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Table of ContentsIntroduction: Play the game of seduction

Lesson #1: The ten laws of seduction

Lesson #2: How to approach and seduce someone as a woman

Lesson #3: How to approach and seduce someone as a man

Lesson #4: Simplicity and spontaneity

Lesson #5: Practice and confidence

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IntroductionPlay the game of seduction

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SEDUCTION IS A game for two players. Everyone is playing… or would like to play. Indeed, not many people really know the rules, subtleties, and traps of the game.

But even more than a mere game, seduction can also be seen as an art. What could be more pleasant than a moment of relaxed seduction, full of elegance and simplicity? And just like any other form of art, not everything depends on innate talent. Seduction is a skill that you can learn.

Seduction is a process, a walk on a path leading to other people, but also mostly to yourself. You will have to confront your own doubts, your convictions, your prejudices, and your weaknesses. You will have to unveil your own strengths and assets. Maybe you will need to re-evaluate yourself, but always striving to move ahead, to go beyond your own limits, and grow.

Yes, learning how to seduce will help you build your confidence. You will approach other people with a firmer step. You will be more comfortable in public. You will develop your own style and enhance your image. Your personality will finally have free rein. Your charisma will grow, and people will immediately be drawn to you, sometimes even captivated.

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Lesson #1The ten lawsof seduction

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WHEN YOU LIKE someone, you are already in a relationship where the object exerts a kind of fascination over you, which puts you at a disadvantage. You should flip the balance of power around and make yourself desirable! Never be the one asking for something. Be the one with something to offer. Your target doesn’t have a monopoly over beauty and charm. Make yourself worthwhile through your approach and your style. You are the prize that should be won!

Do not practice mass seduction! Being a tease with everyone would lower your credibility. And sometimes, a little excess removes your inhibitions and you start to overdo it! Keep your emotions in check and respect your own limits.

Put your target down from his or her pedestal! Do you have a crush on that person? Everyone does! He or she knows it, and knows about their power of seduction! If you approach them like a moth drawn to a flame, you will be just another admirer! It would be best to tease them about an “ungraceful” part of their anatomy (teeth, skin, ears…), a twitch, a nervous tic. You need to destabilize your target by showing them that they are not untouchable, and that their beauty does not impress you. The almost systematic response is that they will try to seduce you to restore their own perfection.

Do not doubt your own charm! Be proud and confident in your stride. Do not overdo it, but highlight your own worth! You know what makes you unique and it makes you beautiful and radiant.

Keep your timer in check! If you approach someone and look like you will hog a large amount of time, you will automatically create a feeling of rejection. Approach someone and immediately state that you only have a few minutes because you need to go back to your nearby friends.

Be scarce! If you stick to your “target” like glue it will seem as if you were dependent, which is always a bad thing! Leave, come back, speak with rivals or friends. The more you display your social side, the more value you will have in the eyes of your “target”.

Use the Push and Pull technique! Change the rhythm of your discussion by pushing your target away from time to time, even if paradoxically you covet spending more time with them. Remember that a cat will play with a ball of wool for hours when it is tied to its tail, but will instantly lose interest when you untie it and it falls motionless on the floor.

Be enthusiastic! The energy you will display will be like a virus spreading all around you. You will thus be in a positive environment to meet people and your target will see you in your best light.

Be original when you introduce yourself, with the topics you choose, or with your compliments. Make yourself conspicuous to stand out from your rivals! Speak about what you like, recount one of your latest anecdotes that had an impact on you! Do not hesitate to mention anything that makes you stand out! Enhance your appeal by speaking about things that matter to you in life. You do not need to look like a model to be seductive.

Be yourself! Own up to your own nature and you will shine through! You can bear any counterattack, assault from a rival, unsettling maneuver, etc. Play your cards right with assets that are yours and yours only!

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Lesson #2How to approach

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Lesson #2: How to approach and seduce someone as a womanLesson #2: How to approach and seduce someone as a woman

Play hard to get

Women can hit on someone too, but in their own way. While men can approach someone by going straight to the point (in a way), women must walk on thin ice and seduce with greater tactics, finesse, and subtlety or they might paint a negative picture of themselves.

This is not very hard. You just need to know how people (and most notably men) think and are likely to react.

Men (and some women) love to achieve the impossible to assert their ego. They like challenges and competition. Consequently, when you like a man, let him know that you are “a challenge” to conquer.

This concept might sound slightly sexist, and yet… this is a great method if you want him to be interested in you.

So be intriguing. If he starts staring, pretend you do not notice. Being ignored will annoy him and he will do everything he can for you to be interested. He might even doubt his own power of seduction, and then you will have the upper hand.

However, do not stay cold and aloof for too long because he might give up. Use subtle hints to let him know you are “slightly” interested.

Technique to approach your target

Don’t overdo it. Be mysterious and natural.

Unsettle him with your eyes, a genuine smile, or gently play with your hair… this will let him know that you are not indifferent to his charm. Your target will then decide to prove his own efficiency and tenacity.

Then look at someone else, be interested in another person’s conversation, chat with someone new… Your target will end up in a challenged position. And challenge is exciting. Furthermore, that person will think that the idea to try and seduce you was theirs to begin with.

If the one you like still hasn’t made a move, because he is too afraid or too shy, go to him. He will be flattered to be chosen among the crowd.

Once the conversation has begun and the introductions are over, keep going! Be natural and follow your instincts.

You can also use a few tricks in parallel:

• Speak his language: thoughtful, imaginative, realistic, funny, dreamer-like, straight, romantic…

• Adopt his own movements and try to do the same gestures… in asubtle way. He will feel that you are on the same page. If you find ittoo obvious, you can do a different movement, but always the sameone, in sync with his own. For instance, cross your legs whenever hecrosses his arms.

• If the man is not very talkative, use the “active silence” technique.Ask something that requires a more elaborate answer than “yes”or “no”. Do not say anything when he is done with his reply. He willautomatically rekindle the conversation after a few minutes…

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Lesson #3: How to approach and seduce someone as a man

Be gentle: use intelligence in your approach

Women tend to be overly cautious and can quite easily be scared off depending on the situation. This is understandable when you think about everything that is happening these days, and the sheer amount of weird people that have probably already hit on them.

As such, refrain from doing anything that might make her uncomfortable, unsettle her, or scare her off.

For instance, nothing good can come out of following a woman on the street. This is not a show of “determination”.

Likewise, for reasons you can easily understand, it is not advisable to approach a woman in a dark alley.

Finally, your attire and attitude must inspire stability and trustworthiness. You are your own business card. So if you believe that you have poor taste in clothes, do not hesitate to ask for advice. People who do not know you don’t know who you are or what your qualities are. And if you make a bad impression, they will not want to know you. Your first impressions determine whether they believe you to be a normal and respectable person, or someone weird that should be avoided.

Subtlety and finesse: social standards

Society is built on common conventions and standards. These norms define a large part of our social relationships. Society defines what is “normal” and what is not.

As such, you should not rush anything. You need to fit in the mold. Meeting someone takes time. For instance, you cannot speak about

Lesson #3: How to approach and seduce someone as a man

sex with a woman you have met a few minutes ago, unless she’s a sex worker. But in that case, you would not need any seduction guide.

So if you ignore social conventions and stray too far away from the norm, you will automatically end up on the wrong side of the border… among weird people. Be careful, a single inappropriate comment or gesture is enough to put a label on you. Of course you can “turn the heat up” in a conversation, this is part of the game of seduction, but not just any time and in any way.

Seduction is made of rules that you need to follow, step by step!This is not limited to seduction. Each time someone steers away from the norm for any reason whatsoever, the rest of the population automatically rejects them.

Being interesting: compatibility and casualness

Avoid being awkward. Any awkward approach will be ineffective. You will bother the one you are approaching, and their only wish will be for you to leave them alone. And that is not what you want, is it?

Learn how to let go. When your approach has failed, do not insist as it will only make things worse. This is akin to “begging”! Do not try to wear her down or trick her into a relationship.

Women (and even men for that matter) don’t have anything against you, or against being hit on. But they do not like to be approached by people who seem weird or who lack finesse. You need to be compatible with their frame of reference, with their own universe.

If you fit the mold of what that person considers to be normal, then they will unconsciously allow you to approach them. So just show how funny, intelligent, and normal you are, and you have won first round.

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Lesson #4 Simplicity and spontaneity

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Lesson #4: Simplicity and spontaneity

A skilled seduction is a kind of seduction that is unnoticeable

When you meet someone, your goal is to display enough spontaneity, elegance, and common sense so that the seduction attempt passes “unnoticed”, as if it were completely unintentional. The more “obvious” you are, the more awkward you become. When it is obvious, people find it weird and “unnatural”, and you are labeled as someone “you should not speak with”.

People who are the most comfortable in a social setting are those who have it the easiest. But there is still hope for those who do not have that chance. You simply need to approach people casually, and take the human and relationship factors into account. Going through the motions like a robot when you hit on someone never works.

Listen to the other person and use your people skills

Something that works for someone will not necessarily work for someone else, the only universal method is to start with your people skills. Listen to the other person, be interested in them, try to have a genuine conversation, learn to know one another well…

A relationship happens when there is a connection between two people. Some find it easier than others, but everyone has the ability to be outgoing. You just need to work on it. For instance, go to parties and chat with people you do not know (precisely because you do not know them).

The way you will be perceived is crucial. Good people skills and a good image are essential, not just in the art of seduction. Making friends, being respected, finding a job, achieving your goals…

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Learn to make it simple

Simplicity is the best tool to know where you are going.

This does not mean you should bluntly ask whether someone would be interested in sleeping with you. But why complicate matters?

The more complicated things will be, the more confused you will be and you will be prone to fail. Nothing is preventing you from telling someone that you find him or her attractive. The point is to do it with enough elegance and spontaneity.

It is useless to ask for directions to go somewhere before you try to steer the conversation toward a dubious seduction attempt.Any complex scheme you might come up with would be nothing but interference with your performance. Learn how to take a risk and own up to it.

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Performance = Potential – Interferences

Furthermore, if you want to be more at ease when you speak, just clear your mind and focus on the conversation.

Your inner monologue can flow from 300 to 1,000 words per minute, depending on the circumstances. You can comfortably speak or listen to about 150 words a minute.

Ideally, your inner monologue should be in sync with the pace of the conversation you have set with the wonderful person next to you. Forget all your troubles. Be 100% there in each word you speak or hear. You will be more at ease, and you will relax.

Practice: Settle down comfortably in a silent room with no distractions. Speak out loud for three minutes. Do not try to say anything specific, just speak out your inner monologue as clearly and distinctly as you can.

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Lesson #5 Practice and confidence

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Relax and put things into perspective

Maybe you’ve had a few bad experiences, but it will change. With practice, you will make fewer mistakes.

Seduction is more a matter of things to avoid than things that must absolutely be done. You will acquire more skill and subtlety, which will enhance your charm.

Finally, do not despair, nobody’s perfect and everyone makes mistakes. As long as they do not become commonplace, it is not a big deal, and it will help you learn and grow.

Practice regularly and observe your own progress

While you should not spend all your time in a context of seduction, you will practice and get better with each person you meet (anyone you meet is fair game). You will grow increasingly comfortable around people.

And so, any matter of seduction will also become easier and more natural to you.

When observing your own progress, your confidence will grow and it will boost your spontaneity.

Finally, do not try to be original no matter what. Stay yourself, be natural, and you will manage to seduce anyone you like.