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Healthy College HabitsCounseling Department
Definition of Wellness
• Wellness is a mindful evolution of the self through self awareness and transcendence of personal obstacles to growth.
College Wellness Wheel
Mental
Social
Physical
School/ Work
Financial
Family
Spiritual
Wellness is About Mindful Relationships
You
Physical
Family
Financial
School/work
Spiritual
Mental
Social
Get Involved
Physically Well People…
Consume various nutrient rich foods.
Awareness of emotional need vs actual need for food.
Get enough sleep.
Exercise at least 3 to 5 times a week, 20-30 min per session.
Have healthy relationships with alcohol.
Don’t Smoke.
Socially Well People…
• Have a network of friendships based on interdependence vs codependence.
• Have good boundaries.
• Express their needs to others.
• Attend Safe Parties.
• Practice Humility.
• Place themselves in the service of others.
Financially Well People…
• Obtain and maintain resources for self and others.
• Create budgets and live by them.
• Know the difference between emotional spending vs need spending.
Spiritually Well People…
• Seek meaning in human existence.
• Embrace their humanity.
• Are mindful of their values.
• Frequently get in touch with their capacity to love.
• Accept the sacredness of everything.
• Foster a sense of awe in the everyday.
• Connect with higher powers.
Mentally well people…
• Accept that stress is part of being alive.
• Take care of physical health.
• Keep their problems in the right perspective.
• They choose healthy coping skills.
• Balance social activity with solitude.
• They acknowledge their choices.
• They look for the silver lining.
Academically well people…
• “I don’t know”.
• Admit mistakes.
• Show up for class.
• Are mindful of their study needs.
• Organized.
• Read the syllabus.
• Do the homework.
• Use resources.
• Never give up.
Learning Style
• Auditory-you get a lot of information from listening.
• Tactile-You learn by doing and touching.
• Visual-You hold information in your brain visually.
• Social Style-You learn by engaging others.
• Logical-You like the process of reasoning .
• Solitary style-You learn best when you are by yourself.
Family and Wellness
• Healthy boundaries
• Family dynamics
• Homesick
Rites of Passage
Separation
Initiation
Return
Substances and Relationships
Alcohol/
Drugs
Physical
Mental
Social
AcademicFamily
Financial
Spiritual
What Are Values?• Achievement
AdvancementAdventureAffectionCompetitivenessCooperationCreativityEconomic SecurityFameFamily HappinessFreedomFriendshipHealthHelpfulness
• Inner HarmonyIntegrityInvolvementLoyaltyOrderPersonal DevelopmentPleasurePowerRecognitionResponsibilitySelf-respectSpiritualityWealthWisdom
On the way to valued living
2 Cavemen
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Caveman#1
Runs Like Crazy
Daughter
Daughter
Son
Caveman #2
Happy Tiger!
Survive
RunRun
Run
RunStay With
Unknown
Being Present With the Unknown
OR
You and Stress
4.0GPA
Unknown
Fight FlightFreeze
Suffering
Value Reality Fear Outcome
Stay With the Unknown
4.0GPA
Unknown Acceptance
Personal
Growth
Personal Values and College Life
Title IX-Changing College Culture
Being a Bystander
• Alan Berkowitz, Ph.D.
• Social Influence “Everyone else is doing it.”
• Fear Embarrassment “Ill look stupid if I do something.”
• Diffusion of Responsibility “Someone else will do something.”
• Fear of Retaliation “Ill be next if I say anything.”
• Pluralistic Ignorance “I'm the only one that thinks this is wrong.”
Psychology of Offenders
• False Consensus “Everyone thinks like me.”
Examples-
• “Everyone drinks as much as me.”
• “Most guys would take advantage of a girl who drank too much at a party if they had the opportunity.”
Develop Your Inner Voice
Women should be safe from
sexual assault
Its about to happen
at the party I'm
attending.
I'm afraid of the
backlash, if I do
something.
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Ways to Intervene in the Moment• Name or acknowledge an offense
• Point to the "elephant in the room"
• Interrupt the behavior
• Publicly support an aggrieved person
• Use body language to show disapproval
• Use humor (with care)
• Encourage dialogue
• Help calm strong feelings
• Call for help
Ways to Intervene After the Fact
• Privately support an upset person
• Talk privately with the inappropriate actor
• Report the incident, with or without names
Counseling Department
• Megan Reader-Schopp, Counselor/ ADA 394-6988 or 394-2416
• Jeremy Kendall, Counselor 394-1924 or 394-2416
• Nancy Sprynczynatyk, Counselor 394-2533 or 394-2416
“If I were dropped out of a plane into the ocean and told the nearest land was a thousand miles away, I'd still swim. And I'd despise the one who gave up.” Abraham Maslow