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Assalamualaikum and a very good morning Ladies and Gentlemen, I

would like to introduce myself.

My name is... I am student, at the Open

University and I belong to Faculty of Business & Management. Now

let me talk about my interests. First of all, I like listening to classical

music and I listen to music almost every evening. I also like polics.

I grew up in a small village located in the western part of

Malaysia. My village is famous for its tradional games of Tibau.

Before I conclude my self-introducon, let me tell you about my

personality. I am a very friendly person, so Im very easy to talk to. I

hope to make many friends at this university.

Ladies and gentlemen,

In her book The Shyness Soluon: Easy Instrucon for Overcoming

Shyness and Social Anxiety, Catherine Gillet listed a survey consist of

30 quesons for the readers to personally rate their own degree of

shyness, or shyness quoent as she puts it. The method is simple


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enough , but throughout the book, readers might nd out that

shyness is a special problem that requires special way to treat it.

Which lead to my topic of the day ladies and gentlemen. Overcoming

Shyness.

What is dident? Dr. M.Vanaja, Ms.N.Sneha Latha and Dr.

Digurmar Bhaskar Rao wrote in their book Student Shyness

dident or most commonly known as shyness as a feeling of

discomfort or inhibion in social or interpersonal situaons that

keeps you from pursuing your goals, either academic or personal.

Bashfulness results in extreme self-focus and anxiety, oen

preoccupaon with ones thought, feelings or physical reacons.

The degree to which shyness can create problems for people

varies widely, from mild social awkwardness to debilitang social

phobia. However, the most common is situaonal shyness.

Situaonal shyness refers to the phenomenon of becoming

fearful or inhibited in certain situaons.


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1)VISUALIZATIONThe rst step is visualizaon. There are opportunies for

interpersonal relaonships everywhere you look and you can nd

many ways to help other shy people. You will discover that the best

way to pull yourself out of the trap of shyness is to help someone else

with the same problem. Helping others will help you too.

What would be the appropriate acons you should take? Picture

yourself saying and doing all the right things, interacng and feeling

comfortable about it. Visualize yourself shaking hands with the

stranger at the party and introducing yourself. Someone asks what

you do for a living and you answer briey, succinctly, then turn the

queson back to them. Most people love to talk about themselves;

you just have to give them chance to open up. Now imagine how it

would go if you were no longer fearful about interacng with others.

If you can see yourself doing it comfortably, feeling good about it, you

can accomplish it. With the right visualizaon and preparaon, you

can handle what would have been an anxiety-provoking scenario


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2)PRACTICE SOCIAL SKILLSAer visualizaon, the second for overcoming shyness is

pung the theorecal approach in the rst step into pracce.

Praccing social skills into pracce is a key to unlock the shyness gate

that holds these people back. Another piece of advice to help you

ght your shyness towards other people: read a book about

improving social skills. Some of these books may be outdated and

refer to a lifestyle that has long since become obsolete, but there are

some modern ones contain a quanty of useful advice on what

atudes to adopt and how to behave in the company of others.

These books, they provide clear answers to quesons many personal

quesons people oen ask themselves rhetorically since they cant

answer them, but they also dont dare ask others, for fear of

appearing ignorant or nave


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3)MAKE IT HABIT TO TALK TO EVERYONEThe third step is to make it a habit to talk to everyone. Since

condence is needed to be able to talk to everyone, mid people

need to learn to converse with people to build that condence.

Everyone has to communicate every day in their lives and all the me.

Theres no way to avoid it forever. No maer what walk of life they

nd themselves in. Talking to other people is a necessity.

Shy people can try a step-by-step guide; start small by just saying

assalamualaikum or good morning to their family, friends or

neighbours every day for instance. When they have started feeling

comfortable with that, they can start talking with everyone within

their community -to men, women, young, and old -even if its just to

say hello. Many people wont take the iniave to get know to

another person, which means a shy person has the chance to

introduce him or herself to them. It will not be easy, but to ght

shyness, that kind of acon is necessary. They will nd that the

majority of people whom they start a conversaon with are actually

friendly


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4)DESENSITIZATIONThe fourth step is desensizaon. Desensizaon is a way of

reducing or perhaps even eliminang a persons negave reacon

to given circumstance or scenario. This has been used to treat a

great many phobias and is being used to helps shy individuals

learn to handle whatever social gathering they fear and try to

avoid. The idea is to bring the shy person gradually into contact

with the outside world, in a safe, comfortable non-threatening

way. In systemac desensizaon, a therapist guides the shy

person step-by-step, from simple tasks that have cause him fear

and anxiety to larger gathering. Simply put, by giving him the

tools and strategies to handle the situaons and then exposing

him gradually to the same situaons hes been avoiding so

rigorously, the shy person learns to handle even unfamiliar

situaons. Any fear or phobia is actually based on the persons

fear of losing control. The therapist guides the shy person and

show him how to control the situaons he fears the most.


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5)START A REFLECTIVE JOURNALThe nal step on how to overcome shyness has to do with

changing self-imposed standards. Start a reecve journal is the

way to do so because it serves as a reminder of how much

progress have a person made in his or her recovery to outgrow

shyness. But the main purpose of a reecve journal is to

examine how and why their past experiences have led them up to

the point where they are being suocated by shyness. When

people hear the term "journal," they begin to feel defeated even

before they begin. They feel as if wring in a journal is a chore

instead of a journey looking back into one's past and working on

the present for a beer future.

CONCLUSIONSOvercoming shyness is the way to happiness and acceptance,

harmony and success. By using the ve steps; visualizaon,

pracce social skills, make it a habit to speak to everyone,


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desensizaon and start a reecve journal, outgrowing

didence should be less dicult

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