how to improve from every experience
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Even if you negotiate for something, there's always a suspicion in the back of your mind that you could have gotten a better deal.
Even in a job interview, you may get the job, accept whatever they were offering, but in the back of your mind you're thinking that maybe if you
would have held out, you could have gotten more money.
I recently read a book about these people, written by a psychologists who worked in the prison system.
Even if you've never been outright manipulated, it can still feel pretty terrible if you think you could have done better had you only asked, but
you were afraid to or not assertive enough.
Sure, it helps to learn from the past, but if you ONLY dwell in the past, you can't see what's coming.
After all, no matter who you are or what you've accomplished, unless you've only got a couple minutes to live, there's still plenty more you can
do.
You can either use the past to "prove" that you're a failure, or use it to "prove" that you're always getting better.
Now, for some people, admitting failure, and then blaming the world, is a lot easier and safer than actually getting out there and trying to better
each time.
Because let's be honest, not a lot of people accomplish much in their lives, other than becoming incredibly creative in justifying their limitations.