the matchbook method – meet ups that, get you the girl!

8/10/2019 The Matchbook Method Meet Ups That, Get You the Girl!

1/20


2/20

Copyright 2009, All Rights Reserved. No part of this handbook may be used,

transferred or reproduced in any form or by any means without prior written

permission of the author. The information presented herein represents the view

of the author as of the date of publication. The information in this handbook is for

entertainment purposes only. You assume full responsibility for the

consequences of your own actions. The Matchbook Method and the author shallhave neither liability nor responsibility for your use or misuse of the information in

this Handbook. Because of the rate with which new techniques and information

are discovered by the author, the author reserves the right to alter and update his

opinion based on the new conditions. While every attempt has been made to

verify the information provided in this handbook, the author does not assume any

responsibility for errors, inaccuracies or omissions. This handbook is for

entertainment purposes only.


3/20

Table of Contents

Introduction 4

Meet Ups

! !!!!" BOOK STORE 6

! !!!!! OPERATION SHOEBOX 7

! !!!!! CAKE DECORATING CONTEST 8

! !!!"" ICE BLOCKING 9! !!!!! TOY STORE 10

! !!!"" DRIVING RANGE/PUTTING CONTEST 11

! !!!"" THE ZOO 12

! !!!!" PICNIC & PLANES 12

! !!!"" POTTERY/CERAMICS PAINTING 13

! !!!!" SALSA DANCE LESSON 14

(Seasonal) Meet Ups

! !!!"" HALLOWEEN COSTUME SHOPPING 15

! !!!!! THE PUMPKIN PATCH 16

! !!!"" HAUNTED HOUSE 17

! !!!"" HOLIDAY SHOPPING 18

! !!!!" PIE BAKING 19

Last Minute Tips! 20


4/20

matchbookmethod

4

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

D Hey, Action Jackson here with The Matchbook Method, and as goofy as some

of the Meet Up locations & ideas in this chapter maysound, they are all field-tested and proven to score you major points with the girl. Not only do theydemonstrate adventurousness and spontaneity, they are also specificallydesigned to do 5 Very Important things:

1) Set you apart from the clich, boring dates shes probably used to.

2) Create optimal opportunities to flirt, kiss, and escalate!

3) Let you control the frame and be the leaderthe alpha male!

4) Hit multiple venues/locations, which accelerates comfort building.

5) Begin at a public placeand end up back at your place.

WAIT!! What About Meeting For Coffee, Food, or Drinks?

In a moment Im going to show you various meet ups that will win her over andget you more action than Hugh Hefner. But first, let me say something aboutthe clich meet ups and dates were all used to. Ill admit itsometimes Imlazy and just go out for coffee, food, drinks, etc. But heres why its notrecommended: If you arent careful these types of dates can easily get youthrown into the friend zone. Why? Because you have to rely primarily on your

conversational skills to generate attraction and build rapport. This can turn intoa chore unless you and her naturally have great chemistry. If you do findyourself on one of these dates here are a few guidelines to give you the bestchance of winning the girl over:


5/20

matchbookmethod

5

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

D

Avoid the following:

" Sitting across from each other.

This limits opportunities for playful touching & sealing that first kiss early on!

" Boring, interview-style conversation.

This usually happens when you run out of interesting things to talk about.Its good to ask her questions, but give her a run for her money. Ask herstimulating questions like what would she want to be if there was no chanceof failure? Or if she could only call one person in the next 24 hours whowould it be?

" Paying for all her drinks, food, etc.

This sub-communicates a weak frame and shows shes already won youover. Its best to split the tab 50/50 or go back and forth (i.e. you buy themovie tickets, she buys the popcorn). P.S. That wasnt a recommendation togo see a movie. A three-hour date with a two-hour movie is not a good wayto build attraction and comfort.

One exception for paying is if its only a few bucks, in which case dont be a cheap ass,

pick up the tab and tell her she can get it next time.

" Sharing too much too soon.

No matter how trustworthy you think she is or how comfortable you feelaround her, dont spill your guts! Sharing too much personal info screamsdesperate and needy. Likewise, if she starts sharing too much a redCAUTION flag should go up in your head.

I Forgot To Mention One Last Thing

Normally, if you were meeting someone for the first time in person youd wantto limit your options and put safety first. For example, drive your own car, meetin a crowded public place, and keep the meet up short. But remember, a 6 to8-message conversation online using Matchbook Method attraction techniquesis equivalent to spending 2-3 hours with each other at dinner. By the time youmeet up you should (and will) feel like you have known each other a long time.


6/20

matchbookmethod

6

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

D

Book Store!!!!"

Venues:Book Store

Cost:FREE

SUMMARY: Meet at a bookstore. Each of you picks out your favoritechildrens book. She reads you the book you picked and vice-versa.

Book Store: Have her meet you at a big bookstore that has a childrenssection with seating. Tell her to pick out her favorite childrens book and youdo the same. Find a little kids table or some chairs, get cozy, and have herread you the book you picked out. Then read her the one she picked out. Youcan seed this meet up idea in your online conversation by telling her you haveto get a book for your little cousins birthday and shes going to help you pick

it out. The beauty is you dont have to buy a book that day. You can alwayssay, None of these seem right for her, I want to get her something else.

Kiss Escalation Opportunities:You can get in some playful flirting and teasingwhile looking around for books, but your main escalation/kissing opportunitycomes when you sit down next to each other and read. For this reason, try topick out a book about a prince and princess to set the tone.


7/20

matchbookmethod

7

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

D

Operation Shoebox!!!!!

Venues:Shoe Store, Superstore, Your Place

Cost:$15

SUMMARY:Meet at a shoe store and get an empty shoebox. Then bounce toa superstore and fill shoebox with items for a soldier overseas. Then bounceback to your place to pack and wrap it. This activity scores major points with

the ladies, plus you're supporting the troops. Check outwww.operationshoebox.com to see what items are recommended and how tomail your shoebox.

Shoe Store:Have her meet you at a shoe store. If she asks, Why? just tellher, Youll see. Spend time at the store browsing the shoes and doing someplayful teasing and flirting. Ask someone in the store for an empty shoebox.No shoe store near you? You can skip that part and get a shoebox from theshoe section of the superstore.

Superstore: Walk around together filling the shoebox with items for a soldierfighting in the war.

Your Place:Invite her back to your place to pack and wrap the shoebox. Tellher that she can only stay a few minutes because you have a lot ofwork/studying to do. Shell be much more open to coming over.

Kiss Escalation Opportunities:You should get in some good flirting and playfultouching at the different stores. At your place is where the two of you will bealone and you can easily kiss her and more!


8/20

matchbookmethod

8

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

D

Cake Decorating Contest!!!!!

Venues:Grocery Store, Your Place, Main Street

Cost:$10

SUMMARY:Here's another philanthropist-style meet up. Either bake or buytwo undecorated cakes and have a cake-decorating contest. If you get messyand have fun it's a great opportunity for some physical escalation. Afterwards,go find a couple homeless people to give your cakes to. They especiallyappreciate it if it's Rum Cake. j/k., but seriously...they do.

Grocery Store: Have her meet you at a grocery store near your place. If sheasks, Why the grocery store? just reply, Youll see. Pick out two small,undecorated cakes and get some icing and toppings. If they dont have smallcakes just get one and each decorate a different half of the cake. This isactually better because it forces you guys to be close during the messydecorating. When she meets you at the grocery store tell her the game plan:The two of you are going to have a cake decorating contest, and youre goingto win, and then youre going to give the cake to a homeless person.

Your Place:Invite her back to your place to decorate the cake If she refuses to

go back to your place then have an alternate plan set up (i.e. A park nearby).

Main Street:Head off back into the city and find someone to give the caketoo. If youre in a nice suburban or rural area and there are no homelesspeople around then you can always deliver it to a friends house as a playfulsurprise for him or him. Or just keep it and eat it yourself. Or tell her she has tostop back by this week to have some. The possibilities are endless.

Kiss Escalation Opportunities:You should get in some good flirting and playfultouching at the grocery store, but the main venue for escalation and kissing is

at your place while youre decorating the cake. Its especially fun if you getinto a food fight with the toppings. The next thing you know youre doing bodyshots off each other with the icing. Squirt some icing on her face near hermouth then casually say, Let me get that off for you. Dont be surprised ifyoure making out within 10 minutes.


9/20

matchbookmethod

9

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

D

Ice Blocking!!!""

Venues:Grocery/Convenience Store, Grassy Park with Hill/Golf Course

Cost:$5

SUMMARY:This is only for the adventurous. Find a grocery or conveniencestore near you that sells blocks of ice. Buy two of them and find a park or golf

course with some hills. Climb to the top and race each other down the hill onyour ice blocks! I like sneaking onto private golf courses at night to add theextra thrill of hoping security night watch doesn't catch you. Also, at nighttimeit's easier to physically escalate at the bottom of the hill after a few runs. Bringtowels to put on the ice blocks so your ass doesnt freeze off!

Grocery/Convenience Store:Have her meet you at a grocery or conveniencestore where you know they sell big blocks of ice, (they are about the size of alarge shoebox). Grab a couple blocks and drive her to a grassy park with ahill or find a golf course.

Park/Golf Course:Grab your blocks of ice and towels and climb to the top ofa hill. Race each other down the hill on your ice blocks! Be carefulyou getgoing really fast! The ice blocks arent that big so you can either sit on it withyour feet out or curl up in the fetal position so your butt and heels fit on it.

Kiss Escalation Opportunities:You should get in some good flirting at the storeto warm things up. The real opportunity comes after you two have wiped out atthe bottom of the hill. Remember, its even easier to escalate if you go at night!


10/20

matchbookmethod

10

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

D Toy Store!!!!!

Venues:Toy Store, Convenience Store, Grassy Park/Your Place

Cost:$15-20

SUMMARY:Have her meet you at a toy store. Pick out a board game to play

at a park or your place. Stop by a convenience store and get some ice cream,drinks, or snacks before heading to the park. Play the game and make fun,special prizes for the winner. I recommend kisses.

Toy Store: Meet at a toy store and pick out a fun board game. There are somereally good ones that are inexpensive, like the one with the slides and ladders(I cant say the real name for Trademark reasons).

Convenience Store: Stop at a convenience store on the way and get somedrinks or snacks for the park. If youre headed back to your place you could

stop for ice cream.

Park/Your Place:Throw a blanket down on the grass at a park or the carpet inyour living room and play the game. Winner gets a special prize!

Kiss Escalation Opportunities:The best opportunity to kiss her and escalate willbe at the park or at your place. You can throw in a little kiss prize for thewinner of the game. I like to bring a few chocolate kisses and give her one asa joke if she wins. This relaxes both of us. Then I go in for the real kiss.


11/20

matchbookmethod

11

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

D

Driving Range/Putting Contest!!!""

Venues:Driving Range, Putting Green

Cost:$8

SUMMARY:This is the grown-up, less clich version of mini-golf. Putt-putt is fun,but taking full swings is even better! You do need your own golf clubs though.

Meet at a local driving range, buy a bucket of balls, and whack away! Thengo have a putting contest on the putting green. Putt for kisses!

Driving Range:Have her meet you at a store or restaurant NEAR a drivingrange. Then have her hop in your car or follow you to the driving range, (thispreserves the spontaneity of the date. Buy a bucket of balls, pull out yourdriver, and start whacking away. Do NOT try to impress your date. Instead,have fun and turn it into a game. See who can get closest to a flag. If the golfball collector is out there in his caged cart try and aim for him! See who can dothe most successful Happy Gilmore swing impression. Etc. etc.

Putting Green:Make sure you save a few balls for the putting green! Start aputting contest with her where the winner gets a kiss. Hint:Make it so if shewins she gets to give YOU a kiss. Youre the prize to be won.

Kiss Escalation Opportunities: If youre an avid golfer you can do the olstand behind her and show her what a proper swing feels like. The mainkissing opportunities come on the putting green where you can have contestsand make special prizes and more! The first contest could be for an Eskimo kiss(rubbing noses together) the second for a kiss on the cheek the third for the

lips. Shell be more open to kissing you if you work your way up instead ofgoing caveman on her.


12/20

matchbookmethod

12

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

D

The Zoo!!!""

Venues:Your Local Zoo

Cost:$10/Ticket

SUMMARY:Have her meet you at the zoo! This one is self-explanatory.

Zoo:Meet at your local zoo and enjoy yourselves! Take pictures together withthe animals. You can pay for the tickets and have her pay for lunch or treats.The zoo will score you a lot of comfort building points so you can escalate likecrazy the next time you hang out.

Kiss Escalation Opportunities:The zoo isnt the best for escalation, but you can

sneak in some kisses and playful touching if youre slick. Tell her to give you akiss on the cheek while taking a picture together. Use the animal-humanrelationship to demonstrate how much humans and animals are alike. Forexample: getting aroused through hair pulling, neck biting, etc. You must dothese correctly or else shell just feel awkward.

Picnic & Planes!!!!"

Venues:Grocery Store, Airport

Cost:$15

Summary:Remember the scene in Waynes World where they are chilling onthe car watching planes fly over and land? Thats sort of what this is.

Grocery Store:Have her meet you at a grocery store. Pick out some food orsnacks. Ice cream is always a good one.

Airport:Take YOUR car and drive her to your local airport. Find a good spotunderneath where planes descend in to land. Make a picnic and watch theplanes fly over.

Kiss Escalation Opportunities:You should get in some good flirting and playfultouching at the grocery store. At the airport is where the two of you will bealone and you can easily kiss her and more!


13/20

matchbookmethod

13

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

D Pottery/Ceramics Painting!!!""

Venues:Ceramics Studio

Cost:$12-15

SUMMARY: Have her meet you at a ceramics studio or arts and crafts place.

Pick out some ceramics and paint them to your desire. I guarantee you shehasnt done this in a long time, if ever!

Ceramics Studio:Research a ceramics studio near you that lets you buy andpaint ceramics. Have her meet you there but dont tell her what the place is,just give the address or describe the building, location, etc. Shell be thrilledwhen she finds out. Since this is YOUR idea, tell her youre each going to painteach others ceramic. Shes sure to remember you when she takes your paintedceramic home. Also, women are usually more artistic than men so youll windup with the better-looking one!

Kiss Escalation Opportunities:There arent a lot of opportunities for kissing,but you can get in a lot of playful touching and flirting while sitting at the tablepainting. This activity begs for playful teasing and poking fun at each other,which builds a lot of comfort and keeps her attraction temperature up at thesame time!


14/20

matchbookmethod

14

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

DSalsa Dance Lesson

!!!!"

Venues:Dance Studio/Salsa Club

Cost:FREE

SUMMARY:When it comes to physical escalation nothing is better and morenatural than a salsa dance lesson. Have her meet you at a studio or clubwhere they give free salsa lessons. Every city Ive lived in has had a venue thatoffered free group lessons.

Dance Studio/Salsa Club: Invite her to the local salsa club to dance. Whenshe asks, You know how to salsa? you can playfully reply, I will soon.Similar to the driving range golf meet up, dont worry about your performanceor trying to impress her. It will take all the fun out of it.

Kiss Escalation Opportunities: This whole damn activity is sexual, so takeadvantage of it! However, since salsa is such a sexual dance, I recommendusing it as an opportunity to use a lot of push/pull and teasing. For example,go in for the kiss, get as close as possible, then pull away. Falsely accuse herof slapping your ass and call her naughty for it. Bite her neck. Dig yourfingertips into her upper back. Pull her neck back by the roots of her hair.There are unlimited options for escalation, and because its appropriate for thesituation shes going to enjoy it that much more!


15/20

matchbookmethod

15

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

D

Halloween Costume Shopping!!!""

Venues:Costume Store

Cost:FREE (unless you find a good costume)

SUMMARY:This one is pretty straightforward. Meet at a Halloween costumestore and try on costumes together.

Halloween Costume Store:Have her meet you at a big Halloween costumestore where they have dressing rooms for trying on costumes. Browse aroundand try on silly ones, sexy ones, etc. If she tries on a sexy costume make sureyou dont gawk at her.

Kiss Escalation Opportunities:This is great scenario to escalate and tease herat the same time. Like we talked about earlier, if she tries on a sexy costumedont stand there drooling over her. Use it as an opportunity for a playfulpush/pull tease. For example, when she comes out of the dressing roomlooking hot as hell you could casually say, That looks cute on you, more or

less. The best scenario is to sneak into a dressing room together so you areisolated and can go for the kiss. Hint: If she allows you to go inside a dressingroom with her that means she WANTS you to make a move. Nows not thetime to be shy. Kiss her already!


16/20

matchbookmethod

16

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

D

The Pumpkin Patch!!!!!

Venues:Grocery Store, Pumpkin Patch, Your Place

Cost:$20 ($10 - Tools & Candles, $10 - Two Pumpkins)

SUMMARY:Have her meet you at a grocery store. Buy some pumpkin carvingtools, little candles, etc. Then go to a pumpkin patch and pick out a couplepumpkins. Take them back to your place and carve them. Turn the carving intoa contest or game.

Grocery Store:Sometimes grocery stores have pumpkins, but try and go to a

real pumpkin patch. Have her meet you at a grocery store near a pumpkinpatch so you can get the tools you need to carve your pumpkins.

Pumpkin Patch: Cruise over to the pumpkin patch and spend some timepicking out your pumpkins. Dont separate and look for your own, look foreach others together. Pumpkins are cheap so have her pay for them since youpaid for the carving tools. Hint:Get small pumpkinsthey are cheaper andtake less time to carve.

Your Place:Go back to your place to carve your pumpkins. Turn it into a fun,

unconventional carving and have the two of you carve your pumpkins to looklike each other. Dont show each other until youre both done. Have fun withitmake your carving of her a big bucktooth jack-o-lantern or cross-eyed. Ifthings are going well have her stick around to bake pumpkin seeds. Watch amovie or play a board game while theyre in the oven cooking. Or show heryour bedroom ;)

Kiss Escalation Opportunities:You should get in a lot of playful teasing at thepumpkin patch. The kissing opportunity comes when youre back at your place.Just like the cake decorating contest you can let things get messy and sexual.

You can also make the prize for the best pumpkin a kiss from the other person.


17/20

matchbookmethod

17

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

D Haunted House!!!""

Venues:Haunted House

Cost:$10-15/Ticket

SUMMARY:Have her meet you at a professional haunted house. For safety

and comfort reasons, this one is best done with a group of people, so inviteyour friends and tell her to bring some of her own. Haunted houses are verydark so youll still be able to escalate and isolate her, but she will feel muchmore comfortable knowing her friends are around.

Haunted House:Meet at a haunted house and be sure to tell her ahead oftime what youre doing in case she hates haunted houses or doesnt feel up toit. Let her buy her own ticket. Shes not your girlfriendyet. After the hauntedhouse suggest doing something else, like getting ice cream or hot cider, etc.Remember to be confident and assertive as opposed to asking. Say, Im

totally craving a caramel apple cider. I know a great place really close tohere. This is important to say because it tells her you arent planning onkeeping her out long. It also lets you isolate her from the group.

Kiss Escalation Opportunities: There are usually waiting lines at hauntedhouses so use that time to get in some playful teasing and comfort building. Itsalso a great time to raise her attraction temperature so shell be in the mood tokiss and stay close to you inside. If the opportunity presents itself, pull her intoa spot out of the main traffic flow and kiss her. After you kiss her playfully say,Okay, now I feel MUCH safer! I think I can go forward.


18/20

matchbookmethod

18

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

DHoliday Shopping

!!!""

Venues:Grocery/Gift Store, Mall/Shopping Center, Your Place

Cost:$5 Wrapping Paper + Price of the presents you buy

SUMMARY:Have her meet you at a grocery store or gift store where you canbuy wrapping paper. Then go to your favorite mall/shopping center and do

some Christmas/Chanukah/holiday shopping together. Take the presents youbuy back to your place and wrap them together.

Grocery/Gift Store:Have her meet you at a grocery/gift store near where youwant to shop. Buy some wrapping paper, gift tags, etc. The point of meeting atthe grocery store is also so you can drive together in your car when you goshopping.

Mall/Shopping Center:Go to a big mall or shopping center and shop forpresents together. This is a pretty open-ended activity so its up to you to makeit a good time. Tease her about what shes going to get YOU for Christmas.Have her help you pick out gifts for the women in your life. (I dont mean othergirls youre dating, I mean your mom, sister, etc.)

Kiss Escalation Opportunities:Youll have to create opportunities for isolationand escalation. A classic scenario is sneaking into dressing rooms together.Remember, if she goes into a dressing room with you she wants to be kissed,and maybe more.


19/20

matchbookmethod

19

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

DPie Baking!!!!"

Venues:Grocery Store, Your Place

Cost:$10

SUMMARY:Have her meet you at a grocery store so you can buy theingredients for the pie. This meet up has its own advantage: you have to endup at your place since you need a place to bake it. Bake the pie together. Youcan either invite her to stay while its baking or if she has to go invite her backlater or another day to have a slice.

Grocery Store:Have her meet you at a grocery store near your place. Bringthe list of ingredients you need and shop for them together.

Your Place:Go back to your place to bake the pie. Driving her back to your

place in your car is always the best scenario, but either way shes going to bein your home so its not crucial. Throw some aprons on and go to work.

Kiss Escalation Opportunities:Dont be afraid to let things get messy. Try anddo everything together so youll have a reason for some flirtatious touching.Use the same escalation and kiss strategy as the cake decorating meet up.


20/20

matchbookmethod

20

A

T

C

H

B

O

O

K

E

T

H

O

D

Last Minute Tips!

" Ultimately, your attitude and personality will play a bigger role (than the

actual meet up activity) in determining how much fun you have. Ill say it

again, its up to you to make these meet ups fun and adventurous, instead of

feeling like errands. If youre enthusiastic and excited when you spring the

meet up idea/location on her shell be much more open to doing it.

" Dont ask her if she wants to come along, tell her you want her to come

along! Be confident and alpha.

" If she isnt available that day or she flakes on you, dont recycle thesame meet up idea next time.Pick a different one.

" Getting a 2nddate vs. getting tossed into the friend zone all hinders on

making your intentions known that you are interested in a romantic

relationship, not just a friendship.You never want to come right out and

say it though, so communicate through physical escalation. Make sure you do

a lot of playful touching and teasing as right from the introduction. Dont shake

her hand when you first meet, hug her! If she puts out her hand say, I only

give hugs.

" Kiss her within the first 30-45 minutes.Do not wait until the end of the

night. Waiting until the end will just make it harder to pull the trigger. Why?

Because the longer you wait the more tension will build, and by the end of the

night there will be so much tension it will be very hard to kiss her. I promise

you if you break the ice early with a kiss the rest of the night will be smooth

sailing, and youll definitely get the girl!

To your success,

Action Jackson

the matchbook method – meet ups that, get you the girl!

Documents