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Introduction to Counseling
Definitions
Webster: “advice, especially that given as a result of consultation
Jackson: “anytime someone helps someone else with a problem
Rogers: “good communication within and between people
Ohlsen: “a therapeutic experience for reasonably healthy persons”
Types of Counseling
Informational: “counseling in which a counselor shares a body of special information with a counselee”
Situational: “related to specific situations in life that may create crises and produce human pain and suffering”
Psychotherapy: “intervention with people whose needs are so specific that usually they can only be met by specially trained physicians or psychologists”
Styles of Counseling
Directive: “counselor takes a live speaking role, asking questions, suggesting courses of action etc.
Non-directive/Client Centered/Person Centered: “one comes actively and voluntarily to gain help on a problem………stresses the inherent worth of the client and natural capacity for growth and health”• Phenomenological approach
Grief Counseling
“helping people facilitate uncomplicated grief to a healthy completion of the tasks of grieving within a reasonable time frame”
Grief Therapy
(Worden): “specialized techniques which are used to help people with complicated grief reactions”• Complicated (Unresolved, Chronic) Grief:
“grief extending over a long period of time without resolution”
William Worden
4 tasks of mourning: Task 1: to accept the reality of the loss Task 2: to experience the pain of grief and
to express the emotions associated with it Task 3: to adjust to an environment in
which the deceased is missing Task 4: to emotionally relocate the
deceased or other changed condition and move on with life
Worden’s Goals of Grief Counseling
1) to increase the reality of the loss 2) to help the counselee deal with both
expressed and latent affect 3) to help the counselee overcome various
impediments to readjust after loss 4) to encourage the counselee to make a
healthy emotional withdrawal from the deceased and to feel comfortable re-investing that emotion in other relationships
Worden’s Counseling Principles and Procedures
1) help the survivor actualize the loss 2) help the survivor to identify and
express feelings• retroflected feelings
• reality testing 3) assist living without the deceased 4) facilitate emotional withdrawal 5) provide time to grieve
Principles and Procedures (cont’d)
6) recognize “normal” behavior 7) allow for individual differences 8) provide continuing support 9) examine defense mechanisms and
coping styles 10) identify pathology and refer
• “gatekeeper” role
Guidelines for Care Providers
1) Offer yourself. 2) Be respectful. 3) Become comfortable with silence. 4) Be a skilled listener. 5) Normalize practically everything. 6) Avoid judgment. 7) Take action.
Guidelines (cont’d) 8) Don’t do everything by yourself. 9) Keep your promises. 10) Teach the “side by side” or intermittent
approach to grieving. 11) Be sensitive to cultural, ethnic, and family
traditions. 12) “Bracket” your “Cowbells” when they
surface. 13) Be aware of and respond to your own
compassion fatigue.
Ways that FDs Facilitate Grief (Worden) 1) fulfilling their responsibility in counseling
during the entire service 2) following up with post funeral counseling 3) providing contacts for the family with other
support groups 4) providing a service in teaching people
about grief and healthy grieving by sponsoring and presenting educational programs in the community
Interpersonal Skills
Wolfelt: “all interpersonal relationships are either
helpful, neutral, or harmful”
Wolfelt’s Characteristics of the Helping Funeral Director
Empathy Respect Warmth and Caring Genuineness
Helping Skills
Attending/Listening: “giving undivided attention by means of verbal and non-verbal behavior”
What are some barriers to listening skills?
Paraphrasing
“expressing a thought or idea in an alternate and sometimes a shortened form”
Paraphrasing exercise
Clarifying
“the process of bringing vague content in the interaction into clearer focus or understanding” (Wolfelt)
Perception Checking
“asking the person for verification of your understanding….asking for feedback about the accuracy of your listening”
(Wolfelt)
Leading
“anticipating where the person is going and responding with an appropriately encouraging remark” (Wolfelt)
2 types: indirect and direct
Questioning
“a method of gaining information and increasing understanding” (Canine)
2 purposes:• 1) to obtain specific information
• 2) to direct the person’s interaction with you into more helpful areas
• Open-ended questions are preferable in most situations.
Open-ended Questions
allow the person to tell more about what he/she might be thinking or feeling
help the person better understand focus on the feelings of the person
Reflecting Feelings
“expressing in fresh words the essential feelings stated or strongly implied of the person”
How is this helpful to the funeral director?
Informing
“sharing of facts possessed by the funeral director” (Wolfelt)
Providing information that will allow the person to make an informed decision.
Information must be useful to the person receiving it.
Summarizing
“a method of tying together several ideas and feelings at the end of a period of discussion or the arrangement conference” (Wolfelt)
How can this be helpful to the funeral director?
Barriers to Effective Communication
Wolfelt and Van Beck
Wolfelt’s Barriers
FD dominance. Bombarding with questions. Inappropriate self-disclosure. Offering platitudes or false reassurance. Discouraging expression of emotions. Emotional distancing.
Van Beck’s Communication Blunders
Interrupters Belittling Flip Answers The Bore The Questioner The Blusterer The Loud Speaker The Disputer