sos beacon/winter 2015
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Information and events for our military Survivors and their Families.TRANSCRIPT
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Survivor Outreach Services - Beacon Winter 2015
Stock photo courtesy of
Microsoft
Beacon 2015 Winter Edition
Gold Star Mothers and Family Day Our Gold Star Mothers and Family Day event offered families a time to
interact, face paint, and enjoy comforting food among friends. It was a
day to appreciate our families and make new memories. Renewing
friendships and making new friends while having an opportunity to share
stories of their Fallen Heroes.
Upcoming Events for
Surviving Families
Gold Star Pool Party
Date: January 31, 2015
Time: 10:30 AM – 12:30 PM
Location: Kimbro Pool at
McVeigh Sports & Fitness
Center
Cost: Free
Come enjoy some family water
fun. For more information call
Brook Carrion at 966-5047.
Dine & Dial - January 21
Topics for the call are taxes,
scholarships, and financial
strategies. The call will cover
two specific topics “Tax
preparation for the past and
tax planning for the future,”
and “Budgeting for college:
The scholarship process
(applying and processes”).
Call will be at 5:00 PM PST
to 6:15 PM PST.
Dial in Number:
1-626-677-3000
Access code:
7681905#
Laughter and
smiles were
shared as we
watched the
children bob for
apples and paint,
and repaint their
pumpkins.
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Reoccurring Events
Winter Tea at SOS
Second Tuesday at 10:00AM
Come relax and chat with fellow
Survivors. Tea and coffee
provided.
Suicide Support Group
2nd
Wednesday of each month
4:00 PM – 5:00 PM
For Survivors whose spouses
were lost to suicide
For more info call:
253-967-6-5047
Active Duty Grief Support
Group
1st Tuesday of each month
11:45 AM – 12:45 PM
For Active Duty Military only
Feel free to bring lunch
For more info call:
253-966-5047
Fallen Heroes Memorial
Tree Approximately 50 Survivors
from various counties came
together at the JBLM SOS to
honor their Fallen Heroes and
place star on the Memorial
Tree. Over 500 stars with
personal messages were
placed on the Memorial Tree.
In addition to remembering
their loved ones, Families
shared stories, food, and
support.
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December 11th
– 15th
Snowball Express 2014 Each December the non-profit organization
brings together families of post-9/11 fallen
military members for an all-expense paid trip to
create new memories and provide support.
Nearly 150 American Airlines pilots and flight
attendants donate their duty time to charter
flights for families to arrive from across the
United States to the final destination of
Dallas/Fort Worth.
The events encourage support and camaraderie
for these Survivors. They share their grief and
celebrate each day after suffering a terrible loss.
Each year Dallas/Fort Worth community cheers
the children and Families and honors the
sacrifice their husbands, wives, moms, and dads
have made for this great country.
Snowball Express 2014 Each December the non-profit organization
brings together families of post-9/11 fallen
military members for an all-expense paid trip to
create new memories and provide support.
Nearly 150 American Airlines pilots and flight
attendants donate their duty time to charter
flights for families to arrive from across the
United States to the final destination of
Dallas/Fort Worth.
The events encourage support and camaraderie
for these Survivors. They share their grief and
celebrate each day after suffering a terrible loss.
Each year Dallas/Fort Worth community cheers
the children and Families and honors the
sacrifice their husbands, wives, moms, and dads
have made for this great country.
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Identity Theft Checklist for Victims
1. Contact one of the three credit reporting agencies. That agency will
notify the others and put a “fraud” alert on your credit report within 24
hours. This alerts creditors to call you for permission prior to any new
accounts being opened in your name. Additionally they will send you a free
copy of your credit report from all three credit reporting agencies. Here are
the numbers for all three credit bureaus:
a. Equifax: 800-525-6285
b. Experian: 888-397-3742
c. Trans Union: 800-680-7289
2. Contact creditors for any accounts that have been tampered with or opened without your
knowledge. Be sure to put your complaints in writing; keep a copy; and mail them certified mail.
Request that each creditor proved you and your investigating law enforcement agency with copies of the
documents showing fraudulent transaction. You may have to fight to get this documentation, but don’t
give up. You need these to help track down the person who committed fraud.
3. Alert you local police department and file a police report. Ensure you list all the accounts on which
fraud occurred and provide as much documentation as possible. Get a copy of the report. You will
need to send a copy to the creditors and the credit reporting agencies as proof of a crime.
4. Contact the Federal Trade Commission (FTC). You can call them at 1-877-ID-THEFT (1-877-438-
4338). The FTC monitors identity theft crimes looking for patterns. Fill out the Identity Theft Affidavit a
www.ftc.gov; print copies; and send copies to the creditors and credit reporting agencies.
5. Change all your account passwords. If an account does not have a password, add one. Avoid using
your mother’s maiden name or the last four digits of your Social Security number as a personal
identification number.
6. Notify the Office of the Inspector General at www.ssa.gov/oig/hotline/index.htm if your Social
Security Number has been fraudulently used. Ask for a copy of your Personal Earnings and Benefits
Statement and check for accuracy.
7. Change your driver’s license number if someone is using yours as an ID. Go to the Department of
Motor Vehicles to get a new number.
8. Contact your utility companies to prevent a con artist from using a utility bill as proof of residence
when applying for new cards.
“Sometimes the most ordinary things could be made
extraordinary, simply by doing them with the right people.”
~ Elizabeth Green
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PLANNING PURCHASES – Quite often people ask about the specific time of year to
get great deals on items. Planning purchases could save you hundreds or even thousands
of dollars during the year. The following monthly list gives you a guide to plan the best
time to purchase items:
1. January – Major appliances such as washer and dryers, bicycles, calendars, carpet and flooring, furniture,
linens and bedding, office furniture, business suits, men’s shirts, video games, hot water heater, Christmas
wrapping paper, Christmas cards, lingerie, shoes, outdoor gear, digital cameras, bicycles and toys.
2. February – Bicycles, boats, home theaters, video games, art supplies, used cars, lamps, chocolate after the
15th, winter clothing, canned goods, and storm windows.
3. March – China, flatware, gardening tools, children’s shoes, ice skates, luggage, winter clothing, shoes,
frozen food (national frozen-food month) and ski equipment.
4. April – Women’s shoes, dresses, cookware, electronics, office furniture at the end of the month, snow
blower, television, vacuum cleaner, boots, used cars, car accessories, fabric, baking supplies, energy-efficient
bulbs, and hosiery.
5. May – Cookware, electronics, small kitchen appliances, mattresses and box springs, party supplies, vacuum
cleaners, bathrobes, luggage, outdoor furniture, area rugs, spring clothing, paint, summer sports equipment,
and tires.
6. June – Champagne, gym memberships, power tools, building materials, dairy products (National Dairy
Month), gardening tools, and men’s clothing.
7. July – Broadway tickets, gardening tools, household paint, computers, furniture, and business suits.
8. August – Computers, school supplies, swimsuits, dehumidifier, flip flops, lawn mowers, swing sets, car
batteries, disinfectants, hand sanitizers, cleaning wipes, sunscreen, insect repellent, sporting goods and
mufflers.
9. September – China, flatware, patio furniture, wine, cars (last year’s model), garden equipment, summer
clothing, lawn mowers, laptops, diabetes supplies (including glucose meters), school supplies, and lamps.
10. October – Gas grills, air conditioner, large home appliances, new car, jeans, women’s coats, fishing
equipment, summer sports equipment, shrubs, trees, spring bulbs, cookware, wine, fans, outdoor furniture,
and cars (last year’s model).
11. November – Cookware, gas grills, small kitchen appliances, recreational vehicles, blankets, boy’s coats,
shoes, home improvement supplies, men’s shirts, candy (leftover from Halloween), wedding dresses (Nov.
15 – Dec. 24), HDTV and home theatre equipment (Nov. 15 – Jan. 31), and fall clothing.
12. December – Champagne, cookware, tools, small household appliances, and televisions.
Financial Purchase Calendar
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The Importance of Hope
By Alan D. Wolfelt, PhD (used with permission)
Excerpted from The Mourner’s Book of Hope: 30 Days of Inspiration
“Today… I open my heart’s hand to allow the touch of hope.” ~ Julia
Cameron
Someone you love has died. In your heart you have come to know your
deepest pain. Your grief has brought challenges that seem beyond your
own capacity to survive. Grief creates chaos, and your soul cries out.
You naturally experience a sense of helplessness and, at times, you feel
the depths of hopelessness. It all feels so incredibly overwhelming. And as you live in this painful place, you
come to learn that you must surrender to your grief, sit in your wound, and make space for your lost self.
If your experience is in any way like my own and those of the thousands of mourners I have had the honor to
walk with and learn from, you are feeling abandoned and alone right now. You may instinctively be questioning
the meaning and purpose of life. You recognize that so many things in your daily life have changed—your
plans, your dreams, your concerns, and your roles. You may discover yourself searching for a reason to go on
living in the face of this loss and asking countless “How?” and “Why” questions.
“How can this be happening?”
“How am I going to make it through this?”
“Why did this happen now, in this way?”
“Why am I feeling so lost?”
When we experience a loss, whether it is the death of someone loved, a divorce loss, the loss of a job, or a
significant change in health, loss reminds us of how little control we really have over some things about life and
living. Naturally, these kinds of losses (among many others) can leave us feeling incredibly powerless,
seemingly helpless, and deeply hopeless at times.
When we lose someone we love, it changes us. The person who died was a part of you and part of your life.
This death means you must mourn a loss not only outside yourself, but inside yourself as well. At times,
overwhelming sadness and loneliness may be constant companions to you on this grief journey. You may feel
that when this person died, part of you died with him or her. And now you are faced with finding some sense of
meaning at a time when you may be feeling empty and alone.
Your loneliness and emptiness are often present, even in the midst of family and friends. When others try to
help by saying, “I know just how you feel,” they usually do not. They cannot. They are not walking this walk
for you. Your pain, your questions, your doubts, your fears are unique. No one can know exactly how this feels
for you.
While your grief is unique, some of the questions you may be asking are universal. The fears, doubts, and
questions that come when we experience grief have been with us since the beginning of our awareness that loss
is part of the cycle of life. Loss truly is an integral part of life. You are asking questions that others before you
have raised. Questions that have been raised to God. Questions that have been asked about God. Like others
who have been where you are, you may be feeling distant from your God, perhaps even questioning the
existence of God. These kinds of questions have been preserved in time because they belong to and are asked by
most everyone who experiences the pain of loss.
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So, like your fellow travelers on this grief journey, you are faced with sitting in the wound of your grief. When
you sit in the wound of your grief, you surrender to it in recognition that the only way to the other side of the
pain and hopelessness is through the pain and hopelessness. You acknowledge that you are willing to do the
work that mourning requires. Paradoxically, it is in befriending your wound that eventually you will restore
your life and reinvest in living.
Loss of Your Divine Spark and the Role of Hope in Your Healing
People in grief often come to see me on the sacred grounds of the Center for Loss and Life Transition. When
they begin their grief journey, they often start by expressing their sense of hopelessness by saying, “I feel so
hopeless,” or, “I am not sure I can go on living.” Like you, the losses that have touched their lives have
naturally muted, if not extinguished, their divine spark. Their divine spark is that internal energy that gives
meaning and purpose to life. Your divine spark or life force is the keeper of
your mind, your body, and your soul.
I discovered some time ago that a central part of my helping role is to gently
and quietly bring hope to those in grief. Hope that encourages them to discover
a renewed divine spark and a desire to reenter life with meaning and purpose.
Each and every one of us as humans has a divine spark. We are each the
keeper of our own spark or life force. My personal life losses and my role as a
caregiver to others have taught me that hope is the vital ingredient that helps
us reignite our divine spark after loss breaks our hearts and touches our souls.
My Prayer For You
May you continue to discover hope—an expectation of a good that is yet to be.
May you continue to find new ways to renew your divine spark and to believe that meaning, purpose, and love
will come back into your life. No, you did not go in search of this loss. But it has come to you, and you have
discovered the importance of sitting in your wound on the pathway to your healing. If you give up, the essence
of who you are will die or be muted for the rest of your life. Hope can and will keep this from happening.
May you never give up and may you consciously choose life! May you turn your face to the radiance of joy
every day. May you live in the continued awareness that you are being cradled in love by a caring presence that
never deserts you. May you keep your heart open wide and receptive to what life brings you, both happy and
sad. And may you walk a pathway to living your life fully and on purpose until you die.
Blessings to you as you befriend hope and choose to celebrate life. May your divine spark shine brightly as you
share your gifts and your love with the universe.
"Hope is a beautiful thing. It gives us peace and strength, and keeps us going when all seems lost. Accepting what you cannot change doesn't mean you have given up on hope. It just means
you have to focus your hope on more humanly tangible and attainable goals."
Julie Donner Andersen, What My Widowed Husband Has Taught Me
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WA Survivor
Outreach Services
(SOS) JBLM
AFCS Annex
Bldg. 2166, Liggett Ave &
12th S. St.
Support Coordinator,
Brook Carrion
253-966-5047
Financial Counselor,
Ryki Carlson
253-967-3672
JBLM
Casualty Assistance
Office
Waller Hall
Bldg. 2140, Liggett Ave.
253-966-5890
JBLM
Retirement Services
Office
Waller Hall
Bldg. 2140, Liggett Ave.
253-966-5881
Tricare Beneficiary
Services
Pam Eisfeldt at
253-973-1814
Veterans Affairs
Representative
Obra Kent at
206-604-4045
JBLM
Tax Center
CPT Meghan McClincy
253-967-2463
Meghan.a.mcclincy.mil@
mail.mil
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Comparison Chart for Surviving Spouses with both DEA and Fry Scholarship Eligibility
DEA Fry Scholarship
Benefit
Payments
Monthly amount paid directly to
the student. The current monthly
payment for full-time training is
$1,018.
Tuition & Fee Payment (Paid to
School) - Full in-state tuition costs
covered for training pursued at public
institutions. Up to $20,035.02 per year
at private institutions
Books and Supplies Stipend (Paid to
Student) - Up to $1,000 a year for
books and supplies. Paid to the student
proportionately for each term.
Monthly Housing Allowance (Paid
to Student) - Stipend based on local
BAH for E-5 with dependents and paid
monthly. Online students receive half
of the BAH national average
Duration of
Benefits
Surviving Spouses of those who
died in the line of duty may use
benefits for up to 20 years from
the Servicemember's date of
death.
15 years from the Servicemember's
date of death
Maximum
Months of
Benefits
45 months 36 months
Concurrent
Receipt of DIC
and Education
Benefit for
Spouse
Yes Yes
Programs
Covered
College, Business, Technical,
or Vocational Programs
Certification Tests
Apprenticeship/On-the-Job
Training
Tutorial Assistance
Work-study
College, Business, Technical, or
Vocational Programs
Certification Tests
Apprenticeship/On-the-Job
Training
Vocational flight training
Tutorial Assistance
Work-study