personal theory of helping
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Running head: PERSONAL THEORY OF HELPING
Personal Theory of Helping
Márcio Padilha
College of Southern Idaho
HUMS 105 – Christy
Fall/2010
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Personal Theory of Helping
Operating out of a premium ideology that people should be treated with equality,
dignity and respect, I fundamentally believe that, in order to keep the helping relationship
flowing positively, the helper must be able to keep the helpee meaningfully engaged in life
within the constraints of socially acceptable behavior and legally-bound norms. Further
deeming that the continuum of the helping process must ultimately be conciliatory in
nature, I find it essential that the effective helper be able to inspire the helpee to develop
his or her own internalized component of self-evaluation so that he or she may seek, and
hopefully achieve, a more harmonious balance between his or her ideal and real selves.
Self-cognizance, in my opinion, is an underrated core human need in that knowledge and
awareness provide us with the necessary tools and strategies to navigate and discern
between life’s intricate subtleties. In addition, for the helping process to be carried out at
its premium, I find it imperative that the helper be empathetic, able to postpone
interpretations and suspend judgments while staying with the speaker, all within the
spectrum of genuine authenticity, patience and with very clear ever-present boundaries
towards the helpee.
Upon self-introspection, such stance is amply corroborated by the interlinking of my
personal sociopolitical, religious, philosophical and convictions in that all support aspects
of collectivistic behaviors which I believe to be important for the well-being of a balanced
society. With that said, and believing that one’s actions affect others’ lives and vice-versa, I
therefore concomitantly accept, and expect, human interconnectedness to be an active
integral component of this construct.
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Drawing out of my own experience, I place family as society’s most fundamental
building block and typify a healthy family unit as one which is “consistent and stern enough
to maintain its cohesion in a socially and legally acceptable manner yet unselfishly
accommodating and accepting of individual differences in a supportive manner as to
inspire and promote self actualization.” As a result, I find family dysfunction to be socially
disruptive and, although a personally anecdotal assertion, I further believe that disruption
in this most essential building block of the social fabric will eventually, and sometimes
exponentially, permeate into all layers of society, leading to the need for most of the
person-agency relationships.
As I deeply disagree with the self-proclaimed powers of neoliberalism, I have always
felt that the need for government is legitimate and that its ensuing relationship with its
citizenry should embody a prevalent social role. Consequently, I do not expect the
person/agency, or citizen/government, relationship to be necessarily adversarial in nature,
but rather complementary. This position has, therefore, put me in much greater
philosophical alignment with the Article 25 of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights,
which clearly states that:
“Everyone has the right to an standard of living adequate for the health
and well-being of himself and of his family, including food, clothing,
housing and medical care and necessary social services, and the right to
security in the event of unemployment, sickness, disability, widowhood,
old age or other lack of livelihood in circumstances beyond his control.”
As to one’s relationship with one’s Maker, I consider that moderate faith in a higher
power is vital as long as it functions as a generic moral compass rather than a rigid punitive
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dictatorial watcher. Whereas moderation, flexibility and acceptance may be inspiring and
conducive to self-actualization, rigidity and punishment are likely to be detrimental in that
the believer may never be able to live up to the belief expectation. On a personal level, I
have developed a deep appreciation for Buddhism which, preaching about the importance
of volition and self-accountability, affirms that one is the reborn product of one’s previous
life actions, thereby empowering one to take mindful charge of one’s life.
Considering my previous experiences, I find that any commonality between two
persons is likely to lead to some level of immediate empathy. Therefore, sharing a common
language, national origin or any other socio-cultural element may prove beneficial to the
continuum of the helping relationship. However, I feel it is important to be mindful as to
delicate balance between empathy, transference, countertransference and power
differential in order to make sure they will act, and react, within the restraints of the non-
malfeasance tenet. Ideally, the helping relationship should be constructed in such a manner
that it will work itself through and out of the issues rather than getting stuck with them.
In my perception, change is inherent to the process and, therefore, unavoidable.
Nevertheless, the degree and intensity in which it takes place is unique to each individual
and their unique situation which may, or may not, encompass the person’s volition.
Consequently, when attributing a measurable degree of accountability to a problem, I
cannot help but believe that equating social and individual causal affects are just as
important. Whether chronic, episodic or merely transitional, issues are usually devastating
at a moment of crisis and the person in need of help must be taken seriously, within reason,
so that a downward spiral into a pathological state of being may be possibly avoided.
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As I place “nature versus nurture” as a central element within the continuum of
human dysfunction, I believe that both the Existential and the Behavioral/Cognitive
Therapies are important models which can fundamentally help one address and process
one’s way out of one’s problems properly and expeditiously. Whereas existential therapy
techniques prompt the individual to search for the meaning attached to their life events,
behavioral/cognitive therapy techniques prompt the individual with the awareness as to
their current level of change as well as of the process of change itself. On the same token,
reflection of feelings entails providing feedback to the speaker about what they appear to
be feeling while confrontation involves providing feedback to a person about
inconsistencies between statements, speech and behavior, verbal and non-verbal messages
as well as other actions. Therefore, I would expect greater therapeutic yield out of
permeating these two therapy models and two communication skills, all of which seem to
prime for reason and coherence.
Whereas my premium operating ideology is dependent and reactive to both the
helpers’ and helpees’ individual issues as well as to greater social issues, I, nevertheless, do
not see it as contradictory, but rather as the essence of life where one will sometimes gain
and other times lose, always having to work one’s hardest on a positivistic hopeful
expectation for the best outcome possible. Under these terms, it is my assertion that
measurable success for the helper lies not only in accomplishing therapeutic help for the
helpee, but also in successfully navigating the greater bureaucratic procedural myriad in
place whereas measurable progress for the helpee is any tangible form of concrete action
towards their self-actualization.
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In order for the helping relationship to prosper, I feel it is imperative that all willing
participants initiate the process by rejecting inertia and welcoming open-mindedness not
only in therapeutic terms, but rather as a life constant. Whereas one close-minded helper
will fail to encourage their helpee to progress along the stages of change, one close-minded
helpee will not welcome being encouraged to progress along the stages of change. In either
scenario, the process was rendered stagnant and null. Therefore, it is imperative to remain
flexible and receptive to change as means to stay healthy. No single “cookie-cutter” answer
is likely to fit a puzzle where individuality reigns.