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The Newsletter of Calvary Episcopal Church making God’s love visible in downtown Memphis calvarymemphis.org August/September 2016 CHRONICLE Contents • Friends of Music ........................ 2 • Daughters of the King ............. 4 • Youth Ministry Update ............ 5 • New Outreach Initiative.......... 6 • Lobsterpalooza .......................... 6 • Parishioner Spotlight ............... 7 • Parish Picnic Photos ................. 9 • Wish List ..................................... 18 • Calendar of Events.................. 19 Fall Formation p. 10 • Vestry Update p. 18 HOLDING continued on page 16 FACING continued on page 8 B eing named priest-in-charge at Calvary during this unexpected time of discernment and search for a new rector came at just the right moment for me. Aſter being retired for a little over a year from St. Bartholomew’s Church in New York City, I was becoming more than a little antsy. Conceptually retirement is nearly perfect, and in fact, it truly is good. But it is not perfect. It’s safe to say that it is good for everyone in my immediate circle that I am going back to work for a while. And what a place to get to do that! I knew on my first visit that Calvary is a special place—vibrant, friendly, conscious of the world beyond its I t had been many moons since I walked through the bowels of 201 Poplar. I participated in the Hands Around 201 prayer effort outside a few months ago, and I oſten go in the upper part to the 12 th floor, where the police director and chiefs and the 911 operators do their vital work. But the prison section is below the street level. And it is dreary. My visit was aſter noon, the time of a shiſt change, so county officers were going home aſter another tough Facing a new beginning by The Rev. F. M. "Buddy" Stallings, Priest-in-Charge Holding the hand of God by The Rev. Audrey Gonzalez, Assisting Priest The Rev. Audrey Gonzalez speaking to young men in prison.

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The Newsletter of Calvary Episcopal Church making God’s love visible in downtown Memphis calvarymemphis.org

August/September 2016

CHRONICLEContents

• Friends of Music ........................ 2

• Daughters of the King ............. 4

• Youth Ministry Update ............ 5

• New Outreach Initiative .......... 6

• Lobsterpalooza .......................... 6

• Parishioner Spotlight ............... 7

• Parish Picnic Photos ................. 9

• Wish List .....................................18

• Calendar of Events ..................19

Fall Formation p. 10 • Vestry Update p. 18

HOLDING continued on page 16

FACING continued on page 8

Being named priest-in-charge at Calvary during this unexpected time of discernment and search for a new rector

came at just the right moment for me. After being retired for a little over a year from St. Bartholomew’s Church in New York City, I was becoming more than a little antsy. Conceptually retirement is nearly perfect, and in fact, it truly is good. But it is not perfect. It’s safe to say that it is good for everyone in my immediate circle that I am going back to work for a while.

And what a place to get to do that! I knew on my first visit that Calvary is a special place—vibrant, friendly, conscious of the world beyond its

It had been many moons since I walked through the bowels of 201 Poplar. I participated in the Hands Around 201 prayer effort outside a few months ago,

and I often go in the upper part to the 12th floor, where the police director and chiefs and the 911 operators do their vital work. But the prison section is below the street level. And it is dreary.

My visit was after noon, the time of a shift change, so county officers were going home after another tough

Facing a new beginningby The Rev. F. M. "Buddy" Stallings, Priest-in-Charge

Holding the hand of Godby The Rev. Audrey Gonzalez, Assisting Priest

The Rev. Audrey Gonzalez speaking to young men in prison.

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Calvary Episcopal Church August/September 2016 Chronicle

Calvary EpisCopal ChurCh

making God’s love visible in downtown Memphis

102 N. Second St. • Memphis, TN • 38103901-525-6602 • 901-525-5156, fax

www.calvarymemphis.orgParish Offices open

Monday-Friday 8:30 a.m.-4:30 p.m.Sunday Worship: 8 and 10 a.m.

E-mail clergy and staff with initial of first name followed by full last [email protected]

Example: [email protected]

CLERGYThe Rev. F.M. "Buddy" Stallings Priest-in-ChargeThe Rev. Eyleen Farmer Assoc. RectorThe Rev. Audrey Gonzalez Asst. PriestThe Rev. Paul McLain Assoc. RectorThe Rev. Neil Raman Curate

ASSISTING CLERGYThe Venerable Mimsy Jones 901-685-6916The Rev. Canon Bill Kolb 901-438-0751

VESTRYWarden’s Committee: Terre Sullivant, Sr. Warden (3) • Fred Piper, Jr. Warden (2) • Julie Bethell, At Large (2) • Hall Gardner, Treasurer • Hank Word, Clerk

Chris Bird (1) • Margaret Craddock (1) • Tony Graves (1) • Jan Gwin (2) • Celeste Herburger (3) • Claudia Haltom (2) • Nicky Hitching (3) • Palmer Jones (1) • David Leigh (3) • Donovan Smith (2) • Raymond Spence (3) • Sarah Squire (1)

PARISH STAFFRobyn Banks (312-5207) Dir. of Communications Kayla Bartosch (312-5206) Minister to YouthLiz Browne (312-5210) Adult Ministries Coord.Issiah Carroll (525-6602) Kitchen AssistantHilary Chipley (312-5203) Dir. of Children’s Min. Lynda Gayle Deacon (312-5208) Music Admin & Event CoordinatorFred Goldsmith (525-6602) Information OfficerJason Kindel (312-5212) St. Cecilia Choir DirectorKristin Lensch (312-5212) Organist-ChoirmasterMary O’Brien (312-5211) Parish ChefKatie Owen (312-5205) Parish AdministratorJohn Palmer (312-5208)Asst. Organist-ChoirmasterEbet Peeples (312-5201) Welcome & CommunityHelario Reyna (312-5202) Facilities ManagerGary Thompson (525-6602) SextonChristine Todd (312-5214) Comm. Ministries Coord.Cindy Yeager (312-5204) Financial Assistant

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Friendsof Music at

Calvary Episcopal Church

A preview of Friends of Music events for 2016-17

Grief and Redemption for the Solo Violin: Hidden Chorales in the Bach ChaconneGregory Maytan, violinFriday, September 23, 7:30 p.m.

My Secret Heart: Chanticleer, in concertFriday, October 28, 7:30 p.m., tickets are $25 Messe de Minuit pour NoëlSaturday, December 24, 10:30 p.m.

Boar’s Head Feaste Twelfth Night: Friday, January 6, 6:30 p.m., tickets are $50

Steuterman-Hardison Organ Recital featuring Ken CowanFriday, February 10, 7:30 p.m.

Music from Stax AcademyThursday, May 4, 7:30 p.m.

Calvary Episcopal Church’s mission is to make God’s love visible in downtown Memphis. The Friends of Music ministry seeks to make it visible by enhancing the sacred music of Calvary’s liturgies, while also opening the doors of Calvary to the larger community of the Mid-South for a variety of concert opportunities. If you would like to become a Friend of Music, please contact Kristin Lensch, [email protected], or log on to calvarymemphis.org/friends-of-music for a link to PayPal. You may also contact one of the committee members: Desi Franklin, chair, David Armbruster, Charles Billings, Kell Christie, Lynda Gayle Deacon, Jim Gabbert, John Palmer, and Charles Shipp.

Chanticleer will be in concert at Calvary on Friday, October 28.

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Giving my soul to silenceCalvary Episcopal Church August/September 2016 Chronicle

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It was during seminary that I discovered silent retreats. I had been on retreats before with my college campus ministry and my Episcopal Service

Corps program, but they had always been guided retreats or time simply to withdraw from the world and take some time for rest and refreshment. Before seminary, retreats were a time to go for a walk with a friend on a beautiful trail and have a deep conversation or to finally read that book I had been putting off for so long. There was prayer, but the project of rest and refreshment, of withdrawing from the world for a time, was the primary objective. I still take these sorts of retreats; they are life-giving and necessary for my continued functioning in the world, but now silent retreats have taken their place alongside these more active endeavors.

Having been told about silent retreats many times over my first year of seminary, I decided to take one right before the start of my second year. It began as something of an uncomfortable exercise. Anyone that knows me well will tell you that being silent is not one of my strong points. I love to have conversations, to listen, to talk, and to get to know new people and new ideas. And so, the prospect of spending two days around new people without the possibility of interacting with them was a bit daunting.

I showed up at St. Mary’s Convent in Sewanee with nothing but myself and the intention of being silent for the next two days. It was a challenge. I had to stop myself as I went to introduce myself to others at the convent. I had to inform others that I could not speak to them because I was on a silent retreat. I went to the chapel to pray, wandered around the convent and convent grounds, and examined the books in the library that were beginning to tempt me. After some time I settled down in the little room that would be my home for the following two days. I sat on the little wooden chair by the old desk and thought, “Well. Now, what?” As it was a retreat, I figured I should just talk to God. And once I started, it seemed like I couldn’t stop. I talked and talked and talked to God. And I kept talking

until I had run out of things to say. It was well into the evening after a day of sitting in silence and eating meals in silence. That moment was a turning point in the retreat. It was as if God said, “Oh, you’re done talking now? Good. I have a couple of things I have been waiting to say.” It was as if a flip had been switched. The silence was no longer entirely empty. I had finally become aware of the presence of God around me and was comforted and consoled by it. I was able simply to sit in that presence and learn that it was enough. Shortly after that, a switch flipped again, and I found myself uncomfortable in the silence. My mind filled it with anxieties and worries, with shopping lists and with things both done and left undone. I did not get back to that beautiful time I had in that deep silence again on that retreat, but the taste I did get was enough to make me come back and make another silent retreat.

Since that first retreat, I have made silent retreats a regular part of my spiritual practice. Each time the entry into silence has gotten easier. It is like a spiritual muscle in need of exercise just like any of our physical ones. Regularly taking the time to withdraw from the world and to listen to God has become a vital part of my spiritual life. It provides the opportunity to slow down and reflect on where I have been and where I am being called. More importantly, it allows me to spend time deeply listening to what God has to say. The practice allows for me to return to the world rejuvenated and with more clarity about where and to what God is calling me. It is a practice that I commend to anyone who has not tried it. As is probably evident from my own experiences, it is not the easiest practice to begin. As counterintuitive as it is, silence takes work. But it is work that can bear tremendous spiritual fruit.

by The Rev. Neil Raman, Curate

The Rev. Neil K. Raman

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How I became a Daughter of the Kingby Lydia Gibson, Diocesan DOK President

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What I love about being my age (70) is looking back

and recognizing God’s hand guiding my life in certain characteristic ways. I grew up in the church and have loved God for as long as I can remember. I think my earliest memory, at about five years old, is confusing my father, President Eisenhower, and God. (I thought they were all the same, my first Trinity!)

I was about 30 years old when I became interested

in deepening my prayer life. I came across an idea in my reading that I liked very much. It was called “The Five-Finger Prayer.” It uses your hand as a guide. The thumb is named “Praise,” the index finger is named “Thanksgiving,” the middle finger is named “Intercession,” the ring finger is named “Confession,” and the pinkie is named “Petition.” I still use my five-

finger prayer and it continues to enrich my prayer life. However, I notice that I am sometimes remiss on the “intercession” finger if I am not constantly vigilant and keeping watch over the people who come into my life needing prayer.

Jump ahead some 15 years to the first major spiritual battle of my life, which was the death of my husband when he was only 48. I was devastated by this sudden loss. I was a member at St. John’s at the time, and I found myself adopted by a dynamic group of older ladies who were great prayer warriors. They were members of the Daughters of the King chapter at St. John’s and they invited me to join. I loved them deeply and could not say “no,” but what really convinced me to join was the presence of the DOK Prayer List, a solution at last to my need to keep on top of “intercession” in my daily prayers. The DOK Prayer List provides an ongoing list of people in need whose names are garnered from a wide variety of sources and are always pertinent and relevant. Always, everywhere in everything, we thank God for his great goodness to us, his servants.

Daughters of the King

The Daughters of the King is a ministry for women for the purpose of prayer, service and expressing the Good News of Jesus Christ in the world (otherwise known as evangelism). The Calvary chapter is named JOY (Jesus-Others-You), reminding us of the priority of our devotion and service. Calvary's JOY Chapter is hosting a dinner on Tuesday, August 9, at 5:30 p.m., for ladies who would like to explore what preparation for membership entails. The August dinner will be held in the party room at Fairway Towers Condominiums, 475 N. Highland Street. If you are interested in attending this dinner,

contact Linda Nelson, DOK President (901-458-1836, [email protected]). If you cannot come to the dinner in August, you can attend the training for persons who are discerning membership during the first five Wednesdays of Koinonia (September 7, 14, 21, 28, and October 5). If you’d like to know more about training, contact the training director, Lee Cagle (901-413-2753, [email protected]).

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Collide is a retreat designed for middle and high school students to provoke disorienting dilemmas—experiences and quandaries

that upend our usual ways of explaining the world and the thin answers of faith that we too often rely upon. It’s also designed to give youth and adults space and resources to work together through these dilemmas in an environment of discussion, worship, and theological reflection, helping them understand themselves, their world, their calling, and their God in new ways. This year I, along with Director of Children's Ministries Hilary Chipley, took 15 Calvary youth and two adult chaperones to the Collide retreat in Nashville at the beginning of June.

Flexibility was our theme for the 2016 Collide Experience. How can we achieve the flexibility needed to hear who God is calling us to be? The week was all about stepping outside our comfort zones. The students were given opportunities to realize that when they step out of their comfort zones, those experiences produce the most growth in their character, their faith, and their life overall. Collide isn’t just a mission trip to somewhere that needs help; it is a place and time set aside to think about who God is calling us, as Christians, to be.

Our students had the opportunity to farm, help refugees learn to read, organize a food pantry, serve food, talk to the homeless, have discussions about difficult topics (such as racism, sexism, poverty, reconciliation, and divine simplicity), praise God

through different traditions, and through all of these experiences have fun. When asked about her favorite part of Collide, Maddie Smith had some trouble deciding. “One of my favorite parts was during the Greek Orthodox service. No one really knew what was going on but everyone joined in saying the Lord’s Prayer, and it didn’t matter what denomination you were. Also, when homeless people approached us and asked if they could help us—it reminded me that homeless people are people too, just like us.”

Collide provided a safe environment for people of different backgrounds and denominations to meet and work together. “It was cool to meet new people and work alongside them as we helped other new people. It was fun!” said Jackson Seltzer. Collide also provided space for the Calvary students to bond with each other. The Calvary youth became a family, not just a group of friends/students. Whenever someone was homesick or struggling, our young people stepped up and took care of each other. If you ever get a chance, ask one of the youth about “D’Brickashaw.” This is one of many inside jokes that helped the students make it through difficulties faced during the trip.

We achieve the flexibility needed to hear who God is calling us to be by stepping out of our comfort zones and welcoming new growth. As we came away from Collide, we realized that helping people and working together are not just things we do in Nashville for a week. It is a way of thinking about how we as Christians live our lives.

Who God is calling us to be?by Kayla Bartosch, Minister to Youth

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In February 2016 at Calvary Episcopal Church, the Rev. Chris

Girata and the Rev. Eyleen Farmer held two meetings called Homeless Summits. Mayors, police management, government officials, private business leaders, and many agency directors gathered to learn about and explore a method used in

Albuquerque to help those in need and to consider initiating a similar program in Memphis. Our goal was to find a way to help decrease panhandling, eliminate blight, introduce services to help meet panhandlers’ needs, and pay our poor neighbors a living wage for a day’s work.

Thanks to many stakeholders, the Hospitality HUB (whose mission is connecting individuals with the resources they need to begin their journey out of homelessness) has secured the bulk of this year's funding for Work Local (formerly known as Willing to Work).

Starting this fall, the Hospitality HUB will use a van to locate panhandlers in the downtown and midtown areas, within the Parkways. They will start two days a week, Tuesdays and Thursdays, picking up ten men and women who stand on the side of the road with signs saying "Hungry." The van will take them to work at local businesses where the Hospitality HUB will pay the workers $9/hour for five hours of work, and the local business will provide lunch. Public Works will provide the job sites and tools to clean up blight, and the Hospitality HUB will secure a night’s housing for men at the Memphis

Union Mission and for women in available locations.

The Hospitality HUB will encourage Work Local participants to access their case management opportunities so they can meet panhandlers' needs. Besides the cleanup of blighted areas, Work Local’s long-range benefit to Memphis is to give the participants a chance to change their lives by offering them another, a better, option. Join us in supporting this exciting endeavor.

Work Localby Christine Todd, Community Ministries Coordinator

Christine Todd

Calvary Episcopal Church August/September 2016 Chronicle

LOBSTERPALOOZA

CALVARY'S SECOND ANNUAL

05 NOV2016 06

S A V E T H E D A T E F O R

LOBSTER • POTATOES • CORN • SALADDESSERT • KIDS' MENU

O'CLOCKIN MURALROOM

b e e r & w i n e a v a i l a b l e f o r d o n a t i o nN E W t h i s y e a r : L i v e A u c t i o n !

ALL PROCEEDS BENEFITWORK LOCAL AT THE HOSPITALITY HUB

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LOBSTERPALOOZA

CALVARY'S SECOND ANNUAL

05 NOV2016 06

S A V E T H E D A T E F O R

LOBSTER • POTATOES • CORN • SALADDESSERT • KIDS' MENU

O'CLOCKIN MURALROOM

b e e r & w i n e a v a i l a b l e f o r d o n a t i o nN E W t h i s y e a r : L i v e A u c t i o n !

ALL PROCEEDS BENEFITWORK LOCAL AT THE HOSPITALITY HUB

Parishioner Spotlight: Sharon & Edwin Thorpe

In 2001, Sharon and Edwin Thorpe were in search of an Episcopal Church with a “diverse congregation who genuinely seemed to be concerned about other members

of the church and active in carrying out ministry within the community, and an atmosphere that was welcoming and loving. Calvary seemed to be a good fit.” Edwin was Catholic and Sharon was Episcopalian. They had been referred to Calvary by a friend who liked our then-associate rector, the Rev. Allen Robinson. Edwin remembers, “As he was the only black Episcopal minister at that time (in Memphis), it was a refreshing opportunity to connect with him. After meeting him, we chose him to marry us, which was truly a blessed event in so many ways.”

The couple felt Calvary was unique. Edwin says they resonated with “the mission, the people, and the vibe (that) is like no other church I’ve attended.” Sharon appreciated “the members of Calvary, the clergy, the music, the energy, and the sense of peace.” Although he had attended since 2001, Edwin waited until January of this year to be received into the Episcopal Church by the bishop. He says, “Having been raised Catholic, there was quite a struggle to reckon with making the change. However, I am very comfortable with it now.” Recently, Edwin was recruited to be an usher. After a couple of months, Usher Chair Laurence Ritter contacted Sharon to ask if she would be interested too. She said yes and now states that she “really feels a stronger connection to Calvary by participating. It’s also given me the opportunity to meet members of the church.”

Edwin recently retired after 30+ years as a member of the full-time teaching faculty in obstetrics and gynecology at UTHSC. He describes his career this way: “Because of my specialty training in infectious diseases, I was approached by the St. Jude Pediatric AIDS Clinical Trials group to collaborate with them on HIV in pregnant patients. The idea was to investigate the benefit of giving therapy to prevent transmission to the fetus. That collaboration evolved into 16+ years of clinical care and research in perinatal HIV. Needless to say, it was an extremely rewarding experience for patients, families, and me.”

Sharon is a family nurse practitioner currently working at a federally funded community health center. The population consists primarily of those who are underserved. Sharon identifies “a sense of ministry in providing care and connecting with the patients and their families during a stressful/tense period of their lives. As their healthcare

provider, it is my role to help resolve whatever physically is ailing them, and provide them with resources during a time of crisis. I have a line of communication open to God while at work with my 'mini' prayers in asking for guidance.”

Sharon recently became certified to teach yoga after completing 200 hours of training. “Yoga feeds my soul. It does more than make me sweat—it peels away layers of 'stuff,' and it opens me up to the person I am. The gift of yoga, mind, body, spirit is what I love most.” She describes the process of becoming certified as one that “brought me closer to God, allowed me to stop, breathe, and listen to what He is saying.” She relishes her daily ritual of short meditation/prayer that “helps me stay present” and “give thanks for the abundance of love in my life, my health.” In addition to meditation and prayer, Sharon makes sure “to do something physical every day, to give my body what it deserves to get me through this life, especially taking an early morning walk with my dog when it’s quiet.”

The roles of parent and now grandparent are very important to both of them. Edwin says, “My children and grandchildren are special—the opportunity for me to influence them in ways that my parents did for me and my siblings is truly God’s blessing.” Sharon adds, “How gratifying it is to think about my children as toddlers and now see them today as successful, healthy adults, joyful in their lives. Spending time with family, including our four grandchildren we have together, and watching them play and laugh, fills my heart. What a blessing they are to us.”

When asked what feeds her soul, Sharon replied, “Many things: time out for play, quiet time for reflection, and nature, whether it’s enjoying the mountains or sitting on the beach in the early morning hours just listening to the waves. And lastly, but certainly not least, walking through the doors of Calvary, hearing the music, the word of God, communion with others, and the opportunity to feel the presence of God.”

by Ebet Peeples, Welcome and Community

Sharon & Edwin Thorpe

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doors, steeped in the tradition and practice of the faith, extraordinarily multigenerational, and characterized by what feels like joy, not silly happiness (though I hope for some of that too) but joyful in a real way that holds all of life in a spirit of honest hope and genuine goodness. My job during these months will be to live in that space with you, bringing what I may have to enhance and deepen our common life, not for the sake of change but as a natural movement from one era of leadership to the next.

The staff, lay and clergy, is amazing. Their welcome of me at a time when they are deeply saddened by Chris’s leaving has been generous and genuine. The parish is in good hands with this group of professional, devout, and talented people. It is my privilege to work with each one of them. Although I am just getting to know the vestry and other leaders of the parish, they are an impressive group, devoted, competent, and surrounded by great esprit de corps, which deeply matters in a community of faith. You can be assured that your Wardens and their colleagues will provide stability and leadership as they empower the Search Committee to search for your next great rector. I will not be involved in the search; that is your job as a parish, a job for which you are spiritually and technically well prepared.

To be clear though, these months that we shall have together are not fallow time, not time simply to be filled. In some ways the Holy Spirit is particularly and creatively active during periods of liminality like this one. You, as a community, stand upon a threshold, facing another new beginning. Though you may not have wanted it, it is the new opportunity before you. It is a time of honoring with great intention the strength and power of your past while facing with excitement and promise what comes next, albeit with concomitant and, I hope, short-lived moments of anxiety. Liminality’s remarkable quality is its endless invitation to creativity and clarity.

We will be fine—all of us, but I ask for your help. Tell me your name again and again; agree with me to begin by believing the best of one another; be faithful in your attendance and support; speak your mind and act from your heart; be as a serious as a judge but as light-hearted as a feather; and expect to be real with one another and to have some fun while doing it!

Thank you so very much for allowing me this opportunity to serve among you. Great days unfold before us! Let us rejoice and be glad!

Calvary Episcopal Church June 1, 2015 Chronicle

The Great Hall was filled with well-wishers for the Rev. Chris Girata and his family on Sunday, July 10.

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Calvary Parish PicnicCalvary gathered in Court Square on Sunday, May 15, to enjoy food and fellowship and celebrate a successful Easter in Action season. Though Chris Girata had the most cans collected during the can drive for Grace-St. Luke's food pantry, all of our clergy and staff in the running took a turn kissing the pig!

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The theme for Calvary’s 2016-2017 adult formation is “Giving our Souls and Bodies.” It is based on a line in the Holy Eucharist, Rite I, Prayer I, "and here we offer and present unto thee, O Lord, our selves, our souls and bodies, to be a reasonable, holy, and living sacrifice unto thee.” As Christians, we are called to seek wholeness, wellness, and holiness in the totality of our lives—heart, soul, strength, and mind. We do this by intentionally seeking God in our daily lives —allowing God and our faith to be our compass in all dimensions of that life. When our Christian communities focus on wellness and healing and people within those communities speak honestly with one another and support one another, we all have a better chance of being whom God dreams us to be. We also contribute to the wholeness and wellness of the community and world around us.

Over the next academic year, we will explore ways to dedicate our souls and bodies to Christ. For each topic, we will pair several weeks of Bible study together with several weeks of application of the Biblical theme to our lives. To be a worthy offering, our souls and bodies need healing from conflict, weakness, and grief to become healthy and whole. We will first look at Corinthians, paying special attention to what Paul tells us about resolving conflicts. We will then look at conflicts and reconciliation within family relationships and contemporary society. A second series pairs the Biblical notion of our body as a temple with a discussion on true wellness. For the third series, we will look at life transitions, grief, and how we can search for spiritual meaning and growth out of loss.

SUNDAYS in the GREAT HALL

The Rev. Dr. Mitzi Minor: Sept. 11, 18, and 25The not-to-be-missed Mitzi Minor brings her take on Corinthians and the early Church to kick off our formation year. Dr. Minor is the Mary Magdalene Professor of New Testament at Memphis Theological Seminary.

Her books include The Power of Mark’s Story, The Spirituality of Mark: Responding to God’s Call, and Second Corinthians. Her three-week series will explore how Paul seeks to bring Jesus’ call to wholeness and wellness to the fractured community in Corinth.

Dr. Ron McDonald: Oct. 2, 9, and 16Ron McDonald, a Quaker and counselor, will lead a discussion around practical steps to apply Biblical principles to bring about reconciliation and healing within families and communities.

The Rev. Paul McLain: Oct. 23Paul McLain, associate rector, will explore the Biblical and theological basis for our physical well-being through the interconnected relationship of the soul and the body.

Vestry Election and Annual Meeting:Oct. 30

Fall Formation: Giving our Souls and Bodies

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Fall Formation: Giving our Souls and Bodies

Mrs. Heather Jordan: Nov. 6 & 13Calvary parishioner Heather Jordan will look at ways to apply Biblical principles

to achieve optimal wellness. She will offer new perspectives on what wellness should look, feel, and "act" like. Heather is a personal trainer and wellness coach with over 15 years experience helping individuals improve their health, stress levels, and general outlook on life through proper nutrition and exercise.

Dr. Robert Niemeyer: Nov. 27 & Dec. 4While bereavement and loss are universal, the ways in which people accommodate such unsought transitions are surprisingly varied. Drawing on contemporary understandings of grieving as a meaning-making process, we will consider what this implies for individuals and families negotiating loss and will examine evidence that people can move from grief to growth and reaffirm a life of meaning. Niemeyer is an internationally known speaker on issues pertaining to grief, bereavement, and death. He has published 18 books and 200 articles and chapters on the subject.

The Rev. Eyleen Farmer: Dec. 11Eyleen Farmer, associate rector, will explore Biblical models for approaching transitions and grief, and will discuss practical ways we can join Christ in bringing about wholeness in the midst of loss.

SUNDAYS in CROOK AUDITORIUM

Bible Study: Oct. 2-Dec. 11Each week join the Venerable Mimsy Jones and the Rev. Paul McLain as they lead a series of discussions centered on the Biblical basis for wellness. On September 11, 18, and 25, we will join the Great Hall series to hear the Rev. Dr. Mitzi Minor discuss Corinthians. On October 2, we will begin a nine-week series exploring the model for communal wholeness set out in Paul’s letter to the Philippians.

SUNDAYS in MONTGOMERY FOYER

Becoming the Church: Then and Now: Oct. 2-Dec. 11How did the Church become the Church? How does the history of early Christianity inform how we practice our faith today? How can we as Episcopalians—a people who value tradition—understand and apply this history in our own time? Join parishioners Erik Ball and Tim Huebner, co-facilitators, for an exploration of the history of the first four centuries of Christianity. We will explore the most important events and figures in the Church’s early history, from the first-century conversion of Saul to the fifth-century writings of St. Augustine. Topics will include the rise of Christianity, practices and persecutions of early Christians, theological controversies, church councils and creeds, and attempts

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to form a Christian canon. The class will discuss these theological and historical issues against the backdrop of the rise and fall of the Roman Empire. In each of these lecture-discussion sessions, we will consider what this history means for us today as we too attempt to “become the Church.”

WEDNESDAYS in MONTGOMERY FOYER

Book Study of The End of Healing: Sept. 7-Dec. 146:30-7:30 p.m.Calvary parishioner and author Dr. Jim Bailey and the Rev. Paul McLain, associate rector, will lead a seminar on Jim’s novel The End of Healing. The book offers a spiritual context to help understand the forces at work in American healthcare and gives hope toward a path for a better future. Jim is a physician and professor of medicine at the University of Tennessee Health Science Center. He has an abiding passion for the classics, medical history, and ethics, and believes that sharing our stories can heal. The study will not meet on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving, Nov. 23.

WEDNESDAYS in the MURAL ROOM

Faith and Current Events: Sept. 7-Dec. 146:30-7:30 p.m.The Rev. Bill Kolb and Calvary parishioner Matt Seltzer will lead a timely discussion that will look at how we as faithful people can both respond to and shape the events happening in our community, nation, and world. The class will not meet on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving, Nov. 23.

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Education for Ministry, Sept. 7-Dec. 146:15-8:30 p.m.Education for Ministry is a four-year, intensive learning experience for adults. In a seminar setting, participants study the Bible, church history, theology, and contemporary church issues. Learning to think theologically is also a core component of the program. EfM was created at the University of the South, and its curriculum is a distillation of that which is used in the Seminary at the University. Participants learn the theological disciplines as well as the application of this knowledge in their lives. Students are asked to commit

to one year at a time. To learn more, contact Betty Jo Dulaney, [email protected].

WEDNESDAYS in the GREAT HALL

Discovery: Nov. 2-Dec. 146-7:30 p.m.Discovery is designed to give Calvary newcomers and members the opportunity to explore our Episcopal tradition and connect with others in the Calvary family. The course will be co-led by the Rev. Neil Raman and the Rev. Eyleen Farmer. Each session begins with dinner ($6). After dinner there will be teachings on different topics meant to orient participants better to Calvary, offer preparation to become a confirmed member of the church, or provide a refresher course to members on the Episcopal tradition. We will discuss the history of Christianity and the Anglican Church, Calvary’s unique mission in Memphis, and the how-to of worship, including a detailed tour of our church. For those who choose to be confirmed, received, or reaffirmed, our confirmation service will be held in January, with details to follow. The class will not meet on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving, Nov. 23. Contact Ebet Peeples at [email protected] or 901-312-5201 to sign up.

SUNDAY MORNINGS for CHILDREN and YOUTHSunday Morning Nursery Care Calvary maintains an excellent nursery facility staffed by trained, professional caregivers. Open from 7:45 a.m. until 12:30 p.m., the nursery is for children ages five and under and is located on the first floor in the Orgill Room. A loving atmosphere, personal attention, and age-appropriate toys, Bible stories, and Bible-based activities are all designed to make the nursery a safe, nurturing place for your child.

Children’s ChapelChildren’s Chapel is a wonderful opportunity for children to experience the “Liturgy of the Word” in an easy-to-understand, story format. Children ages three

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through 1st grade participate in a number of ways, such as listening, responding to the story, singing, praying, and giving. Emphasis is placed on children’s participation and self-control in preparation for their emerging role in the larger worship service. At the beginning of the 10 a.m. worship service, children follow the children’s cross, usually during the song of praise, out of the church to room 203 in the second-floor education wing. Children are escorted into church at the time of the Peace to join their families for Communion. We encourage parent participation in Children’s Chapel, so come and experience this very special worship time.

Children are welcome at all Calvary worship services. Nursery care and Children’s Chapel are special options for children during worship.

2016–2017 Formation Formation classes for all ages are held August 14, 2016, through May 7, 2017, and begin at 11:15 a.m. Classes are held in the second-floor education wing (except for high school which meets on the 3rd floor). Adult classes meet in the Great Hall. An open house will be held on Sunday, August 7, where all adults can learn about adult formation offerings and parents and students can meet their teachers in their respective classrooms to learn more about their curriculum for the year.

Pre-K and Kindergarten: Godly Play in Room 201The Godly Play curriculum invites children to enter into our sacred stories through careful telling of the scripture stories, engaging story figures, and a variety of creative activities. Children are encouraged to wonder about themselves, God, and the world around them in a way that is playful and meaningful to them. Godly Play teachers encourage children to use their curiosity and imagination to experience the mystery and joy of God.

Grades 1 & 2: Godly Play: People, Prophets, and Parables in Room 203Grades 1 & 2 continue with the Godly Play curriculum and build upon stories learned in Pre-K and Kindergarten, with focus on specific people, prophets, and the parables of Jesus.

Grades 3 & 4: Bible 101 in Room 205Third grade students join fourth graders in Bible 101. Based on a two-year cycle that covers both the Old and New Testament, this class is devoted to an in-depth and age-appropriate study of the scripture. This year's focus will be on the New Testament. On Sunday, August 14, Calvary will present each 3rd grade student with a Bible for use in this class. We strongly encourage students to be present every Sunday as each lesson builds on the previous one.

Grades 5 & 6: Re:form in Room 207Re:form is a curriculum rooted in historic Christianity and the gospels which speaks to youth on their level. The three key foundations of this curriculum are encounter, engage, and respond. Animated short films frame tough theological questions that youth really ask, like “Why does God let bad things happen?” and “Why do we say The Lord’s Prayer if it feels like I’m just going through the motions?” Each student will receive an “anti-workbook” that will provide them space to unravel the lesson. Each lesson has response time led by our teachers.

Grades 7 & 8: Living Compass in Room 208Grades 9-12: Living Compass in the Third-Floor Youth RoomThe year's curriculum will be influenced by Dr. Scott Stoner's book Your Living Compass: Living Well in Thought, Word, and Deed. We will focus on four main aspects of our humanness: our heart, our soul, our strength, and our mind. Throughout the year we will look at every part of our lives (school, physical health, stress, family, friends, etc.) and see where our life compass is pointing. At what do we excel? What do we need more practice doing? How do these four aspects of our humanness intertwine to make us who we are and help us decide who we want to be? Come ready to explore yourself, your opinions, and how God works through you. The lessons will be tailored to the age/grade into which the classes are split.

High School Confirmation: My Faith, My Life in the Emison RoomThis curriculum is based on the book My Faith My Life by Jenifer Gamber. The students will learn about the Christian faith they have been baptized into and how the Episcopal Church offers a spiritual home for their faith. This class invites the confirmands to

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ask the questions: Where is my ministry? What does it look like? What are my gifts to share? How will confirmation shape my calling? This guide and class will encourage the students to mix their personal reflection with Scripture passages, lives of the saints, sacraments, prayer, ministry, and history of the church to uncover the answers. This class will meet from August 14, 2016, to January 8, 2017.

Wednesday Evenings for Children & YouthKoinonia is Calvary’s Wednesday evening program of dinner, worship, classes, and choir rehearsals, during the fall, winter, and spring.

Ages 0–5: Nursery — 5:30-7:30 p.m.Childcare for children ages 0-5 is available in the Orgill Room from 5:30 p.m. until the end of classes.

Grades 1 & 2: St. Cecilia’s Choir — 6:15-7 p.m.Jason Kindel directs the St. Cecilia Choir, the youngest choir of the parish. Using a variety of activities, he helps them learn to use their voices, teaches them hymns and other sacred songs, and guides them as they learn what it means to sing in a choir. The St. Cecilia Choir sings periodically at the 10 a.m. worship service throughout the year. Jason brings skill and expertise in working with young voices, since he works as a music educator in the public school system in Memphis. Jason is also an experienced choral singer and is one of the staff singers in the Calvary Choir. At the conclusion of rehearsal, the St. Cecilia choristers have the opportunity to join their friends in EpiscoPals until 7:30 p.m. Contact Jason Kindel for more information, [email protected] or 901-312-5212.

Grade 3 & up: Boys and Girls Choir — 6:15-7 p.m.Using the “Voice for Life” curriculum established by the Royal School of Church Music (RSCM), the Boys and Girls Choir experience is formative in many ways—musically, liturgically, and spiritually. It is as much a Christian education experience as it is a musical training experience, and provides opportunities to achieve concrete goals. Over time, choristers often become peer leaders as they progress through the program. The choir sings every other

week with the Calvary Choir, including major feast days like Easter and Christmas. In addition, the choir experience includes social events, choir collaboration, and a trip. After rehearsing with Kristin Lensch, organist-choirmaster, the choristers have an opportunity to join their friends in EpiscoPals until 7:30 p.m. Contact Organist-Choirmaster Kristin Lensch for more information, 901-312-5212, or [email protected].

Ages 0–5: EpiscoPals, Jr. — 6:30-7:30 p.m.EpiscoPals, Jr. meets in the Orgill Room nursery to listen to stories and work on craft projects, led by Nursery Coordinator Robbie Phillips.

Grades 1–5: EpiscoPals — 6:30-7:30 p.m.EpiscoPals is a fellowship group for 1st-5th graders that meets in Room 205 to play games, work on arts and crafts, read and act out stories, and generally have fun together in a Christ-centered environment. Led by Hilary Chipley and Emily Smith.

Grades 6–12: Genesis Maker Lab — 6:30-7:30 p.m.This class is designed for middle school and high school students. The purpose of GML is to mentor youth who would like to understand how things work and how to make their own ideas work, learn how to turn their ideas into reality, build courage and confidence to create, and promote fellowship. Youth will be given the opportunity to deconstruct, reconstruct, and reinvent the world around them by starting simple and moving where the Spirit takes them. Led by Kayla Bartosch.

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Many of the currents in my life that have best guided me in the ways that I most needed to go have swirled around Calvary Episcopal Church. When

my wife Sharon and I came to Memphis in 1994, Calvary was the second church we visited, and we immediately stuck here. There were many things that made us feel at home at Calvary. Certainly part of it was the warm invitation of Huey Gardner, one of our associate rectors at the time and a long-time friend of Sharon’s from Alabama. Part of it was the ready availability of warm and loving childcare in the Atrium, the incredible Maria Montessori-based Godly Play program that had our daughter Claire composing beautiful prayers as a five- and six-year-old. And part of it was then-Rector Doug Bailey’s magnetism. I will never forget the day Claire asked Doug on his first day back from heart surgery: “Why did they crucify Peter upside-down?” He sat down with her then and there and had a 15-minute conversation with her, indicating to her that there was nothing in the world at that moment more important for him to do than to have that real conversation with her.

And then there was the fabulous, welcoming choir. My mother had been an organist-choirmaster, so for me, the choir just had to be great. And then there was all the thoughtful and caring discourse followed by action to make our city a better place. For us, for a church to be a true church it had to be dedicated to service. And Calvary was and still is. Calvary is a place that seeks to accept all people and treasure all people and their gifts and put them to work for the benefit of the community. I guess what I am saying is that Calvary, from the very beginning, felt like home.

A couple of days at Calvary particularly stand out in my mind as ones when the currents of meaning and purpose running through my life and the life of Calvary seemed particularly strong. The first of those days was the first Sunday of Epiphany in the new millennium in the year 2000. The night before I had found myself unable to sleep. Over the prior week, I had been particularly distraught with the full realization that my work to improve healthcare and community health by writing research papers for academic medical journals was unlikely to make a real difference. These papers were not going to open the hearts and minds

of the American people to what really needed to be done to make healthcare right again. This hit me hard. However, in the middle of this sleepless night, after praying for guidance, I experienced an epiphany. In a moment I saw how regions like ours throughout the country could take charge of their health and healthcare resources and truly improve community health. I wrote down the essence of my vision until almost 4 a.m., and when Sharon asked a few hours later if I wanted to go to church, I woke up immediately and said, “You bet.”

We entered the church, the music started, and someone handed me a program. To my amazement, I realized it was indeed Epiphany. Before that moment, I had been oblivious at any conscious level of what Sunday it was. I am not one to follow the church calendar. However, at that moment, soon after I had just experienced the greatest epiphany of my life, I knew that it was indeed Epiphany. I will never forget how that morning everyone in the entire congregation seemed to be surrounded by golden light. The lector read from Isaiah: “A bruised reed he will not break, and a dimly burning wick he will not extinguish. In faithfulness, he will bring forth justice.” I felt a call to action. The following week I went to work with friends and colleagues, and we began what became the Common Table Health Alliance, a non-profit regional health improvement collaborative. Sixteen years later Common Table is still working to improve the health of Memphis, and I still believe it can play a vital role in helping us take charge of our health and healthcare resources in our region so that everyone in the Mid-South can find healthcare that heals.

The second of many wonderful days at Calvary that particularly stands out in my mind was Rector Chris Girata's last Sunday with us. Perhaps it was because the

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day not seeing the light of day, and the next shift was coming in through the same security through which I had to pass. I was still waiting for the background check results (about my eighth check in a few years because every time one works with children or with law enforcement of any sort, you have to have one). So I had to leave my purse in a locker, and have my photo snapped, then get an ID sticker with my photo which I needed to protect like crazy to get my driver's license identification back when I left.

Meanwhile, I had brought a bag of books for the guys, whom I had not yet gotten to know. My bag of books also had to pass through the security check. The yellowish metal walls of 201 Poplar, many doors of thick iron bars, and the echoing sounds contrasted with the friendliness of the sheriff department guards and the amazing Debra Fessenben, who oversees the youth detention group. The gentlemen I was there to visit are between the ages of 18 and 25 with a few older prisoners acting as mentors to the group living in the same pod. The youth are locked up in what is called the juvenile pod, separated from the general adult population. We walked into a giant room with cells along both sides and a two-story ceiling. There were chairs in rows, and the young men were sitting with their backs to me as we entered. Mrs. Fessenben had photocopied my old blogs about climbing to the Everest base camp, and other things, to get them revved up about having another white lady come in and try to make sense of everything and tell them not to lose hope.

A few days before this, I had been included in a group of staff members from Juvenile Court, Interim Police Director Rallings, and many sheriff department representatives for a presentation by four youth from 201 Poplar whose lives had been redirected through a program by BRIDGES. It was a new approach for BRIDGES. It was hope for these youth. And it was the most incredible two hours I have spent in years. Finally. Finally here was a solution. As Robert, Rodney, Demarcus, and Martavious told their stories, the horrific stories of their childhood, and their walk into the world of crime because there was nothing else for them in their lives, I was completely drawn in, as were we all, and knew I wanted to be a supporter of these young men. For their positive turn they

gave credit to a number of women who loved and believed in them, but no men. As we all sat there (probably about 35 adults), we looked at the situation and asked what is wrong with this picture.

No male participants. No male mentors. This lack of male role models is prevalent in mostly parentless homes or dangerous hoods. Most of the youth don’t even know their fathers, and having a parent incarcerated is one of the most violent traumas (along with abuse) a child experiences—the ACE (Adverse Child Experiences) monster that traumatizes youth in a community of poverty and racism. I was also surprised because I had know three of the boys before, either through Foster Care Review Boards or when I interviewed kids in Juvenile Court detention for the Department of Justice and Juvenile Detention Alternative Initiatives, of which I am a committee chairperson.

Mrs. Fessenben invited me to talk to the guys at 201 Poplar because I would love them. And the following Thursday there I was entering the 201 Poplar basement. After a long walk, we entered the pod. The 40 inmates were welcoming and knew quite a bit about me, which was unnerving. I hated to disappoint them. But we started a chat—me standing by a big desk, and they asking questions about all sorts of things. And we laughed and got to know each other. Time flew. Those in the BRIDGES program had earned a few special privileges. They can check out books from the “library” in a special room off to the side of the pod, and they can study there. Many were working toward a GED. Also, they were allowed to color (the new fad everywhere) and draw and paint, and their artwork was unbelievable. Mrs. Fessenben fussed at them for not signing their work. So they did. They also wrote poetry, rap songs, and essays which they shared with the group and guests.

Time flies in these kinds of environments, and sadly it was time to go before they got restless. Mrs. Fessenben was thanking me, and suddenly Demarcus stood up

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and asked if I would pray for them. I don’t always remember I am a priest. So I was stunned, being a white woman, but I quickly said, “Yes! For sure!” and I asked without getting permission if everyone could form a circle and hold hands (this was quite a big circle). It was done quietly and with great respect. And I just about burst into tears—it was like weeping without tears. I could so acutely feel the presence of Jesus, of God, of the Holy Spirit, in that place. I could feel the pain, the disappointment, the fears in that room like they were transferring to my own heart. It was amazing, and the words poured out of my soul without me even trying to do it. I truly was just a vehicle. Now God was using me to love these boys and men in such a cold and sad place. I must be his encourager. And I thanked God over and over. When we were done, we all hugged each other. And I knew for certain that this is where I must be. Finally, after so many months waiting and wondering and trying to figure out what I was to do after Foster Care Review was handed over to juvenile court staff, I was home. It was an extension of what I did for so many years in Uruguay and will be doing in my ministry when I go there three times a year.

I am also going to Jail East, where Mrs. Anderson is the angel to seven youngsters, to talk to those youth,

ages 15 to 17. All of these young boys are being tried in adult court for adult crimes. I don’t want to know their crimes—some are brutal. I want to know them, and their hearts and souls, and what happened early in life —their ACEs—that robbed them of ever being children or having a normal life. I remember in the movie The Blind Side when Mrs. Tuhoy asked Michael Oher if his mother had ever read him Ferdinand the Bull, and he said no one had ever read a book to him. She was speechless. This is the kind of hurt in so many of these guys’ lives.

Books (paperbacks), cookies, DVD movies, magazines (especially sports and men’s magazines), and drawing and coloring supplies are all needed here. Ideas for projects are welcome. We will make prayer flags soon, and the chief will allow us to hang up the flags all over the pod. I want to do a talk on financial literacy that I learned as a Grizzly mentor. But mostly, we need to find jobs for the ones who leave, transformed by the BRIDGES program. If these boys are met with rejection, a dark staircase that climbs to nowhere, then everything is lost. They must be able to find a job to support themselves, to finish their GEDs, and to find a home to live in far away from their former neighborhood. They need male mentors whom they can trust. They need to know the faith they have built up in themselves and us is not a waste of their time. It is the only way they will keep holding the hand of God.

choir sang beautifully, and wondrous light streamed through the windows, and the church was filled with joyous people giving thanks for the ministry of Chris Girata. But more than that, it was Chris’s message that moved me, for it was exactly the message we needed to hear, and it was a particularly "Calvary" type of message. He told the story of the Good Samaritan, and how we are often like the Priest or the Levite in the story—good people by all accounts but who, like most people, often find it easier to look in the other direction when they confront someone in need. But Chris said that all of us in every moment have the capacity to take action, just like the Good Samaritan did, to see the injustice, confront the evil, and help our

neighbor. Chris said something like: “We have the power. We know the shoreline—the goal of love that God has given us—and we have the power to act to make a difference.” And he explained how we could make a difference by seeing everyone as our neighbor, and to reach out to our neighbors, to help them as they help us.

And that is what keeps drawing me back to Calvary. It is a place where everyone is welcome, where people are called to action, and where that call to action is taken seriously by the whole church, to make God’s love visible in downtown Memphis.

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Vestry Update: Search process underwayby Terre Sullivant, Senior Warden

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At its July meeting, the vestry welcomed the Rev. Buddy Stallings

and embarked on the business of transition at Calvary Episcopal Church. In an effort to quickly begin the search process for a new rector, an outstanding committee of parishioners was chosen to do this important work. They are:

Bailey BethellBill CraddockBetty Jo DulaneyJames DowdHall GardnerKathryn JasperKaty LeopardGwen OwenAllison ParkerMatt SeltzerShannon TuckerGary Wilson

The vestry feels this group well represents Calvary’s congregation and that they will diligently and

prayerfully perform the duty of securing the next great leader of our church.

The vestry and search committee expect the search process to be completed by early 2017. In the meantime, it is obvious that Calvary is in excellent hands with Buddy Stallings. We are very fortunate that someone with Buddy’s experience, skill set, and demeanor was available and willing to accept the position of priest-in-charge. Thank you, Buddy!

A word about the search process: In order for the committee to work most effectively, confidentiality is extremely important. As much as we would all like to know who are being considered as candidates and what “favorites” are emerging, we must resist the urge to ask the committee members these questions. We will trust in them and the Lord to send us the right person. However, if you have a suggestion for a candidate to be considered, please pass that name to the committee.

Summer is almost over, and Calvary will soon be gearing up with new Sunday formation classes, Wednesday evening programs, and outreach opportunities. Knowing Calvary’s members and our clergy, this fall will be as vibrant as ever!

Calvary's Wish List• 100 bus passes for homeless neighbors ($3.50 each)• Vases to deliver altar flowers to parishioners on the

prayer list• 200 chap sticks• 100 mosquito repellents for homeless people• Microwave oven for staff• $500 for a month of Community Breakfasts

• Big-ticket items for Lobsterpalooza live auction that will raise money for Work Local (think time at vacation homes or dinner parties)

• 50 coupons to Memphis Union Mission ($300) for homeless neighbors

• Month of cleaning tablecloths ($200)• Month of utilities for Calvary ($10,000)

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Saints DepartedPaul Glendon Campbell, great uncle of Chris Wiley

Peggy DiScenza, mother of Tim DiScenzaBridget Farris, friend of Robyn Banks

Terry Fox, foster-daughter of Novella Smith ArnoldSusan Gordon, friend of Lee Duncan and Cathy Awsumb

John Grice, father of Nina GriceHarry Rush Gunther, brother of Dorothy Gunther Pugh

Riley Higgins, friend of the Martin family

Rosalind Kallaher, mother-in-law of Debbie KallaherBetty Crump Pidgeon McGeorge

Brook Neal, friend of Michelle WrenAdam Vassar Smith, nephew of Beecher Smith

David Allen Stearns Addison Stone, cousin of Rhoda Smith

Sonny Vaughn, friend of Debbie KallaherBr. Dunstan Walton, SSF, friend of Neil Raman

August 7 Sunday Founders' Day & Open HouseOn Sunday, August 7, we will celebrate Calvary’s birthday with a cupcake reception in the Great Hall following the 10 a.m. worship service. Bring a half-dozen cupcakes to share! Children and Youth Ministries also will host a formation open house following the 10 a.m. worship service. Students and parents will have an opportunity to explore their classroom and meet their teachers.

August 14 SundayPriest-in-Charge ForumThe Rev. Buddy Stallings, our new priest-in-charge, will be the guest speaker in the adult formation offering on Sunday morning. This will be a chance to get to know a bit more about Buddy—his past and present, his theology, his thoughts about the church, and his hopes and dreams for Calvary as he is coming to know and love it.

Emmanuel Center Book Drive BeginsBring new or used books to the wagon on the stage in the Great Hall from Aug. 14 to Sept. 11. The Emmanuel Center educates and empowers at-risk youth and adults through Christian ministry so that they are elevated out of poverty to become productive citizens. We need: children's books, children's magazines, coloring books, adult fiction, adult nonfiction, airport reads, paperbacks, and magazines focused on diversity.

August 21 SundaySearch Committee UpdateThe Rector Search Committee will give an initial report on its plans, procedures, and timeline. They also will answer questions and receive input from the congregation. This forum will take place in the Great Hall after the 10 a.m worship service.

August 31 WednesdayBratfestWelcome back to Wednesday nights at Calvary! Come from 5:30 to 7:30 p.m. and enjoy a festive dinner of brats, local beer, and all the fixin’s in the Great Hall. Hot dogs and root beer will be available for the kids. $7/adults, $3/children 12 & under; $20/family max

September 2-4 Friday - SundayHappening #60Happening is a renewal weekend for Episcopal youth in grades 10-12. Teens lead all the activities, including small group discussion, large group activities, and singing. The environment is open and honest, as the adults present serve in the background roles of cooks and chaperones. Contact Kayla Bartosch, [email protected] for more information.

September 4 SundaySundae SundayCome to the Great Hall after the 10 a.m. worship service for fellowship and an ice cream bar with every topping you can imagine!

October 23 SundayScarborough FairScarborough Fair is a mash-up between a cook-off and a tea party that celebrates Thistle & Bee Enterprises, a business benefiting survivors of the commercial sex trade and trafficking. The event is free and all are welcome. There will be a teddy bear tea for children. Visit thistleandbee.org to register your entry.

October 26 WednesdayTrunk or Treat and Monster MashChildren of all ages are welcome at this year's Halloween Trunk or Treat! Festivities will begin at 6 p.m. in the Calvary parking lot. Stay afterward for a Monster Mash party in the Great Hall at 7 p.m. Admission is one can of food or one dollar to benefit the First Congo Food Pantry. If you would like to sponsor a trunk, please contact Hilary Chipley at 901-312-5203 or hchipley@ calvarymemphis.org. Best Trunk in the Lot Award will be awarded to the best decorated vehicle!

October 28 FridayChanticleerFriends of Music at Calvary will host Chanticleer, the male choir known around the world as “an orchestra of voices" in concert. A reception will follow in the Great Hall. Tickets will go on sale on Monday, August 1.

Wedding BellsMary Lawrence Carruthers & Matt Childs on June 11, 2016

Samantha Shorter & Colin Vickrey on June 25, 2016Margaret Watford & Garrott McClintock on July 9, 2016

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1. Members of the Boys and Girls Choir and the St. Cecilia Choir led a wonderful Evensong to end our Koinonia season on Wednesday, May 11. 2. The altar flowers on Mother's Day were made in honor of mothers everywhere by our children in the Wednesday evening EpiscoPals program. 3. Calvary welcomed our new curate, the Rev. Neil Raman, on Sunday, May 29. He is pictured with his fiancé , Elizabeth Gassler, and the Rev. Chris Girata. 4. Calvary clergy celebrated Seersucker Sunday on June 19 by wearing seersucker stoles.

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