1. Welcome to iTHINK- 2412How to deal withCritics By Dorie Clark , Tuesday, January 24, 2012Presented By; M. Ali HassniRepharm Services Pakistan Saturday, April 14, 2012

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Criticism - - Act of passing severe judgment, Censure, faultfindingAct of passing judgment as to merits of anything.Act or art of analyzing and evaluating or judging thequality of a literary or artistic work, musical performance,art exhibit, dramatic production, etc.Any of various methods of studying texts or documentsfor the purpose of dating or reconstructing them,evaluating their authenticity, analyzing their content orstyle, etc.: historical criticism; literary criticism. 5. Criticismis something you caneasily avoid by Saying Nothing, Doing Nothing & Being Nothing.~Aristotle 6. CriticismAfraid of being judged?Everything, from everyone as condemnation?Does it always come gently?Always from someone legitimately trying to help?Can we control what other people say to us? 7. Criticism We cant control whatother people will sayto us / about us, whether theyllapprove or form opinions and share them. But we can control howwe internalize it, respond to it, andlearn from it, and when we realize this, we learn, grow & move on. 8. C Benefits (Personal Growth)1. Looking for seeds of truth in criticism encourages humility (Its not easy to .(take an honest look at ourselves & our weaknesses, but we can only grow if wewilling to try.2. Learning from criticism allows us to improve. Almost every critique gives us atool to more effectively create the tomorrow, we visualize.3. Criticism opens us up to new perspectives and new ideas we may not haveconsidered. Whenever someone challenges us, they help expand our thinking4. Our critics give us an opportunity to practice active listening. This means weresist the urge to analyze in our head, planning our rebuttal (and simply ,(consider what the other person is saying.5. We have the chance to practice forgiveness when we come up against harshcritics. Most of us carry around stress and frustration that we unintentionallymisdirect from time to time. 9. Critisim Benefits (Emotional)6. Its helpful to learn how to sit with the discomfort of an initial emotional reactioninstead of immediately acting or retaliating. All too often we want to do something withour feelingsgenerally not a great idea!7. Criticism gives us the chance to foster problem solving skills, which isnt alwayseasy when were feeling sensitive, self-critical, or annoyed with critics8. Receiving criticism that hits a sensitive spot helps us explore unresolved issues.Maybe were sensitive about our intelligence.9. Interpreting someone elses feedback is an opportunity for rational thinkingsometimes, despite a negative tone, criticism is incredibly useful.10. Criticism encourages us to question our instinctive associations and feelings;praise is good, criticism is bad. If we recondition ourselves to see things in less blackand white terms, theres no stop to how far we can go! 10. C Benefits (Improved Relationships)11. Criticism presents an opportunity to choose peace over conflict. Oftentimes, whencriticized our instinct is to fight, creating unnecessary drama. The people around usgenerally want to help us, not judge us.12. Fielding criticism well helps us mitigate the need to be right. Nothing closes anopen mind like egobad for our personal growth, and damaging for relationships.13. Our critics give us an opportunity to challenge any people-pleasing tendencies.Relationships based on a constant need for approval can be draining for everyoneinvolved. Its liberating to let people think whatever they wanttheyre going to do itanyway.14. Criticism gives us the chance to teach people how to treat us. If someone deliversit poorly, we can take this opportunity to tell them, I think you make some valid points,but I would receive them better if you didnt raise your voice.15. Certain pieces of criticism teach us not to sweat the small stuff. In the grandscheme of things, it doesnt matter that what is the color of our Shoes. 11. Criticism Benefits (Time Efficiency)16. The more time we spend dwelling about what someone said, the less time we haveto do something with it.17. If we improve how we operate after receiving criticism, this will save time andenergy in the future. When we think about from that perspectivecriticism as a timesaverits hard not to appreciate it!18. Fostering the ability to let go of our feelings and thoughts about being critiqued canhelp us let go in other areas of our life. Letting go of worries, regrets, stresses, fears &even positive feelings helps us root ourself in the present moment. Mindfulness isalways the most efficient use of time.19. Criticism reinforces the power of personal space. Taking 10 minutes to process ouremotions, perhaps by writing in a journal, will ensure us respond well. Responding wellthe first time prevents, situation dominating your day.20. In some cases, criticism teaches us how to interact with a person, if theyrenegative or hostile, for example. Knowing this can save us a lot of time and stress inthe future. 12. Criticism Benefits (Self Confidence)21. Learning to receive false criticismfeedback that has no constructive valuewithout losing our confidence is a must if we want to do big things in life. The moreattention our work receives, the more criticism well have to field.22. When someone criticizes us, it shines a light on our own insecurities. If we secretlyagree that were lazy, we should get to the root of that. Why do we believe thatandwhat can we do about it?23. When someone else appraises (us harshly, we have an opportunity to (monitor our internal self-talk. Research indicates up to 80% of our thoughts arenegative. Take this opportunity to monitor & change our thought processes so youdont drain and sabotage yourself!24. Receiving feedback well reminds you its OK to have flawsimperfection is part ofbeing human. If you can admit weakness and work on them without getting down onyourself, youll experience far more happiness, peace, enjoyment, and success. 13. CriticismWe are all perfectly imperfect,and other people may notice that fromtime to time. We do the same, So . 14. Criticism Move forward after criticism,even if you dont feel incredibly confident, & ensuresno isolated comment prevents you from seizing our dreams. Think of it as separating the wheat from the chaff;takes whats useful,leave the rest, and keep going! 15. discuss now; orpost your comments on iThink@ facebook.com/ingrope