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Divakar G.M.Krishna M.C.

Bharathi S Gopal

Institute of Management

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What is space? Is space required in a relationship? Different attachment styles Practical issues in providing space

How to give space Role plays – Set 1

Space in public life

Role of dissent Role of Space – Student life Role of space - Work place Accepting failure

Role plays – Set 2

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Privacy or time for self

Space is a right and responsibility

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Two individuals - their own set of interests, likes,passions and friends

Time gives individuals time to process theirthoughts, pursue hobbies and relax withoutresponsibilities to others

Fosters sense of Identity

Helps to be independent rather than needy andclingy

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Upbringing and Growing up Shapes the Need

for Space

Research Indicator: Married women have a

higher need for space relatively

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Even while we have a desire to be with each other allthe time, we also must understand that there are timeswhen one person or both will need to have time to bealone

When one person in a relationship tells the other personthat they need to be alone, the other person often feelsoffended Why does he/she not want to be with me right now? If

she/he is upset, why doesn’t he/she want me to be withthem? Why are they shutting me out?

Often times when one states that they need to be leftalone, it has nothing to do with the other person

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1. Doing things of one’s own choice regularly Spare time spent with each other 

Negative feelings of clinginess, possessiveness or jealousy

Sense of suffocation

2. Developing a relationship that allows one to

be independent

Intensity, perfectionism and taking oneself and one'srelationship too seriously

Sense of controlling one another 

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3. Open Conversation

Appropriate Words and Body Language

Avoid Blame Game

Learning and Growing

Leisure time

Quiet time

Working space

Emotional space

Financial space

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6. Break out of the mold of the relationship Assign different roles, even as rivals

Informal parties and formal group meetings -

Network separately Same vacation but different set of activities

7. Reassure and readjust the distance Too much space resulting in lack of

communication

8. Soul mates and not cellmatesAssuming that a couple considers themselves as

soul mates

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You need to discuss an ongoing project with acolleague who works in the same building. Do

you:

Scoot over and perch on their desk

Grab a spare chair near their desk Phone them

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You cope with background noise in the officeby…

You love the background buzz and couldn’t getthrough the workday without it.

Focusing on your work – you can usually tunemost of it out when you’re concentrating.

Wearing noise-cancelling earphones most ofthe time.

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A business contact you know well visits youroffice …How do you greet them?

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Now Rakesh has been chosen to represent the country for an international sports meet.

On the day of the briefing Rakesh joins the team of thirty for the meeting. However he

finds it very embarrassing to find that he is the only one to be accompanied by a parent.

Following the briefing the team has to undergo a rigorous training at another camp. On

the day of departure, Rakesh decides to tell his dad that he need not accompany him tothe airport.

Rakesh (21 year old) is the only son of the Kapoor 

couple and has been bestowed with all

requirements for a comfortable living. His father

is very fond of his son. He ensured his son not

only gets good education but also develops

passion for sports and other activities. He spent

considerable amount of time accompanying

Rakesh to sports events, competitions, coaching

classes and also take care of all administration

formalities of paying fees, submitting documents

and others.

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Prithvi and Shraddha are a couple.

Prithvi is very independent in his

thinking and methodical in approach.

One evening he returns home dejectedas one of his projects was put under  

rigorous review by his boss. He is

expected to submit a revised report and

make a final presentation the following

week. His concerned wife approaches

him.

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Role of dissent in a society

Role of space – Student life

Role of space - Work place

Accepting failure

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Ancient Indian philosophy – Buddha’sdissent

Mahatma Gandhi and dissent

Independent India - Debates on Publicpolicy

Majority – Minority sensitization (it is

not just about Religion, Caste,Ethnicity, under privileged. It includesall aspects where there is a possibleopinion)

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Different educational background

Different cultural background Regional influence

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Global diversity andinclusion

As inclusive as ourBrand

Respect forIndividuals

We value diversityof thought

GlobalBrands

Values Diversityand Inclusion, and

is committed to

Equal opportunities

We must be caring,show respect and

compassion

Financialinclusion

MajorIndianBrands

Equal opportunitiesemployer 

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Boss subordinate relationship

Customer – Supplier relationship … proximity

Peer relationships in teams Behavioral issues … meek vs. aggressive

Gender bias at work place

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Accepting ones own failure as astepping stone for success Write Brothers … Steve Jobs…Bill Gates…

many Chartered Accountants (tough exam tocrack… so failure is only a stepping stone)

Accepting failure of others Provides respectability in the society

Promotes risk taking

Puts faith in the system

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Srinath Deshpande, an English teacher  

asked his Grade 8 students to write an essay

on the personality of Ms. Havisham from the

classic Great Expectations. On the day of

submission he realized that the entire class

had completed the essay except Shweta.

On enquiring she showed her copy but

clarified that she needed some more time to

think through if her work was good enoughfor submission and requested for a two-day

extension. Mr. Deshpande listened to her 

thoughtfully.

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Shashikant Nair was a widower who lived with his four 

sons. His stay with each son was three months, though

he never longed to stay with anyone of them for too

long. He also detested this seasonal migration. One day

he met an old friend at a temple concert and over  conversation informed him about the old age home he

resided in. He invited Nair to visit the old age home the

following week. Nair felt it was an ideal place to meet

many like him, engage in some physical activity like

gardening, yoga or teaching kids. There was a spacious

library and meditation hall. Most of all Nair met several

acquaintances and was pleasantly surprised at the

facilities available. The following Sunday he called his

four sons and their families and announced his decision.

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Divya was working in a leading fashion retail

chain since three years. Her job involved

working in a team and making presentations

of the team’s proposals and ideas to

suppliers, clients and internal heads. Her team leader Desai was an old-hand in the

company and always felt it was his job to

mentor youngsters. He would intervene

during presentations and extend support to

the presenter and the team though he or she

was capable to defend arguments. However,

Divya who was making her 89th presentation

did not appreciate his intervention.

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