four worlds of existence and their paradoxes
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A simple introduction to the idea of four worlds of existence and the paradoxes and tensions we have to manage on each dimension. Copyright Emmy van Deurzen.TRANSCRIPT
Four worlds of existence and their Four worlds of existence and their paradoxesparadoxes
Emmy van Deurzen Emmy van Deurzen
Emmy van DeurzenEmmy van Deurzenbrief CVbrief CV
Philosopher: Philosopher: Masters in 1974, Montpellier, FranceMasters in 1974, Montpellier, France Doctorate in 2000, City Uni, London UKDoctorate in 2000, City Uni, London UK
Psychotherapist: Psychotherapist: trained from 1973-1977, Saint-Alban, Agen, Bordeaux, Esalen, trained from 1973-1977, Saint-Alban, Agen, Bordeaux, Esalen,
London (Lacanian, psychodrama, group/community therapy)London (Lacanian, psychodrama, group/community therapy)
Clinical psychologist:Clinical psychologist: Masters Bordeaux Uni, France 1977Masters Bordeaux Uni, France 1977
Lecturer andTrainer Lecturer andTrainer since 1977, Arbours, South West London College, since 1977, Arbours, South West London College, Antioch Uni, Regent’s College, City Uni, Schiller Uni, Sheffield Uni, New School of Antioch Uni, Regent’s College, City Uni, Schiller Uni, Sheffield Uni, New School of Psychotherapy and Counselling, Middlesex Uni.Psychotherapy and Counselling, Middlesex Uni.
Course director and manager since 1982Course director and manager since 1982
Author of 13 BooksAuthor of 13 Books
Book Book on Happiness on Happiness
best intro to these ideasbest intro to these ideas
Onto-dynamics: living wiselyOnto-dynamics: living wisely
Learning to live in line with the laws of life. Learning to live in line with the laws of life. Paradox, conflict, difficulty and dilemmas are our Paradox, conflict, difficulty and dilemmas are our
daily companions. daily companions. With a crisis thrown in here and there.With a crisis thrown in here and there. The way you respond depends a lot on the The way you respond depends a lot on the
worldview and strength you build up for yourself worldview and strength you build up for yourself Your courage and flexibility will increase with Your courage and flexibility will increase with
practice as you gain greater perspective and depth practice as you gain greater perspective and depth on the challenges of livingon the challenges of living
We learn to make sense of life by We learn to make sense of life by learning about oppositeslearning about opposites
Life always has both positives Life always has both positives and negatives at all levels: and negatives at all levels:
life=tensionlife=tension
Life is about positives and negativesLife is about positives and negativesWe can’t have the good, unless we tackle the bad We can’t have the good, unless we tackle the bad
The paradox of life is that only as we face one side of life will The paradox of life is that only as we face one side of life will the other work for us. Opposites work in tandem. the other work for us. Opposites work in tandem.
Only to the extent that Only to the extent that we accept polarities, we accept polarities, conflicts and conflicts and contradictions do we contradictions do we learn to live with truth learn to live with truth
Onto-dynamics rather Onto-dynamics rather than psycho-dynamics:than psycho-dynamics:
Life is tension Life is tension between oppositesbetween opposites
Energy is the flow between two Energy is the flow between two polespoles
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DialecticsDialectics
Thesis, antithesis, synthesis.Thesis, antithesis, synthesis. Human evolution proceeds with Human evolution proceeds with
constant conflict and forward constant conflict and forward movement in overcoming a previous movement in overcoming a previous state. state.
Paradoxes and dilemmasParadoxes and dilemmas can be integrated can be integrated and gone beyond. and gone beyond.
Transcendence
Thesis Antithesis
Synthesis
DialecticsDialectics
future
Thesis: my view(past )
Antithesis: your view(present)
Dialectics: Dialectics: transcendence in spacetranscendence in space
Synthesis:a wider view
Socrates: the unreflected life is not worth living. Socrates: the unreflected life is not worth living. The good life is passionately lived.The good life is passionately lived.
What does it mean to live well?What does it mean to live well?
Life as hero’s journeyLife as hero’s journey
The challenge: travelling far, braving danger The challenge: travelling far, braving danger in order to save the world. in order to save the world.
Have an adventure, then return to safety: home Have an adventure, then return to safety: home coming, using our compass.coming, using our compass.
Our life is like a riverOur life is like a river
We wind our own way down the road of lifeWe wind our own way down the road of life When it flows steadily that feels goodWhen it flows steadily that feels good Set patterns are like sediment in the river that Set patterns are like sediment in the river that
make us stagnatemake us stagnate Get back into the flow of life Get back into the flow of life
Tight fit:Tight fit:
Sometimes life is plain sailing, but we may Sometimes life is plain sailing, but we may have to navigate between a rock and a hard have to navigate between a rock and a hard place.. place..
Being Captain of your ShipBeing Captain of your Ship
Finding our way through our life with Finding our way through our life with deliberationdeliberation
Connecting to the wave and tidesConnecting to the wave and tides
Until I saw the sea Until I saw the sea I did not know I did not know that wind that wind could wrinkle water so could wrinkle water so
I never knew I never knew that sun that sun could splinter a whole sea of blue could splinter a whole sea of blue
nor nor did I know before, did I know before, a sea breathes in and out a sea breathes in and out upon a shore upon a shore
by Lilian Mooreby Lilian Moore
Facing anxietyFacing anxiety
The energy of lifeThe energy of life
And energy can be used or can And energy can be used or can overwhelm youoverwhelm you
To live is to be anxiousTo live is to be anxious
Until we dieUntil we die Because we dieBecause we die Because we were bornBecause we were born We have to learn to stand up and be counted; to ek-We have to learn to stand up and be counted; to ek-
sist in past, present and futuresist in past, present and future
Seasons and cycles of lifeSeasons and cycles of life We are bornWe are born We live, love, workWe live, love, work Then we dieThen we die
Our life is Our life is in fluxin flux
Things constantlyThings constantly
change and so do wechange and so do we Circle of life goes onCircle of life goes on We cannot stop it We cannot stop it We have to go with the flowWe have to go with the flow
Our lives are like the seasons or the birth of Our lives are like the seasons or the birth of day and night. day and night.
Watching life go byWatching life go byWe can be:We can be:
observers observers participants participants
creatures creatures or creators or creators
active active reactive reactive
pro-active pro-active passivepassive
Time streams like sand through Time streams like sand through an hourglass: we are timean hourglass: we are time
The ec-stasies of time:The ec-stasies of time: 1.past1.past
2.present2.present 3.future3.future
4 eternity4 eternity
Passionate engagement is like Passionate engagement is like fire: it eats time. fire: it eats time.
Time is fast when I am at one with the world Time is fast when I am at one with the world and give myself over to being and give myself over to being
Engagement is vitalEngagement is vital Being alive: claiming your life Being alive: claiming your life
We need an image of what life is forWe need an image of what life is for
Life has to be remembered Life has to be remembered backwards but it has to be lived backwards but it has to be lived forwards forwards
Kierkegaard.Kierkegaard.
Different perspectivesDifferent perspectives
Depending on where we stand light refracts Depending on where we stand light refracts differently through the prism of life.differently through the prism of life.
Existential Space Existential Space
Physical space
Social space
Personal space
Spiritual space
Your own little sphere of Your own little sphere of existence mattersexistence matters
Imagine a person like a sphereImagine a person like a sphere
That person is located in a universe That person is located in a universe with other planets, stars, suns, with other planets, stars, suns,
moons and spheresmoons and spheres
Sphere as a planet or a cell: micro or Sphere as a planet or a cell: micro or macro level. macro level.
If a cell: connection with other cells, If a cell: connection with other cells, function and internal constitution function and internal constitution
are paramountare paramount
If planet: orbit and position If planet: orbit and position mattermatter
Merleau Ponty: Visible and InvisibleMerleau Ponty: Visible and Invisible
Things are structures – frameworks – the stars of our Things are structures – frameworks – the stars of our life: they gravitate around us. Yet there is a secret life: they gravitate around us. Yet there is a secret bond between bond between
us and them – us and them –
through perception through perception
we enter into the we enter into the
essence of the fleshessence of the flesh
(Visible and Invisible: 220)(Visible and Invisible: 220)
You experience yourself as having a You experience yourself as having a nucleus: a core, a heart or a soulnucleus: a core, a heart or a soul
Perhaps we are more like suns, Perhaps we are more like suns, generating heat and lightgenerating heat and light
Solar anatomy Solar anatomy
Layers of the sunLayers of the sun
Corona, chromosphere, photosphere, Corona, chromosphere, photosphere, convection zone, and core. convection zone, and core.
Layers of a person’s life.Layers of a person’s life.
4.Physical: Umwelt
3.Social: Mitwelt
2.Personal: Eigenwelt
1.Spiritual: Uberwelt
Spiritual:Good/Evil
Intuitions, values, beliefs, purpose, meaning.Worldview/Ideas.
Personal:Strength/Weakness
Thoughts, memories, identity, freedom.Selfhood/Me.
Social:Love/Hate
Feelings, relations, belonging, acknowledgement.Communication/Others.
Physical:
Life/DeathSensations, actions, environment, body, things.
Survival/World.
Dimensions of existenceDimensions of existence
Paradoxes of human existenceParadoxes of human existence
Conflicts and dilemmas Conflicts and dilemmas are essentialare essential
Conflicts are the core of existence.Conflicts are the core of existence. Things and people oppose each other.Things and people oppose each other. Conflict can either destroy you or deepen you. Conflict can either destroy you or deepen you. Relationships are about tension: fission or Relationships are about tension: fission or
fusion. fusion. Most conflicts are not just with others but with Most conflicts are not just with others but with
the world, with beliefs and with ourselves.the world, with beliefs and with ourselves. Conflict does not have to lead to combat.Conflict does not have to lead to combat.
Marcus AureliusMarcus Aurelius
It is not death that a man should fear, but he It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to liveshould fear never beginning to live
The paradox is that death, troubles, labour, The paradox is that death, troubles, labour, failures, pain and sorrow are unavoidable and failures, pain and sorrow are unavoidable and necessarynecessary
They are the things that wake you up to They are the things that wake you up to awareness and that open you to lifeawareness and that open you to life
Things to rememberThings to remember We learn in context and with othersWe learn in context and with others To build a true learning community we need to come close to To build a true learning community we need to come close to
people in mutual respectpeople in mutual respect And by addressing the life issues that really matter to usAnd by addressing the life issues that really matter to us Suffering and fears are the sacred fires that make us human Suffering and fears are the sacred fires that make us human
and bring us to lifeand bring us to life It is up to us to show how these can burn safely and not It is up to us to show how these can burn safely and not
destroydestroy In order to transform and transcend them we have to make In order to transform and transcend them we have to make
human understanding central to all we do. human understanding central to all we do.
Meaning and PurposeMeaning and Purpose Find out what is meaningful to you. Find out what is meaningful to you. Find out what your purpose in life is.Find out what your purpose in life is. Work for it in truth and with dedication.Work for it in truth and with dedication. Come what may..Come what may..
DESIRES FEARS VALUES
PHYSICAL life death vitality
SOCIAL love hate reciprocity
PERSONAL identity freedom integrity
SPIRITUAL good evil transparency
Human values rediscovered.Human values rediscovered.
Four dimensions and resilienceFour dimensions and resilience
Physical: how do we manage our physical Physical: how do we manage our physical space?space?
Social: how do we relate to other people?Social: how do we relate to other people? Personal: how do we define ourselves?Personal: how do we define ourselves? Spiritual: what are the values we adhere to?Spiritual: what are the values we adhere to?
Spiritual:Integrate what has happened in world view
Improve rather than give up values, beliefs, purpose, meaning.Stick with what is true.
Personal:Allow the event to strengthen your character
Express thoughts and memories. Regain a sense of freedom in relation to adversity.Learn to yield as well as be resolute.
Social:Seek to go beyond hateful and destructive relations by isolation and avoidance till
Reconciliation is possible. Seek belonging with like minded allies.Communicate your emotions without reproach, resentment, bitterness.
Physical:
Seek safety when under threat. Trust and heed sensations of stress. Find natural environment that can soothe as
well as expand your horizons.
OVERCOMING TRAUMAOVERCOMING TRAUMA
UmweltUmwelt MitweltMitwelt EigenweltEigenwelt UberweltUberwelt
PhysicalPhysicalsurvivalsurvival
NatureNature ThingsThings BodyBody CosmosCosmos
SocialSocialaffiliationaffiliation
PublicPublic OthersOthers EgoEgo CultureCulture
PersonalPersonalidentityidentity
PrivatePrivate MeMe SelfSelf ConsciousnessConsciousness
SpiritualSpiritualmeaningmeaning
Sacred Sacred GodGod SoulSoul TranscendenceTranscendence
Different dimensions of the four spheres Different dimensions of the four spheres of existenceof existence
Reclaiming your spaceReclaiming your space
Finding fluidity, peace Finding fluidity, peace
freedom and purpose. freedom and purpose.
Websites.Websites.
www.existentialpsychotherapy.netwww.dilemmas.orgwww.nspc.org.ukwww.septimus.infowww.psychotherapytraining.netwww.emmyvandeurzen.comFacebook/LinkedIn: Existential Therapy