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Forgiveness Methods
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Five steps for granting the gift of forgiveness (R. Klimes)
A. Acknowledge the anger and hurt caused by the clearly identied specic oenses.
B. Bar revenge and any thought of inicting harm as repayment or punishment to the oender.
C. Consider the oender's perspective. Try to understand his/her attitude and behaviour.
D. Decide to accept the hurt without unloading it on the oender. Passing it back and forth magnies it.
E. Extend compassion and good will to the oender. That releases the oended from the oense.
Four stages of forgiveness (Enright & Fitzgibbons)
1. UncoveringGaining insight into whether, and how, the injustice and subsequent injury havecompromised his or her life. Confronting anger and shame. Becoming aware ofpotential emotional exhaustion. Becoming aware of cognitive preoccupation.Confronting the possibility that the transgression could lead to permanent changefor them. Discovering how the transgression changed their view of the world.
2. DecisionGaining an accurate understanding of what forgiveness is, and making a decisionto commit to forgiving on the basis of this understanding
3. WorkGaining a deeper understanding of the oender and beginning to view the oenderin a new light (reframing), resulting in positive change in aect about the oender,about the self, and about the relationship. Showing empathy and compassion.Bearing the pain. Giving the moral gift of forgiveness.
4. DeepeningFinding meaning in the suering (post-suering growth). Consideration of timeswhen we have needed others forgiveness. Knowing that were not alone. Becomingaware that forgiveness allows us to feel more connected with others and to experiencedecreased negative emotion