Stage 1Infancy (0-2)

Psychosocial CrisisTrust VS. Mistrust

VirtueHope

MalignancyWithdrawal

MaladaptationSensory Maladjustment

Too much Too much

Stage 2Early Childhood

Psychosocial CrisisAutonomy VS. Shame & Doubt

VirtueWill

MalignancyCompulsion

MaladaptationImpulsivity

Too much Too much

Stage 3Pre-School

Psychosocial CrisisInitiative VS. Guilt

VirtuePurpose (courage)

MalignancyInhibition

MaladaptationRuthlessness

Too much Too much

Stage 4School Age

Psychosocial CrisisIndustry VS. Inferiority

VirtueCompetence

MalignancyInertia

MaladaptationNarrow Virtousity

Too muchToo much

Stage 5Adolescence

Psychosocial CrisisIdentity VS. Role Confusion

VirtueFidelity

MalignancyRepudiation

MaladaptationFanaticism

Too much Too much

STAGE 1 During my first year or a year old and a half, I am so sensitive about what’s

happening around. I easily like to do things at once which I do not think it would harm

me or not. I oftentimes cry whenever I cannot satisfy things to happen.

I am almost curious of things around. I want to do such gestures even without my

capacity. But I can still recall that whenever I intend to do things which I cannot perform

wee. I noticed that my parents at once extended their help which on the other hand

would not give any positive outcome later. Good parents are always these every minute

to help me satisfy things but for my own good it will not warmth because as I

experienced, my effort and trust to overcome and develop my curiosity become failure

on the other hand. I am used to do things with the help of somebody in the absence of

my parents.

There should be a well balance in the development of child’s curiosity which will

help improve one’s ability with determination and satisfaction. My eagerness to perform

such gesture always in control or conflict because of the precious experiences I have

encountered. I used to ask help whenever I do the gesture I now realized that

overprotected of parents to children would really affect one’s psychosocial factor. My

mother told me that I was so attached to her as compared to my father due to the fact

that at this stage happens the feeding event. I am always crying whenever someone is

carrying me expect for my mother. I gain trust through feeding, teething and comforting

which were all given by my mother.

The first two months of infancy is called the neonatal period.  At this point, my life

is mostly a matter of satisfying my basic needs:  Enough milk (preferably mom's),

staying warm and dry, and, of course, pooping.  Lots and lots of pooping.  More

seriously, I need to be protected from harm and infection, the latter being the greatest

threat at this time of life.

When I asked my mother about this stage, she said that I can see at birth, but

very nearsighted and can't coordinate my eye movements.  Smell and taste are sharp at

birth, and I have a preference for sweets, which, not coincidentally, includes breast milk.

In the neonate, my mother can clearly see the presence of some basic reflexes,

such as rooting (searching for mom's nipple) and the startle reflex.  My father can also

see certain instinctual patterns:  I seem to orient towards faces and voices, especially

female ones, and seem to recognize my mother's voice and smell.

My parents have been many interesting experiments in this regard, and they use

some interesting special techniques:  They sometimes videotape my face to keep track

of where I am looking and how I am responding; my father uses a special pacifier that

keeps track of the rate of my sucking. I suck more rapidly when I am experiencing

something interesting.

The most important psychological task for this stage is called attachment,

meaning the establishment of a tight bond with mom, dad, and other significant people.  

This is our human version of the imprinting process we see in animals, where a baby

animal learns to follow its mother.  Since I can't walk, my parents make effective use of

their instincts to be attracted to me, by cooing, gurgling, smiling, and generally acting

cute.

Middle infancy (about 2 to 15 months) is a period of rapid growth and weight

gain.  The nervous system is clearly pulling its act together, and the infant has a strong

drive to move and make noise.  Among my needs is not only the presence of a loving

adult, but opportunities to experience the environment and to explore it.

Inborn personality differences (called temperaments) become very clear:  Some

babies are easily upset or frightened, some quick tempered, some easygoing and calm; 

Some are active, restless, and fidgety, some quiet an lazy;  Some like people, some are

shy, some are independent.

From 15 to 30 months, we call the baby a toddler, from the way they walk.  During

this period, I am getting control over my fine and large muscles, learning to speak, and

learning to use the potty.  At the same time, I am developing a serious sense of

independence, strong likes and dislikes, and the ability to say no to my parents.

My parents or even other people kept on talking to me; my parents even let me

hear music especially the ABC’s, counting numbers and other nursery songs and

rhymes. According to my mom, these are of great help to develop my skills even at a

very young age.

STAGE 2 This stage is very much crucial among children ages 1 and ½ years to 3 or 4

years old. This stage needs much parental supervision and guidance as the children are

exposed to their open environment. The factors affecting people social development for

their children at this very young age play vital role as they grow and live. Children at this

young age tend to do things at their own extent. This means that they do not even think

or weigh what will be the results. They do the things as if they really can do or perform

by themselves. This stage easily learns fact so what they see, hear, feel and say is

good, correct or true.

I myself had my unforgettable experience as I can still recall. I learned at this very

young age to handle pens, pencils and crayons. I used to draw lines, signs, figures and

the like. My parents allowed me to handle these things because of my exposure to

television show that those things are used to utilize in writing, drawing and the like. I

cried whenever I am not given the pencils and paper with my “yaya” and even with my

mom. Until finally learned how to write letters, numbers, shapes, my name even without

entering the formal schooling.

But sad to note my experience that I used to put the pencil inside my mouth. My

parents got angry and told me that I would be poisoned because of the lead it

contained. Sometimes, I did not listen but time came I gradually learn to note the

disadvantage of putting the pencil in my mouth. I was just satisfied and happy if the

pencil is contained with my little saliva the more it has, the closer and darker I can write.

Another thing was whenever I take a bath; I do not want my “yaya” or my mom to do it

for me. I want to take a bath alone. I cried when I cannot do it by myself. Until I realized

that I might be drowned because of the lesson taught to me from the real story. It’s

really fun for me to perform the gestures with my own without thinking of what may

happen.

Good because they explained what might occur whenever I may not be managed

or supervised by somebody. Sometimes I had a cut wound, knees bruises and even

face masks because of m foolishness. I just realized later when met accident hen that’s

the time my parents told me to be good girl always. Behave all the time so that I will not

encounter trouble.

This means that there is always parental guidance which take place so that

children at this stage will develop positive outcomes. This enhances the positive

development of children relative to psychosocial development. Whenever a child

commits mistakes, he/she has to be well addressed. Explain to them the mistake

committed, discuss what will happen, what to do but so learning took place for positive

results allowing children to perform such activity would be better but see to it that there

is always a follow-up, guidance, supervision without affecting the children’s risk to do in

their behalf. Let the children at this young age to perform the activity at their own risk for

whatever faults they might encounter will surely the way or an avenue for them to learn

as a reflection of the saying that experience is the best teacher.

I also had an experience story of my neighbors’ son with the same ages who’s

always saying bad words whenever feel angry. The parents and other older members of

the family were just laughing at that young boy. They just laughed at the boy feeling

proud because the young boy is doing it so without thinking it would be used for the boy

to say bad words all the time until he grows and older. Now, this little boy could no

longer be checked and avoided to say the words which are not pleasing to the ears of

everybody. I find it crucial because the parents ignored the attitude being developed

when still young. It is better for the young age boy to learn and know what should be

learned and developed.

STAGE 3

At this stage, I learned to have independence and the important relationship for

me is my family. My interests continue to become more assertive in exploration,

discovery, adventure and play. Sometimes I show too much force in this stage causing

feelings of guilt

According o my parents when I was at this stage, I usually do daydreaming. I love

reading fairytales as well as watching movies like the very most popular princesses. I

am fond of imagining things which are impossible to happen. Of course just like the

other kids, ruthlessness is very common to me. I was always eager to try and do new

things without thinking the result of such behaviors.

However, my parents made sure that even though they were very busy with their

works and I was only with the company of my “yaya”, they still manage to take good

care of me. Even at a very young age, they thought me of doing good deeds and avoid

being ruthless. They encouraged me to think first before doing certain actions which I

know is wrong and always ask for their assistance and help. Whatever things my

parents told me I always took those as a lesson and a virtue to live with, that’s why as

time goes by, I learned to rely first on my parent’s opinions, I always ask for their

permissions. If they don’t permit me to take such actions, then I would not do such. But

if they, then I’ll pursue it.

I could still remember that whenever we were at other people’s house, I usually

stay only with my parents company. I was so egocentric and was so shy.

I had a friend at school. Her name was Angel. We were the best of friends. We

were together every day. They had a lot in common, and they made each other smile.

We even traded clothes, because we liked each other's style. But one day Angel did

something that made me feel sad. She told another friend about a secret I had.

I find difficulties behind in my math class, and I needed a hand. I had to get a tutor who

could help me understand. I hoped no one would find out. People might think I was

slow. So I kept it a secret that only Angel would know. But she told another friend, and

she told someone too. She didn't keep the secret, and now everybody knew! It made

me embarrassed. It was not to be discussed. But she broke her promise, and now she

lost my trust. So I told her I can't trust her anymore. And then she turned around and

quickly headed out the door.

It hurt to hear me say those words and watch her walk away. And Angel was afraid that

she lost me that day. So Andy followed after me, and when she found her me,

she told me she'd do anything to have my trust again.

Then I just told her that I want to trust her, but trust must be earned. She didn't

keep her promise, and I really hope she has learned. But trust comes when you show

you care about how someone feels, and it may take a little time before this heartache

heals.

Then Angel said she would not ever make the same mistake. She said she'd earn

my trust again, whatever it may take. She told me that our friendship meant too much to

just let go. And she knew that our friendship still had lots of room to grow.

So Angel was more careful in the things she did and said. She didn't tell my

secrets. She protected me instead. She showed how much she cared by doing what

was best for me. Their friendship grew much stronger and was able to endure.

Then I told her that I'm so glad she’s still my friend. She always looks out for me,

and I'll trust her 'till the end."

STAGE 4 The important event is school and the important relationships are teachers,

friends and neighbourhood. I learned to deal with new skills and develop a sense of

achievement and accomplishment.

Everyone said when you are a child, you are having a good happy life and you

don't have any problems at all. But I think not all children are so lucky enough to have a

happy childhood life experience. Me by myself, I don't want to judge anyone or criticize

anybody what's going on about their life but what I'm going to talked here is basic to my

true story about my childhood life. Sometimes things happened when you are not

expecting it, and you are just asking yourself why?

Memories of childhood can be represented in many ways: a blanket, stuffed

animal, rattle, song, or maybe even a movie. We can cling to these things for support in

times of need, or just to recall fond memories of a simpler, and in most cases happier

time. As our lives change around us, and we change to adapt to our lives we recall

these items. We return to them for comfort, or we pass them to others who need them.

Growing up from the beautiful land of Bicol continues to provide me with fond

memories, strong morals, and simple beliefs. It was living a life with an obtainable

means, working and playing as a family unit that would attract even the average person,

some of these things so many people have long forgotten.

To wake up each morning to the sunrise, to lie in bed and listen to all the activity

knowing that today, like any other day, will become a challenge that is unexplainable.

Excited to meet friends and playmates and just enjoying the day like there is no

tomorrow.

At this point of time, I learned to think and act more mature. Avoid being

egocentric and learned to put myself on the shoes of other people. I tried my best to

socialize with other people. I joined several school organizations and other

extracurricular activities. During first grade, my parents engaged me to some tutorial

activities which really helped me a lot not only intellectually but also on how to cope with

other people around me. I met friends who helped me to enjoy my life and accept

myself.

During my second grade, I was asked to join in Quiz Bee for Science. I could say

that this really helped a lot because I’ve realized that I have potentials. I learned to be

responsible and be studious. At this point of time, I also learned to be competitive

enough. I met more new friends. I engaged my school days with the company of my

classmates and teachers. Because my parents always encourage me as well as my

teachers who were very supportive, I became more confident, competent and fearless

but in a positive way.

During grades four and five, I became more mature than before. I was very active

in school activities. I became more accountable of things and be responsible leader. I

was just great with the support my parents gave me. I always set standards. Whenever I

won a contest or did a great job, I was always rewarded. The encouragement, support

and care my teachers gave me add to my eagerness to learn and be ready for higher

level of learning.

However my parents were so strict when it comes to my academic performances. They

always expect me to be on top so I always try my very best to do the best that I can. But

there are times when my best were not enough and I failed. I was so worried of what my

parents will tell me. Maybe they were very angry about the result and so much

disappointed. I just remain silence whenever I made failures. I wanted to talk to them

and tell them that I am a just a human, and I’m not perfect. I also have limitations but, I

can’t. I don’t have the courage to do so. These are the reasons why I learned to be

fearless, to be responsible, to do actions that would benefit and make my parents happy

and proud of me. But, with that, I forgot to enjoy my life; to play with others. I usually

spend my time alone with my books.

This is how I describe my life when I was still young and innocent. There are lots

of things I really want to try and questions I want to be answered. But still it was a stage

of my life that I will never forget in my whole life.

This picture was taken when I was in fourth grade during my

first communion. I was selected to render the

responsorial psalm.

This picture was taken during my third grade during our

Recognition Day. I was awarded as 5th Honors and was

selected to make an intermission number.

Whenever I was performing to crowds, I always feel goose

bumps but no matter what, the show must go on.

This picture was taken during my fifth grade. It was our Reading Festival wherein each grade level presented a play. I was

selected to give the opening song entitled “When you wish upon a star” from the movie Pinocchio.

I was still chosen to be flower girl even at fifth grade. I was also exposed to several academic competitions. I used to compete in school, district, division and even regional. I

always make sure that I give my very best to every competition I’m into.

The photos above were taken during our Graduation Day. It was a

blessing when I graduated as the school Valedictorian. I was so happy and thankful for such

wonderful gift because I made my parents as well as my whole family

and friends proud of me.

STAGE 5My High School Life

I can't believe it has been four years since I met my gorgeous classmates, there

has been great and bad memories, my friends and I cried and laughed together, shared

each other everything, we are really like one family, when one of us get hurt, have hard

times like threats or losing someone close we all feel the pain, cry together and try to be

supportive, when we feel that one of our classmates is not able to buy the necessary

things and in need, we allocate our saves and buy too expensive gifts for birthday or

any occasion without making our friend feel that we are intending to help. When one of

us have something pleasant like a party we all feel happy, we help her with choosing

clothes make up advice her how to do her hair etc, and even do her homework as she

will be busy. When one of us can’t understand a subject all the students try to teach her,

repeat the subject over and over till she understands it! The relationship we have is

strong, and I wish it'll always remain like this…

I'll share you some of my best memories;

One of my best memories was when our class made a surprise party for our

adviser Mrs. Clara Hitter in relation with the celebration of the World’s teachers’ day. I

thought. It would be a simple celebration but it turned out to be a fantastic and a lively

party. All of us participated and with some of our saves, we bought a gift for our adviser,

wrapped it and took the present to school. Our teacher was shocked; it was the best

day ever.

Beside all the good events there have been very painful memories, when one of

my classmates lost her dad and my other classmate transferred to other school. But, I'll

always remember the good events and laugh, and the hard ones will only give me the

strength, power and make me prepared for every hard thing I may face in the future

Sunshine.

My fears, frustrations, failures & anxieties

Our achievements speak for themselves. However, when it comes to our

setbacks, failures and weaknesses, we feel uncomfortable talking about them. All of us

have failed at some time to equal our dreams of perfection or to perform well. The big

issue is not your weaknesses; they are part of life.

I had some experiences in which I was able to face those fears, frustrations,

failures and anxieties with the help of my parents.

I was shy; I didn't make a very good first impression and wanted to change this. I

noticed that when I spent some time with people, I could open up. People appreciated

my sense of humor and trusted me. This gave me the confidence to overcome the

problem by taking it head on.  My mother and I never saw eye to eye on any issue

because we were so different. But some time later when I really felt that I wanted

someone to talk to I ask her if I can have some mother and daughter bonding. And to

my surprised, she said ok. I had a nice conversation with her for I am not just the one

who shared my feelings and emotions but she also shared hers. As we opened our

hearts to each other, we realized how similar we really were and how strong she was. It

did not take long for me to start admiring my mother. Now she has become a great

source of inspiration for me. I understand her so well that I am able to anticipate her

response to a situation and act accordingly.

  Another experience I had was with my father.

I never trusted anyone with anything, so I believed in doing everything

myself. I felt others would never measure up to my standards. But a particular situation

in my high school life drove me up the wall. I had nearly given up in despair when my

father, helped me tide over the situation. I was touched and felt very blessed to have

him in my life. That day I resolved to trust others, especially with my friends. My life

turned out well for the last three years mainly because of my ability to motivate and trust

others, and develop unique solutions through positive interactions with other people.

Dealing with my Emotions

As a teenager, you may be dealing with lots of emotional highs and lows. One

minute you might feel great, and the next you feel sad and tearful.

Our life is changing, just like our body. These mood swings - sometimes we may

be feeling a lot more pressure these days, we are still developing the skills and we need

to deal with that pressure. We may be facing added responsibilities at home, tougher

grading policies in school and your friends may be changing. 

As I grow older I will develop the skills, I need to manage stress, but for now, I will

just remember I am in a tough spot and need all the support I can get. I will always

reach out to adults and friends for I know that there is always someone there who cares

for me and who will encourage me to be best even during hard times.

I would say that I am really a human for I can encounter some emotional

experiences. I have my moments of happiness, sadness, anger, depression, anxiety

and a host of others feelings. Some questions we may ask are how to deal with these

emotions and why are some feelings harder to handle than others.

College Days…

Another milestone in my life has arrived, new environment, new things, new faces and

new learning, and experiences. At first I found it very difficult to cope with the situation

but, somehow I managed to get through the busy day. Although it’s not satisfying even

a little, I feel so out of place. I still don't have friends, while everyone has and they're

happily fooling around, joking, introducing with each other. I really wanted to talk and

socialize.

But when we were asked to introduce ourselves, I just told myself that I should make

myself comfortable when talking in front and make a good impression in class. I kept on

talking and talking all about myself and I was just shocked when I noticed that my

classmates were all ears on me as if they were very fascinated about me. They show

interests in listening to my discussions. This made me happy knowing that at least I

made myself recognizable.

After that, almost all my classmates approached me and became interested with me. I

was also surprised when they elected me as the block president. I know it was a very

difficult and challenging role but I told myself that maybe they saw that I have that ability

to do such responsibility. They also elected me to be the Block NSTP-President and I

was asked to participate in the re-organizational meeting of the BUCE NSTP SETCODE

Organization. I was so blessed to be elected as the BUCE NSTP-SETCODE President.

I promised not only the freshmen students but also myself that I will do my very best to

be an excellent leader with my burning desire to serve and lead. I will not waste this

opportunity and a very big responsibility given to me since, they give me their 100%

trust.

At this point of time, I may not be able to say that I really know myself well, but little by

little I can now understand myself. I may not be perfect but, I am still trying my best to

be responsible enough to any actions I am doing. I consider the help and guidance of

the people around me. I am careful in my actions, decisions and the way I talk. I am

now a mature individual and ready for a higher level of development.

When I was in 3rd year high school, I decided to join the Youth for Christ. I was so grateful to be part of this family. I can say that

this family helped me a lot to know myself and God Almighty. My shyness and fear of crowd

vanished because of my exposure to people. During our camp, I

served as one of the talk givers, “DGL” Discussion Group Leader; I was also assigned to facilitate the registration. My experiences with them were so memorable and of great avenue for me to learn how to serve others and be confident

When I was in 3rd year high school, I decided to join the Youth for Christ. I was so grateful to be part of this family. I can say that

this family helped me a lot to know myself and God Almighty. My shyness and fear of crowd

vanished because of my exposure to people. During our camp, I

served as one of the talk givers, “DGL” Discussion Group Leader; I was also assigned to facilitate the registration. My experiences with them were so memorable and of great avenue for me to learn how to serve others and be confident

Now, I am actively serving as the BUCE NSTP –SETCODE President.

Bicol University

College of Education

Daraga, Albay

A Travel to My Life

Prepared By:Kristine Ann B. de Jesus

BEED 1-5

Submitted To:Dr. Miguela Requiero

I learned to trust people. I made serious relationships with my

friends. I consider them as part of my life. Whenever I

encounter problems and difficulties, I asked for their

help, guidance and supervision. I can easily get along with them. I find satisfaction and happiness with them. It’s like I found the missing piece of me that will

make me as a complete or whole person. We usually spend

most of our leisure time with each others’ house. I’m just

happy to have them in my life.