is peer support final presentation
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Island SchoolYear 10 Peer Support Seminar
Sonia BasiliSt. John’s Counselling Service
Peer Support
Brainstorm…..
• Think of a time when you needed support from your peers?
• Who did you go to?• What type of support was helpful?
Who am I?
• What is Counselling?
• Who should see a counsellor?
• Do we need to be counsellors when we support our friends?
• Island School : Rm 416 – Fridays • or by appointment [email protected]
Self- Awareness
• Before I can walk in another’s shoes, I must first remove my own,
What do you see?
Paradigms
Try out new lenses…
Five Essential Helping Skills
Accepting
Non-judgemental
Understanding
Genuine
Trustworthy
Hearing vs. Listening
Listen or thy tongue will make thee deaf
LISTEN FIRST TALK SECOND
I need a pair of….
Listening to people talk about theirproblems makes them feel better
It does 3 things:
1)Shows that we care2)It shows that we
understand3) Makes them feel valued
Attentive listening:listening with
care and empathy
“I can understan
d how you feel.”
“I’m really sorry
you feel that
way.”
SYMPATHYEMPATHY
Volunteer?
Roadblocks to Helping
1) Ordering/Commanding2) Warning/Threatening3) Moralizing/Preaching4) Advising/Giving Solutions5) Lecturing/Giving Logical Arguments6) Judging/Ridiculing/Blaming/Name-Calling/
Sarcasm/Shaming/Put-Downs7) Playing Psychologist/Analyzing/Diagnosing8) Consoling
Lessons from Charlie Brown
Nonverbal AttentivenessKEEP “SOLER” in MIND
S –square stance
O–open posture
L –lean toward
E –eye contact
R – relaxed stance
Paraphrasing:
You feel _______________Because_____________
Student: I know I shouldn’t be so hard on myself. But I can’t seem to stop second guessing everything I do.
• Helper: It sounds like you’d like to be easier on yourself, but you aren’t able to control your reactions
But..what should I say?
Types of Question
C = Clarifying Questions
O-E = Open-Ended Questions
Cl = Closed Questions
Clarifying Questions
• Deepening our understanding of what is being said or to allow people to consider a situation and their feelings about it more deeply.
Do I understand you? Are you saying….?
When you say….What do you mean?
I think I lost you. Could you go over that again?
Open-Ended Question
“What did you do when that happened?”
“How does that make things different”
Closed Questions
“How old were you when you moved?”
“Did that make you angry”
Your Turn…
- Groups of 3
- Counsellor, Student & Observer
Summary:
Are YOU really LISTENING?
