kathleen vandenberghe, head of family support and counselling team, st. luke's hospice
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Bereavement: A better experience
Initiatives and experiences in relation to bereavement at St. Luke’s Cheshire Hospice
Kathleen VandenbergheFamily Support and Counselling (FSC)
Topics Overview of Family Support and Counselling
Remit by looking at the service context: Hospice, Health care sector, Society, Clients
Services
Pressures / challenges / questions
FSC 2016: Stop and think – what thoughts and experiences are shaping our service development?
Hospice clients and care
Patients Relatives (pre- and
post bereaveme
nt)
Progressive life-
limiting illness
Family orientated
All ages
All relationships
All cultural and spiritual
background
St. Luke’s Hospice : community orientated
In-house
Care homes
Home visits
Schools
Response to need:
Dementia
Survivorship
Homelessness
Hospice commitment to holistic incl psychological care
100 hours paid counselling + 35
volunteers / avoid waiting list
Need based counselling:
450 new clients/year
duration flexible
Society
Bereavement is badly
supported
Complex and stressful life circum-
stances
Health Care sector
NHS: Long term support? Mental Health
support?
Charities: local and variable funding
CounsellingStudents searching for
placements
Professional volunteering
Response to changing client need - Distress
Work with children
and young people can
mean:
Co-operation with Social
Services
Self-harm
Bullying
- Other illnesses
Alcohol related deaths
Sudden death: heart
attack, stroke
- Young people with cancer
Impact on young families (children and
partners)
Parents surviving adult children
FSC services Loss and Grief support to patients and those close to
them before the death
One to one counselling
Participation in Hospice group support to carers, cancer survivors, ...
Bereavement support
One to one counselling
Monthly Adult Bereavement Support Group
Monthly Children’s Bereavement Support Group -Phoenix
A range of questions / tensions• Motivate families to
contact us earlier?
• Organise children’s pre-bereavement group?
• Offer online support for teenagers and adults?
Service development
• Skilled to support:
• dementia patients?
• mental health problems?
• People suffering abuse?
• Alcohol/drug users?
• Working with translators?
• Couples and family units?
Knowledge and skill
• With increasing referrals, can we sustain
• Home visits?
• No waiting list?
• Room availability?
• Better co-ordination of in-house support
Capacity
• Is it fair not to support bereavement following suicide, murder, accidents?
• What does it entail to support Homeless people?
• When is counselling befriending?
Service boundaries
• What does it mean when clients seem unaware of referral?
• How do we keep up to date with changes in external services?
• When is bereavement mis-used to access support?
Collaboration
• Confidentiality and IT systems?
• Are funds used effectively?
• Is work load unfair?
• Is professional volunteering ethical?
• Unsupported out of area clients?
Ethics
Summarizing the questions
When to offer more?
When to offer less?
Where is or should be our boundary?
Should we change our boundary?
Where to draw the line?
Thoughts in relation to service development1. More is better ... Finding the funding to provide
required services, staffing and training
2. Critical is better ... Question appropriateness of referrals and invest in options to refer-on
3. Protect boundaries ... Not collude with bereavement ‘being used’ to offer more general life support - Not feeling responsible for unattended needs outside our catchment area
4. Curtail ‘giving’ attitude
Offering less home visits may result in clients taking responsibility for their own transport arrangements?
Less sessions may result in more focused working?
Responding less quickly may result in less DNA’s or cancellations?
Underlying principle: SPECIALISED IS BETTER Focused on:
Trained competence
The complexity of problems
Specificity of client groups
Service accessed rather than offered
We are in ‘specialised’ mode both in our strategies to extend and limit our support
When listening to our team discussion
Shift in mind-set and language
from seeing people to not seeing people
from supporting to service
From being to doing
From listening to assessing
From holding to pushing
Tension ... road to burnout?
Could I say ‘no’ to my present clients?
Sharon who lost her second husband although she is only 40 with 2 young children and a full time job – she is just going into her 3rd year of 2-3 weekly bereavement counselling –the only place and time where somebody witnesses the rawness of her grief.
Karen who I see at her house is often under the influence of alcohol; the grip she had on it seems gone now her mother has died.
Dan lives just outside our catchment area and would like his 8 year old daughter to attend the childrens’ bereavement support group...
Realities ignored...The reality of our clients’ life-world:
so many people don’t fit the practical, efficient, professional boundaries that we conjure up with our ‘specialist’ hat on. Life is messy – bereavement and mourning is potentially long, chaotic, lonely and debilitating.
The reality of health care practitioners’ life-world:
Inspired caring comes from head, hand and heart care (Galvin and Todres 2007) – Specialised care focuses on head and hand and leaves the door open to neglect the heart – We can be ‘specialised’ without being ‘integrated’ or ‘whole’ in our caring.
What does it mean to add an ‘un-specialised’ dimension?Specialised caring Un-specialised caring
Trained competence
Focused on higher level of complexity
Specific client group
Accessed rather than offered
Spontaneous humanity
Valuing attending to our basic needs
Remembering a label does not capture a person
Emerges in a committed relationship
Extra thought to consider in relation to service development
5. Grounding specialised caring in un-specialised caring values the humanity of all involved
Adding an ‘un-specialised’ dimension to our ‘specialised’ caring, what does it mean for how we deal withour question: “where to draw the line?”
Being boundary aware does not mean that we need to be boundary led – we can prioritise ‘being people led’ over ‘being boundary led’.
Applying boundaries in response to individual contexts and needs may be not a weakness or error but a strength and moral decision – a compassionate professional practice.
Consider that boundaries may be at their best when seen as places rather than lines.
In addition to asking the question “where to draw the line”,we must also ask “what type of line do we draw”?
What does it mean for our work in context Organisation: Compassionate professional practice
needs to be secured with compassionate management that trusts, supports and enables practitioners’ heart-felt decisions.
Health care sector: More verbal communication with neighbouring services and referrers and ‘share’ the care for ‘new’ or ‘less specified’ client groups.
Society: paralleling not contrasting the advocacy for holistic and compassionate community based public health support – fighting fragmentation, offering humanity.
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