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Hope in Action Ending Poverty through Systemic
Change
Developing Relationships & Supporting Change
© 2013, National Council of the United States Society of St. Vincent de Paul, Inc. This copyright covers all materials in this presentation except where otherwise noted.
Listen carefully to needs and hopes
Involve the individual directly in needs assessment and goal setting
Educate, train, and encourage spiritual well being
Build self-confidence in the participant
Hope in Action…ending poverty through systemic change
Vincentian Family – Hope in Action: People-Oriented Strategies
“If you have come to help me, you
can go home again. But if you see my struggles as a part of your
own survival, then perhaps we can work together.”
–Lila Watson, an Aboriginal Woman
from Australia
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Accept others as they are
Affirm their individuality
Be objective
Building Relationships
Hope in Action…ending poverty through systemic change
Our love of God – who we cannot see – must be expressed by our love of neighbor – who we can see
Only in relationship can love manifest itself
Mankind was made for relationships
“Teacher, which commandment is the greatest? He said: “You shall love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the greatest and the first commandment. The second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. The whole law and the prophets depend on these two commandments.” (Matthew: 22: 36-40)Hope in Action…ending poverty through systemic change
Monitor unspoken language (yours)
Have a positive outlook
Have patience & don’t get discouraged
Developing Relationships
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No significant learning occurs
without a significant
relationship.
–Dr. James Comer
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Relationships take time to develop
Relationships are built on trust
Politics & Religion vs. Advocacy & Beliefs
Healthy Relationships
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Learn about their culture
Take a stand against their oppression
Relationships with people of different cultural backgrounds
Adapted from The Community Toolbox http://ctb.ku.edu
Adapted from The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. (1989). Stephen Covey.
Deposits WithdrawalsSeeking first to understand Seeking first to be understood
Keeping promises Breaking promisesKindness, courtesies Unkindness, discourtesiesClarifying expectations Violating expectationsLoyalty to the absent Disloyalty, duplicityApologies Pride, conceit, arroganceOpen to feedback Rejecting feedback
Creating Relationships
Deposits made to individuals in poverty
Withdrawals made from individuals in poverty
Appreciation for humor and entertainment provided by the individual
Put-downs or sarcasm about the humor or the individual
Acceptance of what the individual cannot say about a person or situation
Insistence and demands for full explanation of person or situation
Respect for the demands and priorities of relationships
Insistence on the middle class view of relationships
Using the adult voice Using the parent voice
Assisting with goal setting Telling the individual his/her goals
Identifying options related to available resources
Making judgments on value and availability of resources
Understanding the importance of personal freedom, speech, and personality
Assigning pejorative character traits to the individual
Creating Relationships with people in poverty
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Pay attention to them – check in regularly
Communicate openly Appreciate each other Extend yourself Challenge each other to do better Back each other when things get tough
Maintaining Relationships
Adapted from The Community Toolbox http://ctb.ku.edu
Reflect what you hear:
It sounds like …It seems like …
So you think …You feel …
Your interpretation is only a guess and may not match what was actually meant.
Questions can be roadblocks. Instead of asking questions, compare and contrast two statements to encourage the person to continue clarifying.
Listening Skills
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Take time to listen to each other Put yourself in their shoes Look at what’s true about what they are
saying Separate emotions from reality Continue to appreciate and respect each
other Speak from your heart Don’t give up on your principles Hang in there…stay positive, even when
they are not
When Relationships Get Messy Adapted from The Community
Toolbox http://ctb.ku.edu
Drama Triangle: Victims place blame on
Persecutors Victims need Rescuers to
solve problems for them
Empowerment Triangle: Creators are outcome-
oriented, focused on long term goals
Challengers force clarification of our goals
Coaches ask questions to help individual make informed choices
The Empowerment Dynamic
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Change Is Hard
“The healthier you are psychologically, or the less you may seem to need to change, the more you can change.”
–Richard Farson
“The need to act overwhelms any willingness people have to learn.”
–Peter Schwartz
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Change – it’s not easy – understand potential barriers
Stages of change
Motivation – theory & advice
Encouraging Change
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Barriers to Change:Generated by Poverty
• Crisis living / “Tyranny of the Moment”
• Lack of “resources”
• Not knowing how to plan
• Co-existing problems
• Not knowing hidden rules of economic class
• Giving up self-image / identity is threatening © aha! Process, Inc.
Resistance to change by family & friends
Diminished social capital
The need to earn the respect of one’s peers
Not knowing the hidden rules of economic class
Barriers to Change:Family and Social Network
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Clients perceived only as “needy”
Talents, skills, gifts, and abilities to solve community problems unrecognized
Program theory / design based on middle class mindset
Organizational change difficult
Barriers to Change:Agencies and Organizations
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Change – it’s not easy – understand potential barriers
Stages of change
Motivation – theory & advice
Encouraging Change
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Stages of Change
Pre-Contemplation
Contemplation
Preparation
Action
Maintenance/Relapse
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Pre-Contemplation
Unconcerned about problems Ignorant of possible solutions “If I close my eyes, it will go away”
“I’m not even thinking about change. I don’t know how. I’m not willing.”
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Contemplation
Ambivalent - open to change, but lacks commitment
Ambivalence is a natural reaction to change
When in doubt, “put it off”
“I’m worried, and I’m considering change, but I’m not sold on it yet.”
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Contemplation (continued)
The challenge:
- Help people through ambivalence
- Offer new ways of thinking
- Offer new mental models
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Preparation
Intention to change in the future Begins to make small changes “Yes, but … ” phase Fear of failure, fear of success The challenge:
- Identify what is important to the individual- Assist in the development of a plan
“I’m going to change, and I’m figuring out how to do it.”
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Action – Beginning the Journey
Plan is executed Thinking has changed
The challenge:- Build their belief that this can be done- Encourage them that they have the skills and
motivation to change
“I’m actually doing it, but things are shaky.”
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Maintenance/Relapse
Change continues
Fits, starts, and plateaus
The challenge:– To prevent relapse– To minimize the effect of relapse– To be persistent in support and encouragement
“I’ve done it, and I’m now working on keeping it.”
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Change – it’s not easy – understand potential barriers
Stages of change
Motivation – theory & advice
Encouraging Change
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Motivational Approaches
Belief that those in poverty can be controlled and are needy
Assumes that they lack knowledge about the need to change
Assumes that education will convince them to change
Belief that people are the solution, have skills to care for themselves
People know problems exist but sometimes lack motivation to change
Education (abstract representation of concrete), new choices
FIX-IT APPROACH MOTIVATIONAL APPROACH
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Motivational Approaches(continued)
Those in poverty need advice to change
Sanctions and monitoring will keep them on track
Metaphor: machine
People will internalize and own the need to change
Persistence, insistence, and support will help people maintain the changes they make
Metaphor: gardener
FIX-IT APPROACH MOTIVATIONAL APPROACH
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Motivation
GOAL: The participant makes the
argument for change, not the mentors.
STRATEGY: Help them to understand the
degree of discrepancy between the current behavior and the future story. © aha! Process, Inc.
What the Abstract Consists of:
Theory of Change from “Getting Ahead”
• Detachment• Objectivity• Analysis• Thinking• New ideas• New information• Education• Plans• Support
“Concrete”
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We were made by God for relationships…it’s how we live out our love for God
We need to be like Jesus: accepting and nonjudgmental
Developing a significant relationship of mutual respect with someone in poverty will require us to be flexible and adapt to our differences
Summary
Hope in Action…ending poverty through systemic change