learning leadership skills systematically
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Learning Leadership Skills
Systematicallyv2.5b
Foundational Training for leading:
Leadership
Participation
Teamwork
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World
of
Work
Why leadership skills?
LPT Issues
vs
Academic Issues
KSA = Knowledge
Skills
Abilities
“Foundational K.S.A.”
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Why do Foundational (LPT)Training?
Foundational training:
includes key knowledge, skills & abilities people use:
when learning or engaging in issues in the world of
work
in their personal lives.
focuses on improving key processes in three areas:
Personal Leadership
Personal participation
Teamwork
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Good Leadership, Participation & Teamwork
skills:
Gives higher satisfaction in the workplace.
Improves learning – Individual & Class
Helps resolve conflicts productively
Builds Trust
Increases promotability
Yields long term success
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Base Elements for LPT skills review
Commit to Continuous Improvement:
Consistent process of improvement.
Take small steps forward all the time.
“Present”
Mentally and Physically
Prepared – come with your “tools”
Positive Attitude
Willingness to improve
Cooperation
Self Practice
Goal => Visualize success
http://www.studygs.net/intstudy.htm
http://www.usnews.com/education/blogs/international-student-counsel/2013/08/22/4-ways-international-students-can-participate-in-class
http://www.princeton.edu/mcgraw/library/for-students/class-participation-contr/
http://www.teachhub.com/top-12-ways-increase-student-participation jschmied©2015
Forming
Storming
Norming
Performing
All teams
go through four
key stages.
This is a normal process.
Always happens in new
teams or ones that
haven’t worked together
in awhile.
jschmied©2015Bruce Tuckerman,
Developmental Sequence in Small Groups.
Forming
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Team members are:
• Start to work together.
https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newLDR_86.htm
• Leader plays big role to help team
move forward.
• Roles & responsibilities not clear.
• Some excited to get to work!
• Some anxious - don’t understood
the work or know the people
• Mostly positive & polite
Can last for awhile until:
• People get to know each other.
Storming
• Members on task to experience
stress (due to lack of support &
lack of relationship).
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Pushing against norms created
when forming causes:
• Conflict between team members'
natural working styles.
• People to not understand how to
do work or feel overwhelmed
• Resistance to do tasks.
This is the stage where many teams fail.
Norming
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Members start to:
• Resolve differences
• Appreciate other’s strengths
• Socialize together,
• Ask for help
• Provide constructive feedback
• Commit to team goals
Team begins to make steady progress to goals
Leader begins to get support
https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newLDR_86.htm
Performing
Hard work leads to the achievement
of the team's goal. (no internal friction)
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• Team helps develop each other
• It feels easy to be part of the team
• Norms & processes support goals
• People join or leave team & do not
disrupt performance.
https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newLDR_86.htm
Forming
Storming
Norming
Performing
All teams
go through four
key stages.
High performing teams:
jschmied©2015Bruce Tuckerman,
Developmental Sequence in Small Groups.
• Go through stages faster
• Self monitor &
• Re-norm to perform their
very best.
Forming
Storming
Norming
Performing
Some teams storm a lot & rarely perform their very best.
Brainstorm why & how this happens.
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Teams are composed of individuals.
http://www.wikihow.com/Motivate-a-Team
Each has their own strengths & weaknesses.
Participation
Teamwork
Leadership
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The individual & the team work to maximize team
member strengths & overcome weaknesses.
Forming
Storming
Norming
Performing
Participation
Teamwork
Leadership
Teams build on
individual strengths,
turning weaknesses
into strengths by
working together.
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Prochaska and DiClemente’s Stages of Change Model
You often have to
give up part of
your “self” for you,
or your team to
succeed.
A model showing the
stages people go
through when faced
with change.
Teaming &
Personal Change
It’s storming, but
inside of you!
It’s part of the
normal process of
change.
Making Team or Personal
ChangeAs an individual, or as a team:
Make a clear decision to change
Have confidence in your ability to change.
Set clear, concrete goals that are - SMART
Expect relapses => anticipate recovery
Realistically self monitor
Build on your Successes!
http://www.psychology.org.au/publications/inpsych/behaviour/ jschmied©2015
Successful Goal Setting
SMART Goals
Specific
Measureable
Achievable
Realistic
Time Activated – has deadlines
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Making Team or Personal
Change
If you didn’t make a change so far
there’s always hope!
Thoughts?
Make time to change for the best.
Some barriers….
http://www.psychology.org.au/publications/inpsych/behaviour/ jschmied©2015
Goal setting & Barriers to
Success Three “de-motivators” that interfere with goal
setting & achieving goals.
Fear of Failure
Fear of the Unknown
(fear of change)
Fear of Success
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Goal setting & Barriers to
Success Fear – an unreasoning,
unjustified emotion that
paralyzes efforts to change.
Courage - the mental or
moral strength to go forth, or
persevere, in the face of
adversity.
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Goal setting & Barriers to
Success
In reality:
Failure is temporary
The unknown soon
becomes known!
Success is a good
thing!
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Process oriented Goal
AchievementA simple, very powerful plan for Continuous Improvement
Deming
Cycle
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The Deming Cycle – the
keys:• 1. Goals & a Commitment to
improve.
• 2. An intense focus on the
process of continually improving
your knowledge, skills & abilities
• 3. Continuous improvement
means learning from mistakes
• Mistakes point to major areas
of for improvement
• 4. Constantly monitor your
process.
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Your grades are not you….
Grades are the final result of the process of learning.
This is a process you monitor constantly & continuously
strive to improve…. (Foundational & Academic KSA’s)
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Example 2 – Using results to improve processes
Data Table One - Redo statistics rate per period - Soil Quiz 3
Period Attempts Pass Fail Success RateDid not
Redo
2 19 9 10 47.4 3
3 17 12 5 70.6 3
4 12 8 4 66.7 3
5 10 7 3 70.0 2
6 14 10 4 71.4 7
NO NAMES
3 3 0 100.0
Total 75 49 26 65.3 12.7%
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Get data – Adapt your thinking &
processes
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The Paretto
Principle
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Efforts focused on these key
areas yields:
• Better Results
Goal:
Focus daily to identify “key
result” areas, then do each.
• Less Stress
20% of your efforts gives
80% of the results.
• More Satisfaction in Life
Focus on the Process & results will
come!
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1+ 3 Forms of Respect
The other “Golden Rule”
Easy to lose – can be hard to earn
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First:
For others
• Due all people for
being a person
1 + 3 - Forms of Respect
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Second:
for Authority
• Due to persons in
authority
• Due to persons in
leadership roles
1 + 3 - Forms of
Respect
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Third:
For Honor
Due to persons
demonstrating
positive qualities
• Can only be earned
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1 + 3 Forms of Respect
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Key Elements of Power
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Power
Two sides:
Used to achieve success towards positive goals.
to manipulate, corrupt & destroy people & things.
Properly used, power gives you the ability to achieve goals.
Power provides strength to bring about change.
Skill in using power properly can be learned
… and strengthened over time.
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Two types of power
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Internal
Confidence
Self-Knowledge
Trust
Self-Respect
Knowledge
Character
Strength
Competence
Charisma
External
Respect
Authority
Admiration
Wealth
Access to information
Network
Reputation
Control of Resources
Personal Power
2. Competence • Knowledge • Experience
1. Strength• Character • Ethics• Focus on Improvement
. Personal Attraction – Charisma• Want to work with you• Being likeable
jschmied©2016https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-human-experience/200904/personal-
powerhttp://www.theelementsofpower.com/index.cfm/how-power-works/
Comes from:
3. Confidence• Self Mastery• Ability to communicate• Develop influence
Position
PowerComes from:
1. Role or Job• President
• CEO
2. Control of Resources• Saudi Arabia => Oil
• Boeing => Aircraft
3. Access to Information• Nat’l Security Agency
• Banks
4. Network of people• Masonic Society
• Jesuits
5. Reputation• Superstars
• Heros
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GRIT
Passion
Perseverance
Will Power – the Meta Source of Power
Based on Desire &
Courage to Act
Comes from within
Can magnify every
other form of power!
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Can be learned!
Use of Power - I
Mental
State
Factors
Controlling Actions
- Caught in the Tides
of Life.
- It doesn’t matter…
- I can’t get it…
- It’s too hard…
LCD = Lowest
common
demoninator
In this example the individual or team allows
“outside” factors affect their own performance.
Result:
Situation moves
to lowest possible
outcome.
Low Results High
Actions
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Use of Power - II
Factors
Controlling Actions
- Taking Control of
own life.
- It matters…
- I can do it…
- One step at a time…
- I refuse to give up!
In this example the individual or
team takes control of the situation.
Result:
Situation goes
towards best
possible
outcome.
Low Results High
Mental
State
Actions
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You Have No Limitations
– Recognize the Situation – Big Picture
– Adapt
– Improvise
– Overcome!
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Base Elements for LPT skills
Commit to Continuous Improvement:
Consistent process of improvement.
Take small steps forward all the time.
“Present”
Mentally and Physically
Prepared – come with your “tools”
Positive Attitude
Willingness to improve
Cooperation
Self Practice
Goal => Visualize success
http://www.studygs.net/intstudy.htm
http://www.usnews.com/education/blogs/international-student-counsel/2013/08/22/4-ways-international-students-can-participate-in-class
http://www.princeton.edu/mcgraw/library/for-students/class-participation-contr/
http://www.teachhub.com/top-12-ways-increase-student-participation jschmied©2015
Elements of good leadership
1. Model good leadership
http://thenext.ca/about/the-essential-elements-of-leadership/
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/eric-sheninger/effective-leadership_b_4238789.html jschmied©2015
Elements of good leadership
5. Flexibility – able to
change on the fly.
6. Resiliency – bounce
back from failure
7. Learn not to fear
failure - Improvise, Adapt
and Overcome!
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Elements of good leadership
8. Carefully plan to make good choices
Be careful what you
choose. You may get it!
Not making a decision
is making a decision.
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Active Participation Must Demonstrate Reliability
Have Good listening skills
Sharing in open discussions
Helps entire class see big picture
○ Know what every one is thinking.
○ Builds teamwork, makes for more effective improvement
Use of Words
Use words constructively & positively
Craft words to create pictures to cause “emotion” to take action
Cooperation
Willing to help more task forward in any way possible.
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Passive Participation
Attitude
Positive – Open – Willing & Able
There
“Present” & Prepared
Active listening
Focused on intent of lesson as well as content
Take notes about concepts & future questions
Avoid lapses
Focused on group togetherness
What’s the best way to do this well?
What’s possible?
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Effective
Teamwork
Developing & Storming
Trust Building - Relationship
Commitment to working with each other
Shared Vision
○ Joint Goals
http://smallbusiness.chron.com/elements-effective-teamwork-964.html
http://everydaylife.globalpost.com/elements-effective-teamwork-5596.html jschmied©2015
Effective
Teamwork Maintenance –
Personal & Joint Motivation
Focused on Goals
Positive Communications &
Relationships
Creativity – art of the possible
Adaptability – especially in stress
Safe
Overcome barriers together
Recognition – Share credit
http://smallbusiness.chron.com/elements-effective-teamwork-964.html
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Key Skill Needed for high quality improvement in
Leadership, Participation & Teamwork
Conflict Resolution
We have to learn
ways to deal with
conflicts even when
we are young!Some work better than
others
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Forming
Storming
Norming
Performing
Rock, Paper, Scissors!
Ways to Resolve Conflicts – K-6 school model
Forming
Storming
Norming
Performing
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The key is to understand your mindset
As well
as others.
Conflict 101 – The Basics
A conflict is more than just a disagreement.
It is a situation in which one or both parties perceive
a threat (whether or not the threat is real).
Conflicts continue to fester when ignored. Because conflicts involve
perceived threats to our well-being and survival, they stay with us until we face
and resolve them.
We respond to conflicts based on our perceptions of the situation, not
necessarily to an objective review of the facts. Our perceptions are influenced
by our life experiences, culture, values, and beliefs.
Conflicts trigger strong emotions. If you aren’t comfortable with your
emotions or able to manage them in times of stress, you won’t be able to
resolve conflict successfully.
Conflicts are opportunities for growth. When you’re able to resolve conflict
in a relationship, it builds trust. You can feel secure knowing your relationship
can survive challenges and disagreements.
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships/conflict-resolution-skills.htm
Healthy & unhealthy ways of managing & resolving conflict
Unhealthy responses to conflict: Healthy responses to conflict
An inability to recognize & respond to
the things that matter to the other
person
The capacity to recognize & respond
to the things that matter to the other
person
Explosive, angry, hurtful, & resentful
reactions
Calm, non-defensive & respectful
reactions
The withdrawal of love, resulting in
rejection, isolation, shaming, & fear of
abandonment
A readiness to forgive & forget,
& to move past the conflict without
holding resentments or anger
An inability to compromise or see the
other person’s side
The ability to seek compromise &
avoid punishing
Fear and avoidance of conflict; an
expectation of bad outcomes
A belief that facing conflict head on
is the best thing for both sides
Conflict resolution, Stress, & Emotions
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships/conflict-resolution-skills.htm
• Manage stress quickly while remaining alert and calm. By staying
calm, you can accurately read and interpret verbal and nonverbal
communication.
• Control your emotions and behavior. When you’re in control of your
emotions, you can communicate your needs without threatening,
frightening, or punishing others.
• Pay attention to the feelings being expressed as well as the spoken
words of others.
• Be aware of and respectful of differences. By avoiding disrespectful
words and actions, you can almost always resolve a problem faster.
The ability to successfully resolve
conflict depends on your ability to:
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships/conflict-resolution-skills.htm
Core Conflict Resolution Skills
Quick stress relief: The first core conflict resolution skill
Being able to manage and relieve stress in the moment is the key to staying balanced, focused, and in control, no matter what challenges you face. If you don’t know how to stay centered and in control of yourself, you will become overwhelmed in conflict situations and unable to respond in healthy ways.
Emotional awareness: The second core conflict resolution skill
Emotional awareness is the key to understanding yourself and others. If you don’t know how you feel or why you feel that way, you won’t be able to communicate effectively or resolve disagreements.
Knowing your own feelings may sound simple, however, many people ignore or try to sedate strong emotions like anger, sadness, and fear.
Your ability to handle conflict, however, depends on being connected to these feelings. If you’re afraid of strong emotions or if you insist on finding solutions that are strictly rational, your ability to face and resolve differences will be impaired.
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships/conflict-resolution-skills.htm
Core Conflict Resolution Skills
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships/conflict-resolution-skills.htm
Nonverbal communication & conflict resolution
The most important information exchanged during conflicts and arguments is often communicated nonverbally. Nonverbal communication is conveyed by emotionally driven facial expressions, posture, gesture, pace, tone and intensity of voice.
Using humor in conflict resolution
Once stress & emotion are brought into balance your capacity for joy, pleasure & playfulness is unleashed. Joy is a deceptively powerful resource. Studies show that you can surmount adversity, as long as you continue to have moments of joy. Humor plays a similar role when facing conflict.
You can avoid many confrontations & resolve arguments and disagreements by communicating in a humorous way. Humor can help you say things that might otherwise be difficult to express without offending someone. However, it’s important that you laugh with the other person, not at them.
When humor & play are used to reduce tension & anger, reframe problems, & put the situation into perspective, the conflict can actually become an opportunity for greater connection & intimacy.
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships/conflict-resolution-skills.htm
6 Tips for managing and resolving conflictManaging & resolving conflict requires the ability to Quickly reduce stress and bring your emotions into balance. You can ensure that the process is as positive as possible by sticking to the following guidelines:
1. Listen for what is felt as well as said. When we listen we connect more deeply to our own needs and emotions, and to
those of other people. Listening also strengthens us, informs us, and makes it easier for others to hear us when it's our turn to speak.
2. Make conflict resolution the priority rather than winning or "being right.“Maintaining & strengthening the relationship, rather than “winning” the argument, should always be your first priority. Be respectful of the other person and his or her viewpoint.
3. Focus on the present. If you’re holding on to grudges based on past resentments, your ability to see the reality of the current situation will be impaired. Rather than looking to the past & assigning blame, focus on what you can do in the here-and-now to solve the problem.
6 Tips for managing & resolving conflict
4. Pick your battles.Conflicts can be draining, so it’s important to consider whether the issue is really worthy of your time and energy. Maybe you don't want to surrender a parking space if you’ve been circling for 15 minutes, but if there are dozens of empty spots, arguing over a single space isn’t worth it.
5. Be willing to forgive. Resolving conflict is impossible if you’re unwilling or unable to forgive. Resolution lies in releasing the urge to punish, which can never compensate for our losses and only adds to our injury by further depleting and draining our lives.
6. Know when to let something go.If you can’t come to an agreement, agree to disagree. It takes two people to keep an argument going. If a conflict is going nowhere, you can choose to disengage and move on
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships/conflict-resolution-skills.htm
Tips for managing and resolving conflict
Resolving Conflict Constructively and Respectfully Tips on how to manage and resolve conflict in a positive, respectful, and mutually-beneficial way. (Ohio State University Extension)
How to Resolve Conflict Advice on resolving differences and managing conflict between individuals, small groups, and organizations. (Roger Darlington)
Effective CommunicationArticle on the art of listening in conflict resolution. Includes tips on how to make your point effectively and negotiate conflict in principled, positive way. (University of Maryland)
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships/conflict-resolution-skills.htm
Leading Others
Key: Match your leadership to follower readiness
1. Believe & have faith in yourself. You live as you believe. If you believe you can fly, you can fly. → Make a Difference!
2. Take action systematically. Some people watch things happen. Others make things happen. Dream big dreams, but don't sit on them – start moving! Every step up will open new horizons!→ Principle of Achievement
3. Approach impossible as possible. Believe everything can be changed and approach the impossible as possible. Some people believe nothing can be changed & approach possible as impossible. You achieve according what you believe→ Great Achiever: 8 Winning Habits
4. Keep stretching. Compete with yourself! Choose progressively more challenging tasks & keep → stretching yourself to unlock your true potential. Whatever goal you are striving to achieve, whether you are working on a challenging project, or trying to → solve a difficult problem, or fighting a powerful enemy, or correcting your own personal weaknesses, you are a winner if you manage to overcome all the obstacles and make your dream a reality.
5. Focus on solutions and → opportunities. The distance between a big → problem and a hugely creative solution can be great or very short – it all depends on your mindset. When a problem arises, don't talk about the problem for too long; focus on creative solutions and opportunities.
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LPT for Learners
LPT for Learners
6. Develop a burning desire to achieve success. Problem solving starts with a burning desire to change something and an open mind.
7. Do your best. Make doing nothing but the best your habit and you will enjoy nothing but the best in your life.
8. Keep learning to keep succeeding. In today's rapidly changing World, the key to success is not what you know, but how fast you can → learn. If you keep learningfrom any sources, especially from feedback and failures, you can turn any experience into success. → The Wheel of Personal Success
9. Look forward, not backwards. You might have taken a step back yesterday – don't dwell on it. It's a lesson and a new reality.
10. Conquer your weaknesses. The Earth is the place to learn to conquer yourself, not others. External victories only bring temporary happiness. Conquering yourself brings lasting happiness. >>>
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Have a big dream. Stretch your imagination. Don't watch news, create news. Pursue
your dreams wholeheartedly and you will learn to fly! >>>
Do what you love to do. You were born to pursue → your true passion and → make a
difference. You are unique, so be unique! Don't let the vanity cacophony mute your life
symphony!
Love your audience, → love your customers, → strive to make their life happier and
their business → more successful. → Amaze them with new inspirations, breakthrough
opportunities and innovative routes to great success.
Don’t teach, inspire! Help people and businesses make discoveries, → create new
things, → innovate, and reinvent themselves.
Help others shine. → Giving is getting. If you want to grow as a→ leader, help other
people grow. The more you give, the more you get and the more you enjoy what you do.
to be winners and achieve more than they may ever have dreamed possible.
Ideas about building LPT skills -> for Leaders & Trainers
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Stretch yourself and others. Everyone can achieve much more then they think they
can. No challenge no excitement. Stretch your goals, and your goals will stretch you.
Approach impossible as possible and you’ll be amazed by → your achievements.
Invent breakthrough approaches. Development of cutting edge solutions requires
breakthrough approaches. In innovation, doing things right is often wrong. Generate
wild ideas. Look for emerging breakthrough → opportunities. Your goal is to
systematically create radically new solutions to inspire radically new customer desires.
Experiment, observe, adapt. Innovation is 1% initial idea and 99% of entrepreneurial
implementation. Focus on your big dream and core competencies while keeping both
strategic and tactical flexibility.
Build synergies. Combine your diverse competencies, capabilities, resources and →
innovations with others to achieve synergy. Build synergistic partnerships. Experiment
a lot, be playful, inquisitive, flexible and versatile to find new synergistic connections.
Keep learning and inventing new things daily. If you stop → learning you stop
learning how create history you become history. If you stop stretching → your creative
muscles they will lose elasticity.
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Ideas about building LPT skills -> for Leaders & Trainers
Final Thoughts: Some techniques & tactics break down into simple lists of things that
leaders have used successfully. Retired General Colin Powell, former Chairman of the Joint
Chiefs of Staff, developed a collection of 'rules' he displayed prominently on his desk:
1. It ain't as bad as you think. It will look better in the morning.
2. Get mad, then get over it.
3. Avoid having your ego so close to your position that when your position falls, your ego
goes with it.
4. It can be done!
5. Be careful what you choose. You may get it.
6. Don't let adverse facts stand in the way of a good decision.
7. You can't make someone else's choices.
8. Check small things.
9. Share credit.
10. Remain calm. Be kind.
11. Have a vision. Be demanding.
12. Don't take counsel of your fears or naysaysers.
13. Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier.
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French and Raven Goal, to be more influentual and successful
1. Expert Power. This is the most valuable power base. If you have some particular skill or expertise that others value, then you will have power over them if they need/want what you possess. This is the power that professionals have over us – doctors, lawyers, your company’s IT guy. We do what they say because we believe they possess some skill or competence
Learning how to use this power base is key. Competence is a powerful force for success. Establish your expertise – your expert power base – make it known, but don’t boast about it. Expertise and humility are a powerful combination.
2. Reward Power. This is the power to give positive things to others – money, praise, perks, and other things that others need or want. Money is powerful because it is so valued by others. With wealth comes reward power.
We often, however, overlook the power of social reinforcement – giving a compliment, saying ‘thank you,’ a smile and a nod – can be a very powerful form of influence. Get in the habit of noticing when those around you behave positively, and give them social reinforcement. You will find that they will increase their positive behavior, and this is an important form of personal power, as we like people who reward us and treat us nicely.
3. Legitimate Power. This is the power that comes with a position. A synonym is authority. All leaders carry some level of legitimate power, but it is what you do with that authority that makes you effective. Be consistent, and again, be humble about it, and you can use legitimacy more powerfully.
4. Referent Power. This power base comes from being liked, admired, and respected by others. It is the power of strong relationships. This is the power of charismatic leaders who attract and inspire loyal, admiring followers.
There are two facets of referent power that are important for developing this personal power base. The first is to be a positive role model – someone who others would want to emulate. The second is to be a supportive and other-oriented friend or colleague – be agood listener, be responsive, be nice.
5. Coercive Power. Coercive power is the power to punish and force others to action. This is a dangerous power base to wield. To use coercive power effectively, it is best to be subtle. Think of the iron fist in the velvet glove – make it clear that you have the capacity to punish or inflict harm, but use it only sparingly. Remember, power is a potential. You don’t actually have to use it to be effective, and coercive power should only be used when absolutely necessary.
We all possess different levels of these power bases. Learning how to use them effectively is the key.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/201404/using-your-5-personal-power-bases-get-ahead
http://www.freibergs.com/resources/articles/building-a-personal-brand/increase-your-personal-power/
Here’s the thing about personal power:
Some people leverage and use it to the max.
These people understand that their lives are their own.
They choose to take responsibility and do something about their lives.
These people are hard to hold down.
And…
Some people give it away.
These people believe they are controlled by others.
They choose to be victimized by being helpless and doing nothing.
These people feel lifeless, they are hard to pull up.
What about you?
Who controls YOUR emotions?
Who dictates the terms of YOUR existence?
Who is responsible for your happiness?
The more you exercise your personal power, the stronger you become!
Six Enablers That Will Strengthen Personal Power
1. Know what you stand for.
If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything. Your personal power will evaporate because you’re not grounded, you’re not anchored to anything. Knowing what
you stand for is about knowing what you value. Values are the emotional rules that guide your life, the fundamental basis for every decision you make. Values give your life
focus and meaning and power.
Exercise:
Take some time to identify what you VALUE most.
Then, evaluate how much of your life is built around and dictated by these values.
Starting RIGHT NOW decide what you are going to do to fill in the gaps.
2. Believe in what you are doing.
Many of us end up compromising our most deeply held values at work because that’s what we think we need to do in order to get ahead, whether “ahead” means more
money, power, pleasure, status or some other lure. When we end up doing things we don’t believe in it saps our personal power and we slowly become DEAD PEOPLE
WORKING.
Exercise:
Do you REALLY believe in what you are doing at work?
Are you working on things that will matter five years from now?
Starting RIGHT NOW decide how you are going to engage in work that matters.
3. Find your sweet spot.
When you find your sweet spot—the synergy between what you are good at, passionate about, and what needs to be done—you tap into the joy and enthusiasm that
increases your personal power. If you are stuck in a job because it’s easy or safe or pays well, but gives you no sense of purpose and passion, you are in the most difficult job
of all—a job that constantly drains your personal power.
Exercise:
Have you followed your strengths and passion to find your sweet spot? Or…
Are you engaged in work you don’t love because you’re chasing the money?
Does time at your job fly by or drag on?
Starting RIGHT NOW ask yourself:
What would I be doing if I were engaged in work that leveraged my greatest strengths, work that I love, work that I’m good at, and work that makes an extremely valuable
contribution?
How would this kind of work make me feel? Would I have more energy and vitality?
What’s holding me back, what’s keeping me from doing this kind of work?
Given the number of working years I have left, what price will I pay, will my family or loved ones pay if I don’t live and work in my sweet spot?
Exercise:
Here are some questions designed to help you find your sweet spot:
Talent:
About the author:
John Schmied has been a secondary science & environment teacher for 20 years and is involved in developing practical, yet innovative, hands on curriculum for teens. He has created, developed and manages a 6 acre Environmental Center at his school site. John is also a Chemical Hygiene Officer.
John’s presentations have been viewed worldwide & have been in the top 5% of Slideshare for multiple years.
During this time John served as the Strategic planner for the Friends of the Hidden River a 501(C)(3) non profit.
• Over the past 13 years Friends helped King County, WA design, fund, construct & develop the 14,800 sqftBrightwater Environmental Center in Woodinville WA.
• John is the Director & a principal developer of the Ground to Sound STEM Environmental Challenge course, a locally popular cutting edge environmental program that merges, Science, Tech, Art, Multimedia and other disciplines with Leadership studies at the Center
Prior to this period John served for 21 years as a Coast Guard Officer, primarily involved in ice, navigation, search and rescue operations. His specialties are Ship handling, Diving, Personnel, & Oceanographic Operations.
John can be contacted via Linked In.