Mature couples don’t

“fall in love,” they step

into it. Love isn’t

something you fall for;

it’s something you rise

for.

Falling denotes lowering

oneself, dropping down

and being stuck

somewhere lower than

where you started. You

have to get up from

falling.

Love isn’t like that — at

least not with people

who are doing it right.

Immature couples fall;

mature couples coast.

Because love is either a

passing game, or it’s

forever. Love is either

wrong, or it’s right. A

couple is either mature

or immature.

Parejas maduras no se "enamoran", que paso en él. El

amor no es algo que te enamoras de; que es algo que

te levantes para.

First, it should be easy,

from the beginning to

end. There are no

passionate fights with

passionate make-up

sex. There’s no

obsessive calling,

texting or worrying.

There’s no real drama.

Because drama is for

kids. Drama is for

people who don’t know

how to have a

relationship — who live

by idealistic,

preconceived notions

that love must be wild

and obsessive.

Love is easy. It’s the

easiest thing you’ve

ever done. It’s the

calmest place in your

life, the safest blanket

you’ve ever worn. It’s

something that happens

naturally; it doesn’t need to be fought for day in and day

out.

When you love someone, and he or she loves you, and

there’s no doubt to his or her feelings and no doubt to

yours, that’s peace of mind. A peace of mind you’ve

never had before.. the kind that humbles and revives

you.

A mature relationship lives by this peace of mind;

immature ones drown in it.

Immature relationships ask questions; mature

relationships answer them

Immature relationships are all about doubts. Does he

love me? Is she cheating on me? Will we be together in

two months?

Mature couples don’t need to ask questions. They

already know the answers, and they don’t need

reassurance from their partners.

They are comfortable and secure and free of doubt

because mature love isn’t about all those small

questions, but a comfort in knowing the big one is

answered.

Immature relationships leave you wanting something;

mature relationships give you what you need

There’s a void in immature relationships, an apparent

absence and incessant worry that something’s missing.

It eats away at you

when you go to sleep or

leave each other for just

a few hours. It burns

dimly when you’re

together, but you wave it

off with sex and

constant chatter.

Mature relationships

have no void. There are

no empty spaces or tiny

cracks. There is never a

feeling that something

has been taken away or

is leaving with the other

person.

The love between the

two mature people fills

every crack in the fiber

of their being they didn’t

know they had.

Immature relationships

are striving to be one

complete person;

mature relationships are

okay being two

Immature relationships are formed by two incomplete

people. They are two halves trying to make one whole.

They are two people looking for something that can’t be

found in another person. They dominate each other,

force themselves together and make one flawed mesh

of a human.

Mature couples never strive to be one. They are two

individual people looking to make two better people. The

love between the two of them isn’t about making both of

them whole again, but more individual.

It’s about pushing each other to pursue their passions,

interests and become the best person possible.

Immature relationships lose their drive; mature

relationships make you more motivated

We all get wrapped up in love. It’s easy to spend days in

bed and weekends in the hazy world of blankets and

kisses.

But eventually, that smothering love is replaced with

motivated love — a type of love that comes when you

want to make a life with someone and work hard to get

that life. Immature couples never get to this.

They never feel that motivation to leave each other only

to come back more successful and more determined to

make a life for the two of them.

Immature relationships fight over text messages; mature

relationships are always face-to-face

Fighting is natural;

texting is not. Mature

couples do not spend

their days bickering over

a screen.

When they have

something to work out,

they do it face to face —

where the meanings

can’t be misconstrued

by emojis and auto

correct. Immature

couples fuel their

relationship with

incessant bickering and

lengthy messages.

Immature couples see

long texts as evidence

of their “relationship”

and find comfort in

spending hours hiding

behind their phones.

They argue just to

argue; mature couples

fight for their future.

Immature relationships are about trying to find yourself;

mature relationships already know themselves

Relationships are only for two complete people looking

for companionship, yet many incomplete people look for

it to complete them. This is when mature relationships

and immature ones split.

You can’t have a healthy relationship with two unhealthy

people. When you’re trying to use someone to complete

you, you’re creating an incomplete relationship.

Immature relationships are threatened by everyone else;

mature relationships enjoy meeting other people

There are always going to be people in your life, pasts to

each person and surprises behind closed doors.

Mature couples, however, do not feel threatened by

strangers and past lovers. They are confident in their

love and their partner’s love.

Immature couples find threats in everyone. They’re

delusional and paranoid because their love is superficial.

They do not have a strong enough foundation to

effortlessly glide past all the distractions and threats.

Immature relationships live by preconceived timelines;

mature relationships let everything happen naturally

There’s no right or wrong time to move in together.

There’s no specific year to get married and definitely not

a timeline for your life together.

When you’re in love,

things happen at their

own pace. You feel

things, and you follow

your heart.

Immature couples,

however, don’t have

those feelings, those

instincts and those

effortless moments.

They make up rules and

guidelines and assume

time is the only thing

that makes or breaks

their relationship.

Immature relationships

judge you on your past;

mature relationships

help you carry it

We all have a past, and

in many cases, one

we’re not proud of. We

can’t help what

happened to people

before we knew them.

All that matters is how

they are now. Immature couples, however, refuse to see

beyond the past.

Mature couples don’t just accept one another’s pasts but

want to help heal the wounds. They look beyond the

mistakes and the flaws toward the beauty in the future

together.

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