in the name of god. cognition vs emotion how to tell the bad news
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In The Name of GodIn The Name of God
Cognition vs EmotionCognition vs Emotion
How to tell the bad news How to tell the bad news
Setting up
• Arrange for privacy• Involve significant others• Sit down and appear un-hurried• Make an emotional connection• Make arrangements to avoid interruptions
- eg. Hand off your pager if possible
Perceptions
• Use open ended questions to assess the patient and their families perception of the medical situation.
• Careful not to talk down or above • What is your understanding of your …• What have you been told so far?
Invitation
• Explore if the patient wants all the facts or (as you know in some cultures) they may say my daughter or son will take care of everything.
• How would you like me to give the information about test results?
Knowledge
• A brief warning shot may help• Warning that bad news is coming may
help lessen the shock.• Unfortunately I have some bad news to
share then say it clear and concisely.• Avoid medical jargon:
- say “spread” instead of metastasis
The Patient’s Emotions
• Expect anything:- silence- disbelief- crying- denial- anger- shock
Your Emotions
• Sit and listen, connect with your eyes, hold their hand - whatever is natural
• I wish the news were different
• Can empathy be learned?
Grief• The pain, discomfort, mental and
physical feeling that most people feel following the death of a loved one.
• People suffer grief at the loss of anything. It doesn’t just have to be death.
Grieving Process
Denial
Denial• In this stage we refuse to believe what has
happened. We try in our mind to tell ourselves that life is as it was before our loss.
• We can even make believe to an extent by re enacting rituals that we used to go through
with our loved one.
• We set an extra plate at the table.• We expect them to be there when we
get home.• We flash back to memories and
conversations.• These are all part of this stage.
Anger
Anger• We get angry.
• The anger can manifest itself in many ways.• We blame others for our loss.
• We become easily agitated having emotional outbursts.
• We can even become angry at ourselves.
• Care must be taken here not to turn the anger inwards.
• Release of this anger is essential!
Bargaining
Bargaining• Bargaining can be with ourselves or if you are religious
with your god.• Often we will offer something to try to take away the
reality of what really happened.• We may try to make a deal, to have our loved one back
as they were before the tragic event occurred.• It is only human to want things back as they were before.
Depression
Depression• Depression is a very likely outcome for all
people that grieve for a loss.• This is the most difficult of the stages to deal
with.• There can be a feeling of listness and tiredness.
• Outbursts of tears may occur.
• You may feel like there is no purpose to your life anymore.
• You may feel like you are being punished.• Pleasure and joy may be difficult to
express.• There may even be thoughts of suicide. • If you at any time in this stage, feel like
doing yourself harm, professional counseling should be sought.
Acceptance
Acceptance• This is the final stage of grief.
• It happens when you know that you have to go on.
• You can accept your loss and now be able to regain your energy and goals for the future.
• It may take some time to get to this stage..but you will get there!
Coping with Crisis
Physical Reactions
Numbness
Unfeeling
PainTired
Can’t Sleep
Tightness in
Throat
Disinterest in
Eating
Emotional Reactions
Stabbing Pain
Sudden Anger
Sense of Unfairnes
sFeeling of Relief
Anger
GuiltHostility
Anxiety
Gladness
Fear
Mourning Process
Resolution• One starts living a
regular life.
Anticipatory Grief• The mourning process
that occurs prior to death in cases of terminal illnesses.
11. Four Basic Needs of the Bereaved
Companionship
Ventilation of Feelings
TIME
Time Alone
12. What are some appropriate things to say to the bereaved?
• "IT'S OKAY TO CRY," • "I JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW I AM
THINKING ABOUT YOU."
13. What should you avoid saying to the bereaved?
• "CHEER UP,“• " TIME WILL HEAL ALL WOUNDS,"
• "HE/SHE IS BETTER OFF," • "IT WAS GOD'S WILL,"
• "CALL ME IF YOU NEED ME."