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How to Connect Powerfully With Students To Increase Engagement and Success

Understand How You, Your Students, and Colleagues are Wired

Created and Presented by Stephanie O’Brien,

BS, Certified DISC Behavioral Consultant Founder and Creator of Moved by Purpose Connect with her on movedbypurpose.net

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What is DISC?

DiSC® is the leading personal assessment tool used by over 1 million people every year to improve work productivity, teamwork and communication.

How does this apply to working with students, parents and Teachers?

By understanding how you, the people you work with, your students, and their parents are wired, you can provide high quality care and instruction.

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Every School Social Worker Should Learn the DISC Because of These 7 Benefits...

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Benefit #1: Greater Morale at Work

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Benefit #2: Better Understanding of Those Around You

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Benefit #3 Increased Self Awareness

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Benefit #4 : Enhanced IEP Team Dynamics

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Benefit #5: Improved Communication

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Benefit # 6 Better Understanding or Support for Your Student’s Strengths

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Benefit # 7 Minimize Weaknesses to put Students, Teachers, & Parents in Better

Positions to Succeed

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What Does DISC stand for?

The DISC measures 4 main traits or factors of behavior

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D= Dominance ●  Direct, Driven ●  D’s make up 3% of the population. ●  Strengths:

○ Competitive ○ Thrives on a challenge ○  Likes to take charge! ○ Ambitious, Results-oriented and task driven ○ Extremely interested in success and achievement

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D= Dominance “Trust Me” – Fastest way possible. Greatest FEAR: Being Taken Advantage

Of. Weaknesses:

Demanding They tend to place less importance on

others’ feelings. Thrive in crisis - and sometimes will

seek it out through high-pressure deals and deadlines.

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How to Recognize the D Style?

Verbal cues: The tend to say

“make it happen”

“I pushed or shoved this aside”

“What’s the point?”

“Get to the point”

Visual cues:

They typically dress to command a room, attire that expresses authority.

Looks at watch/time often. Prompt and time sensitive.

In a conversation: They tend to be loud in volume, interrupt and get right to the point of the conversation.

Tip! Don’t be offended if the skip small talk and get directly to what they want.

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Must feel as if they are in control or in charge Help them avoid the fear of being taken advantage by helping

them find ways they are in control I.e. choosing 4 problems from 6 possible

If you have a D style student Give them choices Allow them to make decisions (within reason) Present them with the results or outcomes when certain

decisions are made

How to Motivate the D Style

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How to Motivate the D Style

Be Clear! Have a clear measure of success and achievement As they progress, remind them of:

Successes Accomplishments Results

Make sure any written plan highlights the key points in bullet points Break long-term, detailed paperwork down into mini sections

They love the feeling of getting a task done Perhaps presenting a check list of accomplishments will be very

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Celebrities with the D style

Oprah Winfrey Simon Cowell David Letterman

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I= Influence, inspiring, impulsive Influence, Inspiring and Interested in People I’s make up 11% of the population. Strengths

Very outgoing, talkative and friendly Able to motivate those around them (persuasive) Sociable; people-oriented; gregarious Confident. Open

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I= Influence, inspiring, impulsive “Like Me”- Fun Way Greatest FEAR: Rejection Weaknesses:

Impulsive Erratic Dramatic/emotional Tendency to not follow through Has difficulty with organization

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How to recognize the I style

Verbal Cues:

They often use words like “fun”

They have an expressive and enthusiastic tone that is easy to recognize

Visual Cues:

Dressed in trendy outfits typically with very bright colors and patterns with a lot of movement to them

Facial expressions: The most expressive and animated style. They use a lot of movement with their hands, face, and body.

In a conversation: They may do all the talking and it may be difficult to get a word in edgewise. They interrupt frequently- not to be rude but because they already moved on to a new thought

and they can’t wait to express it.

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How to motivate the I style

Recognition and appreciation.

The more public this is, the better

Give them details in writing

follow up with them frequently

They need social interaction.

They love to inspire and motivate people

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Celebrities with I style 23

S = Steady ●  Stable, Secure, Sweet, Sympathetic ●  Makes up 69% of population ●  Strengths

○  Reliable ○  Patient ○  Persistent ○  Loyal ○  Trustworthy ○  People oriented ○  Excellent listeners

■  tend to listen more than talk

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Assure Me”- Easiest way Greatest FEAR: Loss of Security Weaknesses

resists to change needs time to think things through

over/process--slow Tends to store things up

"it's better to have it and not need it than need it and not have it!"

S = Steady

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How to Recognize The S style

Verbal Cues:

These people have a soft, quiet tone

They often say “If it ain’t broke, why fix it?”

Or “It’s better to have it and not need it then to need it and not have it.”

Visual Cues:

They wear soft, subtle colors

Small and slow body movements when communicating

Facial Expressions:

They have soft but friendly facial expressions

They tend to smile with mouth closed

In a conversation:

this person will likely listen more than talk

They will stop talking when they are interrupted rather than talk over you or trying to finish their statement

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How to Motivate the S Style

Security and Safety

Close Relationships

Loyalty and Appreciation

Their desire to keep the people they are closest to happy

Give them a lot of reassurance and support

When presenting changes to their plan: Give advance notice when possible Take time to answer all their questions

This person will need someone by their side, closely supporting them when big changes occur- and they will need to be assured that they are supported every step of the way.

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Celebrities with S style

Will Smith Mother Theresa Princess Diana

C = Compliant

•  Conscientious, creative, correct. •  The C’s make up 17% of the population. •  Strengths:

Neat, precise and orderly. Great at gathering information. Rational, Dispassionate approach to life. Interested in facts and details, highly practical. Like to plan in advance and take into account every possible outcome. Solid problem-solvers.

C= Compliant

•  “Inform Me”- Best, most efficient way.

•  Greatest FEAR: Criticism

•  Weaknesses:

o  Can become depressed because they can't get it RIGHT.

o  They hate to take risks,

o  Can get hung up on the details,

o  Get highly frustrated with I personalities.

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How to Recognize C Style ●  Verbal Cues:

○  They will often use the phrase “exactly” or “perfect” ○  They may describe situations as “stupid”

■  This isn’t to be mean- they just don’t think the process or procedure makes any sense.

●  Visual Cues: ○  They will examine anything you give them and will take hey their time processing their

decisions. ○  They tend to sit very still, and use very precise movements. ○  Their clothing is typically very structured with clean lines.

●  In a conversation: ○  An analytical and introverted person isn’t shy ○  They will be direct, but in a slower, more methodical way ○  Be warned:

■  getting them to share anything personal with you will be like pulling teeth ■  They enjoy their own company—When cornered in an unsolicited conversation they will constantly be

looking for a way to escape.

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How to Motivate a C Style ●  Motivated by information and logic

○  Be prepared with details ○  Support ideas or statements with

■  data ■  facts ■  Examples

●  Prefer procedure and routine ○  Give them reassurance that they are doing the task correctly

●  Motivated by ○  exact job descriptions ○  expectations and rules

Celebrities with C style

Tyra Banks Albert Einstein Steve Jobs

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Group Exercise/Application Based off of the information provided, do

your best to assess what you think the other group members personality is.

Use the handouts provided to help you.

It’s ok if you are wrong, you may just be meeting some of these people so 100% accuracy is not expected.

1.  Do not disclose your style.

2.  Questions to Ask:

a.  Tell me about yourself?

3.  Look for:

a.  body language,

b.  hand gestures, facial expressions

4.  Listen for:

a.  volume of voice,

b.  do they interrupt?

c.  Are they talking more or listening more?

5.  Are they reserved or very open?

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Group Discussion 15 min

How can you support and encourage them, pushing them to engage with others? While still understanding and honoring their wiring?

If you have a student that is introverted, prefers to be left alone, is not fond of social activities and wants to retreat into their own head all day. They are intimidated in social settings and lack social skills. They desire to build more friendships, but have fears about rejection, stopping them from getting out and interacting with others.

Group Discussion

Case If you have a very outgoing and active student who has a hard time showing up to class on time, remembering to bring or turn in their homework or taking notes during class, what would you do for them? How can you make sure this student is able to get the most of their class time while staying true to their very nature?

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Conclusion

Q & A