how to teach a good communication? · way. they learn too how to respect the others but also how to...

We need to communicate to make friends, to express our emotions, to give an

opinion, say what you feel, not to be fooled by appearances, learn about new people ...

Emotions, rumors, lies influences us in our communication ... In good

communication, I feel good ...In a miscommunication, I feel sad, hurt, unhappy ...

To communicate, we should not say bad things, talk gently, do not tackle difficult

subjects, do not cry even when we do not agree...For communication to be clear, I check if

what I'm saying is true, if it can positively change things for me and / or others.

Clara, Eloïse, Hermine, Timothy

Schéma of communication

"Between what I think, what I mean to say what I think, what I say, what you want

to hear what you hear, what you do understand what you want to understand, and you

understand, there are at least nine possibilities not understand. "

Bernard Werber

Benjamin

In our class, we communicate a lot: to explain what we have learned, to express our

difficulties, to organize our activities or the development of the class, to resolve our

conflicts... In our message, we try to provide information on what? who? where? when?

how? why? We try to put ourselves in the place of another: to express what he could feel.

Our méthod to communicate in four steps : I see, I hear ... I feel ... I think ... I wish, I ask ...

Collective text

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How to teach a good communication?

influence

influence influence

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When you

travel, I'mafraid for you

say you arrive

safety

I ask if you can

phone me to

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Proposition of activity : Color the first mask with warm colors (red, yellow, orange, ...)

Color the second mask with cool colors (blue, green, purple ...)

What do you feel when you look to those mask ? Exchange your impressions with the

others....

At the beginning, when the children are younger - in kindergarten and first degree - they

draw smileys on cardboard. Once a week, or when they try to resolve their conflicts, they

choose a panel with a smiley to express how they feel.

Drawing are proposed by Lucien

Proposition of activity : Write an appropriate feeling above each smiley. Exchange your

propositions with the others....


Teaching emotional literacyC

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We had fun playing theater .... each group chose a everyday day place. For example : in a

restaurant, meeting with an old lady on the bus, at home ....

We had to play two theater games :

• In the first, people had no good manners. It was great fun but we were very

excited.

• In the second, we had to do the same things but with good manners. It was

a bit exaggerated, we are never as perfect in our lives.

Adults teach us good manners when they themselves have good manners. When an adult

says to do something, but he does not himself, the children do not respect it and especially

don't respect what adults request. Unless children are afraid to receive punishment.

Whenever we leave the classroom and go out the school for having theater, excursion,

cinema, museum, restaurant (during our outside classes) ... Michele encourages us to say

the rules of good manners before entering .


How to teach children good manners?

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At school, we don't have to be the friend of everybody. Each one has the right to not have

friend feelings for the others. This his a question of heart. But each one has to respect the

others.

But...with creating a lot of funny time together, we can teach the pleasure of friendship.

In class, we have once each week, a time where children can manage their conflicts in a peace

way. They learn too how to respect the others but also how to express their feelings – bad,

sad, unhappy – and to find solutions together to feel better.

In class, there is a space where pupils can play together in games. Sometimes, students create

games for the others. So they have a small time, but each a day, to have fun together.

For one week, parents and teachers teach new games for the playtime outside. Ball games – as

football and basketball - are prohibited in the morning. This is the reason why, children have a

lot of idea to play games together.

Sometimes, during the sport time, the sport teacher plays with pupils other new games with

balls where children have to create solidarity to win.


Activities to teach kids friendshipC

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Conflict resolution skills

Proposition for a powerfull communication into a conflict : When you're in conflict with

someone, you'll have a powerfull communication if you express yourself by saying : when you (

broke my pen, say that I am stupid, hit me ...) I felt (sad, touched, angry, abused, ...). I would

like you (repare my pen, say sorry, don't do it again ...)


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When you say that I'm

stupid, I feel sad....I understand but, before you

broke my pen and you don't say

sorry...I felt angry

It was an accident. I was afraid to

say it to you. I was afraid you'd no

longer be my friend.

It can happen to everyone. You're

still my friend.

Excuse me. Next time I will say what I feel

before to say that you'r stupid and I 'll ask what

about you're feeling.

Excuse me too. I should have confidence in

our friendship and ask why you say me

« you'r stupid » so we could have avoided the

conflict

I can give you one of my pen.

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Family in the past and now

At the beginning, Michèle give us a picture with a family in 1900. We had to observe and to

say the differences with our families now.

After that, we prepare written questions for our survey. We didn't know perfect how to

write correct questions. Michele gave us a lesson specifically about “how to write correct

questions”. For example :

Then we propose our survey to our parents and grand-parents. After that, we collected all

the replies and made graphics.

Thanks to this graph we found that family life had changed in two generations in terms of

technology and entertainment.

− During our grandparents time, family were composed with on father, one mother

and some children living all together in the same house. Now, one a half part of the

families are recomposed families. (1a, 1b, 1c)

− Our grandparents have cooked with gas or coal stoves... Our parents have cooked

with of electric stoves but today we have again a few gas stoves. Our granparents

didn't know the microwave oven but now almost all families are use it to cook. (9a,

9b, 9c, 9d, 9f)


When you was 10, how your family was composed ?Which kind of rooms were in your home ?How did you manage your freetime ?

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− To wash the textiles our grandparents did it with hand or had a washing machine.

The centrifuge was apart. They put to dry clothes on a wire. Now this is the washing

machine and dryer machine which wash the textiles. (10a, 10b, 10c)

− There is also a big evolution of technologie for communication. Before, our

gradparents get world or local informations by TV, radio or newspaper. Now we

have the computer. To communicate with their family our grandparents send

postcards, letters, had phone talk...Now we send sms with our mobile phone or we

can have visual and talking communication by skype with the computer.

(12a,12b,12c,12d,13a,13b,13c,13d,13e,13f)

− For free-time Our grandparents were playing games, small cars, ball, dolls, marbles,

jump rope, often in the street. They spoke with neighbors, played sports or helping

their parents to work in the house. Now, we play a lot with computers or play

machines (WII, XBOX, NINTENDO,....) We watch television an average of one hour

per day. But we still love to play a lot in the garden or games. (15a, 15b, 15c, 15d,

15e, 19a, 19b, 19c, 19d, 19g)

Child – Parents – teacher : a team for a better learning

To be a good team, child, parents and teacher, we have to

- The Child has to communicate by express his feelings, his difficulties but also his forces, …

- The parents has to communicate by express their questions about the school work, the

difficulties of their child at home, sometimes the difficulties of the family life if it could have an

impact on their child schoolwork....

- The teacher has to listen (children and parents)....and to communicate clearly what he expects

from his students and their parents, at school and for the homeworks. At school our

communication channels with parents are regular meetings to explain our methods, individual

meetings with parents and children to discuss the development of the child, some conferences


to help parents with diffenrent kinds of difficulties their child can have, the parent committee

meetings to set up projects for children, a newsletter by email with news from the school, a

school website (www.ecenvol.com) and class website (www.et-demain-en-classe.org).

Our classwebsite for a better communication between home and school :


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Our blog where pupils can write news about

what they live at school

The plan of our daily

work at school

Exercices and lesson to work

at home on the way of school

The school agenda

with special

activities : outside

class, conference,

meetings, movies,

theater,....

Links : official education

websites – school website –

comenius project

Informations about what children have to do at

home and how parents can help them

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