presentation, sydhavnen, sep27-2011
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"Det vil oftest være værdifuldt at knytte en udefrakommende coach til talentet. en coach kan vedholdende styrke talentet i at reflektere over egne følelser og reaktionsmønstre og skabe yderligere personlig vækst. Coachen kan sikre, at talentet fastholder den udvikling især af personlige kompetencer, der er afgørende for at kunne bevæge sig med succes i organisationen""Et talent sætter i højere grad end andre medarbejdere egne mål, egen udvikling og muligheder i centrum""Et talent skal kunne se sig selv dybt i øjnene og fremme sin egen modning. Talentets indre modning er en hjørnesten i talentudvikling, og måske den mest udfordrende for talentet. Indsigt i efne reaktionsmønstre og funktionsmåder er langt mere krævende at opnå - og måske også smertelige""For at kunne frigøre sit fulde potentiale og modne talentet er det nødvendigt, at et talent tør kigge ind i sig selv og spørge: Hvordan bliver jeg passioneret? Hvordan viser jeg at jeg vil tage ejerskab? Hvordan finder jeg mod til at afprøve mine egne grænser?Har jeg den nødvendige tillid til mig selv til at kaste mig ud i udfordringerne? Hvilke stopklodser i mit indre forhindrer mig i at nå mine mål?""Når i som organisation ønsker at opdyrke jeres egne talenter, kan i med stor fordel koble en ekstern coach på talentet, udover den nærmeste leder"TRANSCRIPT
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FROM SELF CONFIDENCE TO SELF
ESTEEM….EMPOWERMENT OF A HIGH ACHIEVERfriisnaes.com - performancemaster.com
From self confidence to self esteem( Fra selvtillid til selvværd )
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Talent coach
Leadership coach
Salesman and marketeer
44Married2 boys
Passions
•Personal development•Travelling•Hockey
Thomas Friisnæs
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High achievers
Primary strength is self confidence
Performance driven by self confidence
The individual within the team
Highest wish: more performance
Self confidence is fragile
Self confidence is grounded in self esteem
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But what are these terms?
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True drivers
WHYBurningplatforms
Overview– priority – focus - decisiveness
Clear goals
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Means to perform
SOLIDSelf confidence
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ExerciseWhat have you achieved the past 5 years?
Looking back to September 27th 2006 and till NOW
Top 3
Positive
3 minutes
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Self esteem Self confidence
What I doYour merits
Dine ”bilkort”
What I am
PositionEducationHouseCarClothesJewelryWatches Network
ResultsFitnessFriendsSeminarsCustomersGadgetsPurses, bagsShoesTravelsRestaurants
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Maturing
DOINGSYour merits
Dine ”bilkort”
BEINGS
Goal (surface)Underlying
Being in the performanceBe yourself
Stay in your comfortzoneBreak your comfortzone(and develop)
External recognitionInternal recognition
Pursue others dreamsDefines own dreamsConstantly towards new goalsPresent in the now
Always on the moveTime for reflectionKnow bestKnows that I can develop
Wants to correct the worldAccepts that the world is perfect
Must be perfectAccepts that we do everything wecan, with the resources we have
Self esteem Self confidence
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Maturing
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Self esteem – to take it to next level
What I can do anything about – I do!
What I can not do anything about – I accept!
Without your own dreams, you accept to become a resource for others – those who have found and live their dreams
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Insights in reactionpatterns
Releasing full potential
Finding nessesary courage to leave comfortzone
Insights in internal preventions
Self esteem exercises - I
•Accept your present situation (and move on)
•Accept your past - your weaknesses – and focus on your strengths – NOTES FROM YESTERDAY
•Don’t be too serious, everyone can make a mistake
•Love yourself – you’re unique
•Praise yourself when you succeed – HOW CAN YOU DO IT?
•Visualize your success – rolemodelling
•Don’t act to please others
•Don’t judge others
•Show courage - Break your comfort zone, play without limits
•Enjoy your own company
•Admit that you’re vulnerable
•Make your own personal mental contract -
•Set your goals – and reward yourself
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Self esteem exercises - II
•Meet others with a smile, a firm handshake and look the into their eyes
•Show gratitude and appreciation, when you’re recognized
•Don’t brag
•Don’t focus on probems and negativity in your conversations. Think positive thoughts
•See mistakes as a tool to improve and learn
•Respond to pressure by increasing your activity level
•Say it when you disagree
•Focus on your qualities, take a strength test
•Strengthen the faith in yourself
•Say no – move from respect to self respect
•Practice your ability to accept
•Take chances – it is OK to make mistakes
•Practice your self pep-talk•Learn to recognize at be recognized (for what you are, not what you do)
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ExerciseWhat do YOU dream about doing within the next 5 years?
From today and untill September 27th 2016
Top 5
And WHY – what will it give YOU and PHILIPS(finding the underlying reasons and true motivation)
3 minutes
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DOINGSBEINGS
OBTAIN insight and consciouness/awareness
USE insight and consciouness/awareness
Self esteem Self confidence
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To take it to the next
level
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ExerciseWhat will YOU do TODAYto get one step closer to each of your goals?
Specific
Measurable
Attractive
Realistic
Timeframe
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More on motivation
Dan Pink – motivation in another perspektiveted.com – approx. 19 minutes
RSA Animateyoutube.com – RSA Animate motivation10 minute cartoon
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Build your self confidence on a basis of self esteem
Slingshot / boost your self confidence
Perform even more
Find insight
Become conscious
Use consciousness
Find the courage to break out of your comfort zone
Concluding
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Individual performance; a critical
success factorBased upon today's discussion please imagine three changes in your own behavior that could improve performance of your colleagues and/or direct reports
Discuss them with your new buddy and report short back to the group
Do not ask what your company can do for you, but what YOU can do for your company
Performance improvements
Mathematic provenWhat makes 100% in life?
K-N-O-W-L-E-D-G-E 11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 = 96%
H-A-R-D- W-O-R-K 8+1+18+23+15+18+11=98%
A-T-T-I-T-U-D-E1+20+20+9+21+4+5 = 100%
B-U-L-L-S-H-I-T
21+12+12+19+8+9+20 = 103%
A-S-S-K-I-S-S-I-N-G
1+19+19+11+9+19+19+9+14+7 = 118%
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Questions? Comments?
Self confident or plain arrogant – find your
balanceSelf confidence
•Non name droppers•Keeps the eyecontact•Is there on time•Always listening•Admits flaws•No need to brag
Arrogance
•Name-droppers•Eye flashers•Late for meetings•Interrupts•Never wrong•Been there – done that
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Develop selv confidence
Smile – always Develop direct eye contact Generate energy with you Love and accept yourself Pamper yourself Model successful people Do your SWOT analysis Focus og your feelings and emotions Have an attitude of gratitude Practice positive affirmations Practice visualisations Mind your negative thoughts Make a descision today to change Shift your focus You don’t have to be perfect all the time