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Teens and Siblings
Siblings
• Brother and sisters in a family.• Can be the best of friends or the worst of
enemies.• Why would this be true? Give some examples.
Sibling Rivalry
• Competition between brothers and sisters.• Usually created by jealous feelings as they
compete for their parents’ love and attention, or other things.
Supportive Sibling Behavior
• Any action that helps or encourages a sibling.• Can take place in the home or outside the
home.• Give some examples.
Birth Order
• The role a child plays in the home is greatly influenced by his/her birth order.
• This role can also be transferred to school and peer groups.
• What birth order are you? See which category best fits you.
Birth Order QuizCategory A
• Manipulative• Charming• Usually gets his/her
way• Blames others for
things that happen witty
• A show-off• Loves people• Good salesperson• Draws favorable
attention
Birth Order QuizCategory B
• Perfectionist• Reliable• Makes lists• Conscientious• Well-organized
• Serious• Critical• Does well in school• Usually neat and tidy
Birth Order QuizCategory C
• Acts as a go-between in family conflicts
• Has the fewest pictures in the family photo album
• Avoids conflict• Has many friends
• Extremely loyal to peer group (gets mad if parents criticize friends)
• Seems to do things differently than the rest of the family
• Independent
Birth Order Quiz Results
• Every word in these descriptions may not be exactly as you are, but you are to choose the one that fits the best.
• Category A: Youngest• Category B: Oldest• Category C: Middle
Birth Order CharacteristicsFirst Born or Only Child
• Guinea pigs• Perfectionists• Reliable• Conscientious• List makers• Well-organized• Critical• Scholarly• Loyal
• Serious• Goal-oriented• People pleasers• Conservative• Supporters of law and
order• Believers in authority and
ritual• Legalistic• Self-reliant
Birth Order CharacteristicsMiddle Born
• Independent• Loyal to peer group• Many friends• Usually leave home first• Find companionship
outside the home• Feels left out of their
own family• Run with the pack
• Avoid conflict• Least number of
pictures in family albums
• Prone to embarrassment, but won’t admit it
• Secretive• Last to see professional
help
Birth Order CharacteristicsLast Born
• Manipulative• Charming• Blame others• Shows off• People persons• Good salespersons• Precocious• Engaging
• Messy class clowns• Love limelight• Personable
manipulators• Affectionate• Absentminded• Carefree• Not taken seriously
Your Teacher’s Birth Order
• Now that you have a little background on birth order characteristics, what birth order do you think your teacher is?
• How about these teachers?–Mrs. Smith–Mr. Blackham–Mr. Zobell–Ms. Mitchell
Making Your Birth Order Work for You
• The following slides have some suggestions for making your birth order work in your best interest.
• People who are wise learn to make their birth order work for them and to their advantage.
Tips for the Oldest Child
• Don’t overextend yourself• Learn to say no—you can’t do everything• Don’t expect so much from yourself. You
don’t have to be perfect.• Don’t be afraid of being a detail person.• Take problem solving step-by-step
Tips for the Oldest Child
• Don’t let others pressure you into making decisions. Take your time.
• Try to develop a sense of humor and laugh at your mistakes.
• Never apologize for being conscientious or over organized.
Tips for the Middle Child
• Use your people skills to see both sides of issues and deal with life as it really is.
• If you are a free spirit, fight to keep your unique qualities.
• Middle children grow up thinking that no one ever listened to them and they never had a chance to express their ideas. Share your ideas!
Tips for the Middle Child
• Enjoy your many friends, but don’t spread yourself too thin.
• Don’t compare yourself to others—just be you!
• Don’t think only firstborns are leaders; you understand, negotiate, and compromise. Try being a leader!
Tips for the Youngest Child
• Accept responsibility for yourself!• Many lastborns are messy; learn to pick up
after yourself.• Choose jobs where you interact with people
because you will do well!• Be less self-centered and offer to help others.
Tips for the Youngest Child
• Don’t blame others if you’re the one who really caused the situation.
• Your gift of humor will be an asset; use it correctly. Don’t be a carrot seeker.
• Give others a chance to share the limelight. Concentrate on asking others about them!
• Lastborns tend to be the most compatible.
Sibling Research Project
• We are going to conduct a sibling research project on our class.
• Fill out the sibling rivalry research questionnaire.
• Now we are going to tally the results.
Tally our Results
• Split into 4 groups• Group one: – Examine results from questions 1-5
• Group two: – Examine results from questions 6-10
• Group three: – Examine results from questions 11-15
• Group four: – Examine results from questions 16-19
Analyze our Results
• Have each group report their findings to the teacher. The teacher will then tally all of the information onto one sheet of paper.
• Homework Assignment: Take home a copy of the sibling rivalry student survey results sheet and answer the questions on the sibling rivalry student reaction form. This will be due next class period.
Summary
• Living with siblings is not always easy, but your siblings will always be part of your life and they can be good friends.
• It is in the best interest of the family to understand sibling interaction and sibling dynamics in order to contribute to good relationships.