WakeUp2Luv Men

Session 1: Ready, Aim – Wait, Where’s the Target!! Goal Setting

Welcome to Session 1. Overview.

• What you’ll learn • Commitment agreement • Discovery Questions • Homework • Intro to next Session

What you’ll learn…

To find your right mate you need to: • Commit to making changes that will attract your right mate. • Know what’s so great about you. • Know what to improve and what to accept about yourself.

So, don’t worry, we are only going to revisit the nasties of your past enough to rewrite some of the shitty stories. You know, the fables that are holding you back from love and happiness. Which is why you are here, right? Right? Yes. Don’t worry, it won’t be awful. Well, it will be a little bit awful, but not too awful. You can do it. You can handle it. You’re a Love Warrior.

Let’s start with Where am I? and Where Do I Want to Be?

We need to know where you are and where you want to be. What I like to start with is a forest story. It’s like the path in the forest; the meadow story. Normally, we’re walking down a path and this is the path of our life. Let’s say that wherever we are right now; we’re here. Your path is probably kind of dark and lonely; it’s not that great. Where you’d rather be is in the meadow, where it’s sunny and bright. There is true love and butterflies and all kinds of fairy tale stuff. You know what, that is an actual, real place.

The only thing is, because you’ve been on your life path in the forest and your ideas of what love is and isn’t because of the life experiences you’ve had, you don’t even know there is a meadow over there. Now you do, because I just told you. But, how do I get to the meadow? I am going to show you. This is the map I am going to use to teach you how to get to that meadow. The first step is to acknowledge that there is a meadow over there. Between your path and the meadow there is a great deal of overgrowth, forest, and underbrush and you’re going to have to do some bush whacking to get to that meadow.

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But, I have a map that will get to you more directly than if you just wandered, trying to get to the meadow on your own. That is probably what you’ve been doing and so far you haven’t been successful; maybe you’ve hit a really deep crevice, a creek or there has been trees in your way. Whatever it is, it hasn’t worked.

Here I am. You can call me the Forest Fairy. I am going to guide you to the meadow. You have to do the hard work, like bush whacking, to get there, because that’s not what I do. You can do that and by doing that, you will get there much faster and you’ll be happy. Yeah!

Commitment Agreement: Part 1

You promised to participate fully so just play along. Say out loud with me: • I control how fast I go and how much I learn. • The more difficult a particular task, the more potential I have for growth. • Tasks may require me giving up other activities. • Finding the right partner is a priority for me. • The journey to success isn’t a straight path; there are ups and downs, and

detours. • Diligent practice leads to steady growth. • Firm commitment overcomes resistance. • I am mentally, emotionally, and physically ready for a new direction today!

If you go through all of those highlighted words, you will notice there is a bit of an innuendo. Couldn’t help myself; that was just to make sure you were paying attention. Seriously, if you are ready to commit to change, take a deep breath, and as you let the breath out, say, “Yes”. You should feel pumped up. If not, pause this program and say all of these commitment statements again, louder and with emphasis. You are a Love Warrior, remember?

If you are ready to continue, let this program continue and if you’re not quite sure you believe these statements, pause the program, go over them, say them out loud with emphasis and pretend like you mean it. Just fake it ‘til you make it. That actually does work. Go ahead and do that or just continue and we will go to the….

Commitment Agreement: Part 2

Say out loud: Because finding a loving, supportive relationship is important to me, I am making a commitment to increase my awareness of myself and to make every effort to acquire and practice new skills that will help me achieve my love goals and WakeUP2Luv.

Again, close your eyes, take a deep breath in, and as you let the breath out, say, “Yes!” and really notice this feeling. You will want to come back to it when you are

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frustrated and nervous or resistant to some of the changes you are going to need to make. If you are ready to continue, carry on. If you need another moment, pause the program and say this statement again, out loud, with emphasis, until you can really feel the “Yes!” come out of you in a very authentic and believable way.

If you are in a place where you are in public, you may want to just say that part and go home later and say it to yourself when you have some privacy.

Where am I? and Where do I want to be?

When we want to buy a new power tool, there are three questions to ask ourselves:

• What kind of tool do I want? • Where can I find it? • Can I afford it?

If you have been to the hardware store, you probably know the store layout. You know where you are now and how to get to the kind of tool that best suits you. Maybe you don’t buy power tools. Maybe you buy video games, or maybe you buy something else that is in a shop or store that is familiar to you. It doesn’t matter, because it is the same for shopping for the perfect mate. The perfect-for-you mate. And, a hint: she’s probably not in the power tool aisle. We’ll get to more of that later.

What kind of woman do you want? Where is she? How can you be attractive to her? You are exchanging your value for her value. You will get a chance to explore the answers shortly, but for now, you might want to just get your notepad and pen ready. We are going to go into the Discovery Questions.

Discovery Questions: Where are you?

• What result are you wanting to get out of WakeUP2Luv? • Are you willing to take part in sometimes uncomfortable processes of self-

growth?

Don’t worry about knowing anything without absolute certainty. Your answers will evolve as you do and this is just the starting point. It’s best to write whatever first comes to mind without editing your thoughts. It is critical that you’re as honest as you can be. Only you are going to see these answers. You’ll have a chance to go back and be more thorough later. If you need some time, just click pause and answer these questions. Then, move on to the next slide.

• How important is finding a loving, supportive relationship? • What in your life would be different if you had that result today?

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Again, click pause for more time to write your answers down. It is important that you actually write your answers down because the way the brain processes information and because we will be going back to your answers later, so just pause and answer these questions. When you are ready, continue.

• What is holding you back from getting that result? • Why do you think you haven’t connected with your someone special?

Your answer for both of these questions may be similar or they may be completely different. Write whatever first comes to mind. Don’t try to edit yourself. Click pause until you’re ready to continue.

• What do you think is the cause of your past relationships not working out? • What changes do you think you need to make within yourself to attract your

ideal mate?

If you haven’t had any significant intimate relationships, think about friendships, or familial relationships, because oftentimes, some of the same dynamics in those personal relationships will affect us in our intimate relationships when we get into them. So if you haven’t had an intimate relationship yet, that’s ok. This can still apply if you use your friendships or your relationships with your family. Click pause and jot down your answers. Don’t overthink it, just let it flow and then continue when you are ready.

• What are the most common criticisms you’ve heard about yourself from others (whether it be friends, family, past lovers), whether you think they are true or not?

It is extremely important that you are honest with yourself here. It doesn’t matter if the criticisms are true or not; your answers reveal something significant. We will go over that later in the program. Click pause for more time.

• What are you most proud of and why?

No matter where you are, and how flustered about your love life, or your life in general, or how disappointed in yourself you are, there is something you can be proud of. You haven’t made it this far in life without having been proud of something. Dig deep for that feeling of pride. Write it down. What did you do? Notice where you feel it in your body. Close your eyes and let yourself relive that feeling for a moment.

Click pause until you’re sure you know where you feel that feeling and can get back to it in the future. You are going to need to get back to that feeling of having accomplished something that you are proud of because that is going to help you continue through some of the tough bits. Click pause and continue when you are ready.

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• What are some of your best qualities / what does that look like for you?

Don’t hold back on all the great things about you. What have people said is great about you? What do you know is? Feel the good feelings of believing these things are true. Relive that pride that came from your most proud moment and feeling and accepting the qualities other people have told you that are amazing about you. Again, it doesn’t have to be something you know for sure is true. If someone has said something that is great about you, write it down. They know more greatness about you than you do. Just jot it down. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and let yourself feel this feeling for a moment. Click pause until you’re ready to continue.

What you learned

To find your right mate, you need to:

• Commit to making changes that will be attractive to your right mate. • Acknowledge and celebrate what’s great about you. • Improve areas that build confidence; accept certain “imperfections”. (I like to

call them quirks.) By the way, just because I put up a wedding photo, doesn’t mean you have to get married. But trust me, with the right one, you might kind of just want to.

Homework

Where am I?

• What are my best qualities and less great qualities? • What have I accomplished that I’m proud of?

You’ll get to answer these questions more fully in the Homework module, so don’t worry about writing them down right now.

Remember, the Path to Love, which is the meadow, requires consistent action over time. It takes effort, consistency, time. If we stop, the underbrush grows up and we have to start over.

Are you ready for the next steps to wake up to love? Awesome possum! You’ve taken the first steps. Keep moving forward on your path to true love by taking action and completing your homework.

Why? Because… “Nothing changes if you don’t [do your homework].”

Still committed? Say “Yes.” I can’t hear you. Yes! See you in the Homework module.

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Session 1: Homework

I’m glad you showed up to do your homework…yeah! Part of the homework will be affirmations.

• Initial time to complete: 30 minutes +/- • Day 2-66: 5-15 minutes • Purpose: Visualize a “better” you; feel it as real now; begin subconscious

reprogramming.

Whatever we can imagine, feeling as being real right now, physically changes the neuropathways in your brain. It physically changes the way our brain is actually structured and by doing so, it helps to change our thoughts. New thoughts create new feelings, new feelings create new actions, and of course, new actions create new results. When our brain experiences something as real, it literally rewires to support that idea. If the idea is always in the future, our brain keeps it there.

It’s like bush whacking a new path in the forest. It takes time, consistency and effort. Remember, we are always going to go back to the bush whacking a new path. We have to keep going in order to keep a new path working.

If you are a little skeptical, remember you promised to suspend disbelief. That is all you are going to do right now. Just suspend disbelief and go through the motions of the homework and the rest of the entire course. Then, see how you feel at the end.

Directions:

1. In point form, describe all the positive qualities you know you have or have been told you have.

Example: If someone has told you that you have great style, hand write in present tense: “ I have great style!” or “I’m admired for my great style!” not: “I’ve been told I have great style…”

See, it is not “I’ve been told…”. You are going to own it! Make all the points positive: “My hair has sheen.” not negative: “My hair isn’t mousy…”

Maybe you’re bald, or have a shaved head. So what? Own it! “My head has sheen.” If it is not something you are proud of, skip it for now and choose something you can genuinely feel amazing about. Write as many qualities as you can. There’s no limit, and if something is a “maybe,” write it down anyway. Pause now and write down that entire list of all the positive qualities about yourself and put those into short, bullet-point statements that are present tense and positive. Pause until you are ready to continue.

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2. In point form, describe all the negative qualities you think you have or have been told you have. This kind of sucks but it is also important because we can’t change anything we don’t acknowledge. Some of these things you are going to want to change and some of them you won’t.

Example: If someone has told you that you are overly critical, hand write in the present tense the opposite. “I accept others for who they are!” if it’s a quality you want to change. Or “I’m OK with being discerning!” if it’s a quality you’re proud of or want to be proud of.

Own it! Make all the points positive. “I thrive on order!” not negative: “I can’t stand disarray…”

It is vitally important that you are really honest with yourself about the things you do want to change about yourself, because you are here to change. I don’t have a magic wand about creating someone who is going to love you right as you are. That is entirely possible, but that is only possible if you believe it. It is easier for you to just change into becoming the kind of person that you feel really proud of and that you can believe will attract the right mate.

You get to choose the qualities you want to change that aren’t working for you. The things that are; be proud of those things, even if others don’t appreciate them. The right person will. Some qualities you might find just need a little bit of tweaking, and other qualities you might want to ditch entirely.

For example, me, I am OCD. Everything is aligned and orderly. I don’t care if my partner is messy, as long as he doesn’t mind me organizing as he walks in front of me, or what-have-you. I like that quality about myself, even though some people don’t. It’s ok to like some things that some people consider flaws, as long as you genuinely feel that that is a quality you actually kind of like about yourself. We are going to change the things that aren’t working for you. We are going to change the things that you want to change. You are going to learn to accept the things that you don’t want to change or that you can’t change.

Pause until you are ready to continue. Take as much time as you need. When you’re ready, continue.

3. In point form, describe all the ways you’ve held yourself back but in reverse.

Example: If you’ve subconsciously or consciously kept love at bay by being over your idea-for-you weight, hand write in the present tense the opposite: “It’s safe to reveal my true self and open myself to love!” if you want to change your weight. Or, “My body is sexy and desirable!” if you want to be proud of who you are now.

Own it! Make all points positive. “I am hot!” not negative: “I’m not too fat.”

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Be proud of those things, even if others don’t appreciate them. The right person will love all of you, as long as you love all of you. That is what we are going to help you learn how to do in this program. Change the things that you don’t like that aren’t working for you and learn to accept and love the things that are working for you or that could work for you, if you did love them.

Some qualities, again, just need a little bit of tweaking and other things you may want to ditch entirely. That is entirely up to you, but be really honest with yourself, because sometimes we don’t want to acknowledge things we know we need to change because we think it is going to be difficult to change those things and we just don’t want to face it. Sometimes we end up in denial about things, so try to just be honest.

Pause this program and take as much time as you need to write down all of these things that have held yourself back and then write the reverse. Whatever that reverse is might not be the same wording I’ve used, but whatever the opposite is that you would feel good about if that statement was true.

4. In point form, describe all the ways your life would be different if you had the result of what you’re seeking from this course now. Remember you wrote that down? Hopefully you did write that down because this is the next step.

Example: If you’d feel more productive at work knowing you had a special sweetheart to come home to, hand write in the present tense: “I am more productive knowing I’m contributing to my amazing relationship with my sweetheart!” “When I’m with her I feel ______ [fill in the blank: happy, horny, inspired, etc. — whatever it is for you]!”

Make all the points positive: “We support each other!” not negative: “She doesn’t dump her crap on me.”

Again, positive, present tense, and whatever feels right for you. Come up with as many things you can think of that give you that joyful fulfilled feeling. Try to imagine that it’s real. Pause the program and take as much time as you need to write all of these things down.

5. Every night before bed, read your affirmations and fall asleep to the feeling of it being real.

All of these things you have written out in present tense positive, these are your affirmations. You don’t have to read your affirmations, there are going to be a gazillion of them for each category, all forever. But for now, we need you to read them all, every night. For now. Because it takes time to reprogram your brain. It takes time to bush whack to the meadow and this is part of the bush whacking. It’s not necessarily fun but it kind of feels good. You’ll find that when you actually say these

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things to yourself, you’ll start to feel good. At first it feels phoney, but eventually it starts feeling real.

• You may notice that at first your conscious and/or subconscious mind may add your current “reality” into the story with self-sabotaging thoughts or negativity. You may feel silly. I did when I started it, but it totally changed my life, along with all these other things I am going to teach you. It doesn’t matter if you feel silly; no one knows you are doing it, no one sees you doing it, and you are going to be the beneficiary of your own efforts, so go ahead and do it. Notice these thoughts and feelings without judgement and then go back to the story you want to create.

There are two reasons why we do these exercises when we go to sleep at night. The first is that science has proven that our bodies literally destroy less-used thoughts to make room for more-used thoughts while we sleep. Our brains destroy the actual physical aspects of unused information. We want to stop using the thoughts that are harmful and start moving towards thoughts that are going to benefit us.

The second reason to do this before we fall asleep is that our minds are more likely to accept and integrate new information by hypnosis, which only happens either when we are guided by a professional hypnotherapist; or we sit and meditate for hours; or we listen to ‘woo woo’ hypnosis music; or when we are falling asleep, which requires no effort. It just happens as we are falling asleep. Of course, the easiest way to take advantage of hypnosis is simply by feeding our mind with what we want as we are falling asleep. That is easy peasy, you’ve got to admit, right? Right.

Read your affirmations before falling asleep. There are going to be lots, but it won’t be forever. What if you self-sabotage?

Self-sabotage?

Every morning, try to recall the negative thoughts that crept into your story. Write them down. Add an affirmation of what the opposite might look like. Keep a separate log for re-occurring negative self-talk. We’ll go over what to do with those in Session 4. There is a reason these sessions are in the order they are in, so don’t try to skip ahead, just go with the flow.

Don’t worry, self-sabotage is totally normal. Remember, for this program to be the most effective, it is best to wait five to seven days before starting the next session, which allows your brain to start integration of the information and homework from this session. It is a lot of information and it takes time to build or redirect those neuropathways. It is the same thing with our Life Path, our path in the forest.

It is the same way the brain works to redirect new thoughts; the thoughts we’ve had for years and years have a pathway that is well-worn, just like in the forest. For us to

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be able to redirect the physical pathways of our brain and the way our brain works with our thoughts is with consistency and time. If you try to advance too quickly, you will also get overwhelmed and you’ll want to give up or you might even give up, so don’t do that. Take your time, you will get there. She’s not going anywhere, I promise. Remember, it took you this long to get where you are today, so it is going to take a little bit of time to change things.

The Path to Love requires consistent action over time. If we stop, underbrush grows up and we have to start over. We don’t just get to pick up where we left off. Underbrush grows up; we have to start over. Start with these affirmations. Again, you may feel like a fraud at first, I certainly did.

When I first started doing the affirmations, I would say the affirmation and then the nasty voice in my head would say, “Yeah right, loser!” which is so funny because I totally feel like a winner now. It was really frustrating but I pushed through it and now I can rattle off what my sister calls “a shameless list of what is so great about me”. I don’t go around saying I’m so great because I don’t have to. I know my own value and that’s enough.

By the way, I also say, “Shame on shame.” Go ahead and start some self-healing, self-talk, and you know what, you got this!

Are you ready to fix your picker? Awesome possum! You’ve taken the first steps. Keep moving forward on your path to true love by taking action and completing your homework! Have you ever heard of that saying, “Just show them enough to win?” Well, we’re changing it to, “Just learn enough to win her heart.”

Because… “Nothing changes if you don’t [do your affirmations!]”

Say “yes!” Pardon? Yes! See you in the next session.

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Session 2: Who are you? Strengths & “Repairs” Required

Welcome to Session 2.

Just before we get into the Overview for Session 2, I want to make a note about hand writing. Whether you hand write or hand print, use a pen, pencil, crayon—I don’t care—it just works better for your brain to absorb and integrate new information by hand writing versus using a keyboard. With that said, let’s go into the Session 2 Overview.

Overview. • Session 1 homework review • What you’ll learn • How to fix your picker! • Homework

So, without further ado, let’s go over your homework.

Session 1 Homework Review

• Did you write out all the great things about yourself? • Did you re-write the things you want to improve on? • Did you write out affirmations to support those great qualities? • Did you notice which negative thoughts kept coming up? • Did you keep track of those thoughts!

If you did, yeah for you. If not, I really encourage you to do the exercise and spend at least five days committed to the “Before Sleep Affirmation” before moving on to Session 2. The program is designed to build on each exercise. As I said before, you can read a thousand books on how to build a bicycle, but until you actually start putting the parts together in real life, you ain’t gonna know how to build a bicycle. By the way, you the bike, dude.

What you’ll learn:

• How to fix your picker and stop picking fixer-uppers! If you have never been in a relationship, that’s ok. It is going to help you pick better friendships and also just prepare you for your first relationship so you know some of the things you want to avoid, because you don’t have to take the first person who shows up.

• Know what you do and don’t want. • Know what kind of person gets what they want. • Take action to be that person and get what you want.

Just the tips:

Here are some of the things you need to know moving forward:

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• When we don’t know what we want we can’t get it. This is like shooting an arrow at a target in the dark with a blindfold on. You might hit something but it ain’t going to be what you want necessarily.

• What we think we want and what we really want are often different. When I was in real estate, this was called “buyers are liars”. They would tell me they wanted a very specific home in a very specific neighbourhood, blah, blah blah. Then they would buy something entirely different that what they thought they wanted. Very, very similar to how we decide what kind of mate we want. We’ll go over the process in the next steps.

• When we figure out what we really want, we’ll find it. • When we take specific steps we can attract it. • When we know the secret to love, we can keep it.

Step 1: Know what you do and don’t want!

Wants, don’t wants, and whys: Overview

• Brainstorm a list of “wants”. • Brainstorm a list of “don’t wants”. • Combine “wants and don’t wants”. • Add “whys”. • Break it down to your Top 5.

The “why” is really important. You think you want a woman who is an “8” on the hotness scale, but really, the “why” behind it is because you want to feel validated. Maybe your real want is a woman who validates you sexually. Whoa, Anna, how did you know that? Well, it’s because it’s my job.

Discovery Questions: Where do you want to be?

• What are the most important positive qualities you want in a mate? Don’t put in the negatives yet, like “not selfish”. Instead put in “thoughtful” or whatever “not selfish” actually means to you in the positive. Don’t hold back. This is a brainstorming session. We’ll fine-tune later. For now, just scribble down whatever comes to mind. Try not to edit yourself and just pause until you’re ready to continue.

• Score each quality with how important it is to you from 1-10 (10 being very important).

You’re not ranking from the highest to lowest. You’re simply placing a value on things that are more important. You might have a list of 35 things or more, who knows. You are going to end up with a bunch of qualities that are all an 8, or maybe 10, or some that are 5. Try not to make every single quality a 10. Be a little bit discerning. There is a reason behind it, later. But again, try to go with your initial reaction without overthinking. Pause until you’re ready to continue.

• What are you not willing to tolerate (what are your deal-breakers)?

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This is where you get to put in “not selfish” or “not a cheater” or “doesn’t live under a bridge” or “isn’t a ho.” Again, try to go with your initial reaction without overthinking. You get to put in the negatives here and you can make the list as long as you want it to be. Pause until you’re ready to continue.

• Circle the top five highest scoring (most important) positive and negative qualities in each list:

o Deal-makers o Deal-breakers

If you have more than five on each list, that’s ok for now. Are any qualities similar to each other? Scratch off the negative one. For example, you put “no anger issues” and you put “emotionally stable”. Scratch the anger one. We are going to try to stick with the positive qualities. The goal is to have a Top 5 consisting of four or five deal-makers and one or none negatives, or deal-breakers. If you have over 10 qualities circled, just go to the next slide and pause until you’ve figure out your top five.

If you are stuck with more than five, you are going to ask yourself these questions:

• Why is this quality important to me? • What’s the underlying feeling this positive quality would give me? (or What’s

the underlying feeling this negative quality would save me from?) • What would this quality look like for me in the real world?

An example would be, I want a man who makes X amount of money, or who has X amount of money in his bank account. This is important because I need to feel financially safe and not worry that I’m at risk of living under a bridge. In the real world, this would look like my man is financially responsible, contributing equally financially to the household, and be able to afford an annual vacation. That is just an example. The real quality I might be looking for isn’t a certain amount of income, but a man who contributes equally, or more, financially, or, a man who makes me feel financially safe.

So, you see, there are actually two different ways: the amount of money someone has doesn’t necessarily mean that I am going to feel financially safe. I have actually been with a guy who had lots of money and ended up losing it all and ended up in a high amount of debt. Did I feel financially safe in that relationship? Heck, no! We need to ask ourselves the “why” behind the quality. Why is it that that quality is important to me? What’s the feeling behind it I’m looking to have and what does that translate into in the actual wording of the quality? Pause until you’re ready to continue.

• Now you are going to rank your Top 5 in order of importance to you. • Read each quality out loud in a “present-tense positive”.

My Top 5, for example, are: • My mate is generous and makes me feel financially safe.

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• My mate is unabashedly physically affectionate. • My mate shares my belief about mental, physical and emotional health. • My mate makes our relationship a top priority. • My mate is stimulating to be with. For me, this means both laughter and

intellect.

The opposite of present tense positive is future tense negative. For example, “My mate won’t be stingy.” “Won’t be” is future tense, and “stingy” is negative. Try to keep everything present tense positive. Pause until you’re ready to continue.

• Save the qualities that didn’t make the cut for your Top 5 Runner’s Up list. • These are the would-be-nice-if qualities.

The reason we want to narrow the deal-makers list to a Top 5 is two-fold. Why only five? Number one, when we meet a gal that we are super attracted to, we want to make sure red flags go up on the real deal-breakers. And, when we meet a gal that we’re not initially super attracted to, we don’t put up red flags on fake deal-breakers.

Statistically, in my experience interviewing hundreds of long-term—which is ten years or longer—happy couples, 90 per cent of women were not instantly sexually attracted to their mate. Yeah, exactly. Not surprisingly, the statistic is the reverse for men. In 90 per cent of the cases, men were actually sexually attracted to their mate right away. But the sexual area of the man’s brain is 20 times bigger than ours so of course it makes sense. Nonetheless, of all the happy couples I’ve interviewed, the men appreciated non-sexual qualities of the women the most. So don’t be too quick to write her off if you don’t want to jump her bones immediately.

Step 2: Know what kind of person gets what they want!

Who gets what they want? Overview:

• Brainstorm the traits you would have to have to attract what you want. • Brainstorm the traits you would have to NOT have to attract what you want. • Which of those traits do you have/not have?

I’ll walk you through the “How To” in the next few slides. You will go back to your list of positive qualities that you are looking for in a mate.

• Rank yourself on all those same positive qualities you’re looking for in a mate.

Whaaat?

• Yep. Score yourself on each of your deal-makers and deal-breakers. • Where do you fall short?

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Anything that made your list. If you list is five, fantastic. If your list is ten, whatever. If you weren’t able to break it down to five things and you have this list of 20 things, that’s ok. Now you get to rank yourself on all those qualities. It makes it a lot tougher to measure up, but if you want that kind of person then you are going to have to. The longer your list is of what you are looking for, the longer your list of who you have to become to attract that kind of person. Now don’t panic, we are going to work on trying to improve the qualities that you want to improve on and that your ideal mate will be attracted to. So, there’s hope.

Relationship Reality Check

• What kind of man would your ideal mate want? Again, like I said, don’t panic. Remember that list you made of your great qualities? Hang on to that. Remember, you’re a fucking Love Warrior, right? Right! All we need to do is make sure the great qualities you already have get noticed, and then improve on the others. Easy peasy. Ok, I ain’t gonna lie. It’s not that easy. But it is simple with a step-by-step plan. Are you ready for your homework?

Step 3: Take action to be that person and get what you want!

Ok, how to get it. Overview.

• There is going to be a Vision and a Goal—Your ideal romantic comedy! Love is a romantic comedy. There are always going to be goofy parts to laugh at and it’s usually when we’re stumbling.

• Your affirmations – Your Top 5 and “Best You” qualities. • Visualization / Meditation – Your 5-10-20-60 Plan. What is your 5-10-20-60 Plan?

That is knowing your Top 5 Must-have’s, plus saying your Top 10 affirmations for 20 minutes before you go to sleep for at least 60 days, which, new studies show, is approximately how long it takes for most people to rewire their brain. This is why it is very important to bush whack every single day for at least two months. After that, if it feels more integrated, if it feels real, if you can say these qualities about yourself out loud to another person and not feel like a fraud, then they’ve started to really adhere and you’ve got a new pathway in your brain and you’re on your way. Again, take some time but do it every single day.

What happens if you come up with Obstacles and Road Blocks?

Obstacles and Blocks

What to do when you falter. Remember:

• Breathe! Release!

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• Mastery of anything comes from practice and practice includes missteps. • Everyone who tries anything new stumbles. • As long as you’re trying, you’re collecting points towards winning!

Just keep trying. You are going to need those new thought habits when we get to the action steps that mean real world change. You think this stuff is tough, wait until we get to the real world change. Let’s start small and build toward bigger action steps. The first step is in building up the belief that we can do it. Belief starts in the brain with your thoughts.

What you learned

• In order to find what we want, we need to know what we want and don’t want. • In order to get what we do want, we need to become the kind of person that

will attract that. • There are actionable steps to become that person!

Homework

• What is my ideal woman like? • What does our life look like together?

We get to answer these questions more in the Session 2 homework module. For now, just keep in mind that the Path to Love requires a goal + action + time = Love! I have to keep reminding you, and myself, on various things, it takes effort, consistency and time. If we stop, we have to start all over again. Let’s start with a visualization and the instructions are in the homework. Make sure to go over your deal-maker and deal-breaker lists and anything you need to finish before getting to that vision homework before moving on to the next session.

Because, in the next session, we are going to learn what women want. Don’t jump ahead…do your homework first! We are also going to learn the major differences between men and women that are turning women off. You will learn how to win her heart and other parts (wink, wink) without compromising your standards. Basically, this is warrior training.

Are you ready? “Nothing changes if you don’t [know your story’s happy ending and visualize it!].”

Still committed? Say “yes!” Alright.

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Session 2 Homework

Hi! So, did you skip ahead and sneak preview at the What Women Want module or did you come straight here? If you came straight here, you get extra bonus points. If you came back to this, well, you get one point because you did come back. Anyway, let’s go over Session 2 Homework.

The New Story

• Initial time to complete: 60 minutes +/- • Plus Day 2-66: 5-15 minutes daily • Purpose: Visualize what you want; feel it as real now; and begin subconscious

reprogramming.

Directions:

1. In point form, describe how each of your ideal mate’s Top 5 Must-Have qualities would look like for you in real life.

For example: If one of your Must-Haves is “she’s fun,” hand write in the present tense: “We have fun together, she loves hiking with me!” or, if you want someone who “encourages my freedom” then write: “She encourages me to go out with the boys.” not future tense: “She will encourage…”

Make all the points positive: “We work together to resolve differences.” not negative: “We don’t fight…”

2. Close your eyes and imagine these five statements to be true now; imagine what that feels like. Just try to pretend that it’s real right now. No one knows you’re doing this. It might feel uncomfortable or “woo woo”, but do it anyway. You promised to suspend disbelief. Take a deep breath, close your eyes, imagine these statements being true right now. Notice how it feels in your body. Enjoy this feeling for a moment or two. Try to resist the urge to rush out of it. If negative thoughts pop up, try to ignore them and then get back to your story and the feel-good feelings. One thing to keep in mind is that it might feel odd, and it might seem like it doesn’t make any sense to just create this fantasy in your mind. But, if you look at any pro athlete, part of what they do is create a visualization. They don’t just play on the field or on the court. When they are in their own homes and in their private time, they visualize the perfect game, or the perfect hit or home run or making that basket, or whatever it is. The pros who are at the top of their game, actually use this technique to get better. If they can do it, you can do it. So, pause until you’re ready to continue. Your New Story

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3. In hand-written or hand-printed format, draft a detailed positive, present-tense story of a perfect day with your ideal mate. Try not to think of what she looks like but more the feeling you have when you are with her.

• Note: This is not a first date day—so you can skip past all that awkwardness—but rather a regular day after you’ve been together for a year and are getting it on regularly. *wink*

• Incorporate all the senses—touch, taste, smell, sounds, sights. • Make it a whole body experience—with your eyes closed, it’s a reality you

can see in your mind’s eye and feel in your body as reality. Try to add stuff other then just sex! (Though, sure, add that, too.)

It’s important to write it out by hand, again, because of the way the brain integrates information, so we learn it better. We can always type it out later, if you want, and then, of course, when you’re finished, with your eyes closed, take that deep breath in and imagine this experience as real now. Really notice where you feel it and as you let the breath out, say, “Yes.” Just pause until you are ready to continue.

Sleepy time subconscious reprogramming

4. Every night before bed, read your story or imagine taking yourself through that dream day and fall asleep to that feeling of it being real. You may notice at first that your conscious and/or subconscious mind may add your current reality into your story and you’ll have self-sabotaging thoughts or negativity. You may feel silly. Notice these thoughts and feelings without judgement and then just go back to the story you want to create.

Again, two reasons why we do this exercise before we go to sleep. One, we destroy less-used thoughts to create more room for more-used thoughts while we sleep. Of course, again, when we are falling asleep, we are in an automatic hypnosis state, just before we fall asleep. Anything that we are thinking about, and especially feeling, our brain will start to reprogram itself to help support the thoughts and feelings. Continue with that and remember that you are probably going to, again, self-sabotage.

Self-sabotage?

5. Every morning, try to recall the negative thoughts that crept into your story. Write them down. We’ll go over the results and next steps in Session 4. Don’t worry, this is completely normal. Remember that this program is most effective if you wait five to seven days before starting the next session. You can allow your brain to integrate the information and to get all the homework done. It does take time to build and redirect those neuropathways. If you try to

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advance too quickly, it is going to be overwhelming and it won’t be as effective. Reminder: she’s not going anywhere.

The Path to Love requires consistent action over time = Success! If we stop, we have to start over.

Are you ready to understand women? Awesome possum! You’ve taken the first steps; keep moving forward on your path to true love by taking action and completing your homework!

Of course, you know … “Nothing changes if you don’t [write your new story and visualize it!]”

Yes? Yes!

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Session 3: Understand Women: “Get” the Girl!

Welcome to Session 3: Overview.

• Review homework. • What you’ll learn. • Women! • Homework. • Intro to next session.

Session 3 Homework Review

• Did you figure out your Top 5? • Did you write out your ideal day including all the senses? • Did you visualize and feel it being real while falling asleep? • Did you note the negative thoughts?

Did you create, imagine and write out your dream day with that ideal person? When you were writing that, were there any surprises? Finally, when you were falling asleep imagining that, did you feel like it could be real? If you did, good for you; keep doing that. Usually we don’t get through the whole story before we fall asleep, but that doesn’t matter.

• What were the negative thoughts that came up? • What would the opposite of those thoughts be for you?

You’ll notice that you are going to come up with the same negative thoughts over and over again. Some things are going to be more easily changed for you, and then there are going to be these other thoughts that will continue to creep into your awareness. That is completely normal. We had these belief systems in place for a very, very long time and it is going to take some time to change those thoughts. Just keep writing out the opposite of whatever the negative is and incorporate that into your affirmations.

Because you’ve been going over your ideal day fantasy as you have been falling asleep, you probably haven’t been doing your affirmations, but make sure you are still doing all of those affirmations every day. Either you can do it before you go to bed before your story (your ideal day story that you’re thinking about as you fall asleep), or you can do it in the morning, which will also set a good, positive pace for the day. Do whatever works for you. If it is too much to do all at night before going to bed, then do make some time in the morning to make sure that you are stating those affirmations every day—66 days, you can do this!

What you’ll learn

• How women think (I know, I am going to try to summarize this in one module)

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• What women want (I don’t know if I have enough time in the planet to go over all of that, but we’ll go over the basics)

• How women choose a mate • What turns women on • How you can be her hero and Love Warrior

What do women want? And how do I give it to her and stay same?

To be more sexually attractive, here is the Reality Land:

• You have no clue. • It’s not your fault. • Chicks are confusing. • Society doesn’t teach you squat. • Nonetheless, if you want to get the girl, you gotta become what the girl wants. • Therefore, you have 2 options:

o Stay the same (and potentially stay single forever) o Change (get the girl)

(I think I know which one you’ll choose)

How women think…

• Men avoid/fear sexual rejection. That is the biology of the male, masculine gender. It comes from a gazillion years of evolution. Men are built to provide, protect and procreate.

• Women avoid/fear physical threat/harm—all men provide the potential for physical threat or harm until proven otherwise. You have to remember that typically, physically, women are much smaller than men. There has always been the constant threat of physical harm and there is also the fear of emotion harm and other things that men really don’t have to consider.

• Women avoid/fear emotional and/or social harm. o Risks: unwanted pregnancy, STDs, slut-shaming, which of course, men

don’t have to worry about. This has been a reality for women for years. These are the things that are on women’s minds subconsciously, whenever they are meeting a man. If you know that, you might be able to start understanding why women are so hesitant when they are first meeting men, because we really have to be.

• Women’s Top Needs: To feel safe and taken care of physically, emotionally, socially, financially, etc. Women need to feel safe.

• Women meet their safety needs with: connection, communication, and caring. Women are built to connect. This come from millions of years of evolution and biology. They needed to connect when they were out in the field picking berries. They needed to communicate that that berry wasn’t poisonous, that berry is. They needed to be able to care for each other because there was safety in numbers.

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These are some of the very basics of how women think, whether it is consciously or subconsciously.

What women want…To feel safe, women need:

• A man who is “effective” — this means she trusts that when the shit hits the fan, he can take care of it “for us.” We will go over more about effectiveness in the next slides.

• Effectiveness = ability to handle things + the willingness to do it. Whether or not a guy can do something is only half of what she requires of a man. She also requires him to actually be willing to do whatever it is that makes her feel safe.

• She is biologically programmed to notice weak areas (as opposed to just noticing the strengths) so, fix weaknesses before excelling at strengths. For example, (and this always comes up, because, for a woman, part of feeling safe is having someone who is financially responsible. It doesn’t mean making lots of money. For some women, it might, but that is not the essential quality about financially safe) let’s say a man makes a lot of money, but he is not communicative or physically affectionate. What the woman is going to notice is the not communicative and not physically affectionate because she is programmed to look for weaknesses. Being financially independent or strong in those areas is great, but it is not going to do a man any good to make even more money. In that man’s case, he needs to work on how to be more of an effective communicator with her and/or listener, and, if her requirement is physical touch, then he needs to be able to provide that or she is not going to be able to feel safe. We need to be able to figure out what your weaknesses are because those are more important to focus on fixing or improving on than just the strengths. It is super awesome if you can play the guitar but it is not going to be appreciated if you are unreliable.

How women choose a mate…

There are three primary, innate things women look at:

• Genes. Luck of the draw. In the caveman days, a man who was physically strong was able to protect her. Initially, just like men notice women physically first, women do too. Yes, many women are attracted to fit men or strong men, but that is not necessarily going to be the be-all or end-all. Which is a good thing because not everybody does meet those genetic predispositions that women tend to notice right away. As well, you look for women that look a certain way, but if a woman is attractive physically and has a crappy personality, then her physicality isn’t going to take her very far. In other words, if you are not Hugh Jackman, you still got a chance.

• Women are looking for a good partner who provides social, material, protective, and pleasurable benefits. We’ll go over this a bit more later.

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• She is going to want someone who has good dad potential who is dedicated, protective, and caring—even if she doesn’t want kids! Women are biologically predisposed to look for men who have good potential as dads, because if you have potential as a father of her child, even if she doesn’t even want kids, it still shows that you have the qualities that will make her feel safe. Dedication, protectiveness, caring, commitment, loyalty. If you are the kind of guy who will likely make a good father, even if you don’t plan on having children, or she doesn’t plan on having children, those same qualities will be attractive to her. The good news is, you don’t have to have all three of these qualities. You just become the best of what you can and work on some of the weak areas and the right gal will want you.

What turns women on…

1. Chicks dig fit. You ain’t going to die early and abandon her. What makes her feel safe? You always have to go back to what makes a woman feel safe. Physically, emotionally, the rest of it. If you are reasonably fit and healthy, then that gives her, perhaps the mistaken illusion, that you are going to be around for the long haul. The reality, is of course, you never know, and you can get hit by a bus. I know that is very cliché, but that is true. We don’t know when our time is up. Even though that is the truth of life, that we don’t know when we are going to go, a woman will at least look at the odds of what she is signing up for. There is at least a better chance that somebody who is fit and healthy or health-conscious has, at least, the potential to live a long life, versus someone who is extremely over-weight and doesn’t exercise and is lazy, etc. Obviously, you are going to be looking at the same things when you are looking for a woman as well.

The good news, again, is that unless she is super vain, she doesn’t actually want perfection. Because then she thinks you’re super vain and she will never live up to your expectations. This is absolutely true. Most chicks don’t even actually like big muscles. Some do, but most actually don’t. They just want someone who is reasonably healthy. The reason why you like muscles, or you think you should have muscles, is simply because you are a man and you like to compete with other men. Whether you are conscious of it or if is in your subconscious is part of that biology that makes you want to be competitive with other men and that is just the reality.

What she doesn’t want is a dick-do. What’s a dick-do? Well, it’s when your belly sticks out further than your dick does. So, for her, fit and healthy means ability, self-respect, commitment, dedication, loyalty, and, (hello!) better sex. If she wants kids, it means healthier offspring. If you are already fit, it means you’ve got a head start, and if not, it means you’ve got to work a little harder on the other stuff. You can either work on getting fitter and healthier, or if you want to skip that part, you’re going to have to get really good at some other stuff.

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It is probably in your best interest to improve your health anyway. Unless you are super obsessed and super body conscious, then you are going to have to find someone else who is just as super obsessed and body conscious as you are because no one else will measure up and you will feel potentially insecure if you falter or fall from that high level of fitness. You can’t be all about one trait, or you’re in trouble.

With physical health, the three components of health are: good sleep, proper diet, and exercise. It’s really, really basic. Good sleep, proper diet, and exercise and there are a lot of different things you can do to improve, but that is beyond the scope of this course. There are many ways you can look for that information. Do yourself a favour and look into getting healthier.

2. Chicks dig happy. Happy is sexy. You’re generally content with and appreciate life. The good news is that you don’t have to be ecstatic all the time; she just wants to know that you are not going to be an energy drain and that you enjoy life. She translates a happy guy to a better provider and protector. A provider doesn’t necessarily mean finances, but someone who is happy is going to be able to provide in other ways that will help her in her life; help her be better and help her get through each day knowing that someone is there to help provide.

Remember, she needs to feel safe emotionally, not just physically. If you are depressed, or if you are complaining all the time or you’re angry, she is not going to feel as emotionally safe with you because she automatically, subconsciously, doesn’t feel that you can handle life. So, if you can’t handle life now, what is going to happen when shit hits the fan when you are in a relationship together. Because guess what happens in relationships? The shit hits the fan. There is always going to be something that comes up that will be difficult to navigate and is going to require two people who can handle it together. She needs to know that you can handle it and by being happy, it feels like you can handle it. In Session 4, we are going to work on how to get happy.

3. Chicks dig a smarty pants man. This doesn’t mean you have to be a rocket scientist. Good news, you don’t have to be a rocket scientist, you don’t have to be a brain surgeon, because chicks dig different kinds of intelligence. What are the different kinds of intelligence?

Here they are:

a. Social Smarts. Being able to navigate a relationship, which includes communication.

b. Emotional Smarts. Understanding your own and her feelings. This is going to take a little bit of work. Nobody understands anybody else completely, so don’t feel bad.

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c. Verbal Smarts. You can tell a captivating story. Most men like to tell stories. Most women don’t listen well, but that’s in the course for women.

d. Practical Smarts. Street smarts, she can count on you in the real world. (eg. You know how to fix a flat tire. If you are not a handyman, you can fix the Internet; you can install a lightbulb; anything that is practical that will help her out)

e. Mating Smarts. You “get” her and her needs. Because men and women think differently, you are never going to completely “get” her but there are some basics that pretty much all feminine women have that you will be able to relate to.

f. Academic Smarts…displayed in ways that count to her! It doesn’t matter if you are an engineer and can build skyscrapers. If it is not something that improves her life in some way, it may not be that advantageous. For example, if you have studied philosophy and she really likes philosophy, you can have discussions about that. Again, the good news about all of these things is that you can learn them. Even with academic smarts. You don’t have to have a formal education to learn about things that could be interesting to her.

By the way, don’t get all cocky and show off or else she will get turned off. There is a way to display these smarts in a way that is not boastful that will still impress her. Do you want to know how to display some of these smarts effectively? Is that a yes? Yes! Ok.

Be Smart

• Learn to display your sense of humour. It means you actually have to have one. So, practice with friends and when you’re with a woman, try not to get too intimidated by the fact that she’s a woman. In other words, be yourself. If you can laugh at something with your guy friends, you can probably offer that same sense of humour with a woman. In fact, it is a good idea to do so, because it shows that you have a sense of humour, even if she doesn’t quite get it, it’s being authentic. The right woman will appreciate your sense of humour and even if she doesn’t completely get your sense of humour, as long as you are laughing, that also supports the happy quality that she’s looking for.

• Get good at story-telling; practice on your friends. I find that most men have a “bigger fish” story, no matter what it is. It’s like the gaming story. She’s probably not going to love the gaming story as much if she’s not into gaming herself, but whatever it is, if you are good at story-telling, it’s really impressive to a woman; especially if she sees you story-telling with other people. That means you can hold an audience and you have those social smarts that she is looking for.

• Display your creativity—write a poem, play guitar; whatever it is, make sure it is authentically you. Even if, for example, you want to learn how

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to play the guitar. You don’t know how to. You’ve never even picked up a guitar, but if it is something you are genuinely interested in learning, do it. Don’t just do it to impress her; do it because you are genuinely interested in it. Whatever it is, if you can display your creativity, that is going to be pretty attractive to a woman.

• Women do like to learn and even more so than liking to learn, they like to know you know stuff. Teach her and explain stuff that is on her level, not over-her-head, in whatever tech terms or industry terms you are familiar with, but in a way that she can understand. If you can teach her things that way, she will be impressed.

4. Get your shit (life) together. This shows willpower. What is willpower? It is restraint or perseverance in achieving worthy goals despite distraction and temptation. Willpower is so impressive to women because that intuitively tells her that you will be able to stick with it. Willpower is when we get up and go to the gym at six o’clock, even when we’re tired. Willpower is when we stay late to finish that project because we need to make deadline. Willpower is to not eat that third cupcake because we need to lose some weight. Whatever expression and evidence of willpower you can show a woman that will give her the feeling of safety, her number one need, she will know that, if she is going to be in a relationship with you, that you are going to have the ability to make it through some of the tough parts. The good news is that, unlike IQ, willpower can be developed. Willpower makes her feel safe. We will go through more of the “How To” in the next session.

How you can be her Love Warrior…

1. Social life. It proves you can relate and maintain relationships. 2. Resourcefulness. You have enough money to live comfortably and you handle it

responsibly. “Enough” doesn’t mean a lot, depending on the woman. I really have to emphasize this, because a lot of men think that women need a man with a lot of money and that is simply not true. A woman needs to feel, mostly, financially safe. If a woman has tons of money, she wants to know that you are not going to invest her money poorly. It’s still important, wherever you are at, that you are able to display to her that you can handle money and finances responsibly…and she is not going to end up living under a bridge. Unless, of course, that is the type of woman she is and she wants to get off grid, which, if that is the kind of woman you want, BAM. Perfect combo.

3. Style. Get help if needed! Develop personal style including your home. Personal style is basically the package. It’s what you wear, how you carry yourself, the kind of car you drive. Not just the kind of car you drive, but how you keep your car. Is it tidy or is it disheveled. Is it a mess? The same with your home. You may not be in a place where you can have your dream home just yet, but is the home you have neat and tidy and clean, or is it a bachelor pad with video games, movie posters and whatever. That might be ok if you’re in your

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twenties, but if you’re in your forties, probably not going to be that impressive to a woman. Definitely develop your own style and take pride in what that is.

4. Romance. What woman doesn’t love romance. What is romance? All you have to do is pay attention. Women love it when you pay attention. This is something you can build with time and intimacy. It’s always really, really important to be honest! In the beginning, you’re just looking for that right person or waiting for that right person to show up, so this is something that once you start a relationship, or are just in the courting stages, you can build romance. You obviously can’t show romance when you’re not even in a relationship.

The good news is that all of these areas can be improved upon and we are going to go over this more specifically in the next session.

What you learned…

• How high-quality women think, date and pick a mate. • How you can be that lucky dude.

Homework

Continue with “best you” affirmations and “best day” visualization and write out a gratitude list. In this section, learning about what women want, there’s not really too much for you to do, other than integrate the information. You may want to go back and re-listen to this session. There is no need for a separate homework video because the directions are very simple for this one. Just write out a list of everything you can think of to be thankful for. Whether it’s your health, family, work, home, whatever; anything and everything. Nothing is too big, nothing is too small. Every morning when you wake up, think about something you can be grateful for.

For me, I say, “I am so grateful for my bed.” It’s such a small, simple thing. I love my mattress; I have great sleeps. Many people don’t even have a bed. Many people don’t even have a home. If you don’t have a bed, be thankful for having a good night sleep, if you did, or having comfortable shelter. There is always something to be grateful for, and when we are grateful, it helps us become happier. And, of course, that is one of the things women find attractive—a happy man.

With my gratefulness for my bed, for example, it’s a really small, simple thing, but it starts my day in a positive way, instead of thinking, “Oh God, another day!” or “Oh God, another day to go to work!” It took some time to be able to start my day off like this, so give yourself a break. When you automatically wake up and think something negative, if that’s your habit, which it is for a lot of people, just keep going back to what you are grateful for. Focus on those things.

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Write your list and choose a few items that really make your heart feel full. Whenever you are feeling ‘blah’ try to remember those really great things. When you wake up, say, “I am so grateful for…” whatever it is that pops into your mind that is good.

The Path to Love requires consistent action over time and understanding women makes getting the girl so much easier.

Are you ready for the next steps to wake up to love? Awesome-Sauce-Magic-Potion Possum! You’ve taken the first steps, keep moving forward on your path to true love by taking action and completing your homework.

Because… “Nothing changes if you don’t [“get gals” and get grateful].”

If you want to get the gal, you’ve got to understand her. If you are still committed, say, “Yes.” That’s awesome, because in our next session, we are going to go over the changes that you can make in specific areas of your life to have the greatest impact and the chance of meeting your great gal. See you in the next session.

Session 4: Your life sucks. Let’s Fix It!

Welcome to Session 4. Overview.

• Review homework. • What you’ll learn. • What’s wrong with your love life wheel. • Homework. • Surprise – Intro to bonus session!

Session 3 Homework Review

• Did you continue with your affirmations? • Did you continue with your dream day visualization? • Did you write out a long-ass list of things to be grateful for?

I know this seems like a lot of time and effort to put into this. It may not seem like it is having any effect, but it actually is. Remember it takes time for these things to integrate. Eventually, you won’t need to say all of these affirmations everyday, because they will actually become truths. They will be affirmations that are a reality in your world and you can just keep narrowing them down to the affirmations you still need to or want to create as a reality in your life.

What were some of the negative thoughts that came up while you were doing the homework? Did you write down an affirmation of what the opposite of those thoughts would be for you in present tense, and positive? You are probably already fairly adept at doing that, and if not, just make sure that you are and note the things that keep

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coming up that are negative thoughts. Keep writing what the opposite of that would look like for you.

What you’ll learn

• A healthy, fulfilling intimate relationship requires you to be whole, healthy and centred.

• We can enjoy a partner while learning and growing with them when we have a well-rounded life.

• When a spoke of our “life’s wheel” is broken or missing (having a partner), but the rest are solid (family, career, health, etc), the ride is easier.

If we want to have a healthy, fulfilling, intimate relationship with another person that is whole, the kind of person you want to be with, then you need to be healthy, centred and whole. That is what this session is going to be about creating.

I know what you’re thinking. “But, Anna, I don’t care about the ride. I just wanna cuddle, damn it.” I know, I know. But it is much easier to cuddle when your life doesn’t look like this broken bicycle. You’ll get to cuddle faster once you get on a bike that has a wheel that can get you to her faster because you will be more attractive. We are going to look at your strengths. Keep focusing on those because you have great qualities about you. At the same time, reality land is that we are going to look at the things that aren’t working.

Life’s Wheel Reality Land

When several of our spokes of our life’s wheel are broken or missing, we’re going to have a bumpy ride that results in a grouchy attitude and we’re kind of boring—not the kind of person your ideal partner is attracted to. Ouch.

This means we need to do some serious self-evaluation to discover what areas of our life could use some work. There will be time to answer questions about this later on.

We are going to think of your life like the spokes of a bicycle. When all the spokes are straight and strong, it is an easy ride. When some of them are bent, broken or missing, not so much fun. It is not about being a superstar in any one area. Remember, women notice the weaknesses. We need to balance out those with some of your strengths.

Attitude

Attitude influences every aspect of life.

• Is your glass half full or half empty? • Are you a positive person?

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• Do you often expect the worst and the worst always seems to happen? • Have you been told you have a bad attitude? • Do cheerful people get on your last nerve? (If they do, low score, low score!)

Attitude influences every aspect of life, so when things don’t go as planned, or you always expect the worst and the worst always happens, it is kind of a self-fulling prophecy. When you are looking to a partner, are you hoping to have someone who thinks the glass is half empty, who’s negative all the time, who always expects the worst, or who has been told, or you think, has a bad attitude? If that is the kind of person you want to attract, and you have a crappy attitude, then stay the way you are. If you want to be with someone who is upbeat, positive and looks at the silver lining of things, then we need to improve your attitude a bit, if it’s not already there. If it is, super! Just carry on. Don’t worry, there is no perfect score.

Health

Health is really important to women because they want to imagine, logically or illogically, that you are going to be there for them for the long haul. Overall health includes physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects. Not religion, but spiritual. This means:

• Are you eating well? • Do you get regular exercise? • Do you get enough sleep? • Do you drink enough water? Water is something that can make a big difference

and is very simple to do. If you are adding water you are not going to be nearly as lethargic during the day. It will wake you up if you can try to stick to drinking enough water.

• Do you manage negative emotions well? Do you have any unresolved resentments? A lot of people do. It is very, very normal. These are things that need to be looked at because they are going to interfere in a negative way in your future relationship.

• Do you handle conflict well? No lingering hurt feelings (towards somebody or towards yourself)? Any time you are in a relationship there is eventually going to be conflict because the reality of having a well-balanced relationship is that you are going to have areas where you don’t agree. How to navigate those conflicts will determine how satisfying your relationship is going to be and how successful it will be.

• What are you doing to improve and/or regulate your condition? Most of us do take our health for granted until it lets us down. So, how is your health? Do you look after yourself? The main thing is, what are you doing to maintain your condition. We’ll get to the How To’s of that later on.

Relationships

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Relationships are not just about being with an intimate partner—they include friends and family.

• Do you have a best friend? Do you have friends at all? • Is your relationship with that person mutually respectful and loving? • An ideal family life is loving, caring, and supportive, but often isn’t. How is

your family life? • Family life to you might mean a single unit or a more extended family. Although

an ideal family life is loving, caring, and supportive, it often isn’t for a variety of reasons: crying babies, wild teenage sons or daughters, constant arguments or tension with long-standing family dynamics. One of our greatest needs in life is connection. You have some relationships where you have that mutually beneficial connection. We’ll go over the How To’s and how to improve this area later.

Connection

The quality of your social life can score low for people with busy careers. You can also score based on how well you interact with people as opposed to how often you socialize.

• How comfortable are you in social situations? Are you shy? • Are you socializing enough to be able to meet your mate in the real world? • When you are in social situations, are you comfortable approaching or engaging

with new people? • Do you feel lonely or disconnected? • Do you get along with co-workers? • Do you even have any key relationships? • Do you have enough people you can trust and to when in need? If you are

having difficulty in life with any area, is there somebody that you can go to and either vent, ask for advice, or share feelings with?

Personal Growth

Successful people commit to learning and improving themselves. I don’t mean successful in business or successful in money. I mean successful in life.

• Are you committed to learning as much as you can about life in various areas that you can improve on? If you are here right now, then definitely give yourself a pat on the back because this is a personal growth program.

• Are you experiencing new opportunities? • Do you regularly read to learn and grow? • Are you open to improving and stretching yourself?

People who truly commit themselves to being successful always continue to learn and improve themselves. When we get to the homework part of this we are going to say,

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“Are you a 10?” which is committed to learning as much as you can about life. Are you constantly experiencing new opportunities? Of course, you are here, so that is always going to be a “yes.”

Charity

When our own needs are taken care of, it’s good to give.

• Giving $ isn’t rewarding ☹ • Giving our time is fulfilling ☺

One of the needs of all human beings is to give back. This is an area that a lot of people say to themselves, “Oh, I should do this.” Charity doesn’t necessarily mean giving money; giving our time is actually quite a bit more rewarding. This means that we need to take care of all our basic needs first. When we have finally taken care of all of our own basic needs, then we discover that the next step to personal fulfillment is in giving back in some meaningful way.

It is never as satisfying to simply writing a cheque. When we actually participate, all sorts of feel-good hormones are released and we have the bonus of making connections and maybe even meeting that special someone who has a giving heart too. It doesn’t have to be a big obligation or commitment. It can be supporting local farmers’ markets, and getting to know the vendors. There is that one step beyond whatever you are already doing right now. Let’s say you already go to the farmers’ market but you don’t actually chat with anyone. Maybe the next thing to do is start lingering and getting to know some of the vendors. You never know where you are going to meet your sweetheart or who you are going to meet them through.

Later on, when everything else is pretty well balanced, then you will probably want to get into somehow volunteering, some kind of charity work, or it could even be through blogging. You can blog about the environment, or about politics, or whatever it is that is meaningful to you. This will take some time to discover.

Career

Our work reflects our self-identity and since we spend so much time working, whether or not we’re satisfied with our career influences all areas of life.

• How’s your career going? • Does it excite you? • Do you have a clear idea of what you want to achieve? • Are you taking steps to achieve new goals? • Do you feel physically icky-yucky before going to work or would you show up

even if you won Lotto649? That is a really good question to ask yourself about

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whether or not what you are doing is really feeding your passion. We will go over that later.

Finances

• It’s not about how much money you are making or how much money you have. • It’s about how you relate to money. • Are you at ease with money? • Are you studying bad bank robber movies because lack of funds is seriously

limiting your fun?

There are some millionaires that stress themselves sick about money and score really low and others who have just enough to get by and are totally chill. We are going to go over this in the homework section.

Fixing Our Broken Spokes

• The more whole, complete and fulfilled we are within ourselves and our lives, the less we feel we need someone else to complete us and we are then more giving, generous, kind and self-secure—which is … SEXY!

• When we become whole, we wake up to love because we’ve fallen in love with ourselves … and then we automatically are more interesting, intriguing, and attractive to others, which allows them to fall in love with us, too, which is what we want, right? Right!

My Whole Dang Life: What we learned:

• To WakeUp2Luv you need to be whole, healthy and centred. • We can have our cuddle buddy while learning and growing with them when

we’re well-rounded. • When a spoke on our “life’s wheel” is broken or missing, but the rest are solid,

the ride is easier and we’re sexier. Bam!

Homework

• Review all the areas of your life. • Select the areas needing improvement – the broken spokes! • Set specific, tangible goals to improve most impactful areas.

Don’t write down anything yet, we will go over all of this in the homework section. And you will be happy to know that we will be gearing all these areas of your life in two ways. One is just to create a life that is whole and fulfilling in and of itself. The second part is to create a life that is whole and fulfilling while directing some of those new activities and tasks toward attracting love.

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In other words, if you are going to join a hockey team because you want to get out of your comfort zone and get fit, that is probably going to not find you a woman. But you may have always wanted to do that so you definitely should do it. If it is not something you always wanted to do and you just want to find a new activity, well, we are going to look at some of the activities you generally like, but also where there is going to be women. We’ll go through that in the homework section.

Path to love takes effort, consistency and time. If you stop, what happens? Underbrush grows up and you have to start all over.

Are you ready to take the next steps to wake up to love? Awesome-Sauce-Magic Possum!

“Nothing changes if you don’t [fix your broken spokes].”

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Session 4: Homework

Hi. Welcome to the homework section. I actually decided to combine homework into one session, so…you’re welcome!

Life Wheel “Actionables”

• Initial time to complete: 60 minutes +/- • Day 2-66: 5-15 minutes daily • Purpose: Begin conscious reprogramming; take action.

Directions:

1. Give yourself a score of 1 to 10 depending overall on how satisfied you are and how each area supports finding, attracting and keeping lasting love.

a. One: you is miserable and you never gonna find love, Hun. b. Ten: woohoo-I’m-awesome-no-improvement-needed. Bam! (Which is not

likely an area for anyone. But if you feel right now you don’t need any improvements in any area, then just go ahead and give yourself a ten.)

As you score each area, it is really important to be brutally honest so that you can identify the areas for change and where to set some goals to improve these key areas of life.

2. Go through each section, and when you have scored all the areas, join the points on each section on the wheel and see how balanced your wheel is. If you didn’t print this out, that’s ok. You can probably use your imagination. How does your wheel look? Does it look balanced, or not so much? Which areas need the most attention? Don’t be discouraged if you have a lot of areas that need improvement. This means there are plenty of things you can take charge of that will get you closer to love. What you want to do is look at all of those different areas, see where you scored, and wherever you scored the lowest, you are going to start writing down some actionables.

Before we get to that, just pause here and go through each section. Take as much time as you think you need and give yourself a score. Try not to overthink it. Go with your initial reaction. When you’re ready, continue.

3. Write down one actionable thing per low category that you can accomplish today (or get started on today). After your morning affirmations and your gratitude, you are going to do this everyday forever. For how long? For ever! Life is about learning and love, and you’re going to love doing it.

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We all want to be in control of our lives. This is how. Write down one thing per low category. If you have some categories that are much lower than the others; let’s say you score most of your areas a 7, and then you have a couple areas that are a 5, feel free to write down more than one thing you know you could do and that you know you should do that will improve your life. When you’re ready, continue.

4. Rank each task according to the greatest fulfillment in completing the task.

5. Start with the one that will move you forward the most in your love life—or the most difficult if all have a similar influence on your love life.

You want to look at each category and say, “Ok, how can I improve on this and how will it influence my love life?” If it is in your career, what are the things you need to do in your career that may not have a direct influence on your love life but there will be an indirect influence if you are feeling more satisfied in your job, if you are able to get to the next level of pay, or whatever it might be that might not have a direct influence on your love life, but it will have an indirect influence.

There are other areas that will have a direct influence on your love life, such as socializing or even health and fitness, as I mentioned in the last one. If you want to get into learning a new skill or task, you might decide that hockey isn’t the best place to meet women. Maybe you need to join a hiking group or maybe you need to join, even better, a dance class. There is always way more women than men at dance classes, so you’ll always have a much greater opportunity 1) to meet women, but also [2] to interact with them in an atmosphere where it gets you more comfortable being around women. You are going to be a little awkward at first, potentially, but, eventually you get more comfortable and it is much easier to get more comfortable with women when it is in a situation when it is not specifically geared towards having that romantic expectation.

6. Take a moment to feel what it will feel like to check the most important items off that list. You’ve made a list of the things that you know you need to do. Now you are going to imagine, just like we have imagined the other visualizations we’ve had that are things we want in the future but are imagined as real right now. This one is really easy, in that these smaller tasks are so much closer to being accomplished. You can actually do these things and you have control of them. What you want to do is have a look at your list of tasks you want to accomplish in each of these areas and imagine that it’s already done. You’re going to be like, “Wow, I accomplished that. I checked that off the list.”

How does that feel? You should feel it in your body somewhere. You are going to feel proud again. You probably find that pride from that major accomplishment you had in life and also that feeling of feeling great about yourself, like you feel when you focus on all the right qualities that you know are great about yourself or that other

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people told you are great. Just imagine that these things are already accomplished and how that’s going to feel for you. Pause until you have gone through each one. It is very important to go through each item that you’ve made as a task and imagine feeling that it is already accomplished. That is going to help your brain take up opportunities that help support accomplishing this list. When you’re ready, continue.

7. Probably there were some negative thoughts that came up. Which of them can you associate with these areas of your life wheel? Which of those negative thoughts are some of the same negative thoughts that you’ve been having throughout all of the different affirmations that you have been saying everyday? You are going to find that you probably have some very similar negative thoughts that continue to come up. I’m not good enough, this is too much work; whatever it is that is sort of holding you back from accomplishing these tasks. Whatever that is, write it down and then write down what the opposite present tense positive affirmation would be for that thought. It is going to feel really awkward to say these ones because they don’t feel real. With time, eventually they will.

When you say these affirmations, I really want you to imagine the feeling of what it would be like if it was true. What would it feel like if it was true? Try to focus on that feeling when you are saying these affirmations. These are the ones you really need to keep saying to yourself every day until you believe them to be true. This really does work. I used to think I was not good enough. I used to think that I wasn’t lovable. I used to think that I would definitely be abandoned because of my childhood stuff. When I started saying my affirmations, I felt like a phoney. I felt like a fraud. Eventually, it got to a point where it really felt real. Now I can say it to somebody else with 100 per cent confidence and that’s how I know it is real for me. When we can say it to somebody else and not feel like we are completely lying, then we know our brain has integrated that information, it will be true for us, and we can move forward.

Conscious Blocks

Throughout the day, check in with yourself to see if you’re staying on track and focused. You may find that there is a bit of self-sabotage, which is normal, but being aware is the first step. When you have awareness, you can make a choice to change. Be careful not to allow yourself to major in the minors. You want to instead focus on the majors that will really move you forward and remember that nothing changes if don’t. If you don’t change and if you don’t do these things.

At the end of the day, no matter what you’ve accomplished, high five yourself for completing whatever tasks you accomplished or even tried to accomplish. If you did a little bit more than you did the day before, then celebrate the small wins, because along the way, that momentum adds up and it helps propel you to the next step. It creates the habit for life that you’ll be happier, which is super sexy, right?

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Rewrite your story

A note about rewriting your story… I think you already know by now that beliefs are just thoughts and we can change them. Thoughts create feelings, feelings create actions, actions create results. If we want the outcome of what we are seeing in our life to be different, we have to start at the beginning, which are belief systems and that is just changing our thoughts.

A good way of thinking about how to do this and how easily this can be accomplished is that if you have ever had an “Aha” moment, you have experienced a sudden change in beliefs about something that just a moment ago, you believed something different. You can literally change your belief in an instant if you choose to. You can do the same thing with reoccurring, unhealthy beliefs that don’t serve you.

For example, I used to feel like if I let my guard down to love, I would be abandoned. This belief came from my dad dying when I was 12. My “Aha” was realizing that I had control of my thoughts and feelings and that love doesn’t automatically mean the risk of abandonment.

The other thing, too, is we often like to buy into our negative belief systems, because they, in a way, keep us safe. What’s familiar is what is comfortable for us, but life does begin outside of our comfort zone. The reality of negative belief systems is simply based in fear. We fear that we won’t be able to handle the outcome of making those changes or we risk having an outcome that is not exactly as we would want it to be. Ultimately, we can always boil down all our fears into the fear of death.

For example, if I change careers, then I might fail. I might end up with no money. I might end up on the street. I might die. These are the kind of trains of thought that subconsciously keeps us with belief systems that keep us where we are because, at lease where we are, we know we are not dead. We’re surviving, but we’re not thriving. If you want to thrive, you’ve got to get past the fear and step into courage.

It doesn’t matter what happened to you in your childhood. You can turn your story around and make what happened into a positive. Maybe you’re stronger, more compassionate, intuitive, kind, or whatever because of those supposedly bad things that you experienced in life. Instead of playing the victim role, rewrite your script so that you are the victor. When you can do that, you are on your way to becoming a Love Warrior.

Whatever your story is, it is just a story and you can change your story. You have the power to change your story. You can start doing that right now.

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This task, looking at your Life Wheel and making steps to improve each area that needs it, is something that you are going to do regularly for the rest of your life. When we schedule to review our progress, we keep ourselves on track moving forward, and we get to see how far we’ve come. It is really important to celebrate the small successes along the way because it shows that we are moving forward. We are making progress. When we see that we are moving forward in a positive way, we like ourselves more and this makes us happier, more interesting, therefore, more attractive. It also creates a habit for life because when we want to be in a relationship, we need to be interesting. If we are always doing something new and moving forward, then we are always going to be interesting because don’t just want to catch them and then get lazy. It’s about attracting and keeping. The bonus is that you are going to be happier, too.

Self-sabotage?

What about self-sabotage? It always does come up. It still comes up for me. When self-sabotage comes up for me, I am aware of it. I think, “Ok, where is this coming from? What am I afraid of? How can I get past it? What are little steps I can take to get past it?”

At the end of the week, note which tasks kept getting moved to the next day. What were the things you just kept putting off? Don’t beat yourself up. It took many years to develop the habits you have and it will take some time to uncover and reprogram. A thought is just a thought and it can be changed. You give your thoughts truth and power. Just keep saying to yourself, “What would my best self have to believe to achieve this task?” Whatever that thought is about that belief about yourself is going to be your affirmation. These are the most important affirmations that you want to make sure you are saying as many times a day as you can. In fact, every time you catch yourself and you know that this is about one particular belief system, go to the bathroom and look in the mirror. Say that affirmation. “I am worthy of love.” “I can do this.” “I do deserve it.” “I can trust love.” “I can open up.” Whatever it is that you finally discovered is holding you back, just start saying, “I am going to be in control of this. I decide.” You can do it.

Continue with your ideal day bedtime visualization.

Continue with your affirmations.

Continue with your gratitude. It is really hard to be unhappy when you are grateful.

I know it seems like a lot of work, but just keep going with it and you will find that sometimes some of the belief systems will take effect sooner than the other things. As soon as you can actually say some of these affirmations to a friend or stranger, and you can believe it, then it is integrated. What I would suggest, is if you have someone you can trust, then schedule after 60 days of saying these

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affirmations to yourself, to confide in a friend. Ask your friend if they would be willing to listen to you. Go through all these affirmations and ask for feedback. When I said, “I am worthy,” did you believe me? And they might say, “Yeah or no,” but the important thing is, did you believe you?

Any of those items on your list that you really, fully believe, if it is already 100 per cent “yes,” you can scratch it off the list. You don’t have to keep saying it once it is integrated. Then, just narrow your list down to the things you still need to believe about yourself that you haven’t quite integrated yet. Eventually, you will literally be able to rattle off all these things about yourself and feel really proud of who you are.

The Path to Love requires consistent action over time. What happens if we stop? Right! Underbrush grows up and we have to start all over. Make your list and take action immediately to start completing those tasks.

Are you ready for the next steps to wake up to love? Awesome-sauce-magnum-heart-amazo-possum!

“Nothing changes if you don’t [make a list and take action now!]”

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Session 5: The Vision – Your Map to Love

Welcome to Session 5. This is a bonus session. Overview.

• Review homework • What you’ll learn • Love Life Vision • Homework • I’ll miss you too ☹

Homework Review

Life Wheel

• What areas are out of balance? • What can you do about that? • What do you need to believe about yourself to make these changes?

Did you figure that out? Did you write it down? Did you do your affirmations? Did you say your every day gratitude? If you did, good for you. You are definitely on the path. The meadow is right there before you. You’re almost there.

What you’ll learn…

• To hit a target, um—you need one! Do you remember when we were shooting targets in the dark with a blindfold on? Now we are going to figure out the target.

• Goals are more easily achieved when using all the senses. Sight, sound, smell, taste. This is where all the visualization comes from when we are doing our visualizations and affirmations.

• The importance of creating a Vision Statement and Vision Board.

Vision

What do you want your love life to look like? Your love life is more than romance and intimacy. Love Life. I think you’ve got the hint by now. You have to love your whole life and your whole self to find, attract and keep that special someone. Of course, this doesn’t happen overnight. The good news is that you don’t have to be totally self-loving, rainbow-farting unicorn to find that right person right now, because…no one is perfect!

By accepting this about others and yourself, you will be able to find the perfect person for you. I really want to stress this. Neither you nor your partner is going to

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be perfect. We are never going to be perfect. This is the reality of being a human person. This should actually come as a big-ass relief! Couples that grow together stay (happy) together. Because…couples that grow together stay (happy) together. The best relationships are when two people are able to accept each other’s so-called flaws while supporting each other’s personal growth. It ain’t always going to be roses, I can tell you that right now. I’m sure you’re happy to know you will be in the flower garden soon, so to speak.

Why is a Vision Statement & Vision Board important?

• Creates a clear picture of your desired future. • Helps you focus to stay on track and moving forward. • Provides guiding principles to help with decision-making and taking action in

alignment with your values. • Gives excitement to propel you forward when the path gets rough. • Gives clear information for the world to reflect and present opportunities,

people, and resources to help you accomplish your goals in life. This is love goals and life goals.

The brain has a mysterious yet predictable ally. When we have a visual reminder of where we want to be, our brain stores that information and kind of pokes us in the ribs when something relevant comes into our experience. We may have passed by the same opportunity in the past but now that our brain actually knows where we are headed, it will trigger us to finally consider what may have been right in front of us for years. We will go over the “How To” in the homework part.

When we use all of our senses to create the vision of our ideal future, our brain registers it as real. The brain can’t distinguish between real and fake. If we fake it by feeling it is real now. This is why we want to use all the senses. Try to imagine what the day in the life of your best self would smell like. Would look like. What would some of the flavours be that you would be tasting in your day? Maybe if you have the kind financial success you want, you get to buy really gourmet ice cream. You want to really incorporate all of the senses. The more real you can make it feel, the more your brain will support you in noticing the things to help you support those goals.

Dream it into Reality

There’s that phrase, “Fake it ‘til we make it.” That’s what we are doing. We’re going to fake it ‘til we make it real. Kind of like when we have a dream that we’re flying, or falling or swimming. Or in my case, kissing Gerard Butler. You kind of get the idea. If you can figure out a way for you to direct your sleeping dreams … well, actually if I could figure out a way to direct my sleeping dreams, I will definitely let you know because that would be very productive! We can at least direct our waking dreams.

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When we find our real life partner, instead of just sleeping our life away, we get to actually experience them in reality.

What you learned…

• To hit a target, we need one! • Goals are achieved when using all the senses. • Creating a Vision Statement and Vision Board gets us there faster!

You do want to get there faster, so you have to do the homework. The finish line is in sight. Even if your old story was to quit just before the finish line, you’re a new you right now. You’re becoming a newer you. The newer you is going to be better than the new you you are today. As long as you keep moving forward and doing your homework.

If you want to go back to the old you after this, go ahead. Just finish the program. I promise it will have an effect, even if it takes some time to marinade before manifesting. You are worth it, remember that.

Homework

Vision board. This is actually part of my Vision Board. I have mine on a thick cardboard paper and I have taken these images out of various magazines that are meaningful to me and that reflect what I see as the life I want to have. It is a very powerful reminder. I see it every day. It is posted on my wall, so that I can remember, both consciously and subconsciously, what I am moving toward.

Path to Love

Your vision is your map to love! You have done all of this work so far, so this is the bonus material that is going to help put your love map to the meadow in visual, real-life, accessible format.

Just remember, don’t give up. You’re ready. Just commit to spending some time every day creating your vision board and imagining what it feels like for that essence to be real.

One of the things I just want to mention, and I may go over it again in the homework session, is the idea of having a specific person that you are interested in. For example, I mentioned Gerard Butler. The reality of life is, I have no idea what Gerard Butler is really like in person. I only have an imagination of what I think he is like and my imagination of what I think he is like is what I am actually interested in. So, if you have a particular celebrity or a particular person that you have in mind as someone you want to have as your partner, they may or may not be the right person for you. Examine what the essence of what the qualities of that person are because those are

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actually what you think you want. You are not actually trying to get a specific person; you can’t determine the will of another person, but you can attract someone who has the essence of the qualities you believe they have.

“Nothing changes if you don’t [have a vision].”

Session 5 Homework

Welcome to the bonus session homework. Your Vision Statement is best to get finished in one go and your Vision Board maybe be an ongoing and evolving project. The sooner you have some strong, solid images, the faster you will manifest those things in your life. This isn’t about “woo woo” stuff, though I believe that is part of it. It’s more about having an in-your-face visual map to keep us on track and inspired.

Create Vision Statement and Vision Board

• Time to complete: o Statement: 30-60 minutes o Board: 30-60 days

• Purpose: Create a visual Love Life map.

Vision Statement

Just the tips:

• Your vision statement must be an all-encompassing statement, describing career, health, finances, relationships, travels, special interests, etc.

• It should be approximately a full page. Don’t make it too long, because you are going to have to read this thing.

• As with your “dream day” visualization and affirmations, your Vision Statement must be written in the ‘now’ as though it is already happening and positive.

Your Vision Statement is the result of all your efforts; the outcome you most desire. It is not where you are right now, but where you imagine your life to be. You are going to be really concise about it and basically go through all the sections of the Life Wheel and write a statement or a couple of sentences for each of those areas for what your ideal life looks like. It represents your life’s work; your purpose for being here. It is large in scope but not difficult to manifest because the clarity sets in motion the necessary circumstances to unfold it in front of you. The “how” will be revealed. The process of achieving shifts from working hard, pushing and pursuing, to attracting, which is easier and simpler.

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• The language used should be compelling to provide the guiding principles that will keep you going when times get rough, as they undoubtedly will.

• The more detail you can put in, the better. Try to keep it concise to one page, but this is going to be the synopsis for your ideal life.

Example 1: For example: “I am surrounded by thought-provoking, intelligent and inspiring people who share my values. I feel pumped each day. I trust the process.”

Example 2:

“I earn $250,000 per year plus an additional $50,000 per year from royalties.”

It could be, “I earn $50,000 per year.” Whatever it is that is real and possible for you for your life that is going to keep you excited and moving towards it. Use the statements that compel you that you know are possible.

Example 3:

“My health is better than ever. I swim or walk every day and play tennis on the weekends. I love my body and feel vibrant and sexy as hell!”

Your Vision Statement must be posted somewhere where you can see it and be reminded of it every day. This will keep you focused, on track and moving forward. You are going to read it, and feel as though it is already accomplished. You already know that this is so important and if you can do the readings of it in the mornings it will motivate you in your daily tasks. I would suggest that you read it every day until you are at a point where you don’t need to. The reason I suggest reading it in the morning is because reading it at night can be overstimulating. You don’t want to get all pumped up and motivated when it is time to go into hypnosis and create the vision of your loved one. Either pause or just start writing now and then carry on listening when you’re ready.

Vision Board

Just the Tips: • A Vision Board is made up of photos, drawings, paintings, magazine clippings

and quotes in the form of a collage, or similar digital compilation—think: screensaver. As long as you see it every day.

• Visuals can be arranged on a board or a wall any way you like. • Sections for home, family, work, health, (your Whole Life Wheel perhaps) or

concentric circles with you in the middle, family in the next outer circle, etc. • Arrange it the way that it has deepest meaning for you.

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The main thing is that the images you select have meaning for what lights your fire. Not what you think you should want; remember your needs and values. There should be no guilt or negative feelings about what you put on your Vision Board. Some guys feel like this is a girly thing to do, but, know this. Some of the most successful business men use vision boards.

Update your Vision Statement and Vision Board as you accomplish goals and develop new goals! This is a journey with check marks and high-fives along the way. My vision board has secret flaps and pop-up bits (which probably sounds totally sexual for the boys, but it’s really not).

Don’t forget that this next part is an important part. Invite me to your wedding! Ok, fine, just send me a post card.

That’s it. Get to it and I will see you in the What’s Next For So Long For Now segment and I’ll miss you too.

Path to Love: Loving your life leads to an amazing love life! I am wishing you lots of love, lots of laughs, and a life you love living.

Future: You are ready! You are love. Thank you so much for sharing this part of your journey with me. If you have any questions, please contact me.

What’s our mantra? “Nothing changes if you don’t.”

Be sure to check out my website for regular updates and advice for dating, love, and relationships. I certainly welcome your feedback. If you found this program helpful or have any questions or recommendations, please let me know. I would love to hear from you.

Again, take care.

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