Axiom: Statement accepted as true as the basis for argument○

Axiomatic: Self evident or unquestionable•

Substructure: an underlying or supporting structure; the basis•

EX: Jane no longer writes fiction implies that she wrote fiction once and then quit○

To require or imply as an antecedent○

Presupposition: a thing tacitly assumed beforehand at the beginning of a ling of argument•

Dogma: principal or set of laid down by an authority as incontrovertibly true•

Word, name for Jesus○

Eros: femininity; binding▪

Jung: Masculine principal of rationality○

Logos: logic behind an argument; reason•

Making a caricature of someone's argument and arguing with that○

Straw man: giving the impression of refuting an opponent while actually refuting an argument that was never presented•

Kant's critique of pure reason popularized the term○

Latin○

Priori: derived from reasoning from self evident propositions; presupposed•

Terms:

Post modernist relativist teachers attack things based on their own virtue that tolerance is what matters because there is no right or wrong--no true virtue.

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The warrior identity that their ideologue gives them covers over that chaos.○

Set your house in order first.○

Ideologies are substitutes for true knowledge.○

Ideologues are people who pretend they know how to make the world a better place before they have taken care of their own chaos within (xiv).

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This requires courage.○

For the hero to triumph, something of himself has to die or be given up so he can be reborn and meet the challenge (xvii).•

So, any attempt to be moral is considered "oppressive."i.

Tolerance has replaced virtue1)If there is no right and wrong, being "intolerant" means you are unsophisticatedii.

uncertaintyiii.

Morality is relative1.

Ideologies are certain that the other side is wrong.i.Certaintyii.

Ideological attacks on great books and old teachings and virtues; claims that there is a right but it is based in ideology an d not morality.

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The youth in the West has been taught contradicting ideas and is confused and lost(xxi).•

Foreword by Norman Doidge

These are symbolic and imaginative.○

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In the Taoist yin yang; there is order in the chaos and chaos in the order.○

There is where we find balance, where we justify life and suffering.▪

If you live properly you can tolerate the weight of your own self consciousness, withstand frailty and morality without victimhood.

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Being "there" is the line between order and chaos (xxxiv).○

Order: Masculine // Chaos: Feminine (xxviii).•

Overture

You go to the mall and have terrible anxiety and leave.a.Anxiety and positive feedback loop (21).1.

RULE 1: STAND UP STRAIGHT WITH YOUR SHOULDERS BACK

Jordan B. Peterson: 12 Rules for Life Sunday, January 20, 2019 8:10 AM

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You go to the mall and have terrible anxiety and leave.a.You go again remembering the terrible anxiety you had and decide to turn around and go home.b.This calms your anxiety and confirms that the mall is dangerous and you should not go.c.

This develops into depression and agoraphobia.i.Soon anxiety takes over and is everywhere due to the positive feedback loop.d.

One of the most difficult lessons of life.a.There is very little difference between the capacity for mayhem and destruction and strength of character (25).2.

Standing up physically implies and invokes and demands standing up metaphysically.a.Accept the burden of Being.b.

Stand up straight and face the demands of life voluntarily--your nervous system will respond (27).3.

Defeated lobsters brains dissolve to grow a subordinate brain for its new position.1.Chimps who stay in power the longest aren't just mean and strong, they pay more attention to the weak, the women, and the children.2.Lobsters are 350 million years old; status hierarchies have been around that long.3.Dominance hierarchy is exceptionally ancient and fundamental.4.

Serotonin is related to status as you are more secure up top.a.Higher spot in the hierarchy of dominance = higher serotonin levels.5.

Have stability of schedule and your life will be stable.a.Routines are necessary.6.

Sleep patterns must be consistent.7.

No sugar or carbs because they digest quickly and cause blood to spike and dip.a.Eat fat and protein heavy breakfast as soon as waking.8.

This will lead you to self respect.a.Know and recognize how dangerous and evil you can be.9.

Slumping causes people to see you as lower status and you produce less serotonin.10.

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When time passes and you are so engrossed in activity that you do not notice--that is balance.a.Straddle the divide between order and chaos to be balanced (43).1.

Who was the redactor of the bible? (45).2.

The worst of all snakes is internal.a."Question for parents: do you want to make your children safe, or strong?"b.

It is far better to render beings in your care competent than to protect them (47).3.

Anton Chekhov: "If there is a rifle on the wall in act one, it must be fired in the next act. Otherwise it has no business being there."4.

Since Eve gave Adam the apple.i.Women render men self conscious by shaming them and denying them.a.

Because women are so picky, this leads to better offspring.b.Only half of all men have fathered children.c.

Women bear the burden of reproduction and shame men who do not take responsibilities on their shoulders (48).5.

Humans are upright and have no protection against vulnerable parts. The shame we feel is in vulnerability, frailty (50).6.

Claim this because he calls a forest "cathedral-like old-growth."i.Cathedral designs are like a forest. Very busy and comforting.a.

The Garden of Eden is the innocence of childhood that we have lost. It is nostalgia (56).7.

"Perhaps it is not simply the emergence of our self consciousness and the rise of our moral knowledge of death and the fall that besets us and makes us doubt our own worth. Perhaps it is instead our unwillingness--reflected in Adam's shamed hiding--to walk with God, despite our fragility and propensity for evil" (57).

a.

Embody the image of God; speak out of chaos the Being that is good. Do it consciously. b.

Speak the truth to walk with God again (58).8.

RULE 2: TREAT YOURSELF LIKE SOMEONE YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR HELPING

Pinocchio the puppet is only real after a great ordeal.1.

Even the brain is divided for it.a.Religious symbols depict duality; male, female.2.

T.S. Eliot. "Back is the way forward."3.

Don't mean be nice.i.Means to bargain on your own behalf as hard as anyone else does or become a slave.ii.Stand up for others.iii.

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" and "loving your neighbor as yourself"a.Lessons from Carl Jung:4.

Define who you are and take care of it. Develop vision and direction and maintain it.5.Fredrich Nietzsche: "He whose life has a why can bear almost any how."6.

Important Takeaways

RULE 3: MAKE FRIENDS WITH PEOPLE WHO WANT THE BEST FOR YOU

Freud: Repetition compulsion is the unconscious drive to repeat the horrors of the past.1.Important Takeaways

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Freud: Repetition compulsion is the unconscious drive to repeat the horrors of the past.1.

Down is easier than up.a.Delinquency spreads.b.

Don't put problematic people in with stellar people.2.

Failure is easy.3.Miserable people want you to be taken down closer to them to avoid shame.4.

Carl Rogers says that it is impossible to help someone who does not desire change.a."Desire to improve is a precondition for progress" (81).5.

The bad friend overrides your accomplishments with past action real or imaginary of their own.6.

When you have something to say, silence is a lie.1."Do you ask yourself what you want? Do you negotiate fairly with yourself? Or are you a tyrant with yourself as a slave?" (90).2."Perhaps happiness is to always be found in the journey uphill, and not in the fleeting sense of satisfaction awaiting at the next peak" (94).

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They then elevate and become morals.a.Is this how we change society?b.

Desires, once prioritized, arrange into hierarchies become sophisticated and begin working together and with other people's desires (103).

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From Beyond Good and Evili.Nietzsche considered the new testament God the worst crime in literary historya.

Realists created the old testament God; seeing people straying from the path and ruining their own lives.5.

"Faith is not childish belief. That’s ignorance. It is instead the realization that the tragic irrationalities of life must be counter balanced by an equally irrational commitment to the essential goodness of Being" (107).

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The Sermon on the Mount outlines the true nature of man and its proper aim.7.

RULE 4: COMPARE YOURSELF TO WHO YOU WERE YESTERDAY, NOT TO WHO SOMEONE ELSE IS TODAY

Talking yourself into irrelevance is not a profound critique of Being. It is a cheap trick.1.Growing is a form of winning.2.Before you know your standards of value, you must see yourself as a stranger.3.Consult your resentment; is it immaturity or is there tyranny? If so, speak up!4.Evil trinity: Arrogance, deceit, resentment.5.The future always feels better--find happiness in the uphill battle.6.Life sucks then you die is B.S.! Life doesn't have a problem, you do.7.

Retool your value structure then.a.Perhaps you are holding on to desires so much it blinds you to what could be.8.

Self Authoring?a.You must scour your psyche; clean it up before improving or changing.9.

Start with what you are willing to fix (108).10.Concentrate on the day. Live in the present. Attend completely to what is in front of you.11.Tell the truth.12.Pay attention.13.Negotiate. Don’t be a martyr or a tyrant.14.Let go of envy. Aim low and take steps.15.Tailor your life to you.16.

Important Takeaways

Too much chaos breeds too much order in children and a reversal (114).1.

Creating their own problem.a.Selfish gene.b.

Mothers who allow their children to walk over them produce god-emperors, despite any belief in gender equality (114).2.

Preferring the son can make a confident man who keeps the feeling of success.a.Boys have been preferred because they can father countless children (115).3.

Each person's private trouble can't be solved by social revolution.a.Not all can be blamed on the parents. Not all can be blamed on society. Both are one sided and ideological (118).4.

Jane Goodall tried to hide this fact for many years.i.Chimps brutally kill each other for no reason.a.

The noble savage- Jean-Jacques Rousseau is bullshit. Society is not to blame for all the problems of man (121).5.

Society, authority reduces violence.a.Read: The Rape of Nanking and Unit 731 (121).6.

Not giving children attention can be as bad as abuse; attention is what sophisticates them. It makes them sharp, observant, informed, 7.

RULE 5: DO NOT LET YOUR CHILDREN DO ANYTHING THAT MAKES YOU DISLIKE THEM

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Other people interact using cost benefit ratios and they should be made to understand how that works.a.

Not giving children attention can be as bad as abuse; attention is what sophisticates them. It makes them sharp, observant, informed, and awake (122).

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Children test adults as a form of learning what is acceptable.a.Children are animals and attempt to dominate.b.

Rules don't inhibit creativity, they facilitate it (125).8.

You don't teach a snake to strike.a.Kids like you more after discipline and teaching.b.

Use firm dominance and rewards such as "good job" (129).i.Most crying is aggression, anger, an act of dominance and should be treated as such.c.

Violence and aggression are innate, not learned (127).9.

It weakens Aurora.a.She lives in unconsciousness instead of facing the stresses of adulthood.b.

In sleeping Beauty, not inviting Maleficent to the christening is being overprotective parents (133).10.

Ignoring a child's misbehaviors leads to loneliness and depression as they will not be invited to places anymore (133).11.

Kids depend on adults and should act in a manner that invites good will and development.i.

Use punishment for behaviors that lead to failure in this regard.1)Children should be taught to comply gracefully with the expectations of civil society for success.ii.

Rules are not arbitrary, they are necessary for a peaceful, productive society.iii.Socialization is important for happiness.iv.They will one day be adults.v.

Argument against "adultism," the idea that adults shouldn't subject kids to their arbitrary rules (134).12.

Limit the rules.i.Use minimum necessary force.ii.Parents should come in pairs.iii.Parents should understand their own capacity to be harsh, vengeful, arrogant, resentful, angry, and deceitful.iv.Parents have a duty to act as proxies for the real world--merciful and caring but proxies nonetheless.v.

Good parenting principals (142).13.

Think about the time spent fighting with your child about something. This does not make a good relationship (117).1.Authority reduces violence (121).2.

Parents are MORE than friends.a.Learn to tolerate temporary hatred from children for corrective action.3.

Listen to teens stupid crap and they'll be more open to sharing things they normally would not.4.Let kids know danger in order to make them stronger and smarter.5.

Bad laws drive out respect for good ones.i.Don't bog kids down with rules.a.

Occam's Razor: the simplest hypothesis is best.6.

Teach child to behave so that people enjoy his company; prepare them for a good life.7.

Outcaste from society until they can be civil.a.Time out is effective. "Come join us when you can behave properly."8.

Important Takeaways

Columbine.a.They convince themselves that life is evil and meaningless.b.

Retreat into childlike ignorance of the problem.i.Pursue mindless pleasure.ii.

This is weak because they do not have the strength to act rationally and kill themselves.1)Continue to drag out the life that is meaningless despite knowing nothing will come of it.iii.

This requires strength and energy.1)Only logical and strong people come to this conclusion.2)

Destroy life.iv.

4 means of escaping such thoughts by Leo Tolstoy:c.

We claim to not understand but even the writers of the Bible and Tolstoy understood so long ago.i.Tolstoy wasn't pessimistic enough because in 2016 there had been 1000 mass killings (4 or more at once) in 1200 days.d.

People who find meaninglessness in the world are strong and motivated and kill people en mass and then themselves (149).1.

If you are the problem, that is fixable; if God or reality is the problem, that is hopeless.a.T.S. Eliot's The Cocktail Party (154).2.

RULE 6: SET YOUR HOUSE IN PERFECT ORDER BEFORE YOU CRITICIZE THE WORLD

Nihilism is not the way. Do not reject value, meaning, and desirability.1.You can fix yourself, not God, reality.2.Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn did not blame reality, he looked inward to see where he went wrong: supporting the communists.3.

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He questioned all his decisions leading him there.a.Let what is harmful and unnecessary die!b.

Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn did not blame reality, he looked inward to see where he went wrong: supporting the communists.3.

Prepare for eventualities. Don't be blind to what may.4.

What could you have done? Good. You learned. Do that next time.a.Take responsibility for things going wrong.5.

Take full advantage of opportunity.6.Work hard on career.7.Let go of bitterness and resentment.8.Make peace.9.Treat your spouse with dignity and respect.10.Let go of destructive habits.11.Shoulder responsibilities.12.Say what needs to be said.13.Ask yourself what needs to be done to make things better.14.If you can't bring peace to your household how dare you try to rule a city.15.

"The future is a judgmental father" (166).1."Sacrifice will improve the future" (166).2.

Children fear sharing because they fear they will get nothing in return.a.Storing food for the winter became social contracts. Sharing is giving something with something in return (168).3.

Pursued truth and meaning instead of expediency.a.Socrates accepted his fate, his execution (172).4.

This is the true sin here; they didn't just get pain themselves, they discovered how to create it in others which is what hap pens when you experience fear and pain.

a.

Cain does not make good sacrifices but instead blames his brother's for being too good.i.Cain was nihilistic because of his resentment and inability to take responsibility for his own life. ii.

Abel is Cain's ideal so he kills him out of resentment.b.

Adam and Eve eating from the tree of knowledge of good and evil opened their eyes to how they could inflict pain on others (174).5.

A hard lot in life magnified by the continual rejection of your sacrifices, however half -hearted they may be.a.This becomes a cycle until it bursts.b.Bitterness takes over. c.

The cause of human evil:6.

Newton believed the material world held secrets that could free humanity from limitations.a.Jung believed that science was developed because Christianity failed to sufficiently address the problems of suffering now (185).7.

We are all morally equal.a.Made explicit that being a slave owner made you less than a slave.b.

Christianity put all men on the same metaphysical level; kings, slaves--it organized the West according to this ideal (186).8.

Devalued significance of earthly life because only the afterlife matters.i.Passive acceptance of the status quo because salvation could not be earned through effort.ii.The son of God already shouldered the moral burden.iii.

Nietzsche says that Paul and the protestants following Luther had removed moral responsibility from Christs followers (189).9.

The individual must be strained, molded, even brought close to destruction before he can act freely and competently.a.Nietzsche and Dostoevsky believe that freedom requires restraint and recognize the vital need for the church's dogma (192).10.

About intelligence.a.Following Nietzsche?b.

Descartes: the logos is the self, not just the word (194).11.

Ideas are alive through people. a.Freud and Jung insisted that the psyche is a battleground for ideas (195).12.

Peterson learned from George Orwell that socialism is motivated by hate for the rich rather than regard for the poor (196).13.

There are some actions that are so intrinsically terrible that they run counter to the proper nature of Being (197).a.Conclusion of the Nuremberg trials:14.

"To place the alleviation of unnecessary pain and suffering at the pinnacle of you hierarchy of value is to work to bring about the kingdom of God on Earth" (198).

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Jung: whatever is at the top of the moral hierarchy is that person's ultimate value, that person's God (199).16.

RULE 7: PURSUE WHAT IS MEANINGFUL (NOT WHAT IS EXPEDIENT)

Benjamin Franklin: Ask a favor of your new neighbor and they will be more likely to help more and be comfortable with you.1.It is as if there is a being in the sky watching, so be good (169).2.

Let go and become who you are.a.Sometimes when things aren't going well it is not the world that is the cause but instead it is what is most valued.3.

"The greater the sacrifice, the greater the future" (172).4.Carl Jung: "No tree can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell" (180).5.Gain earthly salvation through works. Be Christ-like. (189).6.

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Gain earthly salvation through works. Be Christ-like. (189).6.

Like raising children.a."A long period of unfreedom is necessary for the development of a free mind" (193).b.

Lose freedom first to gain responsibility and logos.7.

The death of God, dogma, is the birth of nihilism, utopian dangerous ideas.8.

A bad idea dies. "faith in the part of us that continues after those deaths is a prerequisite to thinking itself" (195).a.Facts are dead. Ideas are alive and have aim. Ideas want something. An idea posits a value structure.9.

If you are disciplined and privilege the future over the present you can change the structure of reality in your favor (196).10.Before you attempt to repair the fabric of the world maybe you're at fault.11.Pursuing meaning, putting making the world better at the top of your hierarchy, is atoning for past sins. (200).12.

Being possessed by some ill formed desire and craft language and action that appears to bring about that end.a."Acting politically"b.It is what a student does when they write an essay to please a professor instead of formulating their own ideas.c.

Impose my ideology1)Prove I'm right2)To be promoted3)Minimize conflict4)Always appear sainted5)Garner the benefits of martyrdom6)Blame my child7)Justify cynicism8)Capitalize on my vulnerability9)Appear competent10)

Typical ends:i.What everyone does when they want something.d.

Current knowledge is sufficient to define what is good for the future.i.Reality would be unbearable if left to its own devices.ii.

The life lie is based on two premises:e.

Alfred Adler: "Life lies," living life using language to manipulate the world (209).1.

Action > Negative outcome > Still have something to learn = AUTHENTICa.Action > Negative outcome > The world is unfair, jealous, stupid = INAUTHENTIC > Violence, resentmentb.

Viktor Frankl: "Deceitful, inauthentic individual existence is the precursor to social totalitarianism" (215).2.

Is the repression of truth a lie?a.Freud: Repression leads to mental illness (215).3.

Rationality is subject to the worst temptation to raise what it knows to the status of absolute (217).4.

Communist joke about hell; there are no demons to push the communists back into the cauldron because if one tries to escape t he others pull him back in.

a.Intellectuals accepted communism because they believed they knew everything as truth (219).5.

The life-lie.a.Deceit is what cause the gulags and the concentration camps (220).6.

Christ sacrifices himself to truth and is reborn.a.Every new piece of information challenges us; previous conceptions die and are reborn (223).7.

All people serve their ambition. In that matter, there are no atheists. There are only people who know and don't know what God they serve (224).

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Hitler said that people are so ashamed to lie that they can't fathom anyone doing it on a large scale and have doubts when given facts against big lies (227).

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RULE 8: TELL THE TRUTH--OR, AT LEAST DON'T LIE

Do not use language to manipulate the world; you are lying to others and yourself (209).1.Do not warp your life to fit the ideas you had as a teenager (210).2.You'd be bored retired on a beach. You'd become pathetic.3.No single axiom; that is for ideologues.4.

Hiding is suppressing potential.a."Someone hiding is not someone vital. Vitality requires original contribution" (211).5.

It ignores error.a.Kierkegaard: A prideful rational mind enamored with its own brilliance is inauthentic (214).6.

Lucifer is the spirit of totalitarianism.a.Arrogant pride is why intellectuals accept communism. b.

Reason, Lucifer, is the most wonderous angel brought forth from the void by God. Reason is alive, in us, has personality, and can fall in love with itself or worse, its own productions (218).

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Nietzsche: Man's worth is determined by how much truth he can tolerate (223). 8.

Challenging old knowledge.a.The word that produces order from chaos sacrifices everything because every bit of learning is a little death (223).9.

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Challenging old knowledge.a.Set a meta-goal above normal goals such as: live in truth (227).10.Successful lies breed ignorance (229). 11.Truth is not ideologies, it is personal to you (230).12.

This analogy means that your spirit is crying for order.a.If you drop a single grain of sugar in a supersaturated solution all the sugar in it will crystalize (236).1.

The past is not fixed and can be manipulated by you or someone else (236).2.

People will produce collateral damage to retain a theory.a.Many cases of sexual assault coming out in therapy can be attributed to therapists forcing their theories on clients (238).3.

Justify all their claims and they will accept them all as true and it will stay in their life forever (239).a.Tell her that she is going down a bad path, that she is Nietzsche's "pale criminal," a person who dares to break a sacred law and then shrinks from paying the price.

b.

Instead, listen. Don't steal their problems.c.

Two different ideologies and how they deal with rape victims:4.

Most of us can't listen. We are too compelled to evaluate. Listening is dangerous because it might change us. The first requi rement is courage (245).

a.

State the other side's argument before you continue with a rebuttal (246).b.The risk of being changed is frighteningc.

Carl Rogers: 5.

Not truly thinking.a.Winning is the goal.b.Validates.c.

Conversations and dominance (249):6.

Why it is fundamental for parents to render their kids socially acceptable.a.We judge ourselves by the reactions of others.b.We are social creatures.c.

We outsource the problem of our own sanity (250).7.

When giving a speech or lecture, speak to each member of the audience. Focus on one person for one idea and then move to the next (250).

8.

Must be listened to and questioned to formulate precisely. a.Men want to solve problems quickly and efficiently. // Women are intent on formulating the problem (251).9.

Good humor is daring, anarchic, almost reckless (252).10.

He always sought truth.a.Socrates was considered by the Delphic Oracle to be the wisest living man because what he knew was nothing (256).11.

RULE 9: ASSUME THAT THE PERSON YOU ARE LISTENING TO MIGHT KNOW SOMETHING YOU DON'T

The past is not fixed; the present can change it--consider a movie you enjoy that ends terribly. You forget the 90 minutes you enjoyed (237).

1.

Listen, don't take over people's problems with your own ideology.a.

A denizen of chaos can be led down any road following another's narrative. Take control, and on the other side, do not take control of someone else's problems when they are speaking of them with you (238).

2.

Thinking is an internal dialogue about two different views. Most of the time you are just self criticizing (241).3.Freud: Let people talk to themselves through you by listening (243).4.Form associations while listening and use them to advance the speaker's opening of themselves. You may only find out something about yourself but that is okay, it is part of speaking the truth (245).

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You won't be boring.a.If you listen without premature judgement people will tell you anything.6.

Denigratea.Ridicule opposing viewsb.Use selective evidencec.Try to impress listeners of the same viewpointd.Over simplifye.

Do not:7.

Go in conversation to learn something about the other side.8.What you know is never enough. It cannot keep you from suffering. Always strive for knowledge (254).9.Assume the other side has reached thoughtful, genuine conclusions (254).10.Keep one foot in order and on in the chaos of the unknown (255).11.The highest wisdom is the constant search for knowledge.12.

Important Takeaways

Everything we see and hold relies on a complex network of trust (260).1.

RULE 10: BE PRECISE IN YOUR SPEECH

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Social contracta.Not possible in corrupt societiesb.

Everything we see and hold relies on a complex network of trust (260).1.

Cars, screwdrivera.Team, family, countryb.We perceive things simply to make use of them.c.

The tools we use become part of us (264).2.

We question everything at this point, even ourselves.a.We normally only confront the complexities of the world when things go wrong (266).3.

Do nothingi.Don't noticeii.Don’t reactiii.Don’t discussiv.Don’t considerv.Don’t work for peacevi.Don’t take responsibilityvii.Don’t confront chaos and turn it into orderviii.

To ensure the emergence of deep seeded problems:a.Inaction and avoided conflict compound to ruin relationships (274).4.

Confront the dragon with finely sharpened sword in its den.a."What you least want to encounter will make itself manifest when you are weakest and it is strongest" (276).5.

Put things in order; speak chaos into order.a.Speaking carelessly and imprecisely causes issues to remain vague (278).6.

When error (chaos) announces itself, clarity of thought is necessary to create order (279).7.Example: when you don't tell the doctor that you are experiencing issues then the issue remains unspecified, uncontrolled, and is a continual source of anxiety (280).

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Identifying things with simple language reduces their complexity and brings them forth.a.The Eye and the Word make habitable order (281).9.

Have specific conflicts.a.This will be easier in every way.b.

Couples stop communicating because arguments degenerate into every problem in the past, present, and future (282).10.

"Don't ever underestimate the destructive power of sins of omission" (271).1.Everything clarified and articulated becomes visible (274).2.Do not avoid conflict in relationships--the problem only gets worse.3."Why refuse to investigate when knowledge of reality enables mastery of reality?" (275).4.Risk conflict in the present for long term peace (278).5.

Find the trutha.You have to speak it firstb.

Approach an issue saying "I'm unhappy" not "I have a right to be unhappy" (279).6.

Precision separates this unique problem from all the others.7.

With thoughtful, careful language the past is rectified and the present doesn’t rob the future.a.Don't hide baby monsters under the carpet.b.

Be careful what you tell yourself and others about what you have done, are doing, and will do (281).8.

Important Takeaways

Children don't seek to minimize risk, they seek to optimize it (286).1.When government tries to stop behaviors like skateboarding or homeless sleeping they make beautiful places ugly with spikes, rail guards etcetera.

2.

Freud: latent implicit content of dreams aim at expressing some improper wish.a.

If you cannot understand why someone did something, look at the consequences and infer the motivation.i.Those motivated to make things better are not genuine unless they make the same changes in themselves.ii.

Jung: every act of social propriety is accompanied by the unconscious shadow.b.

Nietzsche: resentment motivates "selfless" actions.c.Orwell: Socialists don't love the poor they hate the rich.d.

When someone says "I stand for this!" ask "What then do you stand against?" (290).3.

When people say we should make less humans or humans are a disease.a.Anti-human, nihilistic ideas are taking over in the form of environmentalism (295).4.

Boys can only compete in male hierarchy and win without shame while girls can compete in both hierarchies.a.A boy cannot beat a girl in a fight without shame but a girl can beat a boy.b.A girl can compete in boys games and gain status with boys and girls but boys do not gain status by competing in girls games.c.Girls are attracted to boys who compete and win more status.d.Women want to marry close to or above their status in the hierarchy but less men are being properly educated for them (301).e.

The decline of boys (298).5.

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The feminists are causing marriage to become a luxury for the rich.i.Women want a competent partner because they will become vulnerable when having children.ii.

Women want to marry close to or above their status in the hierarchy but less men are being properly educated for them (301).e.

2014: Arunachalam Muruganantham: the tampon king of India. He became obsessed with making sanitary napkins affordable for women; his wife and mother left him because this obsession took over, but he succeeded.

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1847: James Young Simpson: Used ether to help pain at childbirth then chloroform. By 1853 even Queen Victoria.b.1930s: Dr. Earle Cleveland Haas: perfected the tampon.c.Gregory Goodwin Pincus: birth control pill.d.

Men have been responsible for all the great strides in feminine health and wellness (304-5).6.

Winners will defend, losers will criticize.i.Create winners and losersa.

The collective pursuit of any goal creates a hierarchy.b.The pursuit of goals gives life sustaining meaning.c.We experience all the emotions of deeper meaning in the pursuit of values.d.

Hierarchies (303).7.

Why patriarchy is easy to believe.a.White men have not ruled for very long in accordance with history.b.Men and women attempted to free each other over millennia, and we have succeeded.c.

Culture is not the creation of men, but it is archetypally masculine (303).8.

Kulaks.a.This was "equity."b.

The soviets rounded up landowners and shot them in the 1930s (308).9.

"To eat your own children is a barbarian act." -poster in the S.U.a.Animal Farm is about the Soviet Union (309).10.

There are "women" because men gain by excluding them.i."males and females" only because it excludes amorphous people.ii.Science only benefits scientists, politics politicians, etcetera.iii.Derrida believes hierarchies exist because they gain from oppression.iv.

Derrida claims that language is used to oppress.a.Postmodernists and Marxists ignore biological realities, claiming that all difference is used to exploit (310).11.

Claims he didn't say it…i.Puts the act of categorization in doubt; Derrida believes categorization is just exclusion.ii.Negates the distinctions that may be drawn between things for anything other than raw power.iii.

There is nothing outside the text: everything is interpretation.a.

"the fact that power plays a role in human motivation does not mean that it plays the only role or even the primary role."b.The fact that we can't know everything doesn't mean all observations depend on taking things into account and leaving others out.c."Beware single cause interpretations--and beware the people who purvey them" (311).d.

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Children are being indoctrinated to support radical left wing nonsense in opposition to empirical science (314).a.

Why are we funding institutions and educators that wish to demolish our culture? The culture that benefits them. If right wingers taught classes devoted to political propaganda paid for by the U.S. this would not go over well (313).

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Postmodernists who insist on social construction believe that "society must be altered, or bias eliminated, until all outcome s are equitable" (314).

a."If only power exists then the use of power becomes fully justifiable" (314).14.

The drive for equality would appear too radical if gender differences had not been claimed to be socially constructed.a.The ideology is camouflaged (315).b.

If gender is constructed by society then how is a man trapped in a woman's body?15.

Agreeableness, when dominant, breeds resentment because you aren't standing up for yourself, you are just being a martyr (319).16.

Criminal exposes you to danger, Oedipal mother does not--these are related to the degrees of which they expose.i.The opposite of a criminal is not a saint, it’s an Oedipal mothera.

Does everything for the child "I only live for you."b.

The child will age without maturing and become worthless and bitter but will never have to take responsibility.i."Above all, never leave me and in return I'll do everything for you."c.

Puts kids in cages to fatten them up.i.Consumes the children.ii.

The witch in Hansel and Gretel.d.

Without Logos she will remain unconscious, underwater.i.Since Ariel fails she takes her under her feminine protection in the collection of souls.ii.

Ursula offers Ariel to have 3 days on land but without her voice (325).e.

Oedipal mother (320).17.

Oedipal family.a.Anything that opposes enlightenment, rationality, self-determination, strength, competence, articulation.b.

Consciousness is always striving for the light but is always tempted to sink back into the dark of unconsciousness and dependency (323).18.

Frozen is propagandistic.19.

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Woman doesn’t need a man to rescue her.a.Perhaps only a woman who needs a child needs rescuing or at least support and aid.b.

We balance each other.i.Either way, a woman needs consciousness, which is masculine, needs to be less susceptible to anxiety and emotional pain.c.

Frozen is propagandistic.19.

A person must develop their masculine principal to be complete (326).20.

Do your work 1)Pull your weight2)Stay awake and pay attention3)Don’t whine or be touchy4)Stand up for your friends5)Don’t suck up or snitch6)Don't be a slave to stupid rules7)Stand up for your friends8)

Awake and conscious women want awake and conscious men.i.A woman should not have to look after a man and her children.a.

Men do not put up with the dependency of other men. In this way they make each other better, self -conscious, and make other men take action which benefits everyone.

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Camaraderie: Men enforce a code of behavior on each other (328-9).21.

He is not one dimensional either.i.Nelson on the Simpsons keeps all the other children from becoming Millhouses or Princes.a.

Fifty Shades of Greyi.Fight Clubii.Calls Iron Man and Fight Club fascist fantasy?iii.Trumpiv.

"When softness and harmlessness become the only consciously acceptable virtues, then hardness and dominance will start to exert in unconscious fascination" (330).

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Men teasing each other22.

Doing donuts in a car is testing the limits of the car, the self, ability.a.Telling off teacher is testing authority to see if it can be relied on in a crisis.b.Quitting school is not weakness, they were sick of being adult and having to ask permission to use the bathroom.c.

Testing (331).23.

"If you think strong men are dangerous, wait until you see what weak men are capable of" (332).24.

Beware single cause interpretations and the people who purvey them.1.

Some hurt people; not sustainable; put you on collision course with society.a.Not all interpretations are equally valid (312).2.

Group identity can be fractionated right down to the level of the individual (316).3.

You must know clearly what you want in a situation no one else has a pipeline to your needs not even you.a."Assume ignorance before malevolence" (320).4.

"too much protection destroys a developing soul" (322).5."The pleasures of self-pity should not be underestimated" (331).6.

Important Takeaways

Antipathy between cooperation and competition causes problems of optimization.a.

We favor our groups to make them thrive because climbing something not thriving is useless.i.We need groups for safety and security and to climb the hierarchy.b.

Henri Jajfel: people are social and anti-social (336).1.

Artificially fortifying a person against frailty destroys who they are.a.What can truly be loved about a person is inseparable from their limitations (341).2.

This is the utility of non-existence.1)Vulnerability and being are tightly interlinked.i.

This is why God created man. No limits, no story, no being.a.An omniscient being lacks limitation (343).3.

He must be specific or he is nothing at all.a.A hero must have reasonable limitations (345).4.

Must be limited to occur.a.Being requires becoming and becoming requires something more.5.

That is not genuine protest.a.This creates the desire for suffering for the sake of it; pure evil.b.

Hating life for the pain of it only makes it worse (346).6.

Notice that you love someone because of their limitations not despite them.a.Thinking fails in the direst of situations; noticing is what always works (347).7.

There are limits to improvement in which we would sacrifice our humanity.8.

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There are limits to improvement in which we would sacrifice our humanity.8.

Does not mean live in the present without care for tomorrow.a.

Distills the ten thou shalts into one prescriptive "thou shalt."i.Must be interpreted in the context of the sermon on the mount which it is an integral part.b.

Place faith in God, the truth, Logos.c.

Sufficient unto the days are the evils thereof: Matthew 6:34.9.

How to deal with your illness (350-).10.

They are Being that looks at humans and approves.i.Cats are a manifestation of nature, of Being, in an almost pure form.a.

Dogs have been tamed, cats made a decision (352).11.

DO NOT talk or think about it otherwise, conserve your strength and don’t let it take over.i.

Your brain is more interested in the fact that there is a plan than anxiety or the details of the plan.1)When worries arise remember that you have a time for that.ii.

Don't schedule it at night or you wont sleep.iii.

Set aside time to think and talk about your illness and how it should be managed every day.a.

Shift you schedule to be in the sunlight more than not.b.

Dealing with illness (351)1.

Aim high, then act according to that aim (351).2.

Kids playing.a.Good coffee.b.Funny shows.c.

Pay careful attention to the world and notice the good around you on good and bad days.3.

Important Takeaways

Ask to see the truth.a."Ask and ye shall find" means ask what it is you might do to increase your resolve (356).1.

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No matter how small both have erred.i.Here's how I was wrong…ii.

Fear of sacrifice and change.1)You must truly want the answer because you won't like it.iii.

Resolve to change.iv.Be right or have peace? (357).v.

Both inwardly ask what you have done to contribute to the situation.a.

In an argument with spouse separate mid argument and go to different rooms (this will be difficult because you desire to win,dominate).

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Listen to yourself as you should others (358).2.Do the most good possible in the shortest period of time (358).3.Aim for paradise and concentrate on today.4.Try to ensure that the good you do will only be surpassed by the good you do the year after.5.

Sights on God, truth then each moment.a.Attend fully to future while attending to the present to perfect both.b.

Sermon on the mount = orient yourself properly; then and only then concentrate on the day.6.

Treat your wife as if she is the holy mother who will birth a hero.7.Stand behind, train, and guide your children.8.Act so that your actions justify your parent's suffering.9.Offer genuine but cautious hand to fallen souls (361).10.Treat stranger like a brother so he can become one.11.Conduct yourself and your word as if Being is better than non-Being.12.Educate people with the things you regard as truly important.13.Stitch back torn nations with careful truths.14.Sacrifice everything you hold dear to yet greater perfection. For God (362).15.Let lying men speak so that they will reveal themselves.16.Proper Being is always seeking enlightenment.17.Always place your becoming over your current Being.18.Remember the have nots and be grateful in times that you despise what you have.19.Remember in grips of greed that it is truly better to give than to receive.20.Maybe if we sort ourselves out we will sort out the environment.21.Aim higher when your enemy succeeds and be grateful for the lesson.22.When tired and impatient, gratefully accept help (365).23.

A life lived thoroughly justifies its limitations.a.On aging: Replace the potential of youth with the accomplishments of maturity.24.

Aim to be the person at your father's funeral that everyone can rely on.25.

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Aim to be the person at your father's funeral that everyone can rely on.25.

"the king of the damned is a poor judge of Being" (367).a.To suffer terribly and know yourself as the cause is hell.26.

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