James Madison High SchoolJames Madison High School2005-20062005-2006

Developed by Norma Gimber Under the Direction of: Developed by Norma Gimber Under the Direction of: Virginia Eves, Principal, 2000-2001Virginia Eves, Principal, 2000-2001

Advisory LessonsAdvisory Lessons

Based on Sean Covey’s Seven Steps of Highly Effective Teens

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective TeensThe Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens

Habits Are Easy to Form…Habits Are Easy to Form…Habits are Hard to Break…Habits are Hard to Break…

The following Seven Habits, if practiced, will lead a The following Seven Habits, if practiced, will lead a

teen to self-fulfillment, success and happiness.teen to self-fulfillment, success and happiness.

The LessonsLessons Are Structured In The Following Way:

General introductionGeneral introduction Word study Word study ReadingReading Reflective writingReflective writing Checking for understandingChecking for understanding

Discussion or writtenDiscussion or written What does this mean to me?What does this mean to me?

The Seven Habits Of Highly The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective Teens Are:Effective Teens Are:

Habit 1: Habit 1: Be ProactiveBe Proactive Take responsibility for your lifeTake responsibility for your life

Habit 2: Habit 2: Begin With The End In MindBegin With The End In Mind Define your mission and goals in lifeDefine your mission and goals in life

Habit 3: Habit 3: Put Things FirstPut Things First Prioritize, and do the most important things Prioritize, and do the most important things

firstfirst

Habit 4: Think Win-WinHabit 4: Think Win-Win Have An Everyone Can-Win AttitudeHave An Everyone Can-Win Attitude

Habit 5: Seek First To Understand, Then To Habit 5: Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood Be Understood Listen To People SincerelyListen To People Sincerely

Habit 6: SynergizeHabit 6: Synergize Work Together To Achieve MoreWork Together To Achieve More

Habit 7: Sharpen The SawHabit 7: Sharpen The Saw Renew Yourself RegularlyRenew Yourself Regularly

Get control of your lifeGet control of your life Improve your relationships Improve your relationships

with your friendswith your friends Make smarter decisionsMake smarter decisions Get along with your parentsGet along with your parents Overcome addictionOvercome addiction Define your values and Define your values and

what matters most to youwhat matters most to you

Get more done in less Get more done in less timetime

Increase your self-Increase your self-confidenceconfidence

Be happyBe happy Find balance between Find balance between

school, work, friends, school, work, friends, and everything elseand everything else

Lesson 1Lesson 1

What Is a Habit?What Is a Habit?

GoodGood NeutralNeutral BadBad

Synonyms for the word Synonyms for the word habithabit are: are: Custom-Custom- Tendency-Tendency-Proclivity-Proclivity- Penchant-Penchant-

Obsession-Obsession- Bent-Bent-Routine-Routine- Inclination-Inclination-

Habits Are:Habits Are:

•Things We Do RepeatedlyThings We Do Repeatedly

•Most of the Time, We Are Hardly Aware That We Have ThemMost of the Time, We Are Hardly Aware That We Have Them

•Habits Have Tremendous Power Over the IndividualHabits Have Tremendous Power Over the Individual

Habits Are:Habits Are:

•Things We Do RepeatedlyThings We Do Repeatedly

•Most of the Time, We Are Hardly Aware That We Have ThemMost of the Time, We Are Hardly Aware That We Have Them

•Habits Have Tremendous Power Over the IndividualHabits Have Tremendous Power Over the Individual

AndAnd

Lesson 2Lesson 2

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Other words for Other words for ParadigmParadigm are: are:Model-Model- Pattern-Pattern-Criterion-Criterion- Standard-Standard-Archetype-Archetype- Prototype-Prototype-Principle-Principle-

Engagement:Engagement:

•Paradigm is the way you see somethingParadigm is the way you see something

•Your point of view, frame of reference, or beliefYour point of view, frame of reference, or belief

•We have Paradigms about ourselves, other people, and We have Paradigms about ourselves, other people, and about life in general about life in general

Engagement:Engagement:

•Paradigm is the way you see somethingParadigm is the way you see something

•Your point of view, frame of reference, or beliefYour point of view, frame of reference, or belief

•We have Paradigms about ourselves, other people, and We have Paradigms about ourselves, other people, and about life in general about life in general

Paradigms of selfParadigms of self- are your paradigms of yourself helping - are your paradigms of yourself helping or hindering you?or hindering you?

Paradigms of othersParadigms of others- why should you analyze and be truly - why should you analyze and be truly cognizant of your paradigms of others? What are the cognizant of your paradigms of others? What are the consequences of inaccurate or incomplete paradigms of consequences of inaccurate or incomplete paradigms of others?others?

Paradigms of lifeParadigms of life- what are paradigms of life?- what are paradigms of life?

Explain why each of the following is not a valid life center:Explain why each of the following is not a valid life center: Friend-centeredFriend-centered Stuff-centeredStuff-centered Boyfriend/girlfriend-centeredBoyfriend/girlfriend-centered School-centeredSchool-centered Parent-centeredParent-centered Other possible centeredOther possible centered

Principle-Centered The Real ThingWhat is a Principle?

Other words for Other words for PrinciplePrinciple are: are: Regulation-Regulation- Canon-Canon- Prescript-Prescript- Parameter-Parameter- Rule-Rule- Standard-Standard-

““Yard by yard life is hard, but inch by inch, life’s a Yard by yard life is hard, but inch by inch, life’s a cinch!”cinch!”

Polonius; Advice to LaertiesFrom “Hamlet”

William Shakespeare

There, -My blessing with you! And these few precepts in thy There, -My blessing with you! And these few precepts in thy memory see thou character. Give thy thoughts to tongue, nor any memory see thou character. Give thy thoughts to tongue, nor any unproportion’d thought his act. The friends thou hast, and their unproportion’d thought his act. The friends thou hast, and their adoption tried, grapple them to thy soul with hoops of steel; But adoption tried, grapple them to thy soul with hoops of steel; But do not dull thy palm with entertainment of each new-hatched, do not dull thy palm with entertainment of each new-hatched, unfledged comrade. Beware of entrance to a quarrel; But being unfledged comrade. Beware of entrance to a quarrel; But being in, bear’d that the opposed may beware of thee. Give every man in, bear’d that the opposed may beware of thee. Give every man thine ear, but few my voice; Take each man’s censure, but thine ear, but few my voice; Take each man’s censure, but reserve thy judgment. Costly thy habit as thy purse can buy, but reserve thy judgment. Costly thy habit as thy purse can buy, but not expressed in fancy; rich, nor gaudy: for the apparel oft not expressed in fancy; rich, nor gaudy: for the apparel oft proclaims the man. Neither a borrower nor a lender be, for loan proclaims the man. Neither a borrower nor a lender be, for loan oft loses both itself and friend. And borrowing dulls the edge of oft loses both itself and friend. And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry. This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must husbandry. This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.man.

Lesson 3Lesson 3

Accountability:Accountability:

Introspection (from the Latin intro-within, Introspection (from the Latin intro-within, specere- to look)specere- to look)

Self- ImageSelf- Image ObjectivityObjectivity GenerosityGenerosity ThoughtfulnessThoughtfulness KindnessKindness

OpportunityEdward R. Sill

This I Beheld, or Dreamed It in a Dream:- There Spread a Cloud This I Beheld, or Dreamed It in a Dream:- There Spread a Cloud of Dust Along, a Plain: and Underneath the Could, or in It, Raged of Dust Along, a Plain: and Underneath the Could, or in It, Raged

a Furious Battle, and Men Yelled, and Swords Shocked Upon a Furious Battle, and Men Yelled, and Swords Shocked Upon Swords and Shields. A Prince’s Banner Wavered, Then Staggered Swords and Shields. A Prince’s Banner Wavered, Then Staggered

Backward, Hemmed by Foes.Backward, Hemmed by Foes.

A Craven Hung Along the Battle’s Edge, and Thought,” Had I a A Craven Hung Along the Battle’s Edge, and Thought,” Had I a Sword of Keener Steel- That Blue Blade That the King’s Son Sword of Keener Steel- That Blue Blade That the King’s Son

Bears- but This Blunt Thing!”- He Snapped and Flung It From Bears- but This Blunt Thing!”- He Snapped and Flung It From His Hand. And Lowering Crept Away and Left the Field.His Hand. And Lowering Crept Away and Left the Field.

Then Came the King’s Son, Wounded, Sore Bestead, and Then Came the King’s Son, Wounded, Sore Bestead, and Weaponless, and Saw the Broken Sword, Hilt-buried in the Dry Weaponless, and Saw the Broken Sword, Hilt-buried in the Dry and Trodden Sand, and Ran and Snatched It, and With Battle-and Trodden Sand, and Ran and Snatched It, and With Battle-shout Lifted Afresh He Hewed His Enemy Down, and Saved a shout Lifted Afresh He Hewed His Enemy Down, and Saved a

Great Cause That Heroic Day.Great Cause That Heroic Day.

Lesson 4Lesson 4

Responsibility: Responsibility:

ActiveActive ProactiveProactive ReactiveReactive Self-awarenessSelf-awareness ConscienceConscience ImaginationImagination Will- PowerWill- Power

No ControlNo ControlControlControl

Role ModelsRole Models

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InvictusInvictusBy: William Ernest HenleyBy: William Ernest Henley

Out of the Night That Covers Me, Black As the Pit From Out of the Night That Covers Me, Black As the Pit From Pole to Pole , I Thank Whatever Gods May Be. For Me Pole to Pole , I Thank Whatever Gods May Be. For Me

Unconquerable Soul.Unconquerable Soul.

In the Fell Clutch of Circumstance I Have Not Winced nor In the Fell Clutch of Circumstance I Have Not Winced nor Cried Aloud. Under the Bludgeonings of Chance My Head Cried Aloud. Under the Bludgeonings of Chance My Head

Is Bloody, but Undowed.Is Bloody, but Undowed.

Beyond This Place of Wrath and Tears Looms but the Beyond This Place of Wrath and Tears Looms but the Horror of the Shade, and Yet the Menace of the Years Finds, Horror of the Shade, and Yet the Menace of the Years Finds,

and Shall Find Me, Unafraid.and Shall Find Me, Unafraid.

It Mattes Not How Straight the Gate, How Charged With It Mattes Not How Straight the Gate, How Charged With Punishments the Scroll, I Am the Master of My Fate; I Am Punishments the Scroll, I Am the Master of My Fate; I Am

the Captain of My Soul.the Captain of My Soul.

Attitude

“ “ I Am Convinced That Life Is 10% What Happens to Me and 90% How I Am Convinced That Life Is 10% What Happens to Me and 90% How I React to It. And So It Is With You… Was Are in Charge of Our I React to It. And So It Is With You… Was Are in Charge of Our

Attitude!Attitude!

The Longer I Live, the More I Realize the Impact of Attitude on Life. The Longer I Live, the More I Realize the Impact of Attitude on Life. Attitude, to Me, Is More Important That Facts. It Is More Important Attitude, to Me, Is More Important That Facts. It Is More Important

Than the Past, Than Education, Than Money, Than Circumstances, Than Than the Past, Than Education, Than Money, Than Circumstances, Than Failures, Than Success, Than What People Think or Say or Do. It Is Failures, Than Success, Than What People Think or Say or Do. It Is

More Important That Appearance, Giftedness or Skill. It Will Make or More Important That Appearance, Giftedness or Skill. It Will Make or Break a Home… a Company… a Church. The Remarkable Thing Is We Break a Home… a Company… a Church. The Remarkable Thing Is We Have a Choice Everyday Regarding the Attitude We Embrace for That Have a Choice Everyday Regarding the Attitude We Embrace for That

Day. Day.

We Cannot Change Our Past… We Cannot Change the Fact That People We Cannot Change Our Past… We Cannot Change the Fact That People Will Act in a Certain Way. We Cannot Change the Inevitable.Will Act in a Certain Way. We Cannot Change the Inevitable.

The Only Thing We Can Do Is Play on the One String We Have, and The Only Thing We Can Do Is Play on the One String We Have, and That Is Our Attitude.”That Is Our Attitude.”