Habit #4

Think Win-WinStandard: Envision a future that is productive, achievable and stimulating; develop

communication and interpersonal skills

Objectives:

1. Students will record the four different types of attitudes a person can have

related to Habit #4 in a chart.

2. Students will dramatize the four different types of attitudes a person can have

related to Habit #4 in front of the class.

3. Students will discuss the consequences and rewards of each type of attitude with

a seat partner.

4. In a complete paragraph, students will give three examples that support the

argument that Habit #4 Think Win-Win will help them improve their

relationships with others.

Journal

What is it like to be in a relationship with

you? If you had to rate how well you’re

doing in your most important relationships,

how would you score?

How are your relationships with… Lousy------------Excellent

Your friends? 1 2 3 4 5

Your siblings? 1 2 3 4 5

Your parents or guardian? 1 2 3 4 5

Your girlfriend or boyfriend? 1 2 3 4 5

Your teachers? 1 2 3 4 5

Habit #4

Think Win-Win

“Life is an all-you-can-eat buffet.”

What it is NOT

The best way to explore Habit #4 Think Win-Win is

to see what Win-Win is not. It is NOT:

1. Win-Lose

2. Lose-Win

3. Lose-Lose

These are all poor attitudes.

Let’s take a look at each one….

Poor Attitude

#1 Win-Lose

• It’s the belief that in order for me to “win”, you

have to “lose”. People with this attitude usually:

– Use other people for their own selfish purposes

– Try to get ahead at the expense of others

– Spread rumors about someone else

– Focus on getting their way

– Become jealous & envious when something good

happens to someone else

• Examples?

• I need a girl and a boy volunteer

Win-Lose Scenario

Mike: “Mom, there’s a big game tonight and I nee to take the car.”

Mom: “I’m sorry, Mike, but I need to get groceries tonight. Your friends will

have to pick you up.”

Mike: “But Mom. My friends always have to pick me up. It’s embarrassing.”

Mom: “Listen, you’ve been complaining about not having any food in the house

for a week. This is the only time I have to get groceries. I’m sorry.”

Mike: “You’re not sorry. If you were sorry, you’d let me take the car. You’re so

unfair.”

Mom: “All right. All right. Take the car. But don’t come complaining to me

when there’s nothing to eat tomorrow.”

Discussion

1. Who won? Who lost?

2. Did Mike really win? How does his mom feel?

3. What negative feeling might Mike feel about

himself in this situation?

4. What’s Mom going to do the next time she has

a chance to get even with Mike?

Poor Attitude #2

Lose-Win

• It’s the belief that I will “lose” so that you may “win”. People

with this attitude usually:

– Set low expectations for themselves

– Have low self-esteem and don’t consider themselves

worthy or good enough

– Compromise their standards

– Give in to peer pressure

– Allow themselves to be walked on with the excuse of

being the “peacemaker”

• Examples?

• I need 4 girl volunteers

Lose-Win ScenarioNarrator: Two friends are sitting together at lunch waiting for the third friend to

arrive.

Brianna: Hey, Sydney. Did you see Kristin’s hair today?

Sydney: No, I haven’t seen her at all today. Did she finally decide to cut it? She

showed me some pics on Pinterest that she thought were cute.

Brianna: Oh, she cut it alright….It… Looks… Awful!!

Sydney: Bri, that’s kind of harsh don’t you think? It’s pretty brave of her to try

something new.

Brianna: Seriously, Syd. Who does she think she is? Some hot super model? She can’t

pull off that kind of look. Come here, I have a pic of her.

Narrator: Brianna shows Sydney a pic of Kristin with her new haircut. Just then, the

third friend, Gina, shows up.

Gina: Hey girls! Whatcha looking at?

Brianna: A picture of Kristen.

Sydney: She cut her hair…..It…..Looks….Awful! She must think she’s all that to try

and pull off that look, don’t you think?

Discussion

1. Who lost? Who won?

2. What negative feelings might Sydney have

towards herself after this situation?

3. Why is Lose-Win thinking just as dangerous as

Win-Lose thinking?

Poor Attitude #3

Lose-Lose

• It’s the belief that if I’m going to “lose”, you are

“losing” too. People with this attitude usually:

– Seek revenge

– Want to win at all costs

– Are obsessed with others in a negative way

– Have codependent and emotionally damaging

relationships

• Examples?

• I need a boy and a girl volunteer

Lose-Lose Scenario

Doug: Amy, who was that guy you were talking to just now?

Amy: Oh, that was Brian. He’s just a good friend I grew up with.

Doug: I don’t want you hangin’ out with that guy.

Amy: Doug, he’s just a friend I’ve known for a long time. We went to elementary

school together.

Doug: I don’t care how long you’ve known him. You shouldn’t be so friendly to

him.

Amy: It’s no big deal. He’s having some problems and just needs someone to talk

to.

Doug: Are you committed to me or not?

Amy: Okay Doug. If that’s what you want, I won’t talk to him anymore.

Discussion

1. Why did Doug and Amy respond this way?

2. How did Doug’s Lose-Lose thinking affect

Amy?

3. How will Amy’s Lose-Lose thinking affect her

friendship with Brian?

The Attitude to Have:

Think Win-Win

• It’s the belief that if I can win, so can you.

People with this attitude usually:

– Are happy when others succeed

– Help others succeed

– Are willing to share recognition with others

– See life as an all-you-can-eat buffet for everybody

• Examples?

• I need two boy volunteers

Win-Win ScenarioNarrator: Sean and Chris are twin brothers and are hanging out at home after school. They

are waiting for their college acceptance letters to arrive. Sean goes and gets the mail.

Sean: Chris, there are two letters here from Cal State Long Beach.

Chris: Really? Let’s see ‘em.

Narrator: Both brothers open their letters

Sean: YESSS! I got accepted!!! What about you Chris?

Chris: No, I didn’t.

Narrator: Inside, Chris is feeling terrible about his own situation.

Sean: Bro, I’m really sorry.

Chris: Yeah, I’m disappointed…..But you know, this is awesome for you. I’m genuinely

happy for you. We should celebrate your great news.

Sean: Thanks for saying that.

Discussion

1. What benefits will both Chris and Sean enjoy

from practicing Win-Win thinking?

2. How is this type of thinking contagious?

Think Win-Win

• It’s an attitude towards life

• It’s a mental frame of mind that says:

– “I can win, and so can you.”

– “It’s not me or you, it’s both of us.”

• It’s the foundation for getting along well with

other people.

• It’s the belief that no one is inferior or superior

to anyone else.

Exit Ticket

In a complete paragraph, give three examples that

support the argument that Habit #4 Think Win-

Win will help you improve your relationships

with others.

Habit #4

Think Win-WinDay Two

Standard: Envision a future that is productive, achievable and stimulating; develop

communication and interpersonal skills

Objectives:

1. Students will apply Win-Win thinking to rewrite one poor attitude scenario from

yesterday’s lesson with one partner.

2. Students will analyze their own ability to use Win-Win thinking by completing 5

sentence stems.

3. After watching a TV show or movie, students will examine the use of both a

poor attitude and Win-Win attitude by characters in the story.

Apply Win-Win Thinking

• Choose ONE of the poor attitude scenarios to

rewrite and apply Win-Win thinking.

1. Win-lose

2. Lose-Win

3. Lose-Lose

Apply Win-Win Thinking

Complete the following statements about yourself.

1. It is hardest for me to Think Win-Win when:

2. It is easiest for me to Think Win-Win when:

3. A situation in which I had a Win-Win attitude

was (describe the situation):

4. When I practice Win-Win thinking, I enjoy the

following benefits:

5. Five ways I can apply Win-Win thinking in my

relationships are:

HomeworkWatch a TV show or movie that will allow you to answer the questions

below:

1. Name one “poor attitude” example you identified in the show

(Win-Lose, Lose-Win or Lose-Lose)

2. Briefly describe the situation.

3. How did “poor attitude” affect the other characters or situation?

4. Was the “poor attitude” turned into Win-Win? Why or why not?

And if so, how?

5. Create your own Win-Win thinking alternative that could have been

used on the TV show.