the good parent: mentorship in the jungle presented by: dr. chris harper
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The Zoo Revolution
The Good Parent: Mentorship in the Jungle
Presented by:Dr. Chris Harper
The Zoo
What is the Zoo Revolution
The Power of a Cage
1. Clinical Depression2. Learned Helplessness
The Results of Cages
How Did We Get To the Zoo?
The History of Organizations
The Machine
This company runs like a “well oiled machine”
Efficient, Effective, Productive
The Machine
The workers within an organization are simply viewed as “parts” that can be replaced or
upgraded as needed.
“You are replaceable”
TheHawthorne Studies
1927….. The year that we discovered people
The Family
A group consisting of parent/parents and children living in a household
A group of people related to one another by blood or marriage
Family
“These definitions are based on how you are related, not based on how you relate”-Dr. Chris harper
“They are based on groupings not functions within the group!”-Me
“Functional or Dysfunctional”-You
Re-thinking family
Latin: Famulus…..familia……. Family
“A household of servants”
The Zoo“Revolution”
Moving from cages to jungles!
You can be a “family” in a zoo!
You must be a “Famulia” in a jungle
The Power of Influence
Hans the Horse and the Super Rats
The Blue/Brown Studies and Pygmalion in the classroom
The Good ParentModel
The Theory of the Looking Glass Self
The Stanford Prison Guards
Stanley Milgrim
Little Believers
Knowing – Doing - Believing
The Parable ofThe Wineskins
It does no good to pour new wine into old wineskins, for they shall break and
the wine be wasted.-Jesus
Little Believers
I Matter – The lesson of identityYou Matter – The lesson of relationship
I Can – The lesson of creativityI Should – The lesson of morality
We is Greater Than Me – The lesson of collaboration
A Tale of TwoParents
“A house divided against itself can not stand”-Jesus
Theory X
People are inherently lazy, unproductive, and avoid work
Leadership Tools: The Carrot and The Stick
Theory Y
Work is as natural as play
Leadership Tools: Relationship and Vision
Martin Buber
Ich – EsIch – Du
Those really are people you are sending emails to!
The Good ParentGoal
To reproduce healthy, mature, responsible, productive members of the
jungle!
The Good ParentMantra
I am not simply responsible FOR those on my team……..
I am responsible TO those on my team-Dr. Chris Harper
The Good Parent Habits
They practice the habit of intentionalityThey practice the habit of present presence
They practice the habit of seeing potentialityThey practice the habit of communicating expectation
They practice the habit of constant kindnessThey practice the habit of authentic appreciation
They practice the habit of loving honesty
The Good ParentQuestions
“How can I help you?”“What do you need”
“How can I make your job easier?”“How can I make your job more fun?”
Mentorship is a Two Way Process
“Better Sheep make better shepherds”-Dr. Chris Harper
FollowershipMaking
Better Sheep
“A great sheep is part child, part thief, and part artist”
- Me
Better Sheep
The Child: Follow the leader
Open your eyes to the world around youClose your mouth, except when it should be open
Listen to your teacher
Better Sheep
The Thief:Takes constructive criticism
Takes responsibility
Better Sheep
The Artist:Make moral choices
Make creative choicesMake the world they inhabit beautiful
Shark Tales and Bamboo lessons
Their ability to grow is related to the cages in which they are placed!
True growth is always deep before it is tall