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Roles and Boundariesin Ministry
Catherine O’Connor, CSB, Ph.D.
Covenant Health Systems Lexington, MA
Goals:
To define “boundaries” in professional ministerial relationships
To explore and clarify different kinds of boundaries
To recognize various boundary violations
To name strategies to protect and safeguard boundaries
Name examples of boundaries which come to mind
Basic Boundary - The Cell
Boundary Range
Rigid
Structured
Fluid
Chaotic
Boundary Functions
1. Protection from harm
2. Maintain integrity (Form and Shape)
3. Manage input and output
Boundaries are:
Limits which provide safety in the presence of power (e.g. speed limits, road signs, cover over electrical wiring
Limits that delineate time, place, our person (i.e.: where I leave off and the rest of the world begins)
P.B. Macke, S.J, Human Development, Spring 1993
Boundary Development
Natural sense of boundaries
Family of Origin
Culture
Society
Professional Standards
Personal vs. Professional Relationships
Personal relationship is private, although lived out in public arena. Exists to meet any of one’s primary emotional, spiritual, sexual needs
Professional relationship is public and has a social responsibility. Exists within context of external standards, and has expectation that one acts in best interest of recipient of service
ME OTHER
SUBMISSIVE
Personal Boundary
ME OTHER
AGGRESSIVE
Personal Boundary
ME OTHER
ASSERTIVE IMPACT
Personal Boundary
ME OTHER
DEFEND
Personal Boundary
The Flow of Intimacy
Merged
CLOSE SEPARATE
Balance of Power
On a scale of 1-7, potential of boundary
violation?
Balance of Power
A 15 year old female Vietnamese immigrant
with limited English skills; and her 46 year
old white pastor.
Balance of Power
A 29 year old African-American male teacher,
who is in crisis over the recent death of his
brother, and his 32 year old African-American
priest.
Balance of Power
A 25 year old white male who has discovered
his wife is drunk most evenings and hidesalcohol around the house – he knows
littleabout addictions or the treatment
optionsavailable – and the 35 year old white
femalepastoral minister at his church to whom
he goes for advice.
Balance of Power
A 40 year old female, white president of the
parish council, who attends a finance meeting
with the 42 year old Asian male pastor of
the parish.
Purpose of Professional Relationships
A Covenant of Protection
Specific Professional Groups:
Medicine
Law
Religion
Teaching
Psychotherapy
Fiduciary Responsibility
A duty to act with the highest degree of honesty, loyalty and in the best interests of the beneficiary
Ministry as a Profession Is a vocation
Renders a specialized service
Possesses and uses specialized knowledge and understanding, requires education & skills
Is accountable to those served, and appropriate authorities
Uses power and authority in best interest of those served, not in self-interest
Power
Authority
Power & Authority for Ministry
Natural Gifts/Personal Talent
Calling and ratification by external body
Training
Credentials
Contract/Endorsement for Ministry
Symbolic Role
Professional Ministry is:
Performed by ordained and lay members of the Christian community
Equally professional when performed by a non-ordained person
Different from the ministry of the members of the community to one another
Role of Boundaries
Boundaries exist for the sake of vulnerable people
Boundaries provide for the management of Care and Ethics in Pastoral Relationships
Unique Aspect of Boundaries in Ministry
Dual Relationships
vs.
Overlapping relationships
Professional Restraint
Responsibility to refrain from using pastoral relationship to satisfy our desire for attention, acceptance , pleasure, profit or prestige
Definition of Boundary Violation
A boundary violation is anything that alters the limits that allow for a safe connection based on the needs of the one being served
Boundary Violation
Boundary violation does not lie in the intention of the person who has power and authority in the situation, but in the perception of the person who is the recipient
Vignettes
Does vignette touch on dual relationship or boundaries? If boundaries, is it verbal, emotional, or physical? At what point could a potential problem have been averted?
Vignettes
A father of one of the children you are working with often comes to you with complaints about his wife. You listen and try to be supportive. His visits become more and more frequent and he invites you to lunch because, he says he finds these encounters so supportive.
Vignettes
A woman comes to you in grief as she tells you about the death of her sister whom she cared for during a long illness. You went through a similar experience with your mother and are deeply moved by the woman’s account of her experience. You spontaneously go over to the woman and being to rub her shoulders.
Vignettes
You are a massage therapist. A friend requests your services, paying the regular fee. You set up a series of appointments, but after the third appointment, your friend does not appear and has not cancelled the appointment. You inform her that you charge for missed appointments. She is upset, assuming that your friendship takes precedent over your policy.
Vignettes
A new assistant is hired at the parish. You frequently tease him about his good looks and that the women in the parish may find him “too sexy” to resist. You enjoy teasing him, but he is obviously uncomfortable with your teasing.
Vignettes
You have formed a very close relationship with one of the young adults of the opposite gender with whom you minister. This person often visits you in your home where there is no “private” space for visiting. You invite this person to visit in your bedroom for the sake of privacy.
Vignettes
Other? An experience you’ve had or been aware of....
G. Kline, OP, LPC
Transference and Countertransference
Transference: The re-enactment of past
emotional relationships in a current
relationship
Countertransference: The professional’s
emotional reaction to the patient
Occupational Boundary Hazards
1. Idealized (Divinized) Vocation
2. Multiple Roles with Diffuse Boundaries
3. Reduced Accountability Structures
4. Over-Exposed to Human Needs
5. Under-Nurtured in Own Needs
Common Standards - Code of Ethics
101.1 Gives expression to the basic values and standards of the profession
101.2 Guides decision-making & professional behavior
101.3 Provides a mechanism for professional accountability
101.4 Informs the public regarding expectation
of Spiritual Care Professionals
Prevention of Boundary Violations
Know the limits of your competence Set appropriate limits on ministerial
contacts Be aware of sexual feelings Engage in stress management and self-care Avoid dual relationship Attend to personal relationships & intimacy
needs Avoid workaholism and burnout Supervision/Counseling/Spiritual Direction Avoid Isolation