the state of our unions: april 11 - am men are computerswomen are cell phones

The State of Our Unions:

April 11 - AM

Men are Computers Women are cell phones

Typical Situation

• Husband arrives home from work

• Wife says, “I don’t know how we can do it. You’re late. Richie has a game an hour from here. One of us has to get him there by 7:00. Jordan has a game here in town. Katey is cheering at Jordan’s game but she has a game right ahead of his. Daniel has practice at …”

Typical Situation• Wife realizes her husband has heard

nothing after the words “You’re late.”

• Most wives will agree – their husband is a computer– After a few seconds – the screen saver kicks in– When there is information overload – it locks

up and must be rebooted

• This wife realized – She is married to a computer

Typical Situation• The husband has been telling his wife that

she is a cell phone.• When he arrives home – she starts talking

– Everything that happened during her day– All the bad news about the washer, taxes, and

the kids being sick

• Cell phones go off unexpectedly• They ring at inopportune moments• Wives keep calling until they get an answer

Different Wiring

Women are Cell PhonesTwo-way communication – talk

and listen at the same time

Men are ComputersOne way communication –

send email or photo

Wired Differently

• Dr. James Dobson – Love for a Lifetime

• “Research makes it clear that little girls are blessed with greater linguistic ability than little boys, and it remains a lifelong talent. Simply stated, she talks more than he.”

• Men speak about 25,000 words a day

• Women speak about 50,000 words a day

Wired Differently• When the man gets home – he has used

about 98% of his daily allowance• He is down to simple phrases:

– “Butter”– “Any desert?”– “Where’s the paper?”

• She still has most of her allotment.– She calls – gets a busy signal– Actually – the computer is in sleep mode

Wired Differently• They have much in common

• Both have digital chips, memory, battery

• Both are designed to communicate

• Both need a connection

• Now cell phones can send and receive email from computers

Communication

• A man asked a marriage counselor if they really needed to learn to communicate.

• The counselor asked, “What is your wife’s favorite flower?”

• After thinking for a moment answered, “It is Pillsbury – All Purpose.”

• The State of our Unions –

We Need Communication

Need for Communication

• For Bible Study• Acts 17:2-3 - 2Then Paul,

as his custom was, went in to them, and for three Sabbaths reasoned with them from the Scriptures, 3explaining and demonstrating that the Christ had to suffer and rise again from the dead, and saying, “This Jesus whom I preach to you is the Christ.”


• For Bible Study• Romans 10:14-15 - 14How

then shall they call on Him in whom they have not believed? And how shall they believe in Him of whom they have not heard? And how shall they hear without a preacher? 15And how shall they preach unless they are sent? As it is written: “How beautiful are the feet of those who preach the gospel of peace, Who bring glad tidings of good things!”


• For Bible Study

• To work together

• We must learn to cooperate with each other

• Humans are smart but not mind readers

• If we are going to work together, we must communicate


• For Bible Study

• To work together

• To settle disputes and disagreements

• Acts 15:6-7 - 6Now the apostles and elders came together to consider this matter. 7And when there had been much dispute, Peter rose up and said to them: “Men and brethren, you know that a good while ago God chose among us, that by my mouth the Gentiles should hear the word of the gospel and believe.

Prerequisites to Communicate

• Proper attitude - love• 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 - 4Love

suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.


• Proper attitude – love• Don’t make

assumptions

• Don’t make gossip the basis for your communication

• Do not assume you know what the other is thinking

• Jumping to conclusions is a dangerous sport



assumptions• Stay pure in speech

• Ephesians 4:29 - Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.



assumptions• Stay pure in speech• Control your anger

• Ephesians 4:26 - Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,



assumptions• Stay pure in speech• Control your anger• Keep your arms down



assumptions• Stay pure in speech• Control your anger• Keep your arms down• Keep the voice calm

Rules of Communication

• Right time / Wrong time

• Matthew 10:16 - Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves. Therefore be wise as serpents and harmless as doves.



• Luke 16:8b - For the sons of this world are more shrewd in their generation than the sons of light.



• Be quick to hear

• James 1:19 - So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath;



• Be quick to hear• Be slow to speak

• James 1:19 - So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath;



• Be quick to hear• Be slow to speak• Speak calmly

• Proverbs 15:1-2 1

A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger. 2 The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, But the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness.



• Be quick to hear• Be slow to speak• Speak calmly• Speak without

distortion of the truth

• Two simple rules:

1. NEVER say “Never”

2. ALWAYS avoid “Always”



• Be quick to hear• Be slow to speak• Speak calmly• Speak without

distortion of the truth• Be patient

• Ephesians 4:2 - with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love,

Communication:

• Men are computers

• Women are cell phones

• We MUST learn to communicate– In our marriages and homes– On our job– In the church

• How is your communication with God?

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