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IF IT IS TO BE IT IS UP TO ME
Gary V Carter ~~~ 905-601-2110 ~~~ [email protected] ~~~ www.SeeYouNextWeek.info
The Seven Loves
1. The Pastor Loves the People
2. The People Love the Pastor
3. The People Love the Church
4. The People Love Each Other
5. The People Love Newcomers
6. The Church Loves the Community
7. The Newcomer Sees the Love of Jesus
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The Eleven Resolutions
1. I will show up for work at church.
2. I will plan my work and I will work my plan.
3. I will lighten up.
4. I will not sit alone.
5. I will invite people to something.
6. I will keep in touch.
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The Eleven Resolutions
7. I will introduce newcomers to others.
8. I will be friendly but not overbearing.
9. I will become an excellent conversationalist.
10.I will live by the 5 – 10 – 15 Link rule.
11.I will reject rejection.
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Acts 4:12
“Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no
other name under heaven given to mankind by
which we must be saved.”
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Drop By Sometime
STEP #1: The Nine Word Sentence
It is not a question.
It is a statement of your desire.
It starts a conversation.
It lets your contact know what is important to you.
It demonstrates your connection with your contact.
It is incredibly powerful!
“I would like to invite you to my church.”
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Drop By Sometime
STEP #1: The Nine Word Sentence
“I would like to invite you to my church.”
Say it to a neighbour on the left and a neighbour
on the right. STOP TALKING. Listen.
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Drop By Sometime
STEP #2: The Three Word Sentence
“Come and see.”
If “yes” … “Great I will pick you up at _______”
If “no” … “I just thought I should ask. You’re not
offended with me are you?”
If “I’ll try” … they are not coming!
If “yes” … its 50/50
100% of the people you bring with you in your
car will come.
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Drop By Sometime
Don’t present the Gospel.
They need to see the love before they hear of it.
Over 60% think they are already good to go.
If you get them out once your job is to get them out twice. E.g. “Let me buy you lunch after church next week.”
If you keep them coming they will “get it” in time.
Say 9 words to 20 to get 1 to come. Get 2 to come and 1 will stay.
When they hear it 3 times from 3 people they come.
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I'd rather be believed than beloved but
I would rather not be forced to choose.
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Dunbar’s Number
Dr. Robin Dunbar Recently identified that human grouping seem to have
a ceiling of about 150 people
Across cultures and generations
It is only possible to maintain about 150 active relationships
This appears to be a limitation of the brain’s capacity
Each person can know up to 5,000 names of people but only truly have active relationship with about 150
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Dunbar’s Number
150
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Dunbar’s Number
150
Implications
Don’t attempt to be superman/superwoman
Don’t expect anyone else to overperform
Don’t fill up your slots – leave some spaces
Plan to say “yes” – let the other person choose “no”
by their action
“I can help thousands of people but I can only carry
one or two on my back.” (Jim Rohn)
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Dunbar’s Number
150
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Your Candidate List
People you seek out for a specific purpose
A list of people who cross your path
Use checkerboard management as a filter
Agree whose move is next
Define the move
Set the completion expectation
Three prompts and you are out
Genericize your response for multiple uses
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Church Slots = 60
A pastor cannot have a true reciprocal
relationship with as many people as want to
have a relationship with him
If the pastor attempts to meet the relationship
demands in his church …
He will squeeze out other people who belong in his
life
He will burn out
He will become less and less relational
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It is easy to miss something you are not looking for.
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• The single most important thing you can do to grow your church is …
Where is the
highest impact?
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Characteristics
It has to work
It has to be affordable
It has to be easy enough
It has to inspire people
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• The single most important thing you can do to grow your church is …
Where is the
highest impact?
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Take proper care of the newcomers who walk through your
door for the first time!
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This is the low hanging fruit and every
church has some available.
First time newcomers just show up
sometimes. (Typically already initiated.)
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The Five Finger Weekly Check Up
1. Path Before guests even see
where you meet what
can you do to create
anticipation and
brighten their pathway?
2. Parking As visitors enter your
parking lot do they
know exactly where to
go to find the best
place to park?
3. Premises As newcomers leave their car and approach your
building is it as delightful and inviting as possible?
And then when they enter is there something that
creates a wow factor? 4. Process Have you thought through your
process and encouraged everyone
in the church for this moment as
the newcomer enters?
5. People Are your people the most
loving anyone could find -
not overbearing but just
pleasant to be with?
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The Five Finger Weekly Check Up
Which of the five fingers matters the most?
You don’t want anyone to cut off even one finger!
You do want to create the highest impact.
Before you get down to this and call for help.
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The Five Finger Weekly Check Up
5. People
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How Do You Change the People?
You don’t.
You don’t change them all at once.
Change 10-20% of the people and your church
is changed!
You will be bad at it before you get good at it.
This is better caught than taught!
