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Summer 2018
Serving: East Windsor, Enfield, Somers, Stafford, Suffield, Windsor Locks
Summer 2018
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How to Recognize Emotional Abuse 19 questions that help identify this type of domestic violence
By domesticshelters.org
It’s a common and damaging myth—without bruises, cuts, broken bones, bandages or a black eye, it’s not really abuse. Yet being controlled, feeling scared or being forcefully isolated are just some of the markers of emotional abuse, a very real and prevalent type of intimate partner violence.
Emotional abusers prey on a victim’s self-esteem and emotional abuse is often a precursor to physical abuse. But, emotional abuse can also exist on its own, meaning you may be abused and never have a visible injury to show for it.
To identify if what you’re experiencing is emotional abuse, ask yourself the following questions: Does your partner …. … put you down, embarrass or shame you? … call you names? … ignore you? … demand to know where you are every minute? … treat you as inferior? … purposefully embarrass you, often times in front of others? … not allow you to make decisions? … rarely validate your opinions? … threaten you? … tell you that you’re crazy? … belittle your accomplishments, aspiration or plans? … forbid you from talking to or seeing you friends, family or coworkers? … keep you from sleeping? … accuse you of cheating or is possessively jealous? … cheat on you and then blame you for his or her behavior? … tell you that you will never find anyone better? … repeatedly point out your mistakes? … attempt to control what you wear? … threaten to hurt you, your children, your family or your pets?
Both men and women can be victims of emotional abuse. In a study by the National Institutes of Health, with 250 participants that ranged from age 18 to 61, researchers studied four aspects of emotional abuse in intimate partner relationships: isolation, sexual abuse, property damage and degradation.
Women experienced the highest rates of isolation (restricting a person’s contact with family and friends or physically confining a person) and property damage, which is considered symbolic violence as well as a tool of financial control and abuse.
The study also found that younger people were more likely to experience emotional abuse than older people, and men’s overall risk of emotional abuse may be increasing as a result of evolving gender roles, like men as homemakers and women as the breadwinner.
The Toll on Your Health Experts and advocates agree that emotional abuse does not magically go away over time and that people experiencing it should think about it in the same way as physical abuse. That is to say, it tends to get worse if left unaddressed and just like physical violence, the effects of emotional abuse can last a lifetime and impact your health. The effects you may notice on your health from living with emotional abuse can include: Feelings of worthlessness, low self-esteem Inability to trust Anxiety Depression Digestion issues Insomnia Chronic headaches Suicidal thoughts or attempts
If you’re experiencing emotional abuse, talk to someone today. You’re not alone. The Network’s hotline operates 24 hours a day at
860.763.4542.
Save-the-Date:
The Network’s premier fundraiser event will be held on Friday,
November 2nd at a NEW location, Maneeley’s in South
Windsor, CT. Cost to attend is $75.00 per person and includes a
wine and beer tasting provided by Joe’s Fine Wine & Spirits, an
array of fine foods and desserts, a champagne raffle with a chance
to win a hidden gem from Swede’s Jewelers as well as fabulous
silent and called auction items. Sponsor opportunities are
available. Visit our website for more information at
www.thenetworkct.org.
For a full listing of upcoming events, view our events calendar
on our website at www.thenetworkct.org
Back to School Program
The Network’s Back to School Program provides back to school supplies and clothing for our clients’ children ages 5 through 15. If you would like to sponsor a child, please contact Annalisa at 860.763.7430 ext. 305 or email [email protected]. If you are unable to sponsor a child, you can still help by donating new school supplies. Donations can be dropped off in our office at
139 Hazard Avenue, Building 3 Monday-Friday.
Items Needed:
Pencils * Erasers * Backpacks * Crayons * Pens * Colored Pencils * Pencil Sharpeners * Rulers * Notebooks * Binders * Dividers * Lunch Boxes * Juice Boxes * Snacks * Loose Leaf Lined Paper * Construction Paper * Index Cards * Ice Packs * Book Covers * Hand Sanitizer * Markers * Poster Board * Water Bottles * Pocket Folders * Toothbrush/Toothpaste * Pocket Size Tissue Packs * NEW Clothing for Children ages 5 through 15 * NEW shoes or sneakers for Children ages 5 through 15
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The journey between
who you once were
and who you are now
becoming is where the
dance of life really
takes place.
Barbara DeAngelis
Ways to give Our mission is made possible by the
generosity of individuals, businesses and
foundations. The following are ways you
can help us continue to strive toward a
violence free society:
● Send a check or make an online credit card
donation at www.thenetworkct.org.
● Inquire at your employment about a
matching gift program.
● Participate in our monthly wish list
program by dropping off new and unused
items for Julie’s Safe House.
● Sponsor or attend one or more of our
fundraising events.
● Name The Network in your will or
memorial donations.
● Drop off used clothing in the Charities of
Hope collection bin at Asnuntuck Community
College and we receive a check.
● Shop for all your Amazon products from
Amazon Smile and they send us a donation.
Use the following link to select The Network as
your charity. https://smile.amazon.com/ch/22
-2670688
● Donate through your employment. Many
employers offer donor designation programs.
Select The Network as your charity of choice.
● Drop off old cell phones and small
electronics in the Cellular Recycler box outside
of our main office and they send us a
donation.
Thank you to Girl Scout Troop #10725 from Ellington, CT for the donation of delicious Girl Scout cookies. Pictured are Katie, Fiona and Laurel with the iconic cookies. Thank you to Girl Scout Troop #10768 from Enfield, CT for sponsoring a donation drive. We are very grateful for all the wonderful supplies you collected for Julie’s safe house. Pictured are Payten, Ashley, Lauren, Alexa, Abby and Jenna.
Thank you to Liberty Mutual employees Linda, Kathleen and Jeffrey, who volunteered through the Serve with Liberty campaign. Serve with Liberty is Liberty Mutual Insurance’s annual enterprise-wide day of community service program held during the first two weeks of May. Linda, Kathleen and Jeffrey spent a day mowing, raking, sweeping and performing other general yardwork tasks. The grounds at Julie’s safe house look great thanks to their hard work.
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We’re here to help
Free and confidential services for individuals of domestic violence and their families include:
15 bed emergency safe house ● Support Groups
Counseling for adults and children ● Community Youth Educator
Advocacy in Enfield and Rockville Courts ● 24/7 crisis hotline 860.763.4542
The annual Dancing Thru the Decades
event to benefit The Network was held
on April 28th at the Knights of
Columbus in Enfield, CT. Pictured is
Robin Cormier, Event Organizer,
presenting Kathy Barron, CEO of The
Network with a check for $2,210.00
Thank You Robin, you and your
planning committee continue to do a
GREAT job.
AUM Aesthetics in Enfield, CT
chooses a local non-profit each month
to donate 10% of their services to.
The Network was their choice for
April. Thank you AUM Aethestics
for your generosity and commitment
to helping support local non-profit
organizations. We are very grateful.
Aetna Foundation * Aetna Employees * Kathy Anderson * Paula Anderson * Terry Antrum *
AUM Aesthetics Medical Spa * Susan Baibak * Big Y Foods Employees * Karin Buus * Charities of Hope *
Angelique Colby in Honor of her mother, Tammy Colby * Ron & Bobbi Collyer * Leslie Cunningham *
Mirella D’Antonio * Dancing Thru The Decades * Gina Marie Dewey * Marina Dubovyy * Ellington Women’s
Club * Enfield Food Shelf * Joanne Fealy * First Church of Christ Congregational * Girl Scout Troop
#10725 * Girl Scout Troop #10768 * Deb Gish * David & Gretchen Goyette * Greater Hartford
Association of Realtors * Margaret Guyette * Andrew Hall * Diane Hamm * Atty. Bonnie Kumiega * Jeff
LaFrance * Laureate Theta Beta Sigma Phi * Michael Lessard in Memory of Colin Murphy * Deborah Matusko
* Linda McCabe * Jeannie Newman * North Central District of the General Federation of Women’s Clubs of
Connecticut * Linda Redinger * Carol Robinson * Greg Schoorens in Honor of his mother, Cathy Schoorens
* Smith Brothers Insurance * Somers Women’s Club * St. Marianne Cope Parish * St. Peter’s Episcopal
Church * Elsie Stolle * Suffield High School Giraffe Club * Suffield Woman’s Club * Victoria’s Secret, Enfield
Location * XL Caitlin * Eydie Zive
If we neglected to mention your name or organization we apologize!
Thank you!
Recent Cash and In-Kind Donations
Thank you!
Recent Foundation and Grant Donations
Amiel P. Zak
Public Service Fund
Hartford Foundation
for Public Giving
Anonymous No. 46
Fund