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Week 19. Biblical Parenting … provoke not your children to wrath …. Ephesians 6:4. Faith Baptist Church of Palm Bay. Biblical Counseling Basics 2012 - 2013. Biblical Counseling Basics Set #3 MARCH / MAY 2013. 3/27/2013 – Biblical Principles of Sex - PowerPoint PPT Presentation

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Ephesians 6:4

Biblical Parenting… provoke not your children to wrath …

Week 19

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Biblical Counseling

Basics2012 - 2013

Faith Baptist Church of Palm Bay

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Biblical Counseling Basics Set #3

MARCH / MAY 2013

17.3/27/2013 – Biblical Principles of Sex18.4/3/2013 –Comparing Counsel Philosophies19.4/17/2013 - Parenting: Do not provoke Anger20.4/24/2013 – … But Bring Them Up …21.5/1/2013 – … In the Discipline of the Lord …22.5/8/2013 – … In the Instruction of the Lord23.5/15/2013 – Guilt and Repentance24.5/22/2013 – Worry and Fear

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Biblical Parenting Introduction

Week 19

1. The challenges of parenting in today's culture (2 Timothy 3:1-5a)

Parenting 1

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2 Timothy 3:1-51 - This know also, that in the last days

perilous times shall come. 2 - For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous,

boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,

Parenting 1

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2 Timothy 3:1-53 - Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false

accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 4 - Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of

pleasures more than lovers of God; 5 - Having a form of godliness, but denying the power

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Introduction

Week 19

1. The challenges of parenting in today's culture (2 Timothy 3:1-5a)

2. Encouragement for parents (2 Timothy 3: 14-15, 16-17)

• Timothy was raised in a single parent home (godly mother and grandmother)

Parenting 1

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2 Timothy 3:14-1714 - But continue thou in the things which thou

hast learned and hast been assured of, knowing of whom thou hast learned them; 15 - And that from a child thou hast known the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through

faith which is in Christ Jesus.

Parenting 1

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2 Timothy 3:14-1716 - All scripture is given by inspiration of God,

and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: 17 -That the man of God may be perfect, throughly

furnished unto all good works.

Parenting 1

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2 Timothy 3:1616 - All scripture is given by inspiration of God,

and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness

1. Teaching doctrine: (pre-kids)2. Reproof: (change wrong thinking)

3. Correction: (to stand up again that which has been knocked down)4. Righteousness: (handle children differently in the future)

• What is Right, Not Right, Get Right, Stay Right

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Introduction

Week 19

1. The challenges of parenting in today's culture (2 Timothy 3:1-5a)

2. Encouragement for parents (2 Timothy 3: 14-15, 16-17)

3. Ephesians 6:4 is the single most important verse in the New Testament on the subject of parenting.

Parenting 1

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Ephesians 6:4And, ye fathers, provoke not your

children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Fathers

Week 19

1. The children are primarily Dad's responsibility

2. Headship of the husband is a key Bible doctrine (Eph 5:22-25)

Parenting 1

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Ephesians 5:22-25Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as

unto the Lord. 23-For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the

saviour of the body. 24-Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in

every thing. 25-Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Fathers

Week 19

1. The children are primarily Dad's responsibility2. Headship of the husband is a key Bible doctrine

3. God hold father’s primarily responsible

(1 Sam 2:12; 3:11-13)

Parenting 1

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1 Samuel 2:12

Now the sons of Eli -were- sons of Belial; they knew not

the LORD.

Parenting 1

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1 Samuel 3:11-1311 - And the LORD said to Samuel, Behold, I

will do a thing in Israel, at which both the ears of every one that heareth it shall tingle. 12 - In

that day I will perform against Eli all things which I have spoken concerning his house: when

I begin, I will also make an end.

Parenting 1

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1 Samuel 3:11-1313 - For I have told him that I will

judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knoweth; because

his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them not.

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Fathers

Week 19

1. The children are primarily Dad's responsibility2. Headship of the husband is a key Bible doctrine

3. God hold father’s primarily responsible (1 Sam 2:12; 3:11-13)A. All others are your assistants

(mom, grandparents, teacher, pastor, coach, etc.)B. You cannot blame others for the

failures of your children. (CEO Dad)

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Fathers

Week 19

4. A qualification for spiritual leadership is whether or not a man manages well his own children and household (1 Timothy 3:4,12).

Parenting 1

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1 Timothy 3:4,124 - One that ruleth well his own house,

having his children in subjection with all gravity 12 - Let the deacons be the

husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Fathers

Week 19

4. A qualification for spiritual leadership is whether or not a man manages well his own children and household (1 Timothy 3:4,12).

Doesn’t mean perfect kids

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Fathers

Week 19

4. A qualification for spiritual leadership is whether or not a man manages well his own children and household (1 Timothy 3:4,12).

5. A primary principle of fathering is to be there.

A. PhysicallyB. MentallyC. Emotionally

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Fathers

Week 19

4. A qualification for spiritual leadership is whether or not a man manages well his own children and household (1 Timothy 3:4,12).

5. A primary principle of fathering is to be there.

6. Mothers are to be involved

(Exodus 20:12; Prov. 1:8, 9; 1 Tim. 5:10; Ephesians 6:1-3)

Parenting 1

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Exodus 20:12

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long

upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

Parenting 1

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Proverbs 1:8, 98 - My son, hear the instruction of

thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother: 9 - For they shall be an

ornament of grace unto thy head, and chains about thy neck.

Parenting 1

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1 Timothy 5:10Well reported of for good works; if she

have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints’ feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have

diligently followed every good work.

Parenting 1

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Ephesians 6:1-31 - Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. 2 - Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first

commandment with promise;) 3 - That it may be well with thee, and

thou mayest live long on the earth.

Parenting 1

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Top 10 Things Fathers will Never Say

1. Let’s read the instructions first.2. As a matter of fact, let’s both go get nose rings!3. Go ahead take my car, here’s 20 bucks for gas4. Oh no kids! This bike is too fast!5. Can’t finish your peas?

Sure, go ahead and throw them away6. Here! You take remote control.7. Waiter, more ice cream for the little ones8. Wanna watch some synchronized swimming?9. Honey, you sit this one out,

I can’t wait to change that diaper10. Kids, Please turn up that music,

it really calls calm nerves

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

1. This does not mean never upset annoy, oppose, anger, displease or cross a child (1 Samuel 3:11-13; Proverbs 22:15; Hebrews 12:5-11)

Parenting 1

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1 Samuel 3:11-1311 - And the LORD said to Samuel, Behold, I will do a thing in Israel, at which both the ears of every one that heareth it

shall tingle. 12 - In that day I will perform against Eli all things which I have spoken concerning his house: when I

begin, I will also make an end. 13 - For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he

knoweth; because his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them not.

Parenting 1

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Proverbs 22:15Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it

far from him.

Parenting 1

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Hebrews 12:5-115 - And ye haveforgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: 6 - For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. 7 - If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what

son is he whom the father chasteneth not? 8 - But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are

ye bastards, and not sons.

Parenting 1

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Hebrews 12:5-119 - Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which

corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live? 10 - For they verily for a few days chastened us after their

own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness. 11 - Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless

afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised hereby

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

1. This does not mean never upset annoy, oppose, anger, displease or cross a child (1 Samuel 3:11-13; Proverbs 22:15; Hebrews 12:5-11)

2. It does mean we should NOT handle them in such a way that they will be incited to a wrathful kind of living and become angry young men and women.

Parenting 1

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Ephesians 6:4

A. “Fathers, do not irritate and provoke your children to anger; do

not exasperate them to resentment" - Amplified Bible

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Ephesians 6:4

B. Parents "are not to excite the bad passions of their children nor by his own ill conduct nurture evil in the

heart of his child."- Hodges

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Ephesians 6:4

C. “Do not exasperate or embitter your children; do not provoke your

children to an angry mood." - Hendrickson

Parenting 1

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Colossians 3:21

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they

be discouraged. (KJV)

Parenting 1

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Colossians 3:21D. “Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or fret

your children –do not be hard on them or harass them; lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and

frustrated; do not break their spirit.”– Amplified Bible

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

1. This does not mean never upset a child 2. It does mean we should NOT incite wrath.

A. Ephesians 6:4 AmplifiedB. Ephesians 6:4 HodgesC. Ephesians 6:4 HendricksonD. Colossians 3:21 AmplifiedE. The warning is not about an incident of anger,

but about a lifestyle of anger.F. The challenge is to avoid raising a

child to be like the person spoken of in Proverbs 19:19; 25:28 Parenting 1

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Proverbs 19:19

A man of great wrathshall suffer punishment: for if

thou deliver him, yet thou must do it again.

Parenting 1

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Proverbs 25:28

He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken

down, and without walls

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

1. This does not mean never upset a child 2. It does mean we should NOT incite wrath.3. The Bible speaks of at least two kinds of anger

(1 Samuel 15:23; Ephesians 4:31).

Parenting 1

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1 Samuel 15:23For rebellion (blowing up) is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness (clamming up) is as iniquity and idolatry. Because

thou hast rejected the word of the LORD, he hath also rejected thee from

being king.

Parenting 1

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Ephesians 4:31

Let all bitterness(clamming up), and wrath (blowing up), and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put

away from you, with all malice:

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

1. This does not mean never upset a child 2. It does mean we should NOT incite wrath.3. The Bible speaks of at least two kinds of anger

A. Flaring outbursts of rage; open rebellion; hostility

(Proverbs 14:17; 15:18; 19:19; 22:24; Ephesians 4:31)

Parenting 1Blowing Up

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Proverbs 14:17

He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly and a man of wicked devices is hated.

Parenting 1Blowing Up

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Proverbs 15:18

A wrathful man stirreth upstrife: but he that is slow to anger

appeaseth strife.

Parenting 1Blowing Up

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Proverbs 19:19A man of great wrath shall suffer punishment: for if

thou deliver him, yet thou must do it again.

Parenting 1Blowing Up

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Proverbs 22:24

Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious

man thou shalt not go:

Parenting 1Blowing Up

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Ephesians 4:31

Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil

speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:

Parenting 1Blowing Up

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

1. This does not mean never upset a child 2. It does mean we should NOT incite wrath.3. The Bible speaks of at least two kinds of anger

A. Flaring outbursts of rage; open rebellion; B. Settled indignation; the slow bum; willing to

wait for revenge (Genesis 4:5-13; Proverbs 14:17; Ephesians 4:31)

Parenting 1Clamming Up

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Genesis 4:5-135 But unto Cain and to his offering he had not respect. And Cain was very wroth, and his countenance fell. 6 And the LORD said

unto Cain, Why art thou wroth? and why is thy countenance fallen? 7 If thou doest well, shalt thou not be accepted? and if

thou doest not well, sin lieth at the door. And unto thee shall be his desire, and thou shalt rule over him. 8 And Cain talked with

Abel his brother: and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother, and slew him.

Parenting 1Clamming Up

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Genesis 4:5-139 And the LORD said unto Cain, Where is Abel thy brother?

And he said, I know not: Am I my brother’s keeper? 10 And he said, What hast thou done? the voice of thy brother’s blood

crieth unto me from the ground. 11 And now art thou cursed from the earth, which hath opened her mouth to receive thy

brother’s blood from thy hand; 12 When thou tillest the ground, it shall not henceforth yield unto thee her strength; a

fugitive and a vagabond shalt thou be in the earth. 13 And Cain said unto the LORD, My punishment is greater than I can bear.

Parenting 1Clamming Up

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Proverbs 14:17He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: and

a man of wicked devices is hated.

Parenting 1Clamming Up

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Ephesians 4:31

Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil

speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:

Parenting 1Clamming Up

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Two Kinds of AngerWeek 19

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

1. This does not mean never upset a child 2. It does mean we should NOT incite wrath.3. The Bible speaks of at least two kinds of anger4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?

A. Lack of marital harmony (Genesis 2:24; Hebrews 12:15)

Parenting 1

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Genesis 2:24

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they

shall be one flesh.

Parenting 1

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Hebrews 12:15

Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of

bitterness springing up trouble [you,] and thereby many be defiled

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

1. This does not mean never upset a child 2. It does mean we should NOT incite wrath.3. The Bible speaks of at least two kinds of anger4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?

A. Lack of marital harmony

B. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered home (Prov. 29: 15)

Parenting 1

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Prov. 29: 15

The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to

himself bringeth his mother to shame.

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

1. This does not mean never upset a child 2. It does mean we should NOT incite wrath.3. The Bible speaks of at least two kinds of anger4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?

A. Lack of marital harmonyB. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered home

C. Modeling sinful anger

(Prov. 22:24-25; Jas. 1 :20)

Parenting 1

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Proverbs 22:24-2524 - Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious

man thou shalt not go: 25 – Lest thou learn his ways, and get a

snare to thy soul.

Parenting 1

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James 1:20

For the wrath of man worketh not the

righteousness of God.

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

1. This does not mean never upset a child 2. It does mean we should NOT incite wrath.3. The Bible speaks of at least two kinds of anger4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?

A. Lack of marital harmonyB. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered homeC. Modeling sinful angerD. Being inconsistent with discipline

(2 Cor. 1 :17,18; Ecc. 8:11)1. Differing parental standards2. Differing parental enforcement

Parenting 1

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2 Corinthians 1 :17-18

17 -When I therefore was thus minded, did I use lightness? or the things that I purpose, do I purpose according to the flesh, that with me

there should be yea yea, and nay nay? 18 - But as God is true, our word toward you was

not yea and nay.

Parenting 1

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Ecclesiastes 8:11

Because sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily,

therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil.

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

1. This does not mean never upset a child 2. It does mean we should NOT incite wrath.3. The Bible speaks of at least two kinds of anger4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?

A. Lack of marital harmonyB. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered homeC. Modeling sinful angerD. Being inconsistent with disciplineE. Being harder on the child's mistakes and sins

than on their own (Mt. 7:1-5)

Parenting 1

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Matthew 7:1-51 - Judge not, that ye be not judged. 2 - For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. 3 - And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam

that is in thine own eye? 4 - Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? 5 - Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the

mote out of thy brother’s eye.

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

1. This does not mean never upset a child 2. It does mean we should NOT incite wrath.3. The Bible speaks of at least two kinds of anger4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?

A. Lack of marital harmonyB. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered homeC. Modeling sinful angerD. Being inconsistent with disciplineE. Being harder on the child's sins than your ownF. Not distinguishing between the "law of

God" and the "law of the house“(Mt. 15:7-9; 1 Jn. 5:3) Parenting 1

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Matthew 15:7-97 - Ye hypocrites, well did Esaias prophesy of

you, saying, 8 - This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with

their lips; but their heart is far from me. 9 - But in vain they do worship me, teaching for

doctrines the commandments of men.

Parenting 1

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1 John 5:3In these lay a great multitude of

impotent folk, of blind, halt, withered, waiting for the moving

of the water.

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

1. This does not mean never upset a child 2. It does mean we should NOT incite wrath.3. The Bible speaks of at least two kinds of anger4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?

A. Lack of marital harmonyB. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered homeC. Modeling sinful angerD. Being inconsistent with disciplineE. Being harder on the child's sins than your ownF. "law of God" and “law of the house”G. Failing to build a relationship with the

child (2 Sam 14:28,29) Parenting 1

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2 Samuel 14:28,2928 So Absalom dwelt two full years in

Jerusalem, and saw not the king’s face. 29 Therefore Absalom sent for Joab, to have sent

him to the king; but he would not come to him: and when he sent again the second time, he

would not come.

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

1. This does not mean never upset a child 2. It does mean we should NOT incite wrath.3. The Bible speaks of at least two kinds of anger4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?

A. Lack of marital harmonyB. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered homeC. Modeling sinful angerD. Being inconsistent with disciplineE. Being harder on the child's sins than your ownF. "law of God" and “law of the house”G. Failing to build a relationshipH. Abusive words, expressions, tone of voice

(Pr. 15:1; Eph. 4:29)

Parenting 1

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Proverbs 15:1

A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words

stir up anger.

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Ephesians 4:29Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister

grace unto the hearers.

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4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?A. Lack of marital harmonyB. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered homeC. Modeling sinful angerD. Being inconsistent with disciplineE. Being harder on the child's sins than your ownF. "law of God" and “law of the house”G. Failing to build a relationshipH. Abusive words, expressions, tone of voiceI. Constantly finding fault

(Pr. 11:9,11; 12:18; 18:21)Parenting 1

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Proverbs 11:9,11An hypocrite with his mouth destroyeth his neighbour: but through knowledge shall the

just be delivered.

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Proverbs 12:18

There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health.

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Proverbs 18:21

Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and

they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

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4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?A. Lack of marital harmonyB. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered homeC. Modeling sinful angerD. Being inconsistent with disciplineE. Being harder on the child's sins than your ownF. "law of God" and “law of the house”G. Failing to build a relationshipH. Abusive words, expressions, tone of voiceI. Constantly finding faultJ. Not listening to the child's side of the story or

his opinion (Pr. 18:2,13, 17; Jas.1 :19)

Parenting 1

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Proverbs 18:2, 13, 172 - A fool hath no delight in understanding, but

that his heart may discover itself. 13 - He that answereth a matter before he heareth

it, it is folly and shame unto him. 17 - He that is first in his own cause seemeth just;

but his neighbour cometh and searcheth him.

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James 1 :19Wherefore, my beloved

brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak,

slow to wrath

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

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4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?A. Lack of marital harmonyB. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered homeC. Modeling sinful angerD. Being inconsistent with disciplineE. Being harder on the child's sins than your ownF. "law of God" and “law of the house”G. Failing to build a relationshipH. Abusive words, expressions, tone of voiceI. Constantly finding faultJ. Not listening to the child's side of the storyK. Failing to keep promises

(Mt. 5:37; Col. 3:9; Ps 15:4-5) Parenting 1

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Matthew 5:37

But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than

these cometh of evil.

Parenting 1

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Colossians 3:9

Lie not one to another, seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds;

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Psalm 15:4-5

4 - In whose eyes a vile person is contemned; but he honoureth them that fear the LORD. He that sweareth to his own hurt, and changeth not. 5 - He that putteth not out his money to usury, nor

taketh reward against the innocent. He that doeth these things shall never be moved.

Parenting 1

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?A. Lack of marital harmonyB. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered homeC. Modeling sinful angerD. Being inconsistent with disciplineE. Being harder on the child's sins than your ownF. "law of God" and “law of the house”G. Failing to build a relationshipH. Abusive words, expressions, tone of voiceI. Constantly finding faultJ. Not listening to the child's side of the storyK. Failing to keep promisesL. Disciplining the child in front of others (Mt. 18: 15)

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(Mt. 18: 15)Moreover if thy brother shall

trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him

alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.

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4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?A. Lack of marital harmonyB. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered homeC. Modeling sinful angerD. Being inconsistent with disciplineE. Being harder on the child's sins than your ownF. "law of God" and “law of the house”G. Failing to build a relationshipH. Abusive words, expressions, tone of voiceI. Constantly finding faultJ. Not listening to the child's side of the storyK. Failing to keep promisesL. Disciplining the child in front of othersM. Giving too much freedom (Pr. 29:15; Heb. 12:6-9)

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Proverbs 29:15

The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to

himself bringeth his mother to shame.

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Hebrews 12:6-96 For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and

scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. 7 If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? 8 But if ye be

without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. 9 Furthermore we have

had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live?

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?A. Lack of marital harmonyB. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered homeC. Modeling sinful angerD. Being inconsistent with disciplineE. Being harder on the child's sins than your ownF. "law of God" and “law of the house”G. Failing to build a relationshipH. Abusive words, expressions, tone of voiceI. Constantly finding faultJ. Not listening to the child's side of the storyK. Failing to keep promisesL. Disciplining the child in front of othersM. Giving too much freedomN. Giving too little freedom (Lk. 12:48; 1 Cor. 13:11)

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Luke 12:48But he that knew not, and did commit things

worthy of stripes, shall be beaten with few stripes. For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required: and to whom men have committed much, of him they will

ask the more.

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1 Corinthians 13:11When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I

became a man, I put away childish things.

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?A. Lack of marital harmonyB. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered homeC. Modeling sinful angerD. Being inconsistent with disciplineE. Being harder on the child's sins than your ownF. "law of God" and “law of the house”G. Failing to build a relationshipH. Abusive words, expressions, tone of voiceI. Constantly finding faultJ. Not listening to the child's side of the storyK. Failing to keep promisesL. Disciplining the child in front of othersM. Giving too much freedomN. Giving too little freedomO. Not admitting when they are wrong (Mt. 7:3-5)

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(Mt. 7:3-5)And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy

brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? 4 Or how wilt thou say to thy

brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? 5 Thou

hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the

mote out of thy brother’s eye.

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Biblical Parenting Do Not Provoke Your Children to Anger

Week 19

4. How do parents "provoke to anger"?A. Lack of marital harmonyB. Establishing and maintaining a child-centered homeC. Modeling sinful angerD. Being inconsistent with disciplineE. Being harder on the child's sins than your ownF. "law of God" and “law of the house”G. Failing to build a relationshipH. Abusive words, expressions, tone of voiceI. Constantly finding faultJ. Not listening to the child's side of the storyK. Failing to keep promisesL. Disciplining the child in front of othersM. Giving too much freedomN. Giving too little freedomO. Not admitting when they are wrong

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Questions

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Biblical Counseling Basics Set #3

MARCH / MAY 2013

17.3/27/2013 – Biblical Principles of Sex18.4/3/2013 –Comparing Counsel Philosophies19.4/17/2013 - Parenting: Do not provoke Anger20.4/24/2013 – … But Bring Them Up …21.5/1/2013 – … In the Discipline of the Lord …22.5/8/2013 – … In the Instruction of the Lord23.5/15/2013 – Guilt and Repentance24.5/22/2013 – Worry and Fear

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Biblical Counseling

Basics

2012-2013

Faith Baptist Church of Palm Bay

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Biblical Parenting… provoke not your children to wrath …

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