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POHICKPOST

Let your light so shine (Matt. 5:16)

Pohick Episcopal Church9301 Richmond Highway Lorton, VA 22079

Telephone: 703-339-6572 Fax: 703-339-9884

JANUARY 2015

From Te Rector

Te ReverendDonald D. Binder, PhD

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RECTORSREPORT is past year has been one of many blessings forour congregation. Most of these have been related toour continuing work on the Let Your Light So Shineinitiatives begun in 2013, wherein we have tried toreect the light of Christ more brightly into our sur-rounding communities.

e Country Fair was the most visible of these.Under the capable leadership of Mike Wooten, AnneDerbes, and the entire Fair Committee, this past Sep-tember, along with our fair goers, we welcomed to joinin the days festivities many partner ministries such asLCAC, Gunston Hall, and Mt. Vernon. As a result, ourbonds with those organizations and their constituentshave been strengthened in many tangible ways: we nowhave increased representation within LCAC, a renewalof the annual visitations by the Gunston Hall reagents,and an increase of my pastoral work at Mt. Vernon,

which this past year included the oering of prayersand a homily at the public memorial service for JimRees, the late, longtime Director of that august institu-tion.

While the Fair was the most conspicuous mani-festation of the LYLSS initiatives, other of our parishgroups have also been letting Christs light shine in thesurrounding highways and byways. Our Communityof Hope has ramped up its visitation schedule amongthose needing pastoral care - especially in our weeklyservices at the Health Center at the Fairfax Retirement

Home, whose numbers have dramatically increased

over the past year. Similarly, members of the recentlyconstituted ministry, Agape Works, have respondedlovingly to the regular requests they receive for practi-cal assistance. Elsewhere, our Ushers, Docents, Greet-ers, and Newcomers Committee members have beenparticularly conscientious in welcoming the increasednumber of visitors we have had this past year, many of

whom have chosen to join our parish family.Not only have the aforementioned events and min-

istries attracted these visitors, but so has our onlinepresence. Here, we have continued to make good use

of our Google Adwords grant, now in its second yearIn 2014, ads for our church and its events received 7.7million impressions, leading more than 27,000 Internetusers to our website. Had we been paying customersthose ads would have cost us over $41,000. Late in the

year, we did begin paying for a much more modest pro-gram, where (hardcopy) mailings are now being sentto new families in the neighborhoods surrounding ourchurch. Our Sunday school, Adult ed, EYC and Choirhave welcomed the families who have learned of our

work through these and other channels, leading theirnumbers to swell. Similarly, our recently chartered BoyScout troop has doubled in size since its establishmentlate last year.

I dont want to preempt the descriptions of thewonderful work of the many other ministries foundin our Annual Report, and so I would ask you to readthrough these carefully, noting with thanksgiving thesuccesses of the past year, while reecting upon how

you might help in any challenges for the year ahead.


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Pohick Episcopal ChurchPage 2 January 2015

From the Rector: continued from page 1 One of those that the incoming Vestry will facein 2015 is a somewhat new one for Pohick Church:being good stewards of large and generous bequests.As reported at our December forum, this past year

we received bequests from the estates of two coupleswho were personal friends and longtime parishionersof Pohick Church: Bob & Bunny Kilmarx and Roy& Norma Avery. Together, their one-time gifts totalapproximately $300,000. Beginning at its retreat thismonth, the Vestry will begin its deliberation of howbest to use these monies to advance the ministries ofour parish above and beyond what the generous annualnancial commitments of our congregation sustain.

We welcome your input in this regard as we start toweigh the various needs and mission possibilities for

the years ahead.Another matter we will be considering is the cur-rent structure of our Sunday service times. We adjustedthese slightly not long after my arrival in 2001 in orderto expand Sunday school time from 35 to 50 minutes.In the interim, we have explored other possibilities thathave been suggested in connection with our Strategicplan reviews, but ultimately it was my decision (withVestry support) to keep these times unchanged. is

year, we will take a fresh look, weighing the benets ofany such changes against potential drawbacks.

rough this all, it is my intention that we keep ourwills in accord with the calling of our heavenly Father,our eyes rmly xed upon the face of Christ our Lord,and our hearts and minds prayerfully attuned to thestirrings of the Holy Spirit. If we do this together, Iknow that we will discern wisely and have an incred-ibly fruitful harvest of mission and ministry in the New

Year. I would like to conclude by thanking all of those

who have oered so generously of their time, talentand treasure in the Lords elds this past year: our

church sta, especially Vonne Tronkya, who retiredafter twenty-three years of faithful service as ParishSecretary; our Vestry members who put in countlesshours in their ministry areas; and our volunteers andbenefactors, who have given so much in so many ways.May God bless you all for your good work at PohickChurch, both in the years past and in the months and

years to come.

Faithfully,Donald D. Binder+Rector

CHRISTIANEDUCATIONFrances Sessums, Director of Christian Education

Pohicks annual Christmas Pageant was held on

December 14. It was an outstanding production! estudents did a wonderful job in all of their parts! All ofthe Church School students participated in the pag-eant and they should be proud of the performanceeir hard work preparing paid o. A huge thanks goes to Jim From, who directed thePageant again this year! He did a super job of workingwith everyone. e senior high students did a ne jobcoaching the students with speaking parts over the lastve weeks, and the middle school students wrote andperformed an outstanding introduction skit. anks

also to all of the Church School teachers who did sucha great job helping their students and for attendingthe Saturday rehearsal! anks to Heather Seaton for directing the stableanimals, Jennifer and Rod Strawderman for help withcostumes, Graham Hogg, Neil Hogg, and Rusty Boothfor the stage setup, Graham Hogg and John Sessumsfor the sound, as well as Mari and Steve Harding forthe tremendous help with the party. anks to all whohelped make the pageant such a success!

LCAC CHRISTMAS

GIFTS& FOODBASKETS

e Outreach Committee would like to ex-press its appreciation to the wonderful Pohickcongregation for the Christmas gifts, food bas-kets, and money contributions donated for LCAC.is generosity made it possible for many familiesin the community to enjoy the holidays. anksfor sharing and putting joy into the lives of others.


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Pohick Episcopal Church January 2015 Page 3

From Te Assistant Rector

Te ReverendDr. Ruth E. Correll, Ed.D.

LOOKINGBACKON2014:ALTERATIONSANDINNOVATIONS

Several changes came about during my second cal-endar year of full time ministry at Pohick. Our lovingand energetic volunteers have helped to make thesetransitions inside and outside our church go smoothlyat every point. Our weekly Eucharistic service at e Fairfaxchanged day, time, and location. With the willing co-operation of the sta, we found that Wednesday at

2:00 pm works well with their schedule of activities.By moving to the nursing care oor of the HealthCare Center, ambulatory residents from the assistedliving and memory units can join those conned towheelchairs. We are delighted that our attendance hastripled this year. anks to independent living Pohick-ians, Anne Arnhart and Grace Delaune, along withour Community of Hope representatives, residents re-ceive a warm welcome and assistance. Either HeatherSeaton or Beth Baird carry their electronic keyboardsto provide accompaniment to sing favorite hymns.

e Community of Hope under the leadership ofour veteran trainers, Jennifer Sassin, Nancy Bireley,and Marleen McCabe opened wide our doors to St.Margarets and St. Aidans Churches who are just be-ginning COH. All three churches took turns in host-ing the classes while forging new bonds with other layministers. is innovation not only took a great deal ofcoordination with winter weather challenges but alsoyielded new bonds forged in Region Six lay ministry.

Once again this year, Rita Stankwitz hosted two

womens retreats. e best part of the 2014 retreatswas the increased number of women who plannedand participated these mornings. ey told stories ofrich encounters with the Lord, recalling the EmmausRoad (February 8) and modeled a score of ways to praywith all ve senses (August 2). As they loosened theirtongues and creativity to lift up our Lord, they encour-aged everyone present. On Sunday, May 4, a new group called Moms Un-leashed, introduced a luncheon after church in the An-nex. Lisa Herbert, Amanda Choi, and consultant An-

drea Stremler-Godwin work together to plan periodicmeetings for moms of all ages. ey swap child-rear-ing techniques, reveal wisdom of experience, and, yesair the challenges of family living in frenetic NorthernVirginia. Mostly, this new group gives mothers a time

away from meal production for Christian table talk. Chris Binder hosted the Alpha Parenting Courseat the Rectory with a living room full of parents ofchildren up to age 11. e participants kept up a livelyconversation on the topics with our able facilitatorsClint Herbert and his wife, Lisa Truesdale. Some ofthese couples plan to take the Alpha Marriage Coursebeginning January, 2015 on the rst Mondays of themonth. e current balance (12-16-14) in my discretion-ary fund is $300.39. Disbursements in 2014 totaled

$4184.89 as follows: rent assistance, $1825.00; helpwith utility bills, $999.44; emergency temporary hous-ing, $584.00, transportation aid, $336.45; and health/education matters, $440.00.

You can see theres never a dull moment in the As-sistant to the Rectors oce with all of the above alongwith regular celebrating, preaching, oering pastoracare, and keeping track of newcomers with the help oAnne Poads welcome committee. ank you for theprivilege of serving at Pohick Church.

BEGIN2015 WITHAPOHICK

CHURCHHISTORYREFRESHER!

Please join new trainees and fellow Historic Po-hick Church Docent Guild Members in a day ofPohick History training. e Docent Guild willbe holding a Full Training Session on Saturday,

January 24, 2015. e training will feature explana-tions of the Guilds activities by Guild members;

videotaped lectures by Father Don Binder on the

history of Pohick Church; a demonstration tour ofthe church. Coee, treats, and lunch are included.e session will begin at 9:30 am and end at 2:30pm. It will be held in the Parish House Annex.

e cost is $10 for those with a manual and $15for those needing a manual for the morning ses-sion. Reservation by check payable to the PohickChurch Docent Guild to the Church Oce, or toFred Crawford. RSVP to Fred Crawford at [email protected] or 703-680-1664.


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SENIORWARDENSREPORTStew Remaly, Senior Warden

Hopefully everyone was able to enjoy a very Mer-

ry Christmas and will be blessed with a prosperous,safe and happy New Year. is past year the Parishcontinued to spread the love of Christ through allits wonderful ministries, while remaining commit-ted to maintaining a balanced budget. e Steward-ship campaign lead by Jud Birely and Tony Marsicohas kept the Church on pace to maintain the scalresponsibilities and continue to support the manyoutreach programs. As a parish, there has been newgrowth and a number of new families and membershave been welcomed as they seek a deeper relationship

with Christ and look to be part of an active, caringand loving Church Family.

Next month, the Parish will elect a new Vestryfrom an extremely strong slate of candidates. anksagain to Mike Wooten, Susan Pehrsson, Fuzzy ur-ston, eron Jackson, Carolyn Cockroft, Brent Goeller,Fred Crawford, Amanda Choi, and Zach Smith forvolunteering to take on the challenge of leading theParish. Pray for the entire Vestry as they take on newchallenges this next year and work to grow the Parishand show others how to share in the love of Christ. anks again to the outgoing Vestry for theirleadership, spirit, friendship, and love. It has been aprivilege and great joy to have served on the Vestry ofPohick and serve as the Senior Warden. It is every-one working through Christ that makes this ParishFamily so special and makes Pohick such a wonderfulplace to live and grow in His Love. At the December meeting as recorded by DonBrownlee, the Vestry: Told that repairs to the organs electrical supply

have revealed that the electrical wiring on the northside of the Sanctuary is deteriorating and poses a rethreat from arcing. A risk assessment will be conduct-ed, and recommendations to take necessary action de-veloped as quickly as possible. Initial indications showthe wiring on the south side to be newer and not ex-hibiting the same symptoms of deterioration. Discussed concerns that have been raised re-garding the dishwasher in the kitchen. e issue wasturned over to a small group that will review issueswith both the dishwasher and the hot water supply,

and recommend the best way forward. Considered a Vestrygram regarding the worshippractice of reading all the names on the Prayer Listduring the Prayers of the People. After considerationthe Vestry consensus was to continue the current

practice. e clergy regularly reviews the Prayer Listto be sure those on it are still in need of prayer. John Pasour, Jud Bireley, and Tony Marsico werethanked for their presentations at the Parish Forumlast Sunday. Parishioner feedback on the structure ofthis forum has been very good. Approved the Treasurers Report. Plate andPledge income recovered signicantly in November. IDecember giving follows normal trends income goalsfor the year will be achieved. e Vestry thanks pa-rishioners for their strong support, and urges everyone

to prayerfully remember Pohick during the Christmasseason. Expenses for the year are generally runningas expected, with the exception of higher than antici-pated heating costs from last winter. Approved a plan to install a sprinkler system inthe courtyard, to be funded by the Historic PohickChurch Foundation. Expressed its appreciation to all who supportedthe Candlelight Supper and Christmas Party for theHomeless.

Declared December 30 as Vonne Troknya Ap-preciation Day. Parishioners and organization leadersare encouraged to stop by the oce that day to thankher for her two decades plus of service to the Parish. Remember that questions or problems should bedirected to a Vestry member or send a Vestry GramMay the Parish Family continue to receive manyblessings this New Year and thanks again to all forsupport, friendship, and love.

Send News!Articles for the February 2015 Pohick Post are due nolater than January 15. Forward input by email in Wordcompatible format to Lori Buckius, [email protected].

Design concerns &items for the Sunday

Service Volunteers pageshould be addressedto Carmel Hodge,[email protected].


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MUSICNOTES

Linda Egan,Minister of Music

CREDITCARDFORCOMMITMENTSCredit card use is now available for parishioners to paycommitments and make gifts to Pohick Church. Visa,MasterCard, Discover Card and American Express willbe accepted. Contact Mike Morgan, 703-339-6572 [email protected] for all the details and to enroll inthe program.

FLOWERGUILDVOLUNTEERSNEEDEDe Flower Guild is desperately in need of somevolunteers. WILL TRAIN! Call Anita Stribling,703-550-0444 or the Church oce, 703-339-6572.

Epiphany: e sages follow a bright star - a star!- to worship Jesus. ey ask Herod, that fox, where heis to be born. And even wily Herod becomes part ofGods plan by directing them to Bethlehem. Whenthey see that the star has stopped, they are over-whelmed with joy. ey see the child with Mary, hismother. ey kneel, pay him homage, and oer himtheir gifts: gold, frankincense and myrrh. And this Jesus, when a grown man, how does hemake this destiny to be king of the Jews manifest? Hechanges water into wine at a wedding feast. He healsthe sick. He casts out demons. He is transgured be-

fore Peter, James and John. Miraculous, to be able tobehold the glory of the Lord in the presence and lifeof this man, this man who is also the son of God. So we can sing Songs of thankfulness and praise,hymn 135, during Epiphany, because God is mademanifest in power divine, changing water into wine,and manifest in gracious will, ever bringing goodfrom ill. Even cross and Easter Day attest God inman made manifest.

Part of sharing this Epiphany light is sharing thegood news of Jesus birth and presence in the world.

One way is to sing at home. Do you sing with yourspouse, your children? ink about singing as youwork around the house; think about singing grace be-fore a meal. ink about sharing the songs that youlove with your family. ink of the songs you knowabout light and about light in the world. Share them.Happy Epiphany.

MARTHAGUILD

e Martha Guild will not meet in January. e

next scheduled meeting will be on Wednesday, Feb-ruary 4, 2015 beginning at 7:30 pm in Classroom B.

THEMARRIAGECOURSE

Produced By Alpha Ministriese Marriage Course will be oered at Pohick

Church for the fourth time the rst Monday nightof each month starting January 5. e course runs forseven sessions but will probably meet twice in Aprifor the course to end on June 2.

Enjoy this opportunity to have a date! Interspersedbetween video segments are pauses for couples toconverse only with each other on topics introducedDinner is served at 6:00 pm and the class concludesbefore 9:00 pm. ere is room for only 10-12 couplesso please call the church oce soon to reserve a spot703-339-6572. ere will be a cost for the meals andworkbook, but scholarships are available.

THEBAPTISMOFOURLORD

January 11 is one of the traditional times in theEpiscopal Church for the Sacrament of HolyBaptism. If you or a family member would like tobe eligible, call the Church oce at 703-339-6572and forms will be sent. When returning the forms,please mark it to the attention of the parish sec-retary.


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UPDATEONISSUESINTHEANGLICANCOMMUNION

Don Brownlee, Co-chair, Policy and Planning Commission

Tis monthly report is part of the Vestrys ongoing effort to in-form and update the Parish about the ongoing controversies withinTe Episcopal Church (EC) and the Anglican Communion. Tese

controversies largely involve the blessing of same-sex unions, or-dination of non-celibate homosexuals, interpretation of Scripture,and breakdown of traditional boundary lines between Provinces.

e last General Convention of e EpiscopalChurch, held in the summer of 2012, created a specialtask force, charged with developing a plan for reform-ing the Churchs structures, governance, and adminis-tration, and report that plan back to the next GeneralConvention in 2015. e resolution creating the task force noted thatthe churchs administrative and governance oces and

bodies now consume almost half of the churchwidebudget, and they sometimes hinder rather than furtherthis Churchs engagement in Gods mission.: It con-cluded that reform is urgently needed to facilitate thisChurchs strategic engagement in mission and allow itto more fully live into its identity in a world that haschanged dramatically over the years but that also pres-ents extraordinary missional opportunity. e belief that basic structural reforms were needed

was so strong that the resolution passed both the Houseof Bishops and the House of Deputies unanimously.

In December, the Task Force for Reimagining theEpiscopal Church, or TREC, presented its report inadvance of Junes 78th General Convention. It said, the Churchs structures and governance pro-cesses have not yet responded to the profound changesoccurring across the country and around the world. Wesee this in our inability to deal with very real and press-ing issues: many of our parishes are no longer nanciallyself-sucient and cannot aord full-time stipendedclergy. Many of our churches are disconnected from theneighbors who surround them, with expensive buildings

that consume too many resources to maintain. Youngpeople called to ordained ministry face a mountain ofdebt at the end of their seminary training that they maynot be able to repay. While our Church structures andgovernance have oered a platform for public witnessand have helped to create a more inclusive Church com-mitted to practicing and advocating for justice in the

world, they have been less eective at addressing otherpressing issues. It said that in a year of listening, it sensed change

was needed that would focus (nancial and other re-

sources) more deeply on local missions and communitybuilding make better decisions more eectively and

allocate resources more wisely respond to a chang-ing world with more insight and agility as social andeconomic transformations unfold faster than everandmake more space for innovation that emerges from allparts of the Church. e Church, it said, must reconsider many of ourcurrent practices in areas such as congregational anddiocesan collaboration, congregational and leadershipdevelopment, clergy formation, Church Pension Fundincentives and initiatives, and the use of our sacredbuildings, and come together in collective and con-

structive reimagination around three topics: Restructuring for spiritual encounter; Reimagining dioceses, bishops, and General Con-

vention and ; Restructuring assets in service of Gods mission inthe future. Its recommendations on the rst topic included: Developing new curricula for clergy training, andnew degrees beyond the traditional Master of Divinity(MDiv); Requiring tangible, measurable evidence that sem-

inary trained leaders (lay and ordained) have the spiri-tual formation, skill sets, and intellectual aptitude to en-gage the world and to transform and lead e EpiscopaChurch, looking beyond competency in the academicareas dened by canon; Directing diocesan councils on ministry to exploreencourage and support diverse ways for ordained clergyto make a living inside and outside the Church; Its recommendations on the second topic included: Restructuring the current bicameral General Con-

vention a House of Bishops and House of Deputie

(priests and lay people) into a unicameral body. All threeorders would continue to be represented. Election of the Presiding Bishop by the entireGeneral Convention (the current process is that thepresiding bishop is elected by the House of Bishops, andthe choice then conrmed by the House of Deputies); Cutting the Executive Council in half, and elimi-nating Executive Council sta; Developing of a new diocesan bishop search pro-cess that includes mandated discernment with adjoining

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dioceses On the nal topic, its recommendations included:

Church leaders, from bishops to rectors to vestries,

should work with congregational and community part-ners to re-envision their purpose in a spiritually hungry,community-seeking, and contemporary culture, consid-ering especially the potential for full-scale communityinvolvement in the use of its space and its strategic rolein their context at large. is essentially asks: Are ourchurch buildings, and the nancial resources we put intomaintaining them, standing between us and mission? Its report included a series of resolutions imple-menting these recommendations for the General Con-

vention to consider.

* * * In addition to considering those far-reaching pro-posals for change, the General Convention must in Juneelect the Presiding Bishop who may be tasked with im-plementing them. e committee developing the slateof nominees has released an update on its work. It hascompleted the initial conversations with all the nomi-nees who have agreed to continue in the discernmentprocess, and conducted virtual interviews with them.

ese will be followed by face-to-face meetings in Janu-ary.

e names of those being considered have not beenmade public. However, Bp. Shannon has conrmed thathe was among those nominated, but has taken himselfout of the running.

In a letter to the Diocese, he said that despite en-couragement from some of his fellow bishops, he hasdecided not to allow himself to be considered as a pos-sible nominee. After prayerful consideration, he said, heconcluded the answer was clear; I am convinced thatI was called and ordained to be Bishop of Virginia, andI intend to fulll this great trust, privilege and respon-

sibility for many years to come. He added, I am veryclear and comfortable in my decision.

* * * Observers had predicted that once the Church ofEnglands (COE) General Synod took the last stepsnecessary for women to be consecrated as bishops,church leaders would move quickly to name the rst fe-male bishop. ose predictions proved accurate: Barelya month after Novembers nal Synod action, PrimeMinister David Cameron announced that the Queenhad approved the nomination the Rev. Libby Lane to

Update on Issues in the Anglican Communion,continued from page 6

be bishop of Stockport, serving as a suragan (assistantbishop in the Diocese of Chester. Stockport is in west-central England near Manchester. e Rev. Lane has served for the last eight years aa parish vicar, and was one of eight female clergy who

were elected a year ago to serve asobservers in the House of Bish-ops until the issue of consecrating

women and bishops was resolved. She said after he appointment

was announced, I am grateful for,though somewhat daunted by, thecondence placed in me by theDiocese of Chester. is is un-expected and very exciting. On this historic day as theChurch of England announces the rst woman nomi-

nated to be Bishop, I am very conscious of all those whohave gone before me, women and men, who for decadeshave looked forward to this moment. But most of all Iam thankful to God. She added,e church faces wonderful opportu-nities, to proclaim afresh, in this generation, the GoodNews of Jesus and to build His Kingdom. e Church ofEngland is called to serve all the people of this countryand being present in every community, we communicateour faith best when our lives build up the lives of othersespecially the most vulnerable. I am excited by the pos-

sibilities and challenges ahead. e announcement was welcomed by both the arch-bishops of Canterbury and York, both of whom haspushed strongly for female bishops.

Abp. Justin said, I am absolutely delighted thatLibby has been appointed to succeed Bishop RobertAtwell as Bishop of Stockport. Her Christ-centred lifecalmness and clear determination to serve the churchand the community make her a wonderful choice. She will be bishop in a diocese that has been out-standing in its development of people, and she will make

a major contribution. She and her family will be in myprayers during the initial excitement, and the pressuresof moving. She will be consecrated by the archbishop of Yorkon January 26.

It is important to remember that despite all these controversies, the work ofthe Church - globally, nationally, and locally - goes on. Te Stewardship Com-mission continues to remind us of the ways Pohick carries out that work, andspread the good News. Pohick continues to be the only Bible some people willever read. Trough youth mission trips, donations of school supplies, backpacksChristmas meals to LCAC, Santas annual visit to New Hope Housing, and thCommunity of Hope, Pohick continues to leak the love of God to those in need.


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HEALTHNEWSCarol Heddleston,Parish Nurse

GRIEFANDMOURNING

Grief and mourning are dierent terms that peopletend to use interchangeably. However, there is an importantdistinction between them. Grief is the internal thoughtsand feelings experienced when a loved one dies. Mourningis taking the internal experience of grief and expressing itoutside ourselves. People move toward healing not only bygrieving, but through mourning. Unfortunately, some people grieve but do not mourn.ey grieve within themselves in isolation. Society encour-ages people to move prematurely away from grief, suggest-ing that mourning should be done quietly, quickly, and ef-

ciently. Some behaviors, such as tears or crying may beconsidered expressions of weakness, craziness, or self-pity. Attempting to mask or move away from grief withoutmourning often results in internal anxiety and confusion.Crying is a natural way of releasing internal tension in thebody, and allows the mourner to communicate a need tobe comforted. Crying makes people feel better, emotionallyand physically. Mourning helps a person to reconcile with his grief.It helps the person to integrate the new reality of movingforward without the physical presence of the loved one. As

the process of reconciliation unfolds a sense of energy andcondence, the ability to acknowledge that pain and griefare a dicult and yet necessary part of life and living willcome. e sense of loss does not disappear completely, but itdoes soften. As outbursts of grief and mourning become lessfrequent, the hope for a happier life emerges along with therealization that the person who died will never be forgotten.

Tips to Cope with Grieving During the Holiday Season e Christmas season is a time when family and friendstypically gather together with cheer and happiness. For

those who have recently experienced the death of a lovedone, the holiday traditions, images, and memories can bepainful reminders of their loss that may intensify feelings ofsadness, loss, and loneliness.Make it Simple Do not expect to do everything like it has been done in thepast. Recognize that things are not the same and expect tofeel some pain. Talk to family and friends about feelings. Let them knowplans and what may be needed in return. Do not go intoisolation. Make time for planned activities with others.

Treasure the Memories It is alright to acknowledge the loss, and mourn the lovedone. Include other family members who are grieving inplans. Many holiday traditions can change after the loss of a rela-

tive or friend, but still treasure and share the good memo-ries. Some memories may spur laughter and some may spurtears, but they are a lasting part of the relationship with avery special person.Create New Traditions Holidays mark special milestones in a familys life. inkabout ways to remember the life of the loved one in the fam-ilys history and traditions. Change the focus of the celebration. Revisit why a par-ticular holiday is celebrated and its signicance. is mayinspire new traditions.

Make Room for Feelings Slow down and allow time to think about a lost loved one Open the windows, exercise, eat a healthy diet, write in ajournal. Talk about the loved one. Avoid using alcohol or self-medicating treatments to con-trol the mood. Instead, look for professional help if neededCreate a New Tradition or Ritualthat Accommodates the Current Situation In memory of a loved one, create a memory box, makea decorative quilt, light a candle, put a bouquet of owers

on the holiday table, have a moment of silence during thefamily gathering, write a poem, play the loved ones favoritemusic, or plan a meal with the loved ones favorite foods.Be Generous with Others Do things that help feel a connection to other loved ones.Nurture relationships with family and friends. Give time, talents and skills. Sharing can lift spirits andease burdens.Be Generous with Yourself Expect and recognize that there will be feelings of sadnessanger, and loneliness. ese are all appropriate feelings. ey

will promote acknowledgement of the intense love for theloved one. Allow happiness. ere is nothing selsh about celebratingor feeling joy. e capacity for joy is what connects individu-als to community. Rely on personal faith and spirituality. e most important thing to remember is that there isno right or wrong way to celebrate the holiday season afterthe death of a loved one, and that the best way to cope withthat rst holiday season is to plan ahead, get support fromothers, and take it easy.


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Sunday Monday uesday Wednesday Tursday Friday Saturday

DEC 28 29 30 31 JAN 1 2 3Christmas Ib8a HE I10a HE II/Blessingof the Toys

7p EFM Vonne TroknyaAppreciation

Day!

9:30a Sta Mtg

New Years EveOffice Closed

2p HE, the Fairfax

New Years Day8:30p AA

11a ElizabethScott Burial

8a Brotherhoodof St. Andrew

4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Christmas 2b7:45a HE I9a HE II10:15a Christian Ed

11:15a HE I6p EYC Dinner Night

6p MarriageCourse7p EFM

9:30a Sta Mtg7p Tutoring

2p HE, the Fairfax6p St. Cecelia St. Alban6p St. Francis Choir7p Prayer ShawlMinistry7:30p Healing Service7:30p MarthaGuild Mtg

6:15p BellChoir7p Boy Scouts

7:30p Choir ofPohick8:30p AA


11 12 13 14 15 16 17Epiphany 1b7:45a HE I9a HE II10:15a Annual Mtg,Christian Ed11:15a HE II6:30p EYC ( Jr&Sr)

7p EFM7p DocentBoard Mtg

9:30a Ann Ma-son Guild Mtg9:30a Sta Mtg7p Tutoring7:30p Vestry

2p HE, the Fairfax6p St. Cecelia St. Alban6p St. Francis Choir7:30p HealingService

6:15p BellChoir7p Boy Scouts7:30p Choir ofPohick8:30p AA

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Epiphany 2b7:45a HE I9a HE II10:15a ChristianEd, Fx Visit11:15a HE I6p EYC CoeeHouse

7p EFM7p DocentGeneral Mtg

9:30a Sta Mtg7p Tutoring

9a Inventory/Gift Shop2p HE, the Fairfax6p St. Cecelia St. Alban6p St. Francis Choir7:30p HealingService

Diocesan Council6:15p BellChoir7p Boy Scouts7:30p Choir ofPohick8:30p AA

DiocesanCouncil

Diocesan CouncilEYC Winter rip8a Brotherhoodof St. Andrew

25 26 27 28 29 30 31

EYC Winter ripEpiphany 3b7:45a HE I9a HE II10:15a Christian Ed11:15a HE II

7p EFM 9:30a Sta Mtg7p Tutoring

2p HE, the Fairfax6p COH6p St. Cecelia St. Alban6p St. Francis Choir7:30p HealingService

6:15p BellChoir7p Boy Scouts7:30p Choir ofPohick8:30p AA


Pohick Church Activities

JANUARY2015

Contact the Parish Secretary to list group meetings or events on the calendar.


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SUNDAY SERVICE VOLUNEERS

Te Sunday Service Volunteers Schedule is also available at Pohick Churchs website, www.pohick.org, under Ministries.

4 JANUARY 11 JANUARY 18 JANUARY 25 JANUARY 1 FEBRUARY

7:45 Tony Marsico

Mike Zane

Alan Mayberry

Mike Vaughn

Rodger Jones

Becky Wagner

Ken Evans

Stew Remaly

Tony Marsico

Mike Zane9:00 Mo Faber

Santos GarciaJohn GodleyGrant Hodges

Edwardene PitcockJim HellerJohn PasourBill Patton

Matt GurrolaChris BrownDon CookeFuzzy urston

Dan DerbesBeth Altman

om BlandGreg Wilson

Wes SpeerCamela Speer

Jim FosterJan Hoheins

11:15 Bill BlandRita Smith

Hank ForesmanMike Wooten

Paul WaldenBill Hosp

Angela EdgemonSteve Edgemon

Kathy KirklandDave Billingsley

7:00 E. Pitcock H. Parker D. Derbes R. Wyllie BD

1:00 T. Marsico S. Remaly R. Heddleston E. Pitcock BD

12:15 M/M Myers Heintze/Jacobus M/M urston Faber/Hoheins BD

AM BJ McPhersonA. PowellJ. Schmid, E. PitcockA. MarsicoM. TonkinD. russellM. Yezek

J. SunderlandN. Bireley

A. CannonC. Heddleston

J. MacDonaldM. HartigR. Teale, B. Wagner

J. SunderlandN. Bireley

A. CannonC. Heddleston

J. MacDonaldM. HartigR. Teale, B. Wagner

J. WellsN. Sage

J. MullinsC. FosterH. ParkerR. Stankwitz

J. Geschickter

J. WellsN. Sage

J. MullinsC. FosterH. ParkerR. Stankwitz

J. Geschickter

AM BD BD BD BD BD

7:45 Wagner/Byrne Wagner/Byrne M/M Jones M/M Bryant M/M Altman

9:00 M/M Edgemon Ann Mason Guild M/M Wise M/M Garcia M/M Vaughn

11:15 BD BD BD BD BD

7:45 Stew Remaly Edie Bartlett M/M Ken Evans Becky Wagner Doug Smith

9:00 M/M John Godley M/M Fuzzy urston M/M Dennis Myers M/M Dick Heintze Beth Altman

11:15 Jodi & Randy Haufe C. Hodge Leslie Aqueron Lynn Jonas Mohammed Kanu

7:45 Marsico (R)Elston (P)

orson (R)Wagner (R)

Marsico (P)Wagner (R)

orson (P)Marsico (R)

BD

9:00 Cockroft (R)M. Booth (P)

Choi (R)Faber (P)

Ayorinde (R)Cockroft (P)

M. Booth (R)Heddleston (P)

BD

11:15 Poad (R)Ayorinde (P)

Heddleston (R)Sage (P)

Elston (R)Gastrell (P)

Faber (R)Poad (P)

BD

9:00 F. Crawford P. Kind E. Pitcock J. Bartholomew H. Parker

11:15 M/M Costa M/M Foresman D. McHugh D. Hamly N. Sage

OPEN - UP

LOCK - UP

TELLERS

ALTAR GUILD

FLOWER GUILD

COFFEE HOUR

USHERS

GREETERS

LAY READERS

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Pictured are Alicia and Andrew Hubbard withtheir ve year old twins, AJ and Evie, and dog Rook-ie in front of the Woodland themed tree decoratedby members of the Historic Pohick Church DocentGuild. e tree, wrapped carefully in bubble wrap,

was delivered to the Hubbards Fort Belvoir home bysome members of the Guild. e Hubbards were looking for a new churchhome after their minister left the church they wereattending in Old Towne. Alicia said they had neverbefore been so warmly welcomed at a church and thechildren begged to come back. Was it the apple butter,the tree, the rich history, or Sunday School teacherDana Hutson? Probably all four! And, buying raetickets for the Candlelight Dinner tree and center-pieces supports LCAC and outreach as well.

COMPUTERSFORKIDS

DONATEANDMAKEADIFFERENCE

School has started and Mark Bartlett needs more lap-top computers for children in need. To donate a lap-top (preferably with wi-), please leave it in the oceand Edith Bartlett will pick it up. Mark will completelyclean the hard drive so thatnothing can be retrieved, andinstall necessary programs forthe students. Please check outhis website http://www.com-puterequipmentforkids.orgfor more information.

DONATIONSFORGUESTMUSICIANSis year, due to budget constraints, funding ofguest musicians is through the music memorial

fund, a fund normally used foremergency organ and equipmentrepair. Please consider contrib-uting to this fund to support the

continuance of this wonderful mu-sic at festival times during the year.

WELCOMENEWPARISHIONERS!

On January 4 after the 9:00 am service, Pohickwill welcome those who are new to the par-ish family. Parishioners, please come and get

acquainted with the newcomers! Newcomers,please come and meet with parishioners!

FIRSTSUNDAYFOODCOLLECTION

e rst Sunday of each month Pohickcollects non-perishable food items to be con-tributed to the Lorton Community ActionCenters food pantry. Please consider bringingan item or two on December 7 to include as apart of the alms giving. Foods brought to the

church for the 10:00 am service are broughtto the altar by the ushers for a blessing. Fooditems can be brought at other times too,and left in the Common Room for deliveryto LCAC. Suggested items include cannedfruits, vegetables, soups, boxed cereal, brownrice, pasta, and pasta sauce.


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Pohick Church

9301 Richmond Highway

Lorton, Virginia 22079-1519

Return Service Requested

Non-Profit Org.U.S. Postage

P A I DPermit No. 2Lorton, VA

Te Purpose of Pohick Church is to be a nourishing community where Christs love is experienced and taken beyond its walls.

Pohic

kChurchStaff

Rector:

eRevdDonald

Binder,PhD

Assistant:

eRevdDr.Ruth

E.Correll,Ed.D.

Seminarian:

JamesRickenbaker

MinisterofMusic:

LindaEgan

Directorof

ChristianEd:

FrancesSessums

YouthMinister:

RustyBooth

Parish

Secretary:

SusanHayward-Costa

FinanceAdmin:

MikeMorgan

Sexton:

JohnSessums

Telephone:703-339-6572

Fax:703-339-9884

ChurchOfceEmail:[email protected]:www.pohick.org

Poh

ickChurchVestry

Sr.Warden:StewRemaly

Jr.W

arden:NeilSunderland

Treasurer:JohnPasour

Reg

ister:

DonBrownlee

Members:

JudBireley,DanDerbes,

ReedHeddleston,

ClintHerbert,KathyKirkland,

TonyMarsico,HelenParker,

EdwardenePitcock,

RitaStankwitz,

EmmaWallace,RussWyllie

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