lesson 3 : guidelines to listening and speaking
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Listening and Speaking
Lesson 3 : Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Before I tell you what it is…
Allow me tell you what it is not.
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Communication is NOT
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Communication is NOT
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Communication is NOT
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Communication is NOT
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Communication is NOT
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Communication is:
7% What you say (words)
38% How you say it (volume, pitch, rhythm, etc.)
55% Your body language (facial expressions, posture,
etc.)
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Details
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
There are four major factors that come into play in any form of communication.
These four factors should be present to have effective communication.
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
The Speaker
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
The Speaker
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
The Listener
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
The Listener
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
The Message
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
The Message
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
The Delivery
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
The Delivery
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
The Delivery
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
The Delivery
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
The Delivery
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
The Speaker The Listener The Message The Delivery
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Who is the Speaker? The speaker is the anchor of any form
conversation He is the one who delivers the package- the
message
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Who is the Speaker? The speaker must have complete
understanding of the message that has to be delivered.
The speaker must have the physical ability to deliver the message
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Tips for a Speaker
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Tips for a Speaker Know what you want to say Be direct to the point Speak at a moderate pace Look at the listener in the eye
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Why is listening important?
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Why is listening important?1. Since the rise of the radio and the
development of television, the spoken word has regained much of its lost stature.
2. Being listened to means we are taken seriously, our ideas and feelings are known, and, ultimately, what we have to say matters.
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Why is listening important?3. Generous listening enhances our own
well-being and is the natural perspective of psychology, in which all human behavior is seen as motivated by the agendas of the self.
4. We learn our culture largely through listening; we learn to think by listening; we learn to love by listening; we learn about ourselves by listening.
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Why is listening important?5. Being listened to spells the difference
between feeling accepted and feeling isolated.
6. In our society, listening is essential to the development and survival of the individual.
7. Most people will not really listen or pay attention to your point of view until they become convinced you have heard and appreciate theirs.
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Statistics
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
Statistics1. Some studies indicate that we may be
listening at only a 25 percent comprehension rate.
2. How much of what we know that we have learned by listening? 85%.
3. Amount of the time we are distracted, preoccupied or forgetful? 75%
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Statistics4. How much we usually recall immediately
after we listen to someone talk? 50%5. Amount of time we spend listening? 45%6. How much we remember of what we
hear? 20%
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Statistics7. Amount of us who have had formal
educational experience with listening? less than 2%
8. We listen at 125-250 words per minute, but think at 1000-3000 words per
minute.9. Number of business studies that indicate
that listening is a top skill needed for success in business?
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
10 Irritating Listening Habits:
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
10 Irritating Listening Habits:1. Interrupting the speaker.2. Not looking at the speaker.3. Rushing the speaker and making him
feel that he’s wasting the listener’s time.4. Showing interest in something other
than the conversation.5. Getting ahead of the speaker and
finishing her thoughts.
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
10 Irritating Listening Habits:6. Not responding to the speaker’s requests.7. Saying, “Yes, but . . .,” as if the listener
has made up his mind.8. Topping the speaker’s story with “That
reminds me. . .” or “That’s nothing, let me tell you about. . .”
9. Forgetting what was talked about previously.
10. Asking too many questions about details.
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
10 Poor Listening Habits
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
10 Poor Listening HabitsEffective listeners do their best to avoid these
habits:1. Calling the subject uninteresting2. Criticizing the speaker &/or delivery3. Getting over-stimulated4. Listening only for facts (bottom line)5. Not taking notes or outlining everything
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
10 Poor Listening Habits6. Faking attention7. Tolerating or creating distractions8. Tuning out difficult material9. Letting emotional words or ideas block
the message or get us of track10. Wasting the time difference between
speed of speech and speed of thought
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Reasons for poor listening1. Not focusing on the message.2. Passive listeners.3. A physical communication setting that
works against listening.4. Listener’s own needs that may compete
with the speaker’s ideas.5. Unfamiliar language.6. Preset ideas about the topic, the
speaker, or the occasion
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Message The message is the essence of
communication. It is the package that the speaker delivers.
The message should be, of all things, clear and easy to understand
It should be delivered in a language that can be understood by the listener
The message should be pure and free of unnecessary mumbo-jumbo
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
OPENINGS. Stay away from the predictable (Good morning..., Today, I'm here to talk about...). Instead:
Begin with a provocative question, anecdote, or current event—and how it relates to the content.
Ask the audience a question Set up a problem—and promise that they'll
have all the tools for a solution by the end of the class.
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CLOSINGS. Many speakers simply talk until the end of the time or beyond it—and say, "I see we're out of time." Instead:
Plan a rhythm for your speaking—plan to end with content 5 minutes early, so you can summarize, raise questions.
Set aside a time for questions—and structure that time.
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Delivery Be conversational; speak naturally; be
yourself (or your best self). Vary your pacing and voice. Use gestures to emphasize points. Look at the audience. Use language to create pictures. Observe the techniques of others.
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
The Speaker The Listener The Message The Delivery
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Four Major Factors
Put all these factors together
Lesson 3 Guidelines to Listening and Speaking
The Speaker The Message
The Listener The Delivery
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Listening and Speaking
Lesson 3 : Guidelines to Listening and Speaking