I was a kid and now that I have a baby boy I can’t wait to teach him everything I know aboutflying kites and the life lessons that I learned to go with it.

Here are some of the lessons I learned from making and flying kites:

1. The air worthiness of my kite is my responsibility. I can choose to make my kite or buy some ready made but I shouldbe able to distinguish a good kite from a bad one. I’m responsible for every decision I make. I equip my self to make theright decisions. I can’t blame anyone for any of them.

2. It’s all in the balance. No matter how potentially good the kite is if I fail to balance the string or the line, it won’t flywell. Life is all about balance. If we ignore our other needs or the people around us and focus only on the demand of theday, we will eventually go crashing down and hit the ground.

3. Getting help in making or flying a kite is more fun and you show your gratitude by sharing the kite. There’s hardlyanything in this life that we can accomplish without help from others. Recognize them and share the fruit of your successwith them.

4. Making the kite is more than half the fun. Success is sweeter when it’s hard earned. It’s also hard to call success asuccess if you did not work for it.

5. It’s all about choices. We choose our kite, we choose our string, we choose the timing for flying it, we choose who to flyit with. The quality of the experience depends on the quality of our choices. It is true with kite flying as it is with living.

6. You don’t just throw away a kite that won’t fly well. You try to do something about it by adjusting the balance of thestring. Maybe a tail can help or additional weight on the left or on the side depending on the kite’s behavior on air. Youdon't’ throw away a life just because things are not going well. You figure out how to make it better and actually dosomething.

7. You can’t fly boka-boka (the simplest kite) forever, you graduate to more awesome and perhaps bigger kites. To anaverage enthusiast, flying a Gurion (bigger more complex kite)is the ultimate goal. Even as children we are taught tochallenge ourselves to pursue bigger things. When we fail to do that as grownups we betray our natural design.

8. If I lose a kite, it’s good to know that I can use what I learned from the experience to build a better kite or how to fly akite better. Nothing is really totally lost or wasted. Even when we lose something or fail at something in our lives thereis always something to be gained - the lesson on how to become better.

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DrinkTake a swig, then another and another.

But do not hurry, drink slowly

Let it linger, taste the sweet, notice the bitter and feelthe bite.

Acknowledge how it flows down your throat and thento your body.

Be engulfed by its spirit, feel how it turns your worldaround.

Be here now. Savour every breath, every humanexperience.

Let today explain yesterday. Let tomorrow take careof tomorrow.

Take what you are given, give back as much as youcan.

Drink life, enjoy it, experience it, be intoxicated by it.Know the low, appreciate the high.

Notice who you are drinking with

Every moment is important only if you live thatmoment.

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Stick Your Neck Out

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You can’t move forward if you do not stick your neck out. A turtle retreats to its shell when it senses danger. It’s this behavior that keeps it safe from some predators.

We do this a lot of times, we retreat to our own shells when we are facing risks or when we are challenged. We sometimes forget that turtles stay where they are when they are stuck inside their shell and the only way to move forward is to stick their neck out and take a risk…

Take a risk in life, stick your neck out, that is the only way to move forward.

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About Ed

Edwin is the founder and President of ExeQserve, Corporation, an HR Solutions Company. He is also the company’s headconsultant for Organization Development and Human Resource Development.

Ed developed his skills in training, recruitment, human resource management, organization development and managementconsulting through twenty years of collective experience in the retail, financial, BPO and HR consulting business.

Before his founding of ExeQserve, Ed was HR Director/Manager for CheQ Systems, Athena E-Services and PET Plans’Subsidiary Companies. He was also Head of Training for SPI Technologies, Inc. and Philippine Seven Corporation, the localfranchise owner of 7-Eleven Convenience Stores.

HRMD Strategies Development and ImplementationEd facilitated a number of strategy formulation, policy writing and change management for the implementation of employeehandbooks, compensation programs, performance management system, competency-based HRD, incentive schemes andretention programs for companies like CORE, Mobext, Numlock, ALC holdings, SEARCA, Tenkiebox, Provincial

Governments of Bohol and Guimaras.Learning Activity Design and Implementation

Ed developed dozens of courses and workshops on topics like high performance leadership, supervision, management,change, creativity, coaching, personal effectiveness, values alignment, career planning, maintaining discipline in theworkplace, trainers’ training, presentation skills enhancement, assertive communication, strategic planning and team

building. His creativity and skill in learning activity design enables Ed to customize programs based on the identified needsof clients.

Industry ExperienceEd has worked with organizations in various industries and sectors. He is an accredited learning service provider of

Philippine-Australia Human Resource and Organization Development Facility (PAHRODF) and has done work for OPAPP,NEDA, NAMRIA, DILG and two provincial governments through the facility. He worked closely with companies in the IT,Financial, Marketing, Manufacturing and other service industries in identifying their needs, formulating, customizing anddelivering solutions that lead to desired results.

Personal AdvocaciesEd is particularly passionate about helping develop skills of the HR practitioners in the country and develop the careers ofindividuals through his blogs http://anythinghr.blogspot.com and http://pinoycareercoach.blogspot.com . He is also an activemember of Toastmasters where he helps mentor members who wish to enhance their public speaking skills.

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