play therapy chapter 6 the therapist. the relationship critical to success child must feel...
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Play Therapy
Chapter 6The Therapist
The Relationship Critical to success
Child must feel empowered, valued, accepted
Unique because child gets undivided attention and therapist strives to understand the child through the play
Memories
Get with a classmate and talk about important adults in your life when you were a child. What made the relationship meaningful?
Personality Characteristics Objective and flexible
Does not judge or evaluate
Open-minded
Patient
Believe that child has self healing power
High tolerance for ambiguity
Future Minded- see potential
Personal courage- admit mistakes
Be real, display warmth and caring, acceptance and understanding
Personally Secure
Sense of Humor
Therapist Self Understanding Utilize personal counseling, consultation and/or supervision
Consider:
Are my needs being met in play therapy?
How strong is my need to be needed?
Do I like this child?
Do I want to be with this child?
What impact do my attitudes and feeling have on this child?
How does this child perceive me?
Intangibles Do I want to change this child?
Am I allowing the child to be really free to set his/her own direction, or am I hoping the child will play?
Am I accepting of some behavior and not others?
Do I have a low tolerance for messiness?
Do I have a need to rescue the child from pain or difficulty?
Do I have a need to be liked by the child?
Do I feel safe with the child?
Do I trust the child?
Do I expect the child to deal with certain issues?
The person of the therapist is more important than anything the therapist knows how to do.
How the therapist feels about a child is more important than what the therapist knows about the child.
Therapist Self Acceptance A child will not change until the child is free not to change.
Create a climate where child is free to be him/herself
You cannot accept another person’s weakness until you are able to accept your own.
Role of Therapist Be emotionally active
Facilitate release of creative potential that already exists