STOP & THINK SOCIAL SKILLS CURRICULUM

SKILL: ACCEPTING CONSEQUENCES/ACCEPTING NO MCKINLEY ELEMENTARY

INTRODUCTION & RATIONALE CORRESPONDING SOCIAL STORY It can be tough to accept logical consequences when we make mistakes at school or home. We want our students to be happy and learn how to make choices for themselves, but we also want them to understand that they’re not always going to get what they want, when they want it. Even adults have to accept consequences for poor choices (e.g. a ticket when speeding, disappointing a friend to whom we made a promise but didn’t keep, etc.). It’s important for students to know the skills of accepting consequences and the word ‘no’ and when to use them.

No one is perfect. Every single person has made a lot of mistakes in their lifetime, and every one of them will likely make many more in the future. We shouldn’t be afraid of mistakes, but we should learn how to accept the consequences of those mistakes in a way that is appropriate. We also have to learn how to accept the word ‘no’ when we really want to do something, but need an adult’s permission to do it. Making mistakes and hearing the word ‘no’ are things that can be really frustrating for kids. The good news is that both of them get easier after some practice. When we accept consequences and the word ‘no,’ we show how much we are growing up and becoming more mature. This makes future mistakes and things we can’t have right away easier to handle. That makes us happier and more successful.

THE STOP & THINK PROCESS 1. I need to stop and think. 2. Do I want to make a good choice or a bad choice? 3. What are my choices or steps? 4. I need to do it. 5. I did a good job!

TEACHING MODELING

• First, I stop and think.

• Next, I ask myself, will I make a good choice or a bad choice?

• Steps: Accepting Consequences Accepting No - Stay calm. - Look at the person. - Think and filter. - Stay calm. - Say ok and just do it. - Say ok.

• Now, I just need to actually do it.

• Then, I give myself credit for doing a good job.

Use the included large poster/handout to help students understand and remember the steps for this skill.

Use the included “Remember to Breathe” cut-outs to help students remember how to keep their cool when frustrated.

1. Accepting “No” video on YouTube.

2. Impress your parents/guardians video on YouTube.

3. Accepting “No” chant/video on YouTube.

4. Teacher demonstrates the Stop & Think process and the specific skill of waiting for your turn. Any number of role playing scenarios can be used from the list below. The students are asked to provide feedback on how well the teacher met each of the steps for this skill.

ROLE PLAYING PERFORMANCE FEEDBACK • I really like running down the hallway, but the adult

says I have to go back and walk instead. • We’re supposed to line up in a straight line before the

school bell rings, but I want to talk to my friends. • I was talking again instead of doing my work. The

teacher tells me I have to miss recess today. • My teacher tells the class to line up at the door but I

keep reading my book. I get a consequence for that. • I ask my teacher if I can read on the carpet, but she

tells me I have to read at my desk right now. • My friend dared me to hang from the basketball rim

during recess and the teacher catches me. • I didn’t bring my homework back to school. • I thought it would be funny to throw a baby carrot at

my friend during lunch, and an adult saw me do it. • I want to go to the nurse, but my teacher says not now. • I want to finish the math problem I’m working on, but

the teacher says I have to put math away now. • I left my desk a mess and have to stay after school for

a few minutes to clean it all up. • Other scenarios relevant to students.

• The teacher will use additional role playing scenarios for students to practice.

• Students will practice thinking out loud. • While students practice applying the skill, the teacher

will watch for each step and review the ones they did and did not complete successfully.

• Specific feedback will be provided. • Students will practice again until they successfully

complete each step.

• Important: If you want students to see a non-example, do not allow them to be involved in the role play. Only the adult may demonstrate a non-example.

AcceptingConsequences

1. Staycalm.Deepbreath.Countto10.

2. Think&Filter.

3. SayOk.DoIt.

McKinleyElementarySocialSkills Stop&ThinkCurriculum

ACCEPTING‘NO’FORANANSWER

1. Lookattheperson(whoistellingyou‘no’).

2. Staycalm.

3. Say“o.k.”