Personality You can become very successful even in adverse conditions. Whereas, there are people who have all the ideal conditions from the start, yet they have not been successful.When we look around us we fnd that there is abundant money in the banks. Knowledge is available in plenty in the form of books. Schools also provide knowledge through good teachers. There are plenty of opportunities provided in this free world. There is no dearth of support and facilities in this world.ower and sophistication are easily attainable. The prime reason that keeps us from taking full advantage of opportunities is la!ity and neglect. They are contagious. We should e!amine our self and prevent this in"ection from spreading in our system. #eglect, if not checked early can cause a complete failure over a period.When we do not do the things we know, we should, it makes us guilty. The guilt eats up on our confdence. $s a result, it a%ects our activity. That causes a blow to the results. When that happens, we become negative in our outlook. This again diminishes our self&confdence. Thus, it is a vicious cycle.$ person should constantly work on self. This will help him to evolve as a human being. $bilities can be turn to capabilities. Working on self ensures not only success but also happiness.We have a shining e!ample of 'r. $bdul Kalam who is the son of a fsherman. (e went on to become the most successful resident of )ndia. We have one more e!ample of *r. 'hirubhai $mbani. (e started by working at petrol pump and later built an empire.What this people never did was complain about obstacles. They never wasted their energy on complaining. They focused their energy on their vision. There are people persistently complain in spite of having plenty of facilities. They should consider the above two e!amples.'r. $bdul Kalam had the option of working with #$S$, instead he stoodto stay back in )ndia + contribute to the nation.*ost people generally concentrate and work on improving that what is outside them. They fail to understand that real work has to be done on things inside of them. Self&awareness is the key. $sk yourself what you want.)t is possible to be powerful and all that you would ever want is very much within your reach. You need to work in the right direction. 'o not neglect yourself. Whatever is outside of you gets immediate attention when there is a breakdown, be it your car, T.,, computer etc. (owever when our confdence and motivation need a boost, we become la!. Therefore, it leads to a breakdown and you do not e!perience -oy.'o not fall in the vicious cycle of guilt. When people neglect work, which should be done they feel guilty. The guilt takes away the confdence to act and without action they don.t get results. /ecause of this entire guilt trap, we begin to feel low and weak but there is a way out. Start working on yourself and develop your personality0Group discussionThere are many misconceptions regarding group discussion. 'ue to some myths, many deserving candidates are not able to perform well at this stage. )t is no use blaming the environment or doubting the validity of this tool, because the fact is everyone has to face group discussions at some stage, climbing the corporate ladder. You need to be good at them to achieve your desired goals.$ group discussion is a normal conversation among a group of individuals, since the conversation is related to a particular topic, hence the word 1discussion2. $ group usually comprises eight to twelveparticipants who engage in a discussion far appro!imately 34&56 minutes. The moderator or -udge for 7's assesses participants based on their contribution both as an individual as well as a team player. Talking about your performance as an individual, remember that what you speak is more important than how much you speak. 8uality counts, not 9uantity. You need to e!cel in content as well as presentation.*oving on to performance as a team player you should e!hibit leadership skills. ro-ect yourself as an e!trovert and co&operative. :onnect with and build a rapport with the other members of the group.The essential re9uirements for success in a group discussion are knowledge, listening skills, presentation, calm composure, assertiveness, co&operation, analytical thinking accommodative and encouraging.With these guidelines, you can start preparing yourself for a 7roup 'iscussion.#early everyday we e!plain and -udge the personalities of the people around us. Whether we comprehend it or, not these every day thoughtson how and why people act as they do is alike to what personality psychologists perform.Author: 7eorge $nto While there are many di%erent theories of personality, the frst step is to understand e!actly what is meant by the term personality. $ brief defnition would be that personality is made up of the characteristic patterns of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that make a person uni9ue. )n addition to this, personality arises from within the individual and remains consistent throughout life. $ few of the main personality traits taken into account;Stability & There is usually a familiar order and promptness to behaviors. eople act in the similar ways in di%erent situations.sychological and physiological & ersonality is a psychological construct, but study put forward that it is as well in"uenced by biological procedure and re9uirements.)mpact behaviors and actions & character does not -ust in"uence how we move about and react in our surroundings< it also causes us to do something in certain ways.Several e!pressions & 9ualities is put on view in more than -ust actions. )t can as well be seen in out -udgment, outlook, close relationships, andother societal interactions.Theories of ersonalityThere are so many di%erent theories on the sub-ect of how personalities develop. Special schools of thought in psychology in"uence many of these theories. $ few of these ma-or perspectives onpersonality comprises of;Type theories are the early point of view on personality. These theories recommended that there are a limited number of =personality types= which are connected to biological in"uences.Trait theories observed personality as the outcome of inner character that is hereditarily based.sychodynamic theories of personality are to a great deal in"uence by the e%ort of Sigmund >reud, and give emphasis to the in"uence of the unconscious on personality. /ehavioral theories put forward that personality is a outcome of communication between the person and his surroundings. /ehavioral theorists study clear and considerable behaviors, re-ecting theories that take personal thoughts and belief into account. /ehavioral theorists take account of /. >. Skinner and ?ohn Watson.Conversation for shy peopleThere are conversation starters for shy people that can really get people talking and help you feel more comfortable in your own skin. $fter you read this article, )@m confdent you@ll be able to teach other timid people a lesson or two on the art of conversation0 You@ll be able to waltA into any event, bar, restaurant or situation for that given matter and get people talking. To discover some conversation starters for shy people, read on03B Things You (ave )n :ommon what is the one thing that you and that other person sitting beside you have in commonC 'o you have common friends, or a shared interest in moviesC )f you know what you two have in common, starting a conversation willbe easy as pie. $re you all here for a charity eventC Talk about the cause and the benefts the event will bring. )f you have -ust met, talk about the place where you both are. )s the food goodC )s the music greatC These are all wonderful conversation starters for shy people. 5B $sking Dther eople $bout Themselves7enerally, a person likes to talk about himself or herself. So by asking 9uestions like 1Where did you go to school2 or 1What kind of movie do you likeC2 you are capturing their interest< and at the same time, you@re keeping yourself away from the center of attention. ?ust make sure you listen to every word they say, because appearing distracted may o%end the other party. EB #ewsmakers and /reakersDne of the great conversation starters for shy people is current news. What@s the current trendC What@s happening in the business worldC $nynew scientifc discoveriesC Talk about news that a%ect both of you and start from there. Dne thing you should avoid raising in a conversation is anything that has to do with religion, politics, legal system, etc. These topics are usually very sensitive and you don@t really want to take a dip in that pool on your frst meeting. /esides, talking about topics like these make arguments more likely to happen than not. You may feel strongly about a certain religion, and the other person may also have a strong yet opposite point of view regarding the issue. )n these cases, it@s probably best to -ust stick with light topics that won@t get you into trouble. Since we@re talking about news here, you@ll be less focused on how shy you are and more into the actual conversation. You might not even realiAe how many hours you have been talking about a particular issue.These are -ust some of the possible conversation starters for shy people. Dnce you@ve tried some of them on actual e!periences, you@ll feel more confdent at e!ploring other topics of interest.First Impression'ress >or Success) have a friend who refused on principle to belief that the way people -udged him was heavily in"uence by what he was wearing. ) challengedhim to test the theory for himself and if you have any doubts ) issue you with the same challenge.) suggested that he select two di%erent establishments that sold lu!urycars. (e was to go into one dressed in his worst clothes and into the other dressed in his best suit. (e was to act the same in each and simply stroll around looking at the cars. (is real task was to note how he was treated in each case.What do you think happenedC When he was wearing his best suit the salesman couldn@t get to him 9uick enough. (e was o%ered co%ee and treated with respect. The salesman was doing everything possible to interest him in buying a car.When he was dressed in his old clothes nobody spoke to him at all. Thesalesmen glanced in his direction and then went back to what they were doing.)f you want to be taken seriously in life learn to dress for success0The /ody Fanguage of :onfdenceDn the conscious level we communicate with through our language butat the subconscious level much of our communicating is via our body language. sychologists have discovered that if the words and the body language don@t match each other then the message from the body language takes precedence over that of the spoken language.When you are meeting a person for the frst time this body language is doubly important. Fearn to walk like a successful person, stand like a successful person and sit like a successful person. )t all contributes to how you are perceived in those frst ten seconds.,erbal :ommunicationThe verbal communication that is most important in regards to the initial impression is the greeting. What you say when you greet a person for the frst time will help them decide whether or not you are aperson that they should respect or not.)t is well worth your time to think about the best way you should greet a person according to the circumstances of the meeting. )f you are going to practice anything in verbal communication then practice greetings.#on ,erbal :ommunication,erbal communication refers to what you say and non verbal communication to how you say it. $s with body language if the verbal and non verbal are in contradiction it is the non verbal message that makes the lasting impression.)f you don@t already have it then develop a confdent, self assured, friendly tone to your voice< the tone of a leader. $fter all, most of the great leaders throughout history have inspired their followers through the inspirational, charismatic way that they speak.*ental Gehearsal/ecause you only have 36 seconds to make that frst impression you can@t leave it up to chance. *entally practice meeting people and making a good impression. This will make it clear to your subconscious mind e!actly what you e!pect to achieve in those initial moments and then your subconscious will work to bring all the body language and non verbal aspects into line with your ob-ectives.Those frst 36 seconds can make the di%erence between building a successful, mutually rewarding business or personal relationship or simply having a casual one o% meeting. )t is well worth perfecting the art of making a good frst impression.Motivational Speaker7et a good tutor or guide & 7et the guidance from a successful motivational speaker. With the proper guidance from a good guide, youcan easily deal with aggravation, frustration, and confusion which can accompany you during speech delivery. $lso the guide may teach you the thinks you must not do while preparing and making your motivational speech. *oreover, an e!perienced guide may provide youwith strong suggestions.You must be trained to choose an important problem or message as your speech topic & :hoose to speak about a problem in your society. Try to give simple solutions for an important problem that you fnd in your society. Speak about what you know the best.You must be trained to market your speech profession & *arket your motivational speech business through fabulous promotional booklets such as brochures, testimonials, demos, referrals, and websites.You must be trained to develop your speaking ability & You should develop your speaking ability through enough practice in order to become a great motivational speaker.You must be trained to create an outline of your speech presentation & :reate an outline of what you have to speak during a show. The outlineyou created for your speech can be used as a framework for your talk.You must be trained to give visual presentations related with your speech topic & *ost people can gain more information about your speech only through a visual presentation than a spoken one. (ence, itis very important to prepare and give visual presentations related with your speech topic.You must be trained to overcome nervousness& When you forget what to say or when you get nervous in front of the audience, do not continue your speech. )nstead, take a deep breath, and speak from your heart to give some of your truthful e!periences. 'o not worry about what the audience will think about you. /ut -ust focus on how you can satisfy your audience. You must be trained to present your speech carefully & )t is very important to speak legibly and clearly. Stress and repeat your main messages at least three to four times. $void using fller words such as uh, um, eh, etc. 'o not give a long pause in between your speech. 'o not bore your audience with your continuous speech. )nstead make it apoint to create a fun and lively environment. You must be trained to notify your availability& You must notify not&for&proft corporations, professional groups and :ontact speakers@ bureaus of your availability as a motivational speaker. Some :ontact speakers@ bureaus may charge you to put your service under list.You must be trained to present yourself smart before the audience & 'ress up yourself such that you e!press professionalism and success. /usiness apparel is doubtlessly the best one for any motivational speech. )f you start your motivational speech career strongly under a good guidance and make certain that you are moving ahead in the right direction carefully, ) am sure that you can en-oy the speech time and fnancial freedom as a successful motivational speaker