Hadith Session 4 – Part 2Ramzan Shahid

Surah Hujaraat (49), Ayat 12“O you who believe! Avoid much

suspicion (assumptions). Indeed some assumptions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it, and fear Allah. Verily Allah is the one who forgives and accepts repentance, most merciful.”

Making AssumptionsNever make a bad assumption

about another personAlways give them the benefit of

the doubtExample

◦Didn’t see a brother in the masjid for prayer

◦We assume he must have missed skipped prayer

◦Instead we should give benefit of the doubt – he probably prayed at another masjid

Judging Others/CriticizingBeing able to complain and

criticize is human natureWe all have this in us, we cannot

get rid of itWhat we need to do is channel it

in the right direction

Criticizing OthersChannel complaints and criticism

away from other people and towards our own selves

We are always complaining about our circumstance, our situation, our interactions with other people

Criticizing OthersWe should criticize/critique

ourselves insteadProphet Yousuf’s dua, indeed I

have wronged myselfI have not worshipped Allah the

way He deserves to be worshipped

I have not thanked Allah the way He deserves to be thanked

ComplainingIt is easy to complain about

everything around usIt is hard to direct those

complaints against us.In reality we have no reason to

complain◦Need to make more money, nicer

car, bigger house◦My internet connection is slow, my

food had too much salt, my xbox is not working

◦I don’t have good reception on my cell phone

ComplainingSo many people around the world

are suffering and here we are complaining of our insignificant things

Complaining means you are not thankful for what Allah has given you

ComplainingIf we have some complaint, it

should be about our inability to be who we should be as a Muslim

Inability to reach a level a worship worthy of being presented to the most perfect Being

Being PositiveAlways pick out the positive in a

personNever pick out their faults

HadithA companion asked who is better,

me or Hadrat Abu Bakr, Hadrat Umar

The companion asked this because the Prophet always made him feel special, Prophet treated him that way, always found the positive in him

Being PositiveWe want Allah to deal with us

positively on the Day of Judgment.

We want Him to find the positive in us

We want him to find a positive deed (even though we have so little of them and they are hard to find)

We want this deed to be an excuse for forgiveness and be put into Heaven due to this deed

Being PositiveIf we desire to be dealt with in

this positive manner on the Day of Judgment, then we must deal with others in a positive way first in this world.

We must find the positive in others

We must not look for faults in others, otherwise Allah will find faults in us on the Day of Judgment

Being PositiveWe have a tendency to look for

faults in others, look for the negative in them

We see the 20 things that are bad in them on overlook the one good thing in them.

Instead we should overlook the 20 bad things and focus on the one good thing

Being PositivePeople will be attracted to you if

you always positive and find the positive in every situation and every person

Best way to do DawahPeople will follow you, respect

you, want to be with you, want to spend time with you

Hadith“A Mu’min is one who is sociable

with others. There is no good in one who is not sociable with others nor in one who is not met sociably with them.”

Correcting Others with Kindness

A man came to Madinah from the desert, and he did not know that it is forbidden to speak during the salaah. He said: “Whilst I was praying behind the Messenger of Allah (SAW), a man sneezed, so I said ‘Yarhamuk Allaah (may Allaah have mercy on you).’

Correcting Others with Kindness

The people glared at me, so I said, ‘May my mother lose me! What is wrong with you that you are looking at me?’ They began to slap their thighs with their hands, and when I saw that they were indicating that I should be quiet, I stopped talking.

Correcting Others with Kindness

When the Messenger of Allah (SAW) had finished praying – I have never seen a better teacher than him before or since – he did not rebuke me or hit me or put me to shame. He just said, ‘This prayer should contain nothing of the speech of men; it is only tasbeeh and takbeer and recitation of the Qur’aan.’”

Correcting Others with Kindness

God’s messenger was sitting in the mosque with some of his companions when a Bedouin urinated inside the mosque. The Prophet’s companions said: ‘What is going on?’ ‘What are you doing?’ The Prophet said to them: ‘Do not interrupt him.’

Correcting Others with Kindness

He subsequently called the man and said to him: ‘These mosques are not the place where one can throw any dirt, urine or stools. They are meant for reciting the Qur’an, glorifying God and prayer.’ He then called for a bucket of water and he poured it over the urine.”