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ThankyouforchoosingTheWomanNextDoorforyourbookclub.Idohopeyouenjoyreadingit.Herearesomediscussionpointsyoumayliketouse.

WRITINGSTYLEThebookistoldfrommultipleperspectives.Thefourwomentellthemajorityofthestory,butthemen,forexampleMacandLeo,alsohavesectionsoftheirown.Howdothesemultipleperspectivesaffectthereadingexperience?Whydoyouthinktheauthorincludedthemalevoices?CHARACTERSJoyceandHelenseemtobeunlikelybestfriends.Joyceisquiet,aimstopleaseandwillgiveintoavoidconflict.Helenisdirectandcanbeabrasive.Onpage173Joycethinks‘Perhaps…lifeislikethat,peoplechange.I’vechanged.Helenhaschanged.We’vesimplyoutgrownourfriendship.Whateverthecauses,somethingthatwasonceveryprecioushasjudderedtoahaltandrestartingitisoutofthequestion.’Whatdoyouthinkthecausesare?Whyweretheysuchgoodsfriendsinthefirstplace?BothJoyceandHelenarepre-dominantlystay-at-homewivesandmothers.WhydoesJoyceseemtobecomparativelysomuchhappierthanHelenandseeminglybetterequippedtodealwithgrowingolder?LeoandHelenarenotverylikeablecharacters.Doyoufeelanysympathyforthem?Isthereanyonecharacterfromwhomyouwouldhaveliketohaveheardmore?Why?

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THEMESCHANGEOnpage35Joyce‘feelsasthoughsheisonthethresholdofsomething:anewwayoflife,anewwayofbeingherself,butshehasnoideahowtostepintothat.’Allofthewomenarestrugglingwithchange:Joyceislookingtodefineherselfoutsideofhermarriage;Pollyisopeningherselfuptoloveforthefirsttimeinyears;Heleniscomingtotermswithherownunhappinessandseparatingfromherpartner;andStella’smentalhealthisdeteriorating.Whatdoeachofthesewomenrelyontohelpthemthroughtheprocessofchange?Whodoesitbetterandwhy?Onpage42,Pollysays‘isn’titstrangethatwe’resoold?’Onthefollowingpageshesays‘Isn’titoddthatinsideyourselfyouknowyou’rethesamepersonbutsuddenlyyouseeyourselfinamirrororreflectedinashopwindowandthink–whoisthatoldpersonthatlooksabitlikeme?’Howdoeachofthecharacters,maleandfemale,dealwiththerealityofgrowingolder?RELATIONSHIPSANDINDEPENDENCEWhateffectdothechangesinthewomen’slives(discussedinthepreviousquestion)haveontheirindependence?Onpage190,Helensays‘it’sdifferentwhenit’sjustwomen…notasimportant,notquitetherealthing.’Towhatextentdoeachofthewomenhavelivesindependentofmeninthenovel?Stellaisafiercelyindependentwoman,stillworkingattheageof80,whichmakesherstrugglewithAlzheimer’sandherlossofindependenceallthemorepoignant.PollyisStella’sclosestfriend.WhencontemplatinghavingtocareforStella,shesaysonpage258‘IsupposeIhadn’trealisedthatIwas–am–suchaselfishperson.’DoyouagreethatPolly,andthewayshecaresforandmanagesStellathroughherillness,isselfish?Onpage293,DorothygivesPollysomeadviceaboutcopingwithStella’sAlzheimer’s.Shesays,‘Thisiswhosheisnow.YoustillseetheoldStellaandyougraspatthatbutyoucan’tmakehercomebackandyoushouldn’ttry.’

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WhatdoyouthinkoftheadviceDorothygivesPolly?Leoreflectsonrelationshipsonpage233:‘TheprospectofdomesticblissinretirementhasalwaysappalledLeo,butnow,facedwiththeblackholethatseemsabouttoswallowhim,heisawarethatheisentirelyunpreparedforoldageandunwillingtochangeanyaspectofhislifetoaccommodateit.’ Leo and Polly are both in their sixties and single, yet Polly is not nearly as apprehensive about growing old alone as Leo. Why do you think that is? To the reader, Leo’s flaws are evident from early in the novel. Polly is an intelligent, independent woman: what makes us react negatively to him so quickly and why does it take Polly so long to see what we see? ‘She’llthinkwe’rebeingverygrown-up!Verymodern.’(p8)AlthoughStelladoesindeedcommentonJoyceandMac’srelationshipasbeing‘verymodern’,infactthestoryincludesvariousexamplesof‘modern’families/relationships,forexample,AlistairandSteve,orNickandGemma.Canyoupointtoanyotherexamplesofrelationshipsorfamiliesinthebookwhichmightbeconsidered‘modern’?Doyouthinkthebookisrealisticinitsportrayalofrelationshipsingeneral?Whatdoyouthinktheauthormeansby‘modern’?